₦airaland Forum

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life? If u dey annoyed or annoying for other ppl life, set urself on fire make we know say u dey truly vex.

Rapmoney:
I just wonder why most people from the southern parts of Nigeria, especially, among the Urhobos, Isokos and Ijaws engage in paper-bag marriage. For those wondering what paper-bag marriage means...it means co-habitation between a man and a woman; not legally married.

It is so annoying to see a man and a woman living together, with up to 4 kids! In the end, you will find out that the woman's dowry has not been paid! I once attended a marriage ceremony where I discovered that the couple's first issue was already graduating from the university!

Am not trying to paint any tribe bad, but it is very common among the above-mentioned ethnic groups. What am asking: is this part of the African culture? Why have these people so degraded themselves to this extent? The elders are there...they see how their culture is derailed, yet they do nothing about it. I still remember my former landlady, telling on a fateful day, that what am I waiting for? That I should just impregnate my girl and start a family! From that day, I started losing my respect for her!

In the eastern part of Nigeria, trash like this doesn't happen. Only a wayward Igbo girl would get pregnant for a man and start a family with him. In the Igbo culture, such is forbidden!!! Alu!!! Abomination.

Pls, what's your take on this?

guy come oh! Wetin concern u for other ppl life?

omenka:
Anyone who doesn't see the hand of Jonathan in all of this is indeed an ignoramus. I bet the flame has been doused in a way from SR's publication yesterday.

They understand the game is up and are using every means possible to maintain status quo. Whatever it was, I don't think the General has lost a single fan or supporter to the controversy. Matter of fact, the incident has strengthened people's resolve to fight on. Nigerians will resist the Killer Party at every turn this time.

Let them enjoy the two seconds the incident has given them under the spotlight. We know it is just a line in the sand and with a gentle breeze it will disappear. Jonathan has ruined the PDP and has done very terrible damage to the unity of this country, but I believe after Buhari is sworn in, one pill at a time, the healing process will be initiated and in a short time we would start seeing each other as we did pre-Jonathan.

We will conquer.
God bless Our General.

u mean God shld blessing the lying general who wants to lie his way into office? And still promise u a better Nigeria? Look at the facts before u.

omenka:
Anyone who doesn't see the hand of Jonathan in all of this is indeed an ignoramus. I bet the flame has been doused in a way from SR's publication yesterday.

They understand the game is up and are using every means possible to maintain status quo. Whatever it was, I don't think the General has lost a single fan or supporter to the controversy. Matter of fact, the incident has strengthened people's resolve to fight on. Nigerians will resist the Killer Party at every turn this time.

Let them enjoy the two seconds the incident has given them under the spotlight. We know it is just a line in the sand and with a gentle breeze it will disappear. Jonathan has ruined the PDP and has done very terrible damage to the unity of this country, but I believe after Buhari is sworn in, one pill at a time, the healing process will be initiated and in a short time we would start seeing each other as we did pre-Jonathan.

We will conquer.
God bless Our General.

u mean God shld blessing the lying general who wants to lie his way into office? Look at the facts before u.

mesoade:
It's now glaring that buhari doesn't have his original certificates . . . Whether buhari wins in the election or Not.
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Enough of the bomblasts!,
Enough of the kidnappings,
Enough of corruption without proper justice,
Enough of unfufilled promises,
Enough of buhari,
Enough of GEJ,
ALL WE NEED IS CHANGE!!!

someone promise these things wen he lost the last election. U r getting them now and u still want to vote dsame person. Wat sort of change r u taking abt?

ABIOLAXYZ:
Everything Is happening all because of Mr Gej appointing Incompetent as leaders of the armed forces.........How d armed forces say they didn't have former head of state credential.....

was GEJ THE PRESIDENT WEN HE BUHARI WAS USING MAGOMAGO IN RISING TO D POST OF A GENERAL? OR WAS HE THE PRESIDENT IN PREVIOUS ELECTIONS OTHER THAN 2011?

ericiland:
So did he returned all his certificate back to d military after contesting in 2011? Y can't he get a written note frm d military dsm way Sambo did frm his university?

This is wat u call doing the right thing with transparency. Na e we want.

WarRLaY:
you guys should just leave this man alone, and stop broadcasting shit about him, this is not his first time of contesting for this sit, let chill till Feb 14 and vote, and m very sure, people carrying bad news about this man are the enemy of progress of this country, we need change,..

Nooooooooo! Nigerian do not want a changes dat has lies as its foundation.

jeje123:
Those wit certificate what can they offer Nigerians?

This is comparing a one eye blind man with a man with both eyes blind.

iamchiddy:
the one with PhD in zoology has nothing to show for it. I watched his interview with Christiane Amanpour on CNN and I wept.

what make u tink Buhari is better. We suspect he is already lying abt his certificates

GoodGirl2:
How about you trace the two girls and warn them against marrying your "friend"?
He's not good for either girl.

Ehen? I rather watch the drama unfold than do that. I feel that is a betrayal.

Iaz93:
Kissing is a form of greeting.

Sex is just a means of acknowledgement.

Sex is not a sin. It is the motive behind the sexual intercourse that is the sin.

motivation does nt come in here. Sex outside marriage is a sin. But d one i am confuse about is romance/ pre-intimacy outside marriage.

farano:
No. It's an act of friendly salutation

kissing get grade.

Krak:
If you are interested in getting the questions for the first stage of the youwin pls drop your email. It is in Microsoft Word format.

It was given to me by one of the past winners. It is better to have it on time so that one will have enough time to prepare and conceptualise on your idea.

