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Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:14pm On Feb 02
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.

I am a married Man with a Kid. Before marriage, my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.

We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.

I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.

We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.

She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.

I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.

I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.

What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by blaquey01: 8:16pm On Feb 02
Ftc. Follow this rule in life bro. Happy woman Happy home. If she's worth it, you can make the sacrifice.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kunleweb: 8:18pm On Feb 02
My dear. You don't want peace abi. You better support her fast and run and get her the car so she'll praise you more. She needs that car abeg

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Shugavee(f): 8:22pm On Feb 02
Mtchewwwww u no get problem! Next

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:22pm On Feb 02
kunleweb:
My dear. You don't want peace abi. You better support her fast and run and get her the car so she'll praise you more. She needs that car abeg

Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Asquare84(m): 8:24pm On Feb 02
You can get the two cars the same time, life is in stages the investment may come later

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:25pm On Feb 02
Shugavee:
Mtchewwwww u no get problem! Next

Thanks, as you take hiss make me know so

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kunleweb: 8:26pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:


Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!









Are you sure you're a man or a boy in a man's body. Since you have your answers, kindly explain why you created the thread



Continue running your marriage with your one man army mindset.


Smh.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by makydebbie(f): 8:26pm On Feb 02
It's her money and she's the one going through the stress yet you don't want her to get a car? When she's not even asking you for money.

I'm shocked sef, because she's not asking you for money.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:27pm On Feb 02
Asquare84:
You can get the two cars the same time, life is in stages the investment may come later
OK. Thanks alot

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Atlanticfire: 8:27pm On Feb 02
Get a car for your wife first if you want to buy only one car.

If you buy two cars make sure the stronger car goes to your wife otherwise she will be wasting the family money on mechanics and calling you at odd time to complain about the car.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by deewhydoski(m): 8:30pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:
Evening guys, please I will like to seek people's opinion concerning this issue that I have in my home.
I am a married Man with a Kid, before marriage my wife has a federal job outside Lagos while I run my business in Lagos. Due to Nigeria's economy, I asked her not to resign as she keeps working while I also keep on with my hustle. I have to be fair to her as she has been giving her all in this marriage and I so envy her strength to make things work despite the distance.
We had our first child last year and she is going to a year.. We both contribute financially and bring something to the table as we run 2 different homes.
I know she goes through a lot taking care of the baby without a car and I know how tedious it is for her to manage.
We are both young (I am 30 while she is 28)
We got our first few properties this January and we planning to do other things as we both bring money together to get things done.

We have plans of getting our first car within a month and my wife suddenly demanded that she also needs a car where she is due to the stress she goes through daily picking my child from creche and managing that with her own job. I asked that I employ a helper for her but she doesn't want.
She plans on getting the car within the next 2months with her own money. My issue is that I am business oriented and see it as a waste of money buying 2 cars when we can buy one and invest the money for the other one.
I am a Civil Engineer and my Job requires I get a car for mobility.
I feel guilty by trying to stop her from getting the car while I get mine and at the same time, if she get one I will also need to get.
I have been cracking my head up trying to see how we can go about it without hurting her and be fair to her as she is the best woman I can ever ask for.
What should I do, should we both get cars and let other stuffs take it course?
Best woman you can ever ask for... Bro u already answer your question. Let her buy the car, after 6 to 7 months u too u can buy yours. This will make her to love u the more.You are a man here u can find ur way.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:30pm On Feb 02
kunleweb:





Are you sure you're a man or a boy in a man's body. Since you have your answers, kindly explain why you created the thread



Continue running your marriage with your one man army mindset.


