Going back to school can be difficult and nerve wracking for young introverts, especially if it's a new school.

Extroverts are usually praised for their willingness to butt in and control a conversation. They are often identified as leaders because they are always willing when called upon to complete a task. This makes the more confident within the classroom because we live in an extrovert-dominant world where active engagement is seen as being a team player.

On the other hand, the introverts, the quiet ones lost in thought, tend to go unnoticed. They are labelled -shy, despite the fact that many introverts don't actually see themselves as being "shy", the quiet ones are sometimes left to be, quiet. Often times, they are required to be who they are not...someone more like that student who always raises his hand even when he doesn't know the answer to the question.

I have been there myself, and I know that feeling of inadequacy. I was one of the quiet ones. I enjoyed my "alone time". I was thoughtful, studious and talkative in small groups but preferred self study to group projects. I never felt the need to answer every question simply because I knew the answer.

I am learning to find my way in an extroverted world, I honestly cannot say I am there yet. I learned the hard way, that quiet learning doesn't always fly in today's classrooms.

Being quiet isn't bad and being loud isn't good either. You need to find a balance and most importantly, be true to yourself. All students have unique personalities and all students should be encouraged to learn and grow in a way that leaves them feeling confident and happy. The talkers might be easier to engage and teach, but the quiet ones have so much to offer this world.

As you go back to school, consider these points to help you enjoy your time at school.

You need time to process information and consider your thoughts and feelings before sharing them with others. This may make you slow at responding, especially responding to negative comments. Consider this a compliment as it helps you avoid verbal conflicts. Thinking before you speak is a very good virtue. When you take time to think, you are more likely to use empathy and kindness in your words. Being the first to answer does not mean being the one with the best answer.


Learn to speak with confidence. Introverts don't feel the need to answer every question or attempt to talk above the noise. It's not about speaking every time or commanding every room, it's about making eye contact, using a clear and calm voice and standing up straight. You may not engage in every group discussion, but when you do, you tend to share valuable information. Always make a difference.


Introverts tend to be great listeners and good observers, they tend to absorb their surroundings and take the time to hear and consider what others are saying. While the quick talkers might seem like the obvious classroom leaders, the quiet ones thrive when given leadership roles. Great listeners make great leaders because they take the time to understand the needs of others. So remember to keep listening!


As an introverted student, you don't have to fade into the background. When you understand your personality and how you can thrive in the classroom setting, you are better able to communicate your needs to your parents and teachers. Take the time to understand your personality so that you can begin to find your way.

Have a great session ahead and always remember to shine!

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Are you in a relationship? Good relationships help you to grow as a person and find mutual happiness, but sometimes relationships can sour and negatively affect both partners.

Check out the 10 things you should never sacrifice in your relationship.

1. Your Happiness

Your partner should bring happiness and joy to your life, rather than dragging you down and making you feel sad. If your partner makes you feel down about yourself or your life, then you are no longer in a healthy relationship. Your partner won’t always be in a great mood, but if they are intentionally hurting you, you need to let them go. They need to work on themselves before they can have a healthy relationship.

2. Your Fun

Do you laugh with your partner and try new things together? While it is normal to have disagreements, your relationship should mostly be happy and fun. It is important to enjoy your life with your partner and your friends, and your partner should understand and respect that.

3. Your Freedom

In a healthy relationship, you should be able to go out and enjoy yourself without your partner getting annoyed or worried. Possessive behavior is normally an indicator of insecurity, and insecurity is their personal problem that you cannot fix. A healthy and stable relationship involves partners spending time together and time alone.

4. Your Inner Peace

It is important to retain your inner peace for your own happiness. If your partner makes you feel anxious, angry, or nervous, you may find yourself feeling depressed or withdrawn. If you are regularly fighting with your partner, it’s time to ask yourself why — is there an on-going issue in the relationship? Can you make each other happy? Can the problem be solved?

5. Your Experiences

Life is exciting. Throughout your life, you will have brilliant experiences that will make you wiser, happier, and more at peace with yourself. If your partner is unwilling to try new things, and holds you back from trying them, you may struggle to stay happy. An emotionally stable partner will encourage you to experience new things and to have fun.

6. Your Personality

Your personality is who you are, and the right person will love your personality above all. In a happy relationship, neither partner would want to change each other’s personalities because they love each other for who they are.

