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Stephen0mozzy:
Go with Option B. Option A only has the option of being useful for just the time being, and eventually you may leave but with nothing in terms of professional/skills development.

Option B - People are not just all bad as others will paint them out to be. I'd go with this other guy where you can learn, and please put your head down to learn! If he's paying you while you learn, don't do any side job with the skills. If you get any big deal client, introduce him to the man - you'll massage his ego, showing loyalty. Your goal is to be technically proficient - but don't be ungrateful, if you approached him directly sef, you for pay enrolment fee running into 100k+

He's a braggart and all that, then know how to play his game. Don't think about trying to be too smart where he is - read a summary of the 48laws of power.


Lastly, you're already an adult. Start taking decisions yourself..... Get suggestions, but don't go with popular opinion - only pick the pros of all arguments and use it to tweak your strategies.

No risk, no reward

I concur, my mind is set on option B because it's a high value skill

I have two job opportunities and I'm a bit confused on the one to go for.
I'm part of a club of all stars footballers, that is mature men that love playing football, while I'm 32 I'm still by the far the youngest amongst them and also not financially in their bracket. It's more like a privilege being in their midst. Due to how I carry myself I was elected as secretary of the club. Now here's the dilemma.

The chairman and patron of the club noticed that I've been struggling financially, the chairman helps me to pay some of the dues. While I have a 50k job that I do remotely we all know how the economy is right now so they've been making efforts to fix me up somewhere.

Option 1: They approached the richest man in the club though he's not really active, the man owns many businesses and hotels in town, he asked them to give him time to think over it. I met him yesterday and he said he wants to hand off the bar in his hotel to me because it's being mismanaged by the girls there, more like the workers in the bar would be under me. But he's still trying to arrange for an room for me there so I can be sleeping there then go home in the morning. Another option is to audit his other business which I can be doing from a separate office, while the 3rd option is about another place that he's yet to open because it's still under construction so I would probably manage it after completion, I don't know the details of that one. He asked me to give him a week so he will decide on the best option that would suit the both of us.

Option 2: Another well to do member was also contacted though he's much younger probably mid to late 40s. He's into solar installation and a well connected man. He's offering to pay me to work for him while I also learn the trade. He's also aware that I'm talking to the first man. When he was contacted he first asked how much the first man was offering to pay me, we told him that we haven't reached an agreement yet.

Now the issue is that the chairman prefers option A because the man is an elder and an already established man that won't give me issues. The second man is widely known to be arrogant and a bragat, if I run any side hustle and get some money he will likely accuse me of stealing or if I establish something else he will go around telling people that I stole his money to establish my business. Dealing with him is difficult and he would tarnish my image if anything goes wrong.

On the other hand, the patron thinks that option B is better because I will pick up a valuable skill while getting paid. Also the second man is younger and a hustler so I will learn a lot of things from him.

While I would prefer option B, I a bit skeptical about dealing with the man because I wouldn't want anything that will ruin the reputation that I'm building up, I'm 32 years and time is going fast so please I need your opinions on the matter.

I have two job opportunities and I'm a bit confused on the one to go for.
I'm part of a club of all stars footballers, that is mature men that love playing football, while I'm 32 I'm still by the far the youngest amongst them and also not financially in their bracket. It's more like a privilege being in their midst. Due to how I carry myself I was elected as secretary of the club. Now here's the dilemma.

The chairman and patron of the club noticed that I've been struggling financially, the chairman helps me to pay some of the dues. While I have a 50k job that I do remotely we all know how the economy is right now so they've been making efforts to fix me up somewhere.

Option 1: They approached the richest man in the club though he's not really active, the man owns many businesses and hotels in town, he asked them to give him time to think over it. I met him yesterday and he said he wants to hand off the bar in his hotel to me because it's being mismanaged by the girls there, more like the workers in the bar would be under me. But he's still trying to arrange for an room for me there so I can be sleeping there then go home in the morning. Another option is to audit his other business which I can be doing from a separate office, while the 3rd option is about another place that he's yet to open because it's still under construction so I would probably manage it after completion, I don't know the details of that one. He asked me to give him a week so he will decide on the best option that would suit the both of us.

