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merrymaker2:
The alleged kidnapper the military defended, wasted police officers in d process allegedly. Where is he?

We will be releasing him along the 649 others as they are one of us. We have to let him go. Let's forget the past. Wadume is now a changed man

Blu03:
From what you've written, i believe that you're just being influenced by what you've heard.
I stay in the North, and to be honest i wouldn't encourage you to pick a hausa as a wife.
Excect for those of the fulani tribe and a few hausa's the North has little to offer in terms of beauty. Nothing erotic.
Moral wise, the same thing. The religion helps to curb their sexual appetite but not entirely.
One good point about them that a man would appreciate is that they are submissive and docile.
Then again, don't make any rash decision first. Experience the people yourself first.

What's with their sexual appetite that religion curbs?

Blu03:


And you wonder why you are where you are. Horrible marketing, telling potential buyers to 'swerve go one side.
Im interested mymynd4u. I want the messages intact tho.

And what would you be using this for lady

I'm sure Lienus Mba mad his compatriots would jump on the bandwagon of this news. Anyway, whatever the outcome they should Sha release him as the other murderers they plan on giving amnesty to out of bias inclinations

And you blame it on the wife like you've heard her story or know her side of issues. Poke noser. Focus your energies on yourself to evade the same fate. You'll be better of doing that than this nonsense you're doing

Did they just say 188...

Unless the police stole them after they impounded them cause I was around ikeja alst week and four 30 tons trucks were filled with motor bikes and from my calculations from just this single venue where I was first hand.


I'll say between 300-600 bikes were seized cause about four trucks were filled.

How this diminishes in official reports to 188 is what baffles me.


Korruption

pansophist:
The irony is that those in western countries are looking for wife outside the west (especially American men), while many in Nigeria are looking for western wife. Hmm

Means we have a psychological problem. And the taste we see our issues are more of realignment of our mental posture. The better. For me the one that can increase or maintain peace is the one that wins the crown irrespective of origins

Opeyemiebun:
Look, I want to know from the experience of older couple on here how to manage such situation.
It is her money, and I have mine but as the head of the family I don't want to hurt her knowing she does alot too.
Thanks alot though

Why create a thread nah. Do what's on your mind

FamousMonk:
But you clearly did judge..
Calling me childish and asking me to grow up...
You obviously made an interpretation..
Are you implying your interpretation ain't accurate or that there's enough clarity in my post and ordeal to make your own interpretation accurate?

My dear If I judge I judge the expectation placed on people to give you go ahead to break up a relationship when you didn't paint the accurate context of what happened.




Dude, please yourself. Go break up.

Opeyemiebun:
Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!

Are you sure you're a man or a boy in a man's body. Since you have your answers, kindly explain why you created the thread



Continue running your marriage with your one man army mindset.


Smh.

My dear. You don't want peace abi. You better support her fast and run and get her the car so she'll praise you more. She needs that car abeg

I'll like to add to what was mentioned above:

But first do not overlook divorce because of whatever things you may have to give up to get your happiness. Please and please. It's easier to remarry at 48-50 than at 62.

But first, I'll like you to set up na account to receive some funds outside the United States maybe back at home. Not in the custody of a third party but in your name. Take note.


Make videos if possible of altercations and keep. A memo about happenings as proof so if you both have a squabble you can present them as solid proof


Trim your expenses even on the kids, wife and yourself converting excess cash into savings. And have these saving account preserved out of both of your reach so you can have soft landing


Ensure you make insurance payments for the kids in education and medicals that shows you made the payments yourself, don't let her do this. If you pay house rentals,also do this. All this would help as collateral proof that you keep your end of the bargain in the family upkeeps. Keep note of receipts and payments.

franchasng:
Sorry op, but the truth is, there is nothing anybody can do about this situation you are in, the only thing readers can do is to learn from your mistake to avoid making the same mistake in their own life.

How you saw the signs during courtship and decided to ignore it (maybe because of sex most times that some skillful ladies normally use to blind fold guys from seeing their glaring faults!) amazes me honestly because the redzone signs were there from the beginning.


Any lady who does not respect her siblings, does not respect her elderly relatives and neighbors is a ticking time bomb, don't ever marry such a lady but guys will never listen.

In as much as I give God the glory for giving me a wonderful wife, I still give myself some kudos for my smart choice when making my choice of wife.