Of course, compromise is normal and healthy, but don’t be with someone who tries to change your personality – it could mean they don’t love you for you.

7. Your Other Relationships

At the beginning of a relationship, many people go through a honeymoon period — a time of excitement, infatuation, and a desire to be around each other all the time. However, if you’ve been together for a few months and you still rarely see your friends or family, this could indicate possessive behavior. It is important to have lots of healthy relationships in your life, and being too dependent on your partner is often unhealthy.

8. Your Feelings

A big part of a healthy relationship is respect: both partners should truly listen to each other and try to understand their partner’s feelings and opinions without judgement. If you feel like your partner doesn’t consider your feelings, ask yourself these questions: do I consider my partner’s feelings? Why don’t they consider mine? Can we change this?

9. Your Dreams

A good relationship is a partnership — both people support each other every step of the way. It is normal to have different dreams, but you should still be cheering each other along. Love is wanting someone to experience joy and happiness. What you want out of life is often a big part of who you are, and it is important that your relationship supports your dreams.

10. Your Beliefs

Your beliefs are important to you, and no one in your life should try to change your religion or beliefs. While your partner doesn’t have to believe in the same things as you, they should respect your values.


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In this article I’ll cover the most common negative side effects of porn addiction, and then I’ll outline a series of techniques you can use right now to stop watching porn and escape these negative consequences ( applicable to both male and female).

For those addicted to porn, arousal actually declined with the same mate, while those who regularly found different mates were able to continual their arousal. It’s known as the novelty-seeking behavior. Porn, after all, trains the viewer to expect constant newness.
One in five people who regularly watch porn admitted to feeling controlled by their own sexual desires.
The truth is that many guys are ashamed that they watch porn. They know it’s a bad habit, and that other people look down upon it, and so they do it in secrecy. And this eats away at their self-esteem and makes them feel insecure, and unworthy about themselves.

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Some much talks have made recently on this forum following the rape case in Unilag. Recently Dr Dre just released an album in which Eminem was featured. His lyrics seem to be encourage rape and some many celebrities have criticized him.

It is a shame that people seem to trivialize the plight of rape victims.
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It is not news that teenagers are now addicted to porn. The Solution is not beating, neither is it turning a blind eye. Because you did same things as teenagers does not mean then same habit should be ignored. We have the responsibly as parents, guardians, siblings and relatives to raise our kids/wards in the best manner not withstanding our past mistakes.

Please check this link for practical ways to break this bad habit. It actually works!

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Friends and family of Bobbi Kristina Brown said farewell to the singer as she was laid to rest in a private funeral on August 1. The 22-year-old daughter of Bobby Brown and the late Whitney Houston sadly pass last Sunday in a hospice, 6 months after she was found unresponsive in a bathtub at home.

While nothing tangible has been said about her life, except that she is the daughter of Bobby Brown and the late Whitney Houston, she reported announced on twitter that she was ready to kick start her music career a day before the unfortunate incidence happened.

Here are some lessons we can learn from her life and times:

Never put on hold what you can do today: I personally believe in “eating that frog”, start the most difficult tasks first, that is probably why I eat my meat last. You have what it takes to fulfill your dreams this instant. The time is never right, the time is never perfect. Only God holds tomorrow, and you are held accountable for your today!
The Spotlight is not the Limelight: The spotlight is just temporary ( directed just at you), while the limelight (focus of public attention) lasts throughout your success. Throughout her teenage and adult years, Brown was the focus of tabloid and gossips, including stories about her purported drug use, her weight loss, and her relationships with family members. fame does not necessarily mean success. You don’t want to be famous for the wrong reasons!

Money don’t buy happiness: She was reportedly found faced down in a bathtub, resembling a suicide ( although there are speculations in some quarters that she was murdered). Brown was deemed to have inherited millions of dollars form her late mother. She lack nothing but she lacked everything. Her life was a paradox. She lacked self esteem, which was evident in relationship with boyfriend; there were several reports of physical and verbal abuse.

Iron sharpeneth iron: Show me you friend I will tell you who you are! the kind of company you keep determines how far you go in life. A Yoruba proverb ( translated in English) satisfies this best, ” A dog that walks with goats will eat dung!”
Parental Guidance: This cannot be over emphasized, a child with absent parents or guardians rarely do well. A parent should live by example, this was obviously not true in her case since she died in the similar circumstances as her mom!

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