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The Hardest Part of Trying to Conceive Isn’t the Waiting But Watching the Person You Love Carry Most of the Pain Alone. Trying for a baby changes a marriage in ways nobody prepares you for. Every month begins with hope. Every month ends with questions. Sometimes those questions are answered with joy. Many times, they’re answered with silence. Most people think trying to conceive is simply about timing, ovulation, and doctor’s appointments. But ask couples who have lived through months or even years of trying, and they will tell you something different. The hardest part is obviously not always the waiting but watching the person you love carry a burden you don’t know how to help with. Nobody Ever Teaches Husbands What To Do When fertility is discussed, almost every conversation revolves around the woman. Her hormones. Her cycle. Her appointments. Her body. And that’s understandable because she carries an enormous physical and emotional burden. But another side of the story that almost nobody talks about. Many husbands desperately want to help. They simply don’t know what helping actually looks like. Nobody sits a man down and says, “This what she will probably be feeling.” “This what she will need from you this week.” “Here’s what to say after another negative test.” “Here’s what not to say even when your intentions are good.” So most men improvise. Some become unusually quiet because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Others keep saying, “Don’t worry.” “It’ll happen.” “Maybe next month.” They mean well. But good intentions don’t always provide comfort. Eventually, many husbands stop bringing the subject up altogether not because they don’t care, but because they feel completely lost. Unfortunately, that silence can feel like distance. Meanwhile… She’s tracking ovulation. Recording symptoms. Scheduling appointments. Reading articles upon articles late at night. Preparing questions for the doctor. Wondering whether she’s doing something wrong. Trying to stay hopeful while silently preparing herself for disappointment. Then another month ends. Another pregnancy test. Another negative result. Everyone tells her, “Just relax.” Almost nobody asks, “How are you really doing?” The Quiet Distance That Slowly Appears This is how two people who deeply love each other can slowly begin feeling alone. Is it because the marriage is weak? No Or because either person stopped caring, absolutely No. The reason is often time because each person is carrying a completely different part of the same journey, and neither knows how to share that weight with the other. The wife often carries the physical and emotional load, while the husband often carries the helplessness of watching someone he loves hurt without knowing how to make it better. Neither person is wrong. Neither person is failing. They’re simply navigating one of the most emotionally demanding seasons of marriage without a map. That’s Why I Came Up with This Guide. It doesn’t promise to replace fertility solution nor promise to offer couples medical advice. It doesn’t promise pregnancy. And it doesn’t replace your doctor. Instead, it’s a practical companion designed to help couples move through this season together as they keep their faith’s alive but with less guessing, better communication, and more understanding. This is because sometimes, the greatest gift that lives with couples forever is how their partner treats them in difficult times. And this guide hands couples exactly that: how to support each other in times like this… Inside of this Guide, You will Find: For Her- A Practical Companion ✔ A simple monthly cycle tracker ✔ Questions worth asking during medical appointments ✔ Weekly wellbeing checklists for sleep, nutrition, stress and daily habits ✔ Space to monitor observations without becoming overwhelmed For Him - A Clear Step-by-Step Framework Before the Cycle Begins What quiet, consistent support actually looks like. Not grand gestures. Not motivational speeches. The small things that genuinely reduce her mental load. During the Fertile Window How to help at home without making everything feel clinical or pressured. Practical ways to make life easier during one of the most emotionally significant weeks of the month. During the Two-Week Wait Arguably the hardest stretch emotionally. You’ll learn how to stay emotionally present without adding pressure, creating false hope, or making her feel like every conversation revolves around pregnancy. When Another Period Arrives Perhaps the hardest day of the month. You’ll learn: • What to say. • What not to say. • How to comfort without trying to “fix.” • How to grieve together instead of separately. Why Both Sides Are In One Guide Most resources speak to only one person. This one speaks to both. Because trying to conceive is not two separate journeys. But one shared journey experienced from two different perspectives. This guide helps both partners finally