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Intelligent people aren't being rude, it's just how their brains are wired.

When people aren't overly concerned with external validation or outside opinions, they have an easier time showing up authentically. Being true to themselves can be off-putting to others, who don't always understand where they're coming from, and may interpret their behavior as strange or rude.

Everyone has their own threshold of social awkwardness. What's weird to one person is totally normal to someone else. There are certain behaviors that seem rude but are actually signs of a highly intelligent person. For this reason, empathy and compassion are incredibly important to hold onto in social settings.

Here are 11 behaviors that seem rude but are actually signs of a highly intelligent person

1. Questioning authority
A highly intelligent person channels their brilliance to challenge authority. Their behavior seems rude, but they're not trying to be mean or stubborn. Rather, they're using their superior brain power to ask questions other people hesitate to bring up.

According to clinical psychologist Dr. Joey Lawrence, gifted people tend to question authority. "They ask embarrassing questions because they want to know details that they shouldn't ask about and they are nonconforming," she explained.

A highly intelligent person wants to understand why certain systems are in place over others, which is the main reason they question authority figures. They refuse to accept the status quo as is, because they know that change is made by pushing limits and speaking truth to power.

2. Avoiding small talk
A highly intelligent person may seem rude because they avoid small talk at costs. They're not satisfied with surface level conversations. Their minds are always moving, which means they don't really know how to navigate shallow interactions.

Their propensity for profound topics and personal questions tends to throw other people off. Yet the deep talk that a highly intelligent person craves is a way to create close connections between relative strangers.

As author Charles Duhigg wrote in his book "Supercommunicators," "There's research on how to make small talk into something more meaningful — and the data shows it's easier, and more enjoyable for everyone involved, than we think."

Duhigg shared that deep conversations require deep questions, which "ask someone about their values, beliefs, or experiences. Rather than asking someone about the facts of their life, [deep questions] ask how they feel about their life... Meaningful connections come from sharing authentic parts of ourselves."

3. Interrupting conversations.
A highly intelligent person processes information faster than other people do, which puts them way ahead of everyone else, even in casual conversation. They have a tendency of interrupting others, a behavior that seems rude, but is actually misunderstood. While it's not their intention to be impolite, the impact of their actions makes it hard for them to engage other people.

According to psychotherapist Matt Cartwright, chronic interruption "can create an underlying sense of being disrespected and of not being heard or understood. Over time, it damages relationships."

He advised, "Keep an open mind that the person may be unaware that they are interrupting. Acknowledge that the interruptions may be coming from their excitement, versus a malicious intention."

4. Correcting people
Another of the behaviors that seem rude but are actually signs of a highly intelligent person include the tendency to correct people. An intelligent person often finds themselves in hot water for doing so, but they don't act this way to be rude, although it rubs most people the wrong way.

They value truth over everything else, and they don't hesitate to point out any inaccuracy they come across. Their seemingly arrogant attitude has less to do with proving how smart they are and more to do with their desire to set the record straight.

The most intelligent people know how little they actually know. Most of the time, their intellectual humility guides them through life, but they're virtually incapable of staying quiet when they hear incorrect information.

5. Zoning out
Always thinking one step ahead, the highly intelligent individual's mind is a well-oiled machine, primed to solve complicated problems and find solutions to serious issues. Sometimes, they're so busy thinking, they lose track of the present moment. They zone out completely, which seems rude, but it's actually a sign they're lost in thought.

It's not uncommon for a highly intelligent person to trail off in the middle of a sentence or abruptly excuse themselves from a conversation. They're thinking so deeply, they don't even realize how rude their behavior seems. Other people might interpret their actions as proof that they're inattentive, but really, their attention is trained inward.

6. Fidgeting
Fidgeting is another behavior that seems rude but actually indicates that someone is highly intelligent. There's an expectation in academic and professional settings for people to be quiet, sit still, and receive information, but a highly intelligent person struggles with those instructions.

They have a tendency to move their bodies without realizing they're doing so. They might tap their fingers on their desk or jiggle their knees up and down. They might twirl their pen in their hands or tear apart paper.

While fidgeting is an indicator of ADHD, studies, like one from Child Neuropsychology, determined that fidgeting was shown to improve cognitive performance in children with ADHD. An additional study from Frontiers in Psychiatry found that adults who fidget are able to better sustain attention.

While these small actions often seem destructive and distracting, they're a sign that a highly intelligent person is thinking deeply. A highly intelligent person might have restless body language, but for all of their tics and twitches, they're still paying very close attention to what's being said.

7. Getting bored quickly
A highly intelligent person tends to get bored easily, especially in social situations where they're not fully invested. They don't realize this behavior seems rude because it has no bearing on the company they're with. Their boredom has less to do with other people than it does with their need for constant intellectual excitement.

Their minds jump around, making connections between disparate topics that don't necessarily interest anyone else. Their loss of interest in everyday interactions makes it hard for them to feel close to other people. For this reason, a highly intelligent person often feels misunderstood by other people.

8. Being selective about friendships
A highly intelligent person isn't friends with just anyone; rather, they're incredibly selective with their social circles, because they believe in quality over quantity. They want friends who challenge them, who push them to think about the world on a deeper level. They avoid hollow friendships. Instead, a highly intelligent person makes friends to keep.

