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ikuoma4rea: Our marriage is almost 2 yrs and we both have a daughter.what annoyed me the last time was me raising my hands on her d very first time and she responded and ℓ̊ almost killed her that day then she stopped talking to me and cooking for me anytime ℓ̊ returened from work.ℓ̊ askd her why she did that by hitting me and her response is that she wil do same if ℓ̊ ever hit her again.ℓ̊ have never been myself since that day usually have problems with me going out and smtimes feels am dating other girls.my hearts bleeds since this whole thing happened btw us.am tired and don't know what to do next.l have apologised to her and she said when she is ready she wil let me know.

Even if she provoked you, you should have tried to restrain yourself. I do agree that women can provoke with their tongue sha.

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Sorry, does this mean that non Yoruba's are not safe in Lagos / SW?

kelz88:
Sick sick sick!! Poor child.

Why? They didn't say she was sick.

Only joking, why did the dad not notice that she was pregnant? Could have saved himself some jail time.

But the bobo no bad sha. A lot of guys would trade their current girls for this chap.

LagBlogger:
I have always wondered what are people's reasons for not receiving stuff with their left hands or insisting that others hand them things with their right hands.

Aren't both hands created by God or is it an unwritten Nigerian Law that the left hand is taboo? Why not just cut it off instead then be left with only the right hand. What are your thoughts on this?

You normally use your left hand to wipe ya azz and other "nasty" stuff is the origin of this taboo.

Some peeps think they are good for "magic" African style. You can turn them into a private ATM machine. Africans can be dumb.

Kobojunkie:
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Probably trye, the USA and it's allies will try anything to undermine a country they don't like.

I have a blackberry curve on the Airtell Blackberry weekly service. I did not know about the bandwidth limits, so when the subscription ended after 3 days only I took the phone to an Airtell office to find out why. Anyway the girl explained it to me and opened the phone etc.

The problem is since then the BIS refuses to activate. I have wasted 7,000 trying to activate it. I took the phone back to the Airtell office and they say they don't know why the BIS refuses to activate. I have not used the BB for 3 weeks now. I don't know what to do. Do I toss Airtell and go with another provider? Any help will be very appreciated.

yamakuza:
he is not the only project this season.

I think we should work around N300k budget.

200k housing
100k business

people can donate clothes and furniture, while they send the child to school from their income.

The publicity from this will make the govt throw in free health/maternity care.

If the government finds out they will take the child first and make the guy shape up.

r231:
so where did you get your prices from

do you deal with properties, schools or hospital

and do you stay in Lagos

Answers:
1, I don't live under a bridge so I know how much flats go for. That figure is very very modest and for outside Lagos.
2. As Above
3. Yes.

jay bee:
^^^^
You are being overly unrealistic IMO
A headline figure s such will def get peeps uniterested hence the reason why i have been canvassing for agreement on things that needs doing and agreement in principle on how we go about it.

What guarantees you the man wouldn't start having the idea of having a second wife one he receives the dosh?
Dude needs to be empowered and that doesn't necessarily have to do with money.

What is worth doing is worth doing well. I originally though we would simply call the social service people who will shape the man up, but the posts here have convinced me we need to help and do it properly.

I am sure the others will agree with me. Anyway since the cost will be spread. It should not be too much on any one.

What needs to be done is this:
Accommodation  a minimum of a 2 bedroom flat with sufficient room for the wife to do business. This should cost only 400,000 naira (150,000 per year plus agreement and legal fee). They will need some furniture, nothing new just second hand stuff say 150,000 naira.

We need to get the man something to do. As he seems averse to work we can get him some money to start up a small trade say 300,000 to 350,00 naira for a small shop and stock. The wife can start something small in the space at the flat, just 100,000 naira will be ok.

The children need medical attention for the harsh exposure he has endured and needs to go to school, a modest school in those areas should be about 20,000 a term (one year payment just to get them up and going) that is 60,000.


The total we are looking at is :
400,000
150,000
350,000
100,000
 60,000
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=N=1,060,000

I feel we can raise this amount if we put our minds to it. What do you say guys?

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This is good news if they implement it. PHCN are so crooked that they may just deny this and collect and share the money.

Sad but we should all try and find out what the real story is before we condemn the mother.

Isn't it strange how there are so many virgin brides on this board? Now a 30 year old virgin? In Nigeria? Most of these threads are transplants from the romance section.

This is a false story. It is the kind of fantasy young inexperienced men and women have.

He wanted to make sure that she was "good" for which ever man would ask her hand in marriage.

This reminds me of the song "we are family"

As I understand it Rivers State already generates enough mega watts from the state turbines to give the state 24 hours light. If this is true, what is fantastic about what Lagos plans? Should they not be trying to match the Rivers example?

@OP

You seem to be a very critical person. Well it has been my experience that such people become that way out of a sense of inferiority. Which was it? You found it difficult to find a girl that would say yes? Or the other boys would not let you play? You should fix the underlying problem.

How do we know that the OP is not the culprit? Sometimes guilty conscience can do many things.

Thank you all for your advise.I have previously told my sister that she should leave him even if it is for a time, so he will understand how seriously she takes what he has been doing. Even his siblings are fed up with his activities. They are planning to take their own action.

I have been browsing this site for sometime but never had the courage to post till now.

I am staying here in Abuja with my sister and she is at her wits end. The problem? Her husband. Let me give you some background on them. My sister studied architecture, but has never really practiced, she was a house wife till she started her own business which is doing quite well and gives her both satisfaction and good returns. Her husband is a lawyer and has been in practice for a very long time and is what my friends call a big boy. They have four children the oldest a girl of 22 then a boy of 20. The youngest is 13.

Now the problem is my brother in law, he has an illness that is tearing my sister and the kids apart, no he does not beat her, I think it is worse. He is addicted to sex with women who do not consent. What he does is chase any young woman that catches his fancy, as usual with men he invites her out for a date first. He makes sure the place is chosen by him. When they get there he forcefully uses them anally. After he will start his usual strategy. First beg the girl and promise all sorts of goodies, if she will still date him (believe me some still do), if she says no then he becomes hostile and starts to threaten them with his connections. Sometimes this works sometimes not and then he does have to call in his connections who help him frustrate the cases. He spends most of his family’s money on this his sick behavior. The really surprising thing is he is only interested in educated women, at least I know of a lawyer, a doctor and a pharmacist.

What is killing my sister now is the latest incident, what happened was that they just got back from a trip abroad and found the father of a girl accompanied by some policemen screaming at the gate of their house about how my brother in law has “injured” his daughter. My brother in law was not around at the time so she had to deal with them. I arrived a few days later to find my sister crying in her room. When my brother in law finally came back he did not behave as if anything was wrong, apparently he had lured the girl to their house and attacked her in their sitting room. The “victim” was a school mate of my niece who both my niece and nephew know from school. My niece says she cannot go back to her school out of shame. My sister is tired of the whole thing, she thinks my brother in law is sick, but he says there is nothing wrong with him. She wants to leave him and not come back until he has gotten some help. I think she should just go as I don’t think he can be helped.

Please what do you think I should do to help her?