Option 2: Another well to do member was also contacted though he's much younger probably mid to late 40s. He's into solar installation and a well connected man. He's offering to pay me to work for him while I also learn the trade. He's also aware that I'm talking to the first man. When he was contacted he first asked how much the first man was offering to pay me, we told him that we haven't reached an agreement yet.

Now the issue is that the chairman prefers option A because the man is an elder and an already established man that won't give me issues. The second man is widely known to be arrogant and a bragat, if I run any side hustle and get some money he will likely accuse me of stealing or if I establish something else he will go around telling people that I stole his money to establish my business. Dealing with him is difficult and he would tarnish my image if anything goes wrong.

On the other hand, the patron thinks that option B is better because I will pick up a valuable skill while getting paid. Also the second man is younger and a hustler so I will learn a lot of things from him.

While I would prefer option B, I a bit skeptical about dealing with the man because I wouldn't want anything that will ruin the reputation that I'm building up, I'm 32 years and time is going fast so please I need your opinions on the matter.

brain54:
If it's confirmed it's your pregnancy...

Then I think it's not right to abandon her. You ought to be responsible for your actions. I can never advise anyone to abandon a woman carrying his baby. Even though I am sure you aren't ready to keep it.

To think she made that statement about pinning the pregnancy on any guy she sleeps with is quite chilling. It says a lot about the kind of person she is.

Who knows if she is trying to pin the pregnancy on you?

I would say it's likely to be mine though I'm not certain, I feel a bit guilty because we've been together for 3 years but then her utterances and actions leaves much to be desired.

Good morning romancelanders, I would love you guys to help me judge a complicated situation. My girlfriend visited me early this year, we had unprotected sex but before she left I personally bought contraceptives for her to take whenever she gets home. She travelled back to abj where she's serving and we kept communicating.

Fast forward to three weeks later, she complained to me that she missed her period, she opened up that she forgot to take the pills as at when due which led to the pregnancy. I was mad at her but the deed was already done. I told her that it was her mistake and she would have to fix it because I obviously don't a child now, she also agreed to terminate the pregnancy.

An incident occured while we were making arrangements for the abortion that led to a serious issue. We had a minor misunderstanding and didn't speak for a day, she called the second day around past eleven at night sounding a bit tensed, before I could ask her what the issue was, I heard a guy's voice asking her who she was talking to, she ended the call immediately. I called her back twice without response. When she picked up later she denied that she wasn't with a guy bla bla, I simply told her to stay away from me till she's ready to tell me the truth.

She sent me a message after 4 days about missing me and all, I asked her if she was ready to come clean about what happened that night, she still denied everything even contradicting herself in some parts. I insisted that she was lying while maintaining my stand that she must come clean before we settle any issue. She then asked me about the pregnancy because it was beginning to get obvious, I informed her that I'm not sure that the pregnancy is mine because she's obviously seeing other guys so she should do with it whatever she deems fit. She proceeded to insult me calling me stupid and all. I asked her if she thought insults could solve anything, madam told me that I should know that she can easily sleep with any guy she fancies and pin the pregnancy on him so I shouldn't think that leaving her would make her stranded. I wished her goodluck and she went into another barrage of insults, I just blocked her everywhere and deleted all her contacts.

My friend asked me about her last night and I told him what happened and he said I shouldn't have blocked her, he insisted that I should have taken care of the pregnancy first before cutting ties with her. I would love to get other opinions on the matter.

I'm sorry for the long post, please ignore any typos, I typed on the go and yes all insults are welcome.

I have been on this job for a while now, and while I have tried my best to live within my means, I somehow always end up in debt. The past few months have been worse; the prices of everything have tripled, and I am struggling to cope. I was paid on the 29th, and after clearing a backlog of bills, I am left with almost nothing, and I haven't even gotten food yet.

