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Nothing, just wanted to be sure that i am being guided correctly but you are right
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JovialJune:
Yes I'm married, why did you ask that?

Sorry for the typo error, with my elder brother in a room self contain.

kemi1123:
I am not staying with my uncle, but with my elder brother in a one bedroom self contain and i am sleep on the floor with a Mat....

I am not staying with my uncle, but with my elder brother in a one bedroom self contain and i am sleep on the floor with a Mat....

anonymuz:
Look I just still see you can't make a reasonable decision. It's rare for lovers in school to accept a pregnancy let alone having kid and still stood by you through those difficult times. At this junction, go back to him cos 2 months with your uncle now, what have you achieved? Don't let people make decisions for you. Use your #6.

Thanks alot for your advise and understanding but i have 1 question please, are you married


You won't dear, it's not a must for you to marry the father of your child if you don't love each other, stuffs like this happens and you are not the first, but always make sure you are constantly in touch with your son, that is very important.[/quote]

do you think i will live with regrets ?

JovialJune:
Babe do whatever will make you happy abeg, this life is too short and unpredictable for someone to think you owe him anything, afterall your baby daddy was the reason why your aunt and uncle stopped paying your school fees so he had to take the mantle,

Since you don't love him and he is cool with it coupled with taking care of his son, start life afresh, get a good job and be financially stable, love will come at the right time,

Best of luck.

Thanks alot

DhanBaba:
God damnit

Some have eyes but cannot see, some have eyes but cannon see
We have eyes and we can see
Glory be to the O lord
Amen

You see person wey give you belle, he take care of you, including your education, I know say you go dey collect some overcharges for ante natal dat time sef

Nah now the love don commot your heart
After you don collect certificate

Am sure say nah dem Hausa university you go ,
Because your reasoning faculty small

Your uncle wey abadon you dey advice your life
Life wey you go dey leave with your husband till you die

I sure say nah the talk wey your uncle talk, make you no love the guy again

Abi yunno love am before sef
Nah money wey the guy get dey your eye
It obvious say nah guy wey get enough money go stay with you too the extent of gaining you a certificate

Abi nah ssce certificate sef
Bcuz you dey think low like secondary school student

My 2kobo
Open your eye , don't chase your husband away
E fit be your Destiny helper .

About your pikin
Dat one too go know hin mother the way you know your mother
You want to be like your mother

Shine your eye
If yunno fit shine am
But eyeglasses
Use four eye shine your way out from your uncle tribe marriage advice

He did not send me to school, but my aunty did. we both graduated from the same university
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he sent u to school,paid ur bills,u graduated wen ur village people rejected u due to the pregnancy(mission accomplished)

Now u don't love him anymore. You try[/quote]

Please do you think i will regret m actions in future

bigdaddyhech:
So, what's the need for the advise you're seeking for if you've moved on with your life?

I have moved on with my life and he should know without telling him because i dont call him anymore and same

bigdaddyhech:
Then explain the thing to him naa . Tell him how you currently feel about him. How and why you can't marry him

Yes i dont love him anymore

bigdaddyhech:
Your uncles are telling you to hand the child over to the father and flee from them( your child and the father). These same uncles chased you, stigmatized you and refused to pay your school fees when you got pregnant o. Now they want you to go and marry someone else due to language/tribal barrier.

Where were your uncles when you needed them the most? They abandoned you and he came through for you, paid your fees, took care of you and the baby. Bikonu, madam! Just say you don't love the man anymore

no

anthonyuncle:
do you want to be like your mother?

no

No but I really don't know what to do now and my uncle does seem to like him

I really dont know what came over me

Hi Nairaland

Please i see your advise to avoid mistakes

I met this guy while we were in the university and he got me Pregnant but he stood by me and the baby and also paid my school fees until I graduated because I was rejected by my uncles and aunties due to the pregnancy. He stood by me and by the grace of God, I am a graduate today and also done with my NYSC.

I lost my dad when I was only 3 years old and my aunt adopted me and paid my school fees till when I got pregnant in my part 2. My biological mum has been absent in my life and I only met her 2 years ago and she is currently suffering from epilepsy in the village. The problem now is that my uncle does not like the father of my son and he has advised me to leave my son with the father and come back home and look for someone else from my tribe and I don't seem to love the father of my baby anymore. I left my son with the father and came back to my family and it's been 2 months now but I am already missing my son.

Please be careful, I need your advice and be guided.