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I will try all these, with the exception of 7 & 10

In my place, feasting is compulsory and I love it.

But the way it's done? The deceased family may never have to contribute a dime. The neighbours and everyone else in the community comes with one food item or another.

Omor!
No be only you o. I am addicted to Pepsi like mad.
I always try to drink one bottle, at least, every other day.

I actually think it's sexy.
I love this.

Mosco100:
I'm not married but I generated this reply using AI:

"Marriage is not romance 24/7. That's the first lie they sell us.

Before marriage, you think about love. After marriage, you think about patience—plenty patience. That person you're marrying will do things that will make you wonder if your eyes were closed during the courtship.

But here's the real thing nobody tells you: You will marry their family. Not completely, but enough. If their mother is a professional agitator, she will not magically become an angel after the wedding. If their father doesn't respect boundaries, prepare yourself.

Also, money argument is real. Before marriage, talk about how you both see money. Not just 'we will manage' but actual talk: tithe, savings, who handles what. Because when rent is due and the children are hungry, love alone will not cook rice.

And please, pray together before you marry. If you cannot pray with somebody, don't share a bed with them. That one is Bible o—2 Corinthians 6:14. Unequally yoked is real suffering.

Finally, lower your expectations of perfection and raise your commitment. The feeling of 'in love' comes and goes like NEPA light. But commitment—that decision to stay and work—that one will carry you through the dark seasons.

Marriage is good. God invented it. But it is work. Real work. Anybody telling you different is either lying or not married yet."

I love your honesty about the AI stuff. And the advice is actually smart.
Thanks.

AllBlack:
Where una dey go select this kain women from? God I thank you oh

Wow!
I think you are the first person to make me really feel like marrying right can be a blessing. "God I thank you oh" definitely means you feel lucky to marry your partner.
I will love to listen to your advice, if you won't mind.
I am 35 now, and I am already feeling like, I do not want to get married ever. But I will love to listen to you.

brain54:
Atutuboyoyo...


I used to hear comedians use it in jokes I never really knew it was actually a name.


A had a neighbor one time in kaduna... one of the son's name was pikin I asked if it was a nickname or alias. They said no, real name.


For the most unusual names though hand the trophy to the Delta and bayelsa ijaws

Those ones can answer anything. And how can I forget my plateau people. Pan, rang and so many Chinese sounding names.


Someone made a joke about them dropping a plate at the birth of a child and naming the child after the sound the plate made when it hit the ground!

That boy Pikin in Kaduna, if it's the Pikin I know, that's not his real name. I actually stayed next door to him for six months.

People only call him Pikin because at first glance they are confused as to whether he's a "he" or "she." You don't wanna refer to a girl as a "he" or you'll likely make her feel she's ugly. And you also don't want to refer to a boy as a "she"; no man wants to be seen as feminine. I was also confused the first week.

He's a nice guy though, and very hardworking.

Kushites:
YOU AND WHO?

BETTER SPEAK FOR YOURSELF.

COLONIAL CONDITIONING IS WHAT MAKES MANY OF YOU THINK LIKE THAT.

OUR PEOPLE DID NOT THINK THAT WAY BEFORE COLONIAL INVASIONS AND COLONIAL INDOCTRINATION WITH BIBLE, FAKE WHITE SAVIOUR, AND OTHER NONSENSE.

Exactly!
I am speaking for myself. I am really dark-skinned, and the first thing people always see is "black", not a person. We generally have low self esteem.

This is fact. Stop denying what we all know.

Racism is everywhere.
I don't really blame them. Even in Nigeria, we consider light skinned people superior to the darker ones.

I know that feeling.
I actually want to live a solitary life, but I sometimes worry about the loneliness.

It is best, though, for someone to get a hobby like Tennis, Badminton or swimming, or even join up a unit in their local church if they are religious, or just join some foundation or even politics and be active.

Better still, write a book, do some research, start coding, learn to play an instrument, travel or start a conservation society.

Whatever you do, just get something doing. I know, you still come back to an empty house, but at least, you've filled up some parts of your day with something to look forward to.

Taking care of animals also has a way of lighting you up. Cats, birds, dogs rabbits, etc

This is the case where the woman is supposed to actually cheat.
She is supposed to be allowed, even demanded to go out, get pregnant for another man and birth the child for the husband, and the husband must be obligated to approve it and take care of the child. The man too must be legally compelled to take care of the woman and the child even if they get divorced.
This should be an obligation.