I must say this to single guys who care to learn from me, see guys, when I was single, I met all kinds of ladies (rich, poor, average, etc all thanks to the small change I had then lol), but I never lost focus of what I wanted in a woman I would call my wife.

I didn't allow some of the ladies I met who had super enticing qualities like very rich family background, American citizen, have double degree, hot and sexy, trendy, etc to becloud my judgment.

I had list of things I couldn't tolerate in a lady I would marry, such as:

1.) Disrespect:
I don't even judge how you respect me, but how you respect people around you, and how you respect your family members and others around you. Once I notice disrespectful or arrogant or prideful attitude from you, I run like Usain Bolt lol without telling you why I quit!

2.) Money management

I love money so much. I know how much I laboured and suffered to make the little meagre money I am making do with, so I was scared of ending up with an extravagant lady who sees spending stupidly as a normal thing maybe because she once dated a Yahoo boy or drug peddler or sugar daddy politicians who dish out money to her at will which makes her believe any guy she is dating or married to must be dishing out money to her too. Once I notice you are an extravagant Lady who spend lavishly without reason, I run from you asap! I don't care how beautiful or sexy or hot you are, to hell with those other qualities!

3.) Promiscuity

I don't need to ask you to know if you are a promiscuous lady, I have my litmus test to know and once it shows red, I run without notice!

4.) Feminism

Once I notice that you subscribe to all those nonsense feminism and women nonsense right, I know you are not for me and I am not for you because I don't believe in gender equality in marriage. I believe in treating my wife with love as God commanded and I expect her to treat me like God commanded her in the Bible so I don't need feminists and their brouhaha to make my marriage work. So once I notice it, I run from you without notice!

5.) Laziness

Once I notice that you are these type of ladies that believe that working as a married woman is a taboo because to them, once they marry, their only job is to be sleeping and waking up and preserving hot sex for their husband as he returns from work. I hated housewife ideology maybe because my mother was never a housewife and my sister wasn't one too, maybe that shaped my decision on this maybe.

6.) Dirtiness

I dread dirt. Any lady that loves neatness has won my heart. I love my environment shinning always. I don't like my car and clothes looking neat while my home looks dirty so I made sure the Lady I end up with as a wife must have these qualities.


7.) Humility

Nothing makes me to love a lady than humility. If you are humble as a lady, I can give you all I have. I cannot even stand to see you angry or cry because I will feel like the world is cheating on you. So I looked out for this in my would be wife and I got it.


So all you single guys reading this story, learn from my experience when I was single.

Some of the ladies I abandoned to stick to my wife had tempting features that my wife didn't have.


For instance, I Iove United States so much even though I have visited so many countries, I have never visited US and I have never applied for US visa but I loved to have my kids become US citizens, I must be honest here. So the devil saw this desire in me and brought wrong ladies disguised with this features i desire my way when I was single lol.

I met a lady who was a nurse in US, beautify, young and a US citizen. We clicked on meeting, but I noticed she was so arrogant and hot tempered and loved everything to go her way. I quit despite all her please for forgiveness that sh will change, I don't believe in human beings changing their character anyway, I ran.

I met another Nigerian lady, a US citizen too, working with US Navy. She was so hot that it almost deceived me lol. I noticed she is a hardcore feminist that indirectly hate Nigerian men and their way of life, when I noticed this, I didn't try to cut corners, I flee

I met a young girl from a highly politicaly connected family who promised that my company will grow, that we will join efforts and she would convince her dad to assist us in becoming Nigerian government contractor with some government agencies, this was one of my greatest desires lol, I was tempted but when I realised she lacks respect, lacks manner, doesn't value poor people, look down on broke guys and always looking up, I had to quit for my own good.

I met another lady from an average family, with double degree, one of the prettiest, hottest, sexiest ladies I met while single lol, with big bombom like I so loved then and everything standing attention like olumo rock, and she was so damn hot that I remembered on one day we went out during Xmas at a popular place in Lagos, some big shots sent their guards to drop a note with her asking for her contact. I experienced such severally but those never bothered me. what bothered me was her relationship with her siblings.


One day I drove her home, the way she related with her elder brothers broke my heart. Maybe because they were not financially successful, she looks down on them and everybody in her family feared her to my surprise.

This was the only reason I ran away from her.


Let me stop here.