I've been working for two years with nothing to show for it. I can only boast of dilapidated foam in a rather empty room; I haven't bought anything new for myself in ages, and at the age of 32, it gives me serious cause for concern. I only have 2k on me to guide for the month, and I don't know what to do to improve my financial situation. I am always tensed, with my heart beating fast all the time. I would appreciate any suggestions and ideas on how I can break free from this york of poverty.

Danurugwo:
You people that don't reply email..... After writing articles for you , you then ghost someone and use that article without paying


If I mistakenly get hold of that website... Then forget it, it is gone I promise

Something here, you write and they ghost you.

blackpanthar:
first, I want to commend you for NO GIVING UP and for believing you can still make it.

NEXT, I would like to ask... ARE YOU SPIRITUAL? or PRAYERFUL? have you made spiritual enquiries into your matter?

BECAUSE... you have skill, you have hand work, you have served... BUT NOTHING WORKS FOR YOU. EVERYTHING IS HARD OR ENDS IN DISSAPOINTMENT.

This is not normal, it may be generational and you don't know.

pls find a seer or someone spiritual to LOOK INTO IT.

next...............

GET A MENTOR... someone needs to HOLD YOUR HAND AND SHOW YOU THE WAY AND STAY WITH YOU TILL YOU MAKE IT. but first, clear yourself spiritually... because these may be the reasons for the strange dreams you have had and forgetting to even dream and the unstableness even in your relationships. let me not say much.

Pls consider all I have said o
I wish you well.

Thanks for your contribution but my problem is not spiritual, I'm just a victim of circumstance, all I need is an opportunity or a piece of information to change my life, which is why I brought my case here, even 200k would make a great difference not a seer. Thanks once more.

being:
Trust God
Pay tithes as income comes in.
MAKE SURE you find a way of learning programming or graphics design or UIUX-- I mean u did CSC.. Find someone to give u old but working laptop. If it so bad u can't get around u, I'm sure if u beg for an old working laptop here on nairaland, someone will give u.
U also did Stats, u should be able to teach maths. Do home lessons to keep body and soul together while u learn a tech skill.

I really appreciate your input, a functioning laptop would go a long way because I have a bit of time on my hands now but I don't really know who to ask.

Ance4Liverpool:
Go and learn a hand work there are some hands work you will learn withing the space of 1 or 2 years do it fast bcs i was once confused like u to the extent of regreting why i went to the university.

Nice idea but there things involved, one they don't teach for free, two I have to feed and TP during the leading stage so it requires investment one way or the other.

I've been broke for the greater part of my over 3 decades of existence on earth and its not for lack of trying. After serving my Oga for years without settlement, I tried out many businesses that failed due to lack for sufficient capital. As I aged swiftly, I decided to foray into education and managed to see myself through university since everything that I tried then didn't work out.

I finally managed to graduate at 30 with a statistics/computer science second class lower degree. It's been almost two years after graduation but I've been stagnant till now. No jobs have been forthcoming because I've been unable to collect my statement of result and exemption letter due to my inability to do my clearance because of paucity of funds.

I've been doing a remote job of posting on a website for 40k, I practically live from hand to mouth because the money barely lasts a week. I've dabbled into programming but fell off along the line due to a bad laptop without battery and inability to afford data. I used to write before the introduction of AI made getting jobs difficult. I design websites too with WordPress but gigs are scarce and far in-between. All attempts at freelancing with upwork and other freelancing platforms have proved abortive due to my inability to get clients, I ultimately had to abandon them after exhausting my free connects.

I'm aging rapidly and I am confused on what next to do at this point. I have some business ideas but getting capital has been a herculean task for me. I barely sleep every day as I keep thinking of ways to improve my condition. For a man of my age I still live in an apartment only befitting of an IDP, with only a slacked mattress to my name. Paying for the rent has been a constant struggle.

After exhausting all options on my table, I've decided to run to the intelligent folks here to please come to my aid, I need advice and ideas on how I can navigate through this troubled times. Please what advice can you give me?