In her book "Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends," psychologist Marisa Franco wrote about the transformative magic of true friendship.

"We choose our friends, which allows us to surround ourselves with people who root for us, get us, and delight in our joy," she wrote. "Through friendship, we can self-select into some of the most affirming, safe, and sacred relationships of our lives."

She advised people to put their friendships first, adding, "Make being a good friend a part of who you are, because a deep and true core that needs to belong lies within us all."

9. Turning down invitations
Turning down invitations is a behavior of a highly intelligent person that seems more rude than anything else they do, even though they don't intend to be rude. A highly intelligent person functions on a higher vibration than others, which means they need to spend a fair amount of time alone to decompress.

A study from Frontiers in Psychology outlined how solitude, loneliness, and isolation are entirely opposing experiences. Solitude can be defined as "the state of being alone," loneliness is "the feeling of alienation from others," and isolation is "the experience of choiceless and extended alone time."

Loneliness is directly connected to a detrimental type of solitude, but solitude in and of itself isn't always negative. There are positive aspects to "being with yourself," like relaxation, self-reflection, and a sense of inner peace.

10. Overlooking small details
An incredibly intelligent person's habit of ignoring minor details seems rude, but it's really a sign of how fast their brains operate. They're so focused on the big picture that they often let little things slip through the cracks.

Their spouse might remind them 20 times to pick up milk before coming home, but they come home empty-handed. They might let their laundry pile up in the corner of their bedroom, because most of their brain space is devoted to other issues.

This behavior frustrates other people, because it seems like they don't care enough to pay close attention to details.

11. Prioritizing honesty
A highly intelligent person's practice of telling the unvarnished truth seems rude, but it shows how deeply they prioritize honesty over comfort. According to Harvard Business School Professor Michael Beer, the lack of honesty and accountability in corporate culture can be detrimental to the survival of a company.

"There's this organizational silence, where no one feels comfortable speaking truth to power," he explained. The shared discomfort with open communication spreads like a virus, until "People who are this discouraged stop bothering to collaborate with others to improve the organization."

In his book "Fit to Compete: Why Honest Conversations about Your Company's Capabilities Are the Key to a Winning Strategy," Beer wrote, "Many management failures... are rooted in the inability of corporate leaders to learn the truth and respond effectively."

For most people, it's easier to stay silent than it is to be honest, but a highly intelligent person lets their truth-telling tendencies guide them through life.


Source:
yourtango.com
Feb 21, 2025

The Nigerian Army has strongly condemned the brutal treatment of innocent citizens, including a retired ex-corporal, Toriola Adewale, by the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB) and the Biafran Liberation Army.

The Army has called on international organizations, such as Amnesty International and the International Criminal Court, to hold Simon Ekpa and other IPOB leaders accountable for these heinous crimes.

In a statement by Major General Onyema Nwachukwu, Director of Army Public Relations, the Army described the acts of terror as “villainous” and “dehumanizing.”

Source:
Hotnews247

FCMB Group has commenced its public offer of N110 billion at N7.30 kobo per share to meet the capital requirements placed on banks by the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN).

FCMB Group is issuing 15,197,282,219 ordinary shares of 50 kobo each at N7.30 per share.

“The first phase is what we’re currently executing, where we’ll be raising a total of N150 billion through both a public offer and a small private placement as well. That phase should be concluded by October this year,” Ladi Balogun, CEO FCMB Group said on Tuesday at the Facts Behind the Offer presentation at the Nigerian Exchange Limited (NGX).

He said that the bank is pursuing a phased approach. “There are three phases to our own capital raise.”

In March the CBN announced a ten-fold jump in minimum capital requirements for banks, nearly two decades since the last exercise.

FCMB with an international license is required to raise N500 billion and currently needs N375 billion to maintain its international license.

He said that the second phase will be selling minority interests in one or two of its subsidiaries.

“where we hope to generate somewhere between 80 to 100 billion naira. So that’ll take us to about, at the upper limit, about 250 billion naira,”Balogun said.

He said the third phase will involve a private placement towards the end of next year.

“ I’ve already identified a group of potential investors. The aim is to complete all three processes to ensure we have less than 50 billion shares in issue and also make sure that we’re able to sustain and grow earnings per share for our investors in spite of the significant amounts of shares we’re issuing,” Balogun said.

He said the capital raised will be used to drive business growth, to provide capital for lending to key sectors of the economy, agricultural sector, SMEs, and non-oil exports.

By: Eniola Olatunji (July 30, 2024)

Source:
https://businessday.ng/news/article/fcmb-commences-public-offer-of-n110-billion/?amp

At least 54 African nations are expected to converge in Nigeria in November for the second Africa military games.

The Director of Sports, Defence Headquarters, AVM Abidemi Marquis, disclosed this yesterday while briefing journalists on the forthcoming event.

He said despite the tension in Economic Community of West African States (ECOWAS) military athletes from Mali, Niger, Burkina Faso and Guinea had indicated interest to participate in the games billed to hold between 5 and18 November 2024 at the Moshood Abiola National Stadium in Abuja.

Marquis said the event with the theme; “Enhancing military cooperation in Africa through sports” would give African countries opportunity to interact with one another towards sustaining good relationships built over the years.

He said the event would feature both male and female athletes participating in 19 sporting events.

Written by Tarkaa David.
Source: Leadership News (www.leadership.ng)

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