So op, you have made the mistake already and its been a long time, just consider yourself separated from her and focus on your kids. Stop any form of investment in the states, whenever you want to make an investment, please consider Nigeria or elsewhere.

May God help you out.



Cc: kunleweb

Same thing happened to me. The devil kept bringing ladies I liked. American citizen too funny enough. Canadian citizen. Oil company workers. Feminists. Wetin my eyes no see my brother. Na so my blood dey boil for the Canadian chick. We clicked like damn it. Met series of high end ladies. My brother. All na scam. People often don't know the devil tricks them with what he knows in their hearts.


But let's leave that asides. The deed has been done Franchas. Advice this Op.

Can we move this to front page for wider audience and contributions please

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Mariangeles:
Then stop judging the op.
His reality isn't yours either.

I haven't judged anyone. I simply made my mind clear that unless circumstance is revealed it would be wrong to expect people to make accurate interpretations without more clarity. Now fvck off

Mariangeles:
It is what it is.

My reality isn't yours

Godson201333:
You thought she would change “ what happened to the law that says “ you can never raise an adult”. You are financially okay, Have you tried to open up conversation with your wife ? I hope you are aware that divorce in the USA is very expensive and emotional draining.

Try to give your relationship with your wife a “relaunch “ before finally considering divorce.

Should he not consider his health/life/peace at the expense of not wanting an expensive separation. If she's irrredemable, should he tolerate an abusive relationship that can take his life in the process? Truths should be balanced. Pros and cons.


I'm not saying he should divorce or stay, but then he needs a realistic check of his marriage .. in order to take the right decison


What do you think AmericanDad?

Mariangeles:
Would you still think the same if it had been the other way round?
Answer honestly...

There are people like that who like "rough play". They would deliberately hurt someone and are quick to say " I'm sorry, I didn't mean for that to happen"

Don't spin this into a gender war. I'm sure you should be able to read and understand

JONNYSPUTE:
.. The best for him to do is to divorce her ASAP.

Unless a person is psychologically re-modelled, and become aware of their own conditions, they continue to act the way their state of mind suggests as right. This means their ability to change is dependent upon their ability to discern their own wrong ways. Until then, they'll continue to self-destruct and remain irrredemable. I've constantly preached this everywhere I go. That the state of mind of a persons lover is very very important. Anyone who can't forgive,owe to their errors and seek to make redress not waiting for their love will make a problematic lover.

The first thing to look out for in a partner is their ability to give you peace or increase or maintain your state of peace. Never negotiate this or relegate it's importance. I've been preaching this for a long time even here

Isn't this what we've been saying IIekokonit Martinez39 Ericsmith Ubunja Jonnyspute.

desiregold:
Eya, chai. I just feel pity for op.

Imagine being a divorcee at 48yrs? Years wasted trying to build home.

Nobody planned to marry and later divorce, unfortunately, life throw unpleasant surprises to us in the name of bad partners to us.

It's well..

Life doesn't throw, we overlook flaws. In a space of two years I've ran away from prime ladies for the sake of my peace of mind

Elders where una dey o. Daddytime Pansophist FranchasNg

AFONAMARO:
What exactly are you talking about? A lady chose to place a hot pot cover on her boyfriend's body and you are here foaming. Does his body look like wood or cupboard?

This is already looking like a lady with unforgiven and anger management issue

A lady choose/chose - abeg prove am

aminusodiq:
my girlfrnd once broke my fone screen!!! I was mad, but it was d first time nd forgave!!! It may b a mistake, just give another chance, I see no reason why a sane person Wil decide to cause u harm

Seconded

You should add screenshots to this message that includes the recipient account details. I recommend first thing tomorrow visit your bank and ask for the recipients bank account number and names. This is the first place to start from. For now transfer all funds left out of your account.

Atlanticfire:
Send me email through my profile.

I will get them to send me the pictures by Monday and forward them to you. I will also get a brief details of what is wrong with each one. After that we can agree on how many cows you will give me for each one

I sent you a PM

Joking

farem:
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Clear your head of self-inflicted confusion!
Anyome who can read simple English has read in 3 to 5 days back that can is organising a protest.
I want say clear your head of the flu �

Fool. First of all learn to conrpehend first eediot

The world and beef sha. They are not in your field of business. Do not operate in your line of business. Yet they won't let you have peace