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Je vais le faire, en priant pour trouver la solution et le bonheur de tous , gacias

@wiselet,if my decition was taking,what is the reason of me comming here and asking an advicei am trying t check both of posible solutions,as i said before im not gettin marry to him,because of her,i dont want no ones pain.cuz i beleave what comes around goes around,still he insist,and he said that i will talk to her myself and see she will be fine with his desicion!!!i wonder how people talk without knowing me,or him,or her!not everyone is the same!!!and u only judge people thru your own thoughts!!!!u can not tell for me if i dicited already or not!!!!!

yes u should,she is single also u are!!!still ur friend wuld have been happy,because with u her and her kida are in good hands, if u guys like ich other, there is nothing bad in it!u both single right now!

@manutayo Merci beaucoup, c'est vrai ce que vous dites, mais il est très difficile ,

@lastpage thank u very much,very interesting post!i thank everyone for their opinions, another thing is my own problem is more feelings of that woman,more than religious.i am christian,but i thing there is one God for everyone,so if muslim God accept it,why christian God will not forgive for that, .i dont think is a sin if everyone is happy with situation and there is no pain caused to any one!!!!only that i personally think this kind of thing herts any woman,

Miss_If thank u!!!and i pray it will be all good!!!!God bless u!

Miss_Ife yes u are right,i am leaving him, i have been thinking a lot,ad its not getting any easer with time,abd i know im going to be in pain,but i cause it to myself, so now i got to face it!thank u very much for ur words are very helpful!and also ppl are telling me love use to go with time,but this difficuld situation will always be there,so even its hard now,i know in future ill be hapy took this desition!!!!

hahhah,i am not he, LOL, and i got no problem of getting a man,trust me!i am very beautiful girl,but as i said i am in love with this man,it is easy to say look for single one,but hard to leave the one is with u!!!however,as i said before i have taking my desition.i dont want no one tears be the price of my happines,,,i thank ppl who advice me from their heart,and i dont care of the ones how make fun of this while i was asking for help!

Miss_Ife thank u for the advice!about wite chics,no one knows from the star(i knew) and Nigerian guys for to get the documents lie to thouse girl,with time truth came out, i know different stories like this,one polish girl here,got gave him a baby girl,and after like 3 years of marrige found out he was married in africa, any ways its now my case!and i know what is right!!!cuz its truth what goes around back around,and i dont pray to do thru that, what was confusing me is him saying she will be ok with that, i tough the culture acept it!!!

Were you lying a few posts before this when you said his wife in Nigeria was alright with it? And now you are telling us that the wife in Nigeria knows nothing about it? What is really your story.

i said that,he is telling me now to start this family,and that he will talk to his wife and she will understand!u should read better!!!!!and i told him to wait,cuz i need time to think!!!!

of course i wouldnt,in fact it is very painful, i know that for now i wasnt hurting her!she lives far away from here,and knows nothing about it!but to start new family would hurt her very much, any way, i think i know what to do now!

nothing much, to be honest,i have seeng what i wanted,ive seeng the reaction,and many things got more clear for me!!!thanks to everyone!i hope i will find a right solution to this!

i know a lot of things about him,his state,all about his family, he also want me to go there for a visit,i am the one who dont want to go, because as i said i have not made up my mind yet!!!that is one of the reasons im here asking nigerian ppl opinion!!!and as his bissnes is going good,i dont think he will move back to africa for ever, and if one day i decide to marry him,and he will have to go,i will go to nigeria too,and i dont think there will be need to stay all at the same house!!!

mature person cant ever cofuse love and se.x, thouse are very different 2 things!

yes i have seen his paper,we have made a trip together few month ago too,as i said he has bissnes here,so he have no problem with documents!!!and i wonder how u say he cant get married here in france,i know 2 friends of his,that are married here for papers with french girls,and they got wives in africa,nobody stoped them, and as i said the only reason we didnt start the family yet,is my own mind, i cant make it,for now,

Missy ★ B at from the start i didnt take it as something serious,and as i said we stay always together,so now the situation changes and i cant imagine been without him,its bee almost 2 years of our dating!i know i should have think from the start,but now its to late,

i repeat once again,his papers are totally ok, and i am sure of his good mind,because its been a long time that we are dating,and he is helping me at every posible way,i know he loves me too,that is the reason he want as to get married,also i am a beautiful girl,and i have been with a french guy before,but its not the same,he is living here for many years and has his buissnes here,he goes to his country only once ,some times 2 times a year!so i know if we have family he will be by my site most of times!!!!the only pain i have is the other woman!!!i just dont want to cause pain to ani one!i was always judging ppl who goes with another womans husband,but as u can see,now im one of themmm

ifyalways,maybe u are right, idk, i know the best is to be with single man,but how can i stop my heart from loving, ?anyways, i apriciate your advice!thank u

how is it sillythe only thing i want is to be with the man i ove,but i also want to be sure it will not hurt any one!if in nigeria is allowed (polygamy),that means is not a big deal, or it is?i just dont know,,because french and senegal culture is totally different!

am 27 years old,and i am mixed,my father was from sinegal,but i am christian, i am a student,so no many invoved there,infact he is the one whos helping me out with money situation, i was just writing hre,because my french friends do not understan me.so i just wanted to hear a nigerian ppl mind,

Why on earth would you want to do that to yourself?

because i love him,

his papers are done,many ears ago, and finantial situation is ok for both families,he is christian,and yes polygamy is not ligal here in France,but it is in nigeria,or am i wrong?

Well here is my story,when I first meet my man I knew he had family in Nigeria,but I also knew he is not going there oftenly,so I thought it is not going to be a problem!but now with time,things are getting complicated,he say he want to have family with me,and he wants to tolk to his wife,that she will understan,so we can make our family too,I am very confuse,because I do love him,but I don't want to hurt no ones feelings!!!!I know he can have 2wives but is it correct from me to accept it