understand what the other has silently been carrying. When both people have the same map, nobody has to keep guessing. Who This Guide Is For This guide is for couples who: • Have been trying for several months and feel emotionally exhausted. • Feel conversations about fertility have become difficult. • Want practical ways to support each other. • Want to strengthen their relationship while continuing their fertility journey. Whether you’ve been trying for three months or three years, the emotional challenges are a pain, and you shouldn’t have to walk them alone. Early Access Invitation I’m currently finalising the complete guide. Before publishing the finished edition, I want honest feedback from real couples who are living this experience. That’s why I’m opening Early Access to just the first 50 couples. Your feedback will directly shape the final version. Early Access Price NGN2,500 After receiving payment, you’ll receive your copy within 20 minutes. A Small Note: This guide cannot promise a positive pregnancy test. No honest resource can. What it can do is help you communicate better, support each other more intentionally, and face this season as partners instead of two people silently carrying different burdens... 👉 To get your Early Access copy, visit: https://selar.com/w8449l7970
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When a couple is trying to conceive, most of the pressure, and most of the information, lands on the wife. She’s the one tracking her cycle, researching symptoms, and carrying the emotional weight of another month passing. Meanwhile, many husbands genuinely want to help but don’t know how. Not because they don’t care, but because no one ever explained what their role actually looks like day to day. So they either say the wrong thing at the wrong time, or they go quiet, which can feel like distance, even when it isn’t. This is not a medical guide but a practical companion guide built around two things couples usually have to figure out separately: Part 1 — Her Tracking Companion: • A cycle-tracking template • A list of questions to bring to the doctor • A weekly habit checklist (sleep, nutrition, stress) Part 2 — His Role, Phase by Phase: A simple framework showing specific and practical actions on what a husband can actually do at each stage of the cycle: • Pre-cycle phase: what quiet, consistent support looks like • The fertile window: practical things to plan for or handle around the house • The two-week wait: why this phase is often the hardest emotionally, and how to be present without adding pressure • If the period arrives: what to say (and what not to say) when disappointment hits again. Why this works better together: Honestly, most couples are not struggling because they don’t love each other. They’re because they’re each carrying a different, unshared part of the same experience. This guide gives both people a shared language for it. ₦2,500— Early-Access Price I’m finishing the full version now and want feedback from real couples before finalizing it. Early orders get this price before the next update. 👉 Get your copy here: https://selar.com/w8449l7970
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Prestar:This is laudable…. You earn my vote at the upcoming presidential election for this singular act of responsibility and care you just demonstrated. |
We really need to vote this Tinubu government out. His reign is a disaster and a big mistake to the country… |
SuperOnyi:I want to specially thank @SuperOnyi for that brilliant breakdown. The YouTube Music subscription example is the ultimate knockout punch to the dollar-conversion theory. When even multi-billion-dollar foreign tech companies understand that 99.9% of Nigerians earn in Naira and adjust their pricing to match our eroded purchasing power, it shows how detached from reality anyone arguing otherwise is. To the diaspora commentators comparing gas prices: A McDonald's worker in the US or a Tesco worker in the UK can pay their taxes, pay their bills, fuel their cars, and still have a safety net. But a Chicken Republic worker in Nigeria cannot even buy a bag of rice with their monthly salary, let alone pay 50k for their child's NECO and WAEC registration. Demanding accountability is not 'complaining'; it is the fundamental engine of democracy. Nigeria belongs to all of us, not an elite few. We are paying the highest real cost for survival on earth with zero state benefits, and we will not stop questioning how our collective resources are managed. |
Everything about them is “we will”. What has he been doing for the last 3 years ? When the presidential election is about few months from now, he’s now beginning to roll out empty promises. Why is Tinubu and his Akara wife making governance look like rocket science ? |