Smh.
Look, I want to know from the experience of older couple on here how to manage such situation.
It is her money, and I have mine but as the head of the family I don't want to hurt her knowing she does alot too.
Thanks alot though

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by kunleweb: 8:34pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:

Look, I want to know from the experience of older couple on here how to manage such situation.
It is her money, and I have mine but as the head of the family I don't want to hurt her knowing she does alot too.
Thanks alot though


Why create a thread nah. Do what's on your mind

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:37pm On Feb 02
deewhydoski:

Best woman you can ever ask for... Bro u already answer your question. Let her buy the car, after 6 to 7 months u too u can buy yours. This will make her to love u the more.You are a man here u can find ur way.
Hmm, thanks alot....i will take your advice and let only her get for now.
My reasons are numerous, aside the economy Families will believe we have the money stocked up somewhere . We both take care of numerous responsibilities in our extended homes

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Headlesschicken(m): 8:37pm On Feb 02
undecided Finally a sensible marriage post, let her have it since she's worth no go let over sense cause u problems,things would surely work out for good... Keep believing....

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:45pm On Feb 02
Headlesschicken:
undecided Finally a sensible marriage post, let her have it since she's worth no go let over sense cause u problems,things would surely work out for good... Keep believing....

Thanks alot, I believe you know how these extended families behave ..
I will let her have hers but I also desperately need one.
There is this feelings that come with my job when a client sees you dropping from a bike or Uber. A job they should offer you for 1m,they will look down on you and negotiate you for 400k.
Aside the economy side of it, Families will believe we are so much in money and the responsibilities will increase

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Shallypop(f): 8:49pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:

Look, I want to know from the experience of older couple on here how to manage such situation.
It is her money, and I have mine but as the head of the family I don't want to hurt her knowing she does alot too.
Thanks alot though
Head of family ko, tail of family ni. See ego.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Standardkid240: 8:52pm On Feb 02
To me you're not being fair here, you sound more like an igbo man.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by tyup(m): 8:54pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:


Hmmmm, so I should encourage us getting 2 cars within the next 3months looking at Nigeria's economy and the need to have multiple source of income?.
Waoooh, thanks for the advice!!!






shuu......sheyb it's her money she wan2 use to get herself a car leave her alone na abi what's ur own?

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:57pm On Feb 02
Shallypop:
Head of family ko, tail of family ni. See ego.
Don't get me wrong madam, I only feel from past experience that a right or wrong decision will always bounce on me.
Not Ego!!

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 8:58pm On Feb 02
Standardkid240:
To me you're not being fair here, you sound more like an igbo man.
I am actually Yoruba.. Thanks alot

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Standardkid240: 9:01pm On Feb 02
Opeyemiebun:

I am actually Yoruba.. Thanks alot
and you're behaving like this?

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by AfroKnight: 9:04pm On Feb 02
Shugavee:
Mtchewwwww u no get problem! Next

Honestly, I’m angry that I wasted my time reading the story.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Simieoni2: 9:08pm On Feb 02
Oga buy ur wife a car first just for d comfort of ur kids. Shebi uve been hustling before without a car na.. and besides u reside in lagos too much trafic, we wey get car sef dey park for house jump danfo or enta bike

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Designerdollars: 9:10pm On Feb 02
you are going to make a very bad wife undecided
I pity the unfortunate fool wey go marry you sad
makydebbie:
It's her money and she's the one going through the stress yet you don't want her to get a car? When she's not even asking you for money.

I'm shocked sef, because she's not asking you for money.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by proclinician: 9:11pm On Feb 02
Shugavee:
Mtchewwwww u no get problem! Next

U
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 9:13pm On Feb 02
Simieoni2:
Oga buy ur wife a car first just for d comfort of ur kids. Shebi uve been hustling before without a car na.. and besides u reside in lagos too much trafic, we wey get car sef dey park for house jump danfo or enta bike
Thanks alot bro

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Derring: 9:18pm On Feb 02
Chief if you want ur marriage to go on, get the car for her for the comfort of your child too. As a man you can hustle up with the traffic jams whatever.
Save Ur marriage

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by StandUpGuy247: 9:34pm On Feb 02
Baba please let her have the car.

From your writeup she deserves it.

How you go feel if you come dey hear sey one broda for area dey give her lift? Meanwhile, her husband can afford it o.

Please make her happy cos she don try.

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by osato45: 9:48pm On Feb 02
Let her transfer to your state since it is a federal job that way you can share a car for some time

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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Lamanii22(f): 9:54pm On Feb 02
Just let her get the car... Money for business is different... Investments shouldn't interfere with your comfort...

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