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What if prior to finding out you realise you are so in love with the person and are convinced you should marry him or her?

eph12:
Dated 21 guys and had several abortions? You better pray i don't find out o. Nonsense.

I assume this is to make sure your partner is in a good mood when you tell him?

falconey:

Yes you should but make sure its after sex.

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onomeglo:
Husband yes,boyfriend dem no born am well

The question if your spouse/partner is entitled to your social media account password may seem trivial but you’d be surprised at just how many couples fight over it. With the increase in liking pictures, screen grabbing, tagging, re-posting, man crush Monday (MCM), woman crush Wednesday (WCW) and the like, flirting has become easier and telling someone you like them has become even easier!

Social media has opened a new angle to flirting and dating that didn’t exist when we were growing up. Back then, you’d probably only know your man was cheating if a friend told you, or you picked his calls, or read his text messages or caught him/her in the act. Now there are a zillion ways to cheat.

A look at the private messages of some individuals on social media such as Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, etc shows various stages of intimacy with different people. Imagine stumbling upon such on your partner’s phone.

Should partners be responsible with their social media accounts by sharing the password with their significant other? Should each person guard their privacy by keeping their social media accounts private? Is a relationship entered into and sustained via social media a valid relationship?

We think anybody with a clean conscience will share their passwords, we also think that knowing your partner can read your messages anytime will help keep you in check, we think relationships on social media are valid because most times they involve emotions and emotional cheating is even worse than the physical act.

What do you think?

Are you in a long distance relationship? Are your instincts telling you something is off about your partner? This post is for you! Trust is undoubtedly one of the most important parts of a relationship especially when it comes to maintaining a long-distance relationship; it needs more emotional commitment and trust than a regular one.

If you’re not quite sure that things are 100% rosy in your long distance relationship, here are some signs to clear things up for you

#1. Frequent arguments

Every couple fights once in a while, but you can feel a difference when it is not just a normal one. Frequent arguments, especially on matters that never created problems between you before, should trigger an alert in your mind.

#2. Dramatic changes in communication

You may suddenly find your partner talking to you in an unusual manner. He or she need not be outright rude, but it is the indifference that is actually worse. If you find them making too many excuses about not finding time to talk to you, it is time you get a signal.

#3. One-sided effort

Right from the ‘Good morning’ message to that ‘Good night’ call, are you always the first one to make the first move? Your partner is online, but never makes the first attempt to ping or respond to your chat. Well, all these are clear signs of differences in priorities! It is best to talk to your partner about it, because there might be some other reason or a problem that could be troubling them. However, if she/he constantly avoids such discussions, then it may be a signal that your garden is no longer so rosy!

#4. Stopped sharing

If your partner stops sharing things with you, behaves secretive, or stops calling you with those adorable nicknames, then it is time to churn those rational wheels of your mind.

#5. The good friend talk!

If you suddenly find your partner sounding more like ‘just a good friend’ while talking to you, expect something wrong. The journey from good friends to lovers is great, but the journey backwards is miserable.

#6. No more future talks

Another thing that should alert you is a sudden stop to those loveable future talks that you used to have with your partner. If your partner has begun to avoid such talks with you, then may be he or she is no more interested to have a future with you.

#7. More an obligation than wish

This is one question you should ask yourself. Is there a ‘have to’ or ‘should’ that comes in your mind every time you make a call to your partner? There are times when you might not realise, but your actions can move you away from your partner. Talking to the person, we love, can never be like a chore or a part of your daily ‘to-do-list’. When your wish to hear his/her voice becomes an obligation, you better understand that your paradise is in deep trouble!

source – bollywoodshaadis

Are you in a long distance relationship? Are your instincts telling you something is off about your partner? This post is for you! Trust is undoubtedly one of the most important parts of a relationship especially when it comes to maintaining a long-distance relationship; it needs more emotional commitment and trust than a regular one.

If you’re not quite sure that things are 100% rosy in your long distance relationship, here are some signs to clear things up for you

#1. Frequent arguments

Every couple fights once in a while, but you can feel a difference when it is not just a normal one. Frequent arguments, especially on matters that never created problems between you before, should trigger an alert in your mind.

#2. Dramatic changes in communication

You may suddenly find your partner talking to you in an unusual manner. He or she need not be outright rude, but it is the indifference that is actually worse. If you find them making too many excuses about not finding time to talk to you, it is time you get a signal.

#3. One-sided effort

Right from the ‘Good morning’ message to that ‘Good night’ call, are you always the first one to make the first move? Your partner is online, but never makes the first attempt to ping or respond to your chat. Well, all these are clear signs of differences in priorities! It is best to talk to your partner about it, because there might be some other reason or a problem that could be troubling them. However, if she/he constantly avoids such discussions, then it may be a signal that your garden is no longer so rosy!

#4. Stopped sharing

If your partner stops sharing things with you, behaves secretive, or stops calling you with those adorable nicknames, then it is time to churn those rational wheels of your mind.

#5. The good friend talk!

If you suddenly find your partner sounding more like ‘just a good friend’ while talking to you, expect something wrong. The journey from good friends to lovers is great, but the journey backwards is miserable.

#6. No more future talks

Another thing that should alert you is a sudden stop to those loveable future talks that you used to have with your partner. If your partner has begun to avoid such talks with you, then may be he or she is no more interested to have a future with you.

#7. More an obligation than wish

This is one question you should ask yourself. Is there a ‘have to’ or ‘should’ that comes in your mind every time you make a call to your partner? There are times when you might not realise, but your actions can move you away from your partner. Talking to the person, we love, can never be like a chore or a part of your daily ‘to-do-list’. When your wish to hear his/her voice becomes an obligation, you better understand that your paradise is in deep trouble!

source – bollywoodshaadis

Should you tell your man about your ex? Relationships are supposed to be based on the truth right? You’re not supposed to have any secrets if you want a great relationship so once again – should you tell your man about your ex? Well, its your decision in the end, but we’ll share our opinion anyway

Truth is, there’s no simple answer to this question. Full disclosure and honesty are building blocks of a sound relationship, but what if you’ve dated 21 men in the past? What if you’ve had several abortions for them? What if you cheated on the last one? What if one of them beat and abused you? You may not want to invite the ghosts of your past into your new relationship. If you’re in this place, we completely understand.

In our opinion, if whatever secret you’re hiding will have no impact on your relationship or your partner then there may be no need to talk about it – why invite trouble for no reason?

However, if your past is having (or may have) an impact on your partner or your relationship, you should definitely tell your partner. For example, if you’re having infertility issues, you may want to disclose to your doctor and partner your medical history including all abortions and/or miscarriages.

Of course not all situations are as definite as this. For example, if you made a mistake and cheated telling your former partner, telling your current partner could cause one of these two scenarios – you may raise trust issues in your present relationship with your man constantly wondering if you’re cheating again or you could be helping your man help you by keeping you accountable and helping you cut off situations that may lead you to cheat.

Like we said, disclosure in relationships is not an exact science. Have you ever told your partner a secret from your past that ruined your relationship?