Goodvibes007:Converting Nigerian prices to dollar to prove we don't pay 'first-world prices' is a flawed economic analysis. Westerners earn in USD/GBP; Nigerians earn in a heavily devalued Naira. When you look at the Purchasing Power Parity, Nigerians are paying the highest real prices in the world relative to income.What you are ignoring is Tax Incidence. When the administration places heavy taxes on corporations, those businesses invertly shift the burden forward to the consumer. That is why grinding pepper in public places has jumped from 200 naira to 1,500, and why common haircut is now priced at some places in Nigeria 2500 per haircut. Since you won’t mention this , I will help you to add it- I know you’re aware that in the West you’re citing every now and then, taxes pay for free schools, healthcare, and security. In Nigeria, we pay heavy taxes and still pay 50k for WAEC and NECO, dig our own water boreholes, and buy fuel for generators and pay heavily to install solar power for our homes and businesses, and sadly some communities contribute money to repair/build their roads and pay for security services to protect their properties and lives. And these are Nigerians carrying the direct weight of heavy taxations in the nation. Look at the news from the airports this morning, where a video showing airport cab drivers protesting a new policy from FAAN mandating drivers to use 2020 car models, vehicles costing upwards of 18 million. This is the exact indirect taxation and elite disconnect we are talking about. See https://www.nairaland.com/8708290/cant-afford-18-million-cars The government issues a decree to look 'first-world' without providing the first-world credit facilities, low-interest loans, or stable economy to back it up. If those drivers struggle to buy those 18m cars, guess who pays for it? The average Nigerian traveler through hyper-inflated transport fares. We are simply paying first-world costs for survival with no state benefits… what’s your next line of defense now ? |
Goodvibes007:Go back again, and read all my responses to your incomplete comments… i already put a structured response to them all. |
Goodvibes007:So, I want to ask is your government not providing anything to justify all these expenses you claim to incur? If you’re able to answer that question, then you have made a complete and sensible statement. Otherwise the statements in your comment are incomplete and meaningless. |
Goodvibes007:First, when you mention an asset without qualifying its worth , then failing to address whether or not the government in question didn’t reciprocate by providing you with basic amenities like good road, stable electricity, quality healthcare, security and more, then I wonder what point you’re trying to prove with that comment ? |
In the last three years, the Nigerian socio-economic landscape has witnessed a fascinating yet terrifying structural overhaul. What began as a series of bold, headline-grabbing policy declarations, the immediate removal of the fuel subsidy and the floatation of the Naira, has now transformed into a tidal wave of hyperinflation, sweeping across every household in the federation. From the corporate boardrooms of Lagos to the street-side vendors hawking akara, roasted corn, and kuli kuli, Nigerians are trapped in a grim economic paradox: they are paying first-world prices for third-world governance. This is not a story of hardship but a structural breakdown. And as the 2027 presidential election approaches, it raises a pressing question for the Nigerian electorate. Can a nation state survive on an economic model that continuously extracts wealth from its citizens without delivering basic human security or functional public goods? Despite the administration's explosive media campaigns and promises of a "Renewed Hope," the reality on the ground is not so simple. Behind the political rhetoric lies a fundamental weakness, a historically aggressive taxation framework paired with an absolute failure to protect lives, properties, and the purchasing power of the common man. And that weakness threatens to lock millions of Nigerians out of basic survival, turning daily existence into an extreme sport where the citizens are systematically losing. The Extraction Economy: Why the Government is Taxing the Air To understand the stakes, we must first understand the administration's motivation. Why is the federal government introducing tax after tax like a cash-strapped corporate entity? The answer lies in the administration's macroeconomic philosophy. The state, having starved itself of easy crude oil revenues due to systemic theft and low production, has turned inward. The citizen has become the new oil well. Through the aggressive widening of the tax net, the reintroduction of cybersecurity levies, and hiked tariffs on basic utilities, public finances are being aggressively financialised. What makes an economic policy viable to the masses? Three things: 1. Clear equity in burden-sharing, 2. Visible value for taxes paid, and 3. A safety net for the most vulnerable. In functional democracies, years of civic engagement and public accountability mean these three requirements are often met. In