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chioma134:
This post was triggered by an earlier post I saw where the poster was having long talks with his friend's wife. I've been in a similar situation. I changed location and had to be separate from my family due to work. I was lonely and needed a friend. I talk with my husband regularly, but his interests are not my interests, so I find that besides household and family matters, we have little else to talk about. I found myself talking to this guy I met when I went for an official assignment. We started as friends, but we became attracted to each other. So when I travelled back to base, we started these long conversations. We're both born-again Christians and both married, so we kept to certain boundaries. I enjoyed conversing with him more than with my spouse. I became consumed with thoughts of him. He also expressed his desire and attraction towards me, but we laughed over it as jokes.

My husband noticed the conversations when I travelled home and became suspicious. He forbade me from speaking with him. He had never seen me have long talks with any friend, talkless of a male one. I informed my friend and he said no problem, he would wait till I travelled back to work base before he would continue. He later travelled to meet his family and conversation became scanty. I realized how much I was addicted to him when I couldn't talk to him as much as I wanted. He returned to base and we continued like before.

I started praying for God to help me overcome these desires. Maybe he also felt the same, because for some reasons I don't know, he reduced the frequency of calls and chats drastically. I didn't try to find out why, just thought the time-off would help me clear out immoral thoughts. But I got hurt when he acted indifferent on one occasion when I felt he should have shown more care. I asked him about it and he pretended not to understand what I was talking about. I read the writing on the wall, and decided to play along. So I said "bye. It was nice meeting you." Part of me was grateful it ended, another part was wishing I could still be with him. I love my husband and children, I cannot come and scatter my home.

He thought I was joking. I was no longer responding to his chats, and when I did, only with monosyllables. He became hurt and accused me of going silent on him. I told him he started it. He wanted me to become defensive, but the Holy Spirit whispered "keep quiet ". So I allowed him rant without saying anything. I thank God I didn't, because I would have exposed how deep my true feelings for him were.

Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine". My feelings have healed and I thank God we didn't continue because I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from an affair if we had eventually had any physical contact. I can categorically say I'm no longer in love with him.

I penned these down for those struggling with similar situations. Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings.

I just dey look you dey laugh. It won't be long till you fu*k him. This is someone you once nutured the idea of sleeping with, now you only chat once in a while with him

Aunty, cut off the relationship totally and block each other's number, else one thing will lead to the other and you will have his corck in your mouth.

good

Lol

This is where jungle justice is needed. Lynch the motherfuck*ing herder

Lol

Blame Buhari. There is hunger in the land...

But on a serious note, I believe the groom chose a stranger as his best man 'cos there is no way your best friend can do such.

Yes na

Lol

Olagbarao

Get a letter or something from your school with the school stamp or crest or something. This is enough proof that you are a graduate.

house10s2:
how is the country a joke, plz tell us and which country is funnier right now Ukraine or Nigeria

The jester made it a joke by allowing NATO come between them and Russia.

If only the rest of leaders in the East can be as serious as this man....if only.

Comedians going into politics....Reminds me of Ukraine president. A comedian who became a president, and we can just see how he turned his country into a joke. "Never take a jester serious" says an old adage

Request for the redesignation of my appointment as an administrative staff

This is the correct one

Weyrey man

Chai

I am tired of reading news on Russia and Ukriane...Like the Nigerian Cyberspace should stop pushing it to my face. We have a lot going on with us down here than to start worrying about Putin and Zelensky abi wetin be him name. Fvck them all!

So I read a topic here yesterday about a Nairalander's younger brother sleeping with a married woman and it prompted me to share this.

My friend's younger cousin who lives with him is sleeping with a married woman on their street. Just like the thread of yesterday, this one too has her husband abroad. The young man is 26 and the lady should be between 33 and 35. A beautiful Igbo lady. I mean a very attractive woman even after a child. Her son should be around 5 or thereabout.

My friend told me about it when I visited him two weeks ago, I confronted his cousin and he didnt deny it. He is not in love but just catching his cruise and enjoying the woman's money and body. He even crashed her Lexus SUV after both partied out and got drunk. He goes into her house to take her car and drive around. People in the neighourhood might not know because it is a very quite estate where you hardly see people around.

He doesnt look like he will stop anytime soon. He is a graduate and has stopped searching for work. They are all over each other. She buys him anything and gives him money

Somehow, sincerely, I couldnt really tell him to stop cos of the benefits. I did but really didnt hammer on it. The boy seems to be enjoying his best life.

What do you think can be done?

Ok