₦airaland Forum

Jman06:
So, older women don't display dramas in their marriages Why do you guys like lying about age difference being a cause of marital issues and wives' dramas? Just anything to discourage men from marrying younger girls!


@op, I'll advise you to do everything within your power to get your wife back. Attend the funeral and make sure your wife notices your presence. Do everything you can to help give your mother-in-law a befitting funeral.

After like one months of mourning, go back and do everything to get your wife back. Good thing that your father-in-law seems to be on your side. Remember that in our culture, men are usually the ones who marry off their daughters! Or did you pay her bride price to her mother?

Drop your ego at this point and beg your wife and in-laws, buy her favourite gifts and melt her heart. I'm sure that if she sees the seriousness in you, your wife will come around. The issue wouldn't have lingered for this long if not that you allowed your ego get a better part of you. So, drop that ego now, beg your wife and get your family back.

There's nothing serious in this issue to warrant the lingering separation. After reconciling with your wife, make sure you don't repeat this mistake of laying your hands on her ever again. Don't listen to all these people here advising you to move on. Many of them would crawl to their wives if they find themselves in similar situation!

eniolorunfe:
Your wife was 19/20 when you got married and you were 30/31 and you didn’t prepare for drama(s)? The age difference is a lot! 11 years?! More than a decade

As per your question, the ball is in your court. Your wife no send you.

Odingo1:
APC paid propaganda, morning don come. Because of 2027 election, immigration officials have remembered that they can do their work efficiently. Who is deceiving who. Vote 🗳️ right and avoid eye service by government to win elections.

Equal2DeTask:
I don't understand.....are you the one sponsoring the lodging?

LordReed:
Yup, god is just another form of superstition.

YourGFsnatcher:
With the spirituality of Africans how comes they can't even feed themselves? Chinese people that don't rely on spirit beat you in every angle. If you say they have other religions, does that mean their religion is better than yours? There's NOTHING you can tell me becuase there's no any evidence that your religion is working as long as you are still the most useless Continent on earth. You can't prove anything u said, the only prove would have been that your prayers for the country are working. You people have organised all manner of prayers for the country and yet can't move from one state to another in peace. What could be more gullible than that? You keep doing things without evidence of result ahf yet, those who are doing well are the gullible one.?? Don't u like Japan? Are they your religion? Can you compare your country with all your prayers and Japan where over 90% of them are Shintos? Or is your religion fake? Should we become Shintos? Cos it's working better than urs, with evidence, you have NO evidence in the power of your religion

Father4all:
. I swear I'm older than your dad

LordReed:
It is superstition because it is irrational not because I have never experienced it.

Father4all:
Super story. Why can't the socalled pastor or prophet use his power to make Nigerian better

thomas2024:
What’s the colour of your problem? Can’t you just go and pass? Why is it that it’s only you Nigerians that make jest of people’s way of expressing themselves unlike other countries. Is there a secret competition or trophy to that or what? Low self-esteem issues sha. Hope you get your ignorance cured someday.

Passionnn:
One thing is to prophesy another Is to pray against it.

livinbygrace:
No matter the grammar and epistle,You won’t understand until you experienced it and For you to have even mentioned Chinese, in this context,you still have a long way to go , no need to argue further .

Breaker001:
It could be true because I have lived in an apartment with such tendencies, at least twice. It's not something anymore should wish his or her enemy

LordReed:
What this thread shows is Nigerians are still in the stranglehold of superstition. We have a long way to go with this kind of attitude.

JackDaAlienz:
There was one rich man in my church
He was head of Rotary club and I remember vividly that he started a programme that encourage parents to adopt kids.

This was Obasanjo era. Economy was good

My neighbor a nurse adopted 2 kids boys
One popular woman in church adopt 1 boy
Madam Rosita adopted a boy and girl

Now I have been going to that church since I was a kid so I remember when they adopted those kids and did baptism for them.

Now fast forward 2025
My neighbor 2 boys turn out to be cultist
They smoke ibo like nothing
Tattoo everywhere. A huge contrast to her 3 real children she had before adopting 2 boys

The popular woman the boy she adopted dey insult and disgrace am like mad
Dem go dey quarrel like women for public
Only God knows wetin dey happen for private

Madam Rosita the girl she adopted showed her shege pro max at her teenage years
Carry belle very early. The boy run go Libya haven't heard from him since 2021.

So this are the 3 people that lived around my area and same church for 20 years
I remember vididly how they adopted those kids in church and how they all turned out now today. .
I think the problem is that these kids soon realize that they are biological kids.
And I think that realization alone at an early stage in life can throw them off.

Somebody said something about the child having hereditary madness

But I disagree because even the woman you marry that will bear your child.
Do you know if her family has genetic madness??

So in general adoption can be risky and also rewarding. Just like marriage.
It can end up uplifting you or destroying you

Adoption is a very risky something
You don't know the history or potential of that child. Family hismm

Make we no go adopt future Gentle yahoo

Yorubastardz:
Imagine picking a child and taking responsibility to raise the child.

Only for the child to grow up and torment you every day.

Because his genetics and behavior are not from you. His parents might be mad people who abandon him as a baby.

Now you suffer and raise kid
Only for the kid to be a thorn in your life

Kingray10:
Since he doesn't want to stay anymore, he should demand for his money back n move to somewhere else na.
He disturbing your peace n privacy

PepeXKermit:
tell us where he posted that younf people should work hard of sht tf up

helinues:
Noah sent invitation letters to all the animals in the world then, inside the letter, he strictly warned Lion and Tiger not to misbehave around Buffalo and Impala or he would eject them from the Ark