Nigeria? Not quite. The Luxury Car Entourage and the Rhetoric of Sacrifice Still, there are signs of a profound psychological disconnect within the highest echelons of power. Notably, the First Lady, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, has actively explored the business of advising the masses on economic endurance. From advocating for subsistence farming to lecturing the public on contentement, her public commentaries have consistently trended online. Most recently, the internet was set aglow following her comments urging popular entertainers to deploy their wealth to help the masses, while admonishing Nigerians to view luxury cars strictly as non-essential luxuries. It was a bold sermon, but it was also a deeply ironic one. While the First Lady’s approach signals an expectation of national sacrifice, it lays bare an underlying hypocrisy: the ruling class expects the masses to bear the brunt of austerity while they themselves operate in absolute opulence. Not long after her speech, broadcast journalist Rufai Oseni shared a striking video of the First Lady’s official entourage, consisting of nearly 60 high-end, luxury vehicles snaking through Nigerian roads. The message to the street was deafeningly clear: sacrifice is an obligation for the poor, but luxury remains a permanent entitlement for the powerful. The Human Capital Crisis: A Legacy of Extravagant Exclusion Nigeria’s economy has always been volatile, but it has rarely been this hostile to human capital development. For much of its recent history, education and food security served as the ultimate escape routes from poverty. Today, the administration's policies have effectively barricaded those exits. Key structural crises currently ravaging the nation include: The Educational Barrier: The recent astronomical hike in WAEC and NECO registration fees to ₦50,000 has turned secondary school graduation into a luxury. In a country where parents are actively struggling to exist, this policy effectively prices the children of the poor out of academic validation. The Food Security Collapse: Due to untamed inflation and the unmitigated failure of agricultural logistics, staple foods have become out of reach. The informal food sector, the akara and kuli kulivendors, can no longer find price stability, leading to widespread malnutrition. The Insecurity Epidemic: Far from being contained, insecurity has expanded. Bandits, secessionist agitators, and terrorist networks continue to sack agrarian communities, levy taxes on local farmers, and execute mass kidnappings with near-total impunity. The Blind Extraction Framework: The administration’s fiscal policies have continuously extracted and extracted from the disposable income of citizens through stamp duties, bank charges, and value-added taxes, without providing any positive, visible impact on public infrastructure. The result is a massive, highly resilient population that is rich in patience but completely depleted of economic oxygen. The 2027 Bottleneck: Why the Incumbent Faces a Judgment of Numbers Herein lies the political tragedy. Just as the nation approaches another electoral cycle, the APC-led administration may find itself structurally unprepared to defend its record before an exhausted electorate. You cannot demand patriotism from a citizen you do not protect, and you cannot demand tax compliance from an enterprise you do not support. Many Nigerian voters, even those who historically supported the ruling party, no longer possess the financial buffer to ignore poor governance. They cannot reconcile a ₦50,000 exam fee with a 60-car convoy. They cannot balance the mathematical permutations of a rising Gross Domestic Product (GDP) with the reality of empty stomachs and unsafe highways. Moreover, even where government defenders point to macro-level reforms, such as being removed from the Financial Action Task Force (FATF) gray list or increasing the EFCC's anti-graft funding, the data integrity of these achievements means very little to a mother whose child has been withdrawn from school due to fee hikes. Without a stomach-facing infrastructure, macroeconomic statistics remain a pipe dream. Conclusion: The Accountable Ballot The upcoming 2027 presidential election represents more than just a political transition; it is a national referendum on the value of a Nigerian life. Nigeria, as one of the most resourceful and resilient nations on earth, should not be a place where citizens merely exist to be taxed and terrorised. But unless the electorate confronts the current legacy of fiscal informality, unchecked state luxury, and poor human empathy, we risk being remembered only for our capacity to suffer, not our power to choose. In the end, governance is not a favor done for the governed. It is a contractual obligation. And as 2027 draws near, the masses must remember that they hold the ultimate ledger to audit the wealth, the policies, and the heavy price they have paid for the survival of the state.