I must say I have really been practicing on them and its been fun. I was given free and I will give it out for free.

thanks. "hassanalico86@gmail.com"

utimatedes:
I understand. I can't pick offense. There are so many business plan out there, it just that all the plans out there are not really suitable as youwin format is quite different. I have a lot of such business plan and I can give you the link to get such.

Those plan are only suitable if you are applying for loan or you are looking investors that have not given you their own format. Youwin has format, it is quite different and in most cases some of the questions asked are limited to 200 words (answers) and you must frame it well to covey the message.

can i get a small scale bizness plan at hassanalico86@gmail.com. Pls

utimatedes:
Ofcourse you cannot pump all your cash into asset, you need to set aside some fund as running capital. First of all you need to prioritize. What can you start with and ensure that your business is running even without complete fund?

Just list your capital requirements, list all your assets you would need, list machinery, equipments, marketing, rent, license and fee etc, is from there you will know how much your business needs. If your capital needs is more than N10m and youwin is only giving out N10m maximum, you have to let them know that you have other source where you will raise the balance, otherwise you would not be given. And if you told them you have other sources, please make sure there are real because at a point youwin will ask you to show that you have raise the remaining fund from other sources you promised before further disbursement. Many in our set ran into problem with YouWIN because of fake promises.

Don't think it is a free money, you must be checked, monitored, mentored etc.

oga do u have a good bizness plan dat i can use?

ceysaga:
I am one of last year's beneficiaries. Ask me your questions.

wat is d least amount a prospective winner shld state in his/her bizness plan to pay his /her employees.

Promhize:
I have tons of ideas, from small scale to large. Wish I could submit more than one, hard to decide.

can u pls give me one of the small scale plans u have?

mikeoh:
yes i was a benefiary of d first edition ...i got to know about it on nairaland lik this nd i applied nd won....millions...i was yet to nta school then i just wrot jamb then whil waitin for my admision....finally i got admitd while i also won d grant

can we pls talk one on one. I need some winner touch to my plans.

freecocoa:
What a m0r0n.

the type dat is quick in seeing u as u r. Goldless b-i-t-c-h!

freecocoa:
Kai! Where do I start with you? Isn't it obvious your rants of "fly" isn't working? My friend face front and concentrate on how to be a perfect gold digger.

i'm already a perfect golddigger, hw would i have known that u r a goldless pit? I no go face front o! I must look around sharp sharp to get rid of any goldless pit so dat i can concentrate on the gold fill ones.

freecocoa:
Your Mumu worse pass as I think sef, trend ko, norm ni, mschew.

hw can u see sometine good on the trend wen u r a comfirm mumu. I'm a golddigger, i agree! That is the more reason u shld fly frm dis trend becos u r a goldless pit.

mutter:
If he is contemplating marrying her after just three months it can not be just for the money. He has seen something in her.

Besides we cannot assume that she is a Jezebel, she might be a better person than the first girl he loves. She might love him more, she might be better brought up.

When you have been with someone for long she also become a habit.
Assuming he went with the new girl and married her and shares life with her he would grow to feel for her too.

Fact is that we hardly end up marrying our "childhood love".
Most people end up with someone different.

Your friend should know what is important to him..
Yes it is great to be with someone you love but how does it feel when you cannot afford things for your kids. When your parents get ill and you can`t afford their treatment. When you start praying for long life for your parents because you can`t afford a funeral.
Life is complex.
Even today all over the world the high and mighty have other criteria for marrying than just love. The partner is picked strategically.

When two people treat each other with respect and consideration, love flows in through wide open doors.

mutter. Thank you so much. I neva intend showing my frd this discussion. But i'm jst going to print ur post, give to him and let him make his own decision. Thank you again.

freecocoa:
See munu, you better keep shut and worry about becoming an everlasting gold digger.

read through wat others have written and ask your self this question. Who is the mumu on this trend?

freecocoa:
Did I tell you I was helping? Dude needs no help.

ur likes are nt welcome here. I beg fly.

freecocoa:
Later Coogar would say men don't marry up, lmao .

Another gold digging man, okay na.

hw does that ur comment help?

Abuamam:
Let him marry both.

hw? If he does that, Toyin could kill all of them including herself, i.e if she agrees.

mutter:
Sometimes it would be good if we could look into the future and see what awaits us.

There is no guarantee that his marriage with Toyin would end up being a happy one.
There is no saying with which woman he would end up being financially better off, because things change.

However it is better to be unhappy with someone you love than to be unhappy with someone you don`t love.
He ought to follow his heart.

If however material things mean more to him then let him betray his heart and go for the girl with more money because the "probability" is that the money would be there in the future.
In a country like Nigeria where you can only get respect if you have money we need to understand why love is no longer a priority.
Love is not a fertilizer to make one grow out of poverty.

you understand the situation very well. Peter is concern for his future and dat of his unborn children. If he is concern only for material things he would have ditch toyin for long. His heart lies wit toyin, but the need for the necessities of life make him confuse. For 2 day this mata had come up, i am at lost on wat to tell him, hence i'm seeking advice here. Ma! Can u pls throw more light on him looking into the future.

adebimpe1988:
Patience n tolerance will b d watchword

thank you for ur advice.

adebimpe1988:
Y will he do such n does he think toyin won't make it in life,what if d new girl won't give peter happiness

from the way things are, Peter wont get happiness from d new girl the way he gets it frm Toyin. Peter can go 3 day with food if he is wit Toyin. This make the whole mata more confusing to me ooo!

GboyegaD:
If you need advise here then you are like your friends. He is a gold digger.

Roger dat

Roger dat