Mirasteel:
Go and learn about the country that armed talibans first and stop being ignorant.

America is the rot of this world.

People like you are the reason I get really scared for the future of humanity. I am very sure you truly believe what you are saying to be true.
Man! Humanity is doomed!

budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

What you said is actually sensible. In a relationship, any show of doubt or mistrust can actually damage things.
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But in this case, there is no relationship. This one is about child support. And paying child support means the couple are no longer together, so asking for a DNA test is actually really smart. You don't demand trust from someone you are not with.
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Still, even in a an active relationship, not carrying out the DNA test does not mean there is the trust; it's just that only the man is expected to just hide his mistrust. I will still advice, if there is any doubt, it better do the test and have some closure than hold things in because you are scared to be wrong.

Lukuluku69:
Calling your attention to what the Bible teaches is not hypocrisy and the Bible warns thus >>>>>

Isaiah 5:20-23 (KJV) Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
Woe unto them that are wise in their own eyes, and prudent in their own sight!
Woe unto them that are mighty to drink wine, and men of strength to mingle strong drink:
Which justify the wicked for reward, and take away the righteousness of the righteous from him!

Make whatever you want to make of that Leviticus verse, the truth is this: you are responsible for you and I for me.

Do have a pleasant evening.

OK thanks!
Just quote an unnecessary scripture and pretend you are making sense.
All I am saying is that if verse 28 is true for us, why is verse 27 not true for us?

You can stop reading my comment here.
But of you want to continue, let's go:
People use one verse of scripture to support whatever their biases are. Most Christians, or even Muslims, don't quote scripture because they care about righteousness or goodness; y'all mostly do it because you want to use it to judge others. That verse is just very obvious, but it even goes deeper. Culturally, people in the Middle East and part of Africa and India usually cut themselves to mourn their dead or mark their bodies to indicate their number of kills. Some use permanent tattooing or scarring. (You can see it in the body of Killmonger in the movie "Black Panther" This is what the Bible forbids. The Bible did not forbid tribal marks or tribal tattoos, so it does not really condemn markings or tattoos in general. And even all that is just in the old testament; because if we want to apply that to our present time and say tattoos are evil, verse 27 too (carving your hair and shaping your beards) should also apply. There is no Christian man presently on Earth that does not do either of that, except, maybe the bald ones. But because you are not biased to it, you did not condemn it.
Stop being a hypocrite!

Lukuluku69:
Leviticus 19:28 (KJV) Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.

The command is clear.

There are TWO instructions in that Leviticus 29:28.

Whatever you make of it, you are solely responsible.

Do have a pleasant evening 😊 ☺️

I am sorry, this is not a case of semantics, but it seem to me that entire verse is just one sentence, all on the same matter.
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But let's say you are right, what do we make of the verse that precedes that one; or are we going to just pick and choose what we want?
It's why I say we are picking Scripture based on our preferences. If cutting and marking the the body (for the dead) is forbidden, cutting up or shaping the edges of your hair should be forbidden too; but I don't see nobody talking about that.
HYPOCRITES!

judewrites:
Tattoos isn't a sin per SE, but tattoos are not natural, they are man made.

God wants us natural as He made us.

Why would I put marks on my body to glorify God??

It sounds strange.

And please don't speak on behalf of the Holy Spirit.

Let the Holy Spirit speak Himself, don't make opinions for Him.

I love how you people get to pick and choose. The same verses that spoke of cutting and marks on the body [for the dead] also spoke about cutting the sides of your hair (v 27). Why is one OK, but not the other?

judewrites:
This is indeed sad

I have always respected pastor Kingsley, but this tattooing is a big NO.

People who wear tattoos often wrestle with painful and negative emotions and use it as a cover up.

But besides that, it's offensive against his body as the temple of the Holy Spirit.

The holy spirit has no problem with this; it's just hypothetical Christians trying to force their personal preferences on scripture.
Nowhere in the bible is tattoos forbidden. And O don't see how this dishonours anyone, while cutting of hair is okay.

Lukuluku69:
Really really?

Leviticus 19:28 (KJV) Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD.

You should have even used the one in Leviticus 21.
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Either ways, the Bible did not forbid tattoos. Here it says, " Ye shall not make any cuttings on your flesh FOR THE DEAD".
First of all he's talking to the High Priest of the old testament only
Secondly, he's saying you should never mourn so bad for the dead that you have to cut yourself, just like some Arabs and Indians still do to this day.
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You people are just forcing your own personal preferences on Scripture.

dangermouse:
I'm

More reasons Nigeria should let them go if what you are saying is true.

They have said they don't want to be part of Nigeria again, why still hold them back?

They should be let go instead of all these toxic hate from people like you. It is disgusting!

Nobody is holding them back. When they are really serious about Biafra, they will get it.
Believe me, the average Nigerian man does not care about the breakup of Nigeria. Freedom is not given; it is taken. The Igbos are not serious about Biafra; they are more concerned about picking fights with all their neighbours than about putting their house in order.
Let them elect people who will push that agenda in the National Assembly. Those ones will push for a plebiscite, and a date will be set for peaceful division.
The average Yoruba man knows he will flourish with, or without Nigeria as country. The average Northerner does not even care.
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Why the 'Biafrans' love pushing this false narrative of " sidelining" and "persecution" is best known to them. They will rather tarnish the image of the country in general and push an agenda of hate.
Of the three major ethnicities, I love the Igbos the most; they are enterprising and smart. They are a beautiful people, and always push for a good development; but their single-minded drive for money at all cost and this agenda of hate they are pushing is something I hate. And, like many other Nigerians, I can't wait for the day they will have their Biafra.
I am sure that having a country of their own will help make them committed to building a good global image. These people are the best of us and I can't wait for the World to see how exceptionally great the Igbos are. But I don't support this your agenda of hate.

This one wey Jesus just dey do am left, right and centre for people, him no dey see me ne? When my own go show?
Abi Jesus no dey look broke people side?

sholikay:
Wawuu....looks like sugar mummy things, or perhaps the groom sibling or relative representing him in absentia..

'Sibling or relative representing' the groom and they are kissing on the lips?
Don't be shocked to later discover he's way older than the bride.

In the Western World, all adultery is the same.

In Nigeria, where the man "pays" for the woman, it is not the same.

In Nigeria, the man is supposed to pay a bride price, and fulfill some cultural obligations. This is to signify that he's the head, and "lord" over the woman. So imagine "paying for something" and having someone else use it.

And as the head, the man can still choose to go for as many women as he can afford, because a man's worth is only measured by how much he can afford.

Even after the wedding, the man is expected to be the one taking all the responsibilities. You cannot talk about equality when only one person is expected to carry all the load.

This idea of "paying" Bride price and paying off some list will have to go first before we can talk about men and women being equal in a marriage, because it indirectly places the man over the woman, and patriarchy is what equality is trying to do away with.

I dislike patriarchy as much as I despise feminism.

We are all Equal, but we are NOT the same!

I always laugh when I see people saying America is not the Greatest superpower.

Truth is, no nation comes close to the vicinity.
People only talk because America is the one country they can talk about. And America, as the top dog, does not need to respond to any false narrative or explain itself.

If not for America, una for see shege for all these superpower-wannabes hands.

It's why I will always choose America over Russia or China; colonist masters or not.
Thank God for America.

Ororo! The Billionaire Footballer!
He'll surely bounce back, but I doubt it will end in a trophy for Al Nassr.

O boy if na sexual temptation, me I dey fall o.

meobizy:
Many possible reasons. Since they’re northerners, I will give the possibility of a drug overdose. Either that or eventual damage from doing drugs.

Please you guys should stop all these labelling nonsense. What has being a Northerner got to do with drugs. You do not need to always bring negativity into this abeg.
Besides, Southerners are even the ones known internationally for drugs. They even gave Nigeria a drug baron as president and a drunkard as minister.

idreesjigo:
PS: I wrote Revert instead of Convert because based on a Hadith everyone is a born Muslim

I never make any comments on Islam posts, because I know my comments will always be negative.
But, saying we are all born Muslims is the most pathetic crap I've heard in a long while.

The Hadith must be the funniest book ever written.
I hate Islam with every fibre of my being.

Goo0dHardDick:
Dude Regina was 18 and not 15.

A man of 35 getting married to a little girl of 15 screams pido

Yeah!. Still see no difference.

Goo0dHardDick:
How can a 35years old man marry a 15yrs old girl? 😳

Well, ask Ned Nwoko?

Goo0dHardDick:
You must be a notherner?

Not really.
And my parents are not muslims either

We4all:
Because compared to other black men, their archaic mentality sucks.

Oh.
I was hoping to hear some reasonable explanation.

Sorry!