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Their own definition for empowerment ends with providing 50k to market women to facilitate Kuli Kuli, Roasted Corn and Akara business. Yekini of iragbiji will never stop making me wonder. Failed government inside out. |
Being poor is relative. What’s your definition of poor? |
FineUsername:I just wish we can all be objective. Even if I didn’t say more to explain my comment, is my message not true? |
Mayflowa:Both the employer and the employee most times are victims of the corrupt system. Overhead cost for a delivery from Abuja to Benin with the economic state of things, may take almost 90% of the net profit received by the company, which may be a reasonable ground for the low pay. However, from a more reasonable perspective , the question we should be asking as a youth is : where are the proceeds from the resources the leadership of this country are managing on behalf of the people kept? What are these monies used for ? Let me state this clearly, if our system operates fairly: assuming we have good road networks across the entire country, excellent transportation systems, reliable and standard electricity, and good water system with robust and sustainable management architecture in place over these amenities, the effect would translate to fair pricing system of general commodities, like petrol, food, and affordable housing. The relief Nigerian citizens will get from this will be 100 million times of the relief fuel subsidy removal will offer Nigerians. Countries have less than 5% of the mineral resources we have are doing far better than us. Citizens of those countries enjoy quality healthcare, education and overall quality life, because amenities that makes life easy are reliably provided to the citizens by their government. UAE and Nigeria gained independence the same year , while citizens of the UAE live like kings and queens, ours live from hand to mouth. Let me now shock you. Nigeria is also rich in youthful population meaning our workforce is growing faster with energetic youths, which should have been a huge economic advantage to the nation, but the government deliberately kills them by providing zero enabling environment for them, thereby pushing those youths into various crimes. That’s why a day will not go by that a Nigerian youth won’t be caught committing one crime or another. A youth with ambition and the ability can’t stay quiet if things aren’t working for him. He would have to find alternatives. That’s the sad story of the country. We the Nigerian youths need to take back the leadership of this country from the zombies and find those who are selfless , and conscious about the good of everyone, to manage our resources efficiently. Quality of living of 90% of Nigerian citizens is not different from children of poor parents , whereas this ugly state is not the genuine reflection of who we are. |
Just take a look at the pay in a country that has almost all mineral resources in commercial quantity. Look at what corruption has reduced the country into. |
You people didn’t summon him over the poor state of living of common Nigerians ? You didn’t summon him over the deadly insecurity that has ravaged the entire country? Those Ogbomosho children and their teachers are still in the bush under the oppression of bandits and kidnappers, you never thought of summoning Tinubu over their case. Indeed, there was a country called Nigeria. |
Wow! A day to her graduation? A lot of people were asking why she didn’t leave Ukrain before now. The irony of life is: not many people see life the way you see it. I met a lady sometimes ago, a Christian fanatics. One day she told me she’s traveling by road from Osun state to Abuja for a church retreat. I paused for a second because I felt I heard something different. I calmly engaged her on the travel plan, explaining the insecurity of that road. I even pulled out news of bandits and kidnapping activities to support my claims. Not like she’s not a Nigerian to not have know the situation of things on that road because news of bandits and kidnapping on Abuja road is almost like an everyday ritual. Yet, I didn’t assume. I pressed on to convince her. This lady nearly fought me for showing that level of care. To my surprise, she even told me she regretted ever informing me about her plan. Shockingly, she added that given the chance, she would not hesitate to travel by road to Gombe , Borno , Kastina and other parts of the country under the siege of bandits, to do evangelism outreach. I was just speechless. This is the extent to which some people put in deliberate efforts to ensure their own self destruct over same life some of us guide jealously. This lady even told me that whenever she’s embarking in such “special journey” that she deliberately keeps the information away from families and friends until she arrives at her destination. I had my mouth wide opened for several minutes in amazement. Several questions began to run through my mind: was she hypnotized? Or was she brainwashed? Was she born with that mentality? Or does it mean she doesn’t value her own life or perhaps she doesn’t find anything worth living for in this world? Before meeting this lady, my worldview about life had never been tested on the fact that there could be a set of human beings who never cared about their own existence. But then, my experience with this lady change my perception. Folks in this category are not different from bandits and boko haram victims made to give up on their acceptable cultural standards to embrace cultures that are repugnant to good conscience, fairness and generally acceptable human value. My people! that was the last time I chatted her. I had the intention to date this lady before then. But I had to abort the mission asap…because I cannot in the life of me wrap my head around such weird life principle she lives by. I don’t just get it why some people get carried away by ephemeral events that on every scale of things are far less important to the life that God gave them. I keep saying this and I will continue to: whatever it will take to stay alive healthy- I am ready to do it- even if it means I lose a huge life opportunity, because as the popular proverb says “when there’s life, there’s hope.” Life is so sweet and I think it’s unwise for any man to carelessly loose it on avoidable and ignorant terms. |
Honestly, these things are not making sense not because of anything else than the fact that it gives people like me trauma, knowing fully well that even when the allegation has been confirmed to be true, the relevant Nigerian authorities will still not take any action to ensure the law takes its course. And the opposition too who are meant to check the excess of these people are like a thief paid to man the gate filled with fortunes, they themselves have no integrity, once the major thieves flashes dollars before them and a few promises are made to settle them, they all gladly go back into their various caves. Both the current administration and the entire members of the opposition are the same and nothing. I repeat, nothing good can come out of them all. It’s such a pity. |
You people should stop pushing this news of mediocrity, greed, selfishness, and fake care down our throats. What sense does it make to share 50k each to petty traders who may not even live to spend it tomorrow, when bandits are everywhere demanding hundreds of millions in ransom? Where are the good roads, the clean water, health facilities and the stable electricity that are needed to support sustainable businesses and good living in this country? This is basic economics and governance: you cannot place something on nothing, it will surely collapse. Why is it now, so close to the elections, that our media platforms are flooded with stories of money sharing? What happened to building sustainable infrastructure, the way intelligent leaders in other countries do? I know some Nigerians may not be well-informed, but not all of us. Some of us are educated, and we can recognize bad decisions and mediocrity when we see them. My point is for you people to just stop trying so hard to justify baseless arrangements. This agenda being promoted by the First Lady makes no commercial sense at all. What is happening to our mineral resources? Why is there no fair distribution of those resources? Are petty traders the only ones entitled to the nation’s wealth? Have you forgotten that the primary role of government is to manage and fairly distribute the resources of the people on their behalf? Frankly, you people are disgusting. You may deceive the illiterate with these shameful plans, but not the educated ones among us. And to Seun and other media platforms: you are promoting corruption and evil in this country. You allow fake accounts to be created to support and present bad governance as a good one, just because of the little money you are paid. Prosperity will judge all of you. Keep destroying your people for peanuts …history will not forget. |
Well, it’s not surprising to me. Even the employers of labor are contributing to this menace. The reward ratio of hard work and literacy is at its lowest for the first time in history of the country. If a young Nigerian lawyer can be placed on 60k/ month salary, and medical doctors are owned salaries of 6 months with no hope in sight of getting paid till the 12th month, then what message are we passing to the upcoming generation by so doing ? During our time, radio and tv stations, teachers , billboards just anything and everything promoted hard work and resilience. I learned there was a time in Nigeria that a Nigerian corps member would be rewarded with an official car , and a decent apartment with opened opportunities to further their career abroad. But today, with proliferation of miracle centers, products of our educational system are now sadly: drug dealers, touts, fraudsters, ritualists who unfortunately have made their ways through to the helms of affairs of the Nigerian government. Sometimes, when I listen to the speech of some of the Nigerian government representatives and political leaders, I feel ashamed. And this often times leaves me with the question “how do these people negotiate with highly intelligent and educated foreigners? “ I’m so sure stakeholders from other countries would have seen and experienced the unthinkable with some of them. Most likely it’s the reason Donald Trump concluded not once but several times that Nigeria is a “shithole” and a “disgraceful country.” |
You concluded in your mind she’s completely satisfied based on the basic provisions you offer her.? There are men who did way more than you are currently doing for their ex girlfriend but got ridiculed when they went broke. This pattern is a constant variable in almost 99% case of relationship. Better shine your eyes and invest those little change on yourself before it’s too late…
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helinues:Maybe it’s a wrong selection of cognition. But I took my time to process your comment and tried not to be reactive, could you explain what this comment meant ? Because, the stand of Igboho is to secure his people under the siege and attack of bandits and terrorists. What’s your sentiment on this? Make it clear , direct and unequivocal. |
AllBlack:Maybe there’s a city in Canada named UK; even still at that, semantically the sentence will still be defective without changing the “while” to “when” otherwise, it remains highly counterintuitive… |
Few times in two weeks. But no month passes without me consuming a significant amount of fruit. Dates, green apples, watermelon , and coconut are my favorites… |
givedemwotowoto:At the bolded, this is what happens in an unconventional and unregulated trades like crypto, but in stock and other regulated trades, companies use certain business structure models to prevent unreasonable selling of shares. Don’t forget one of the purposes for issuing private placement is to facilitate a project for the company, and if after investors have contributed towards the project only to take it back after the launch of an IPO. That would be counterintuitive. Because practically if they are allowed to do this , where would the company see money to complete the project they plan on using the money gotten from the private placement and IPO from ? |
This landmark judgment is a big win for digital accountability! As a legal practitioner, I must commend the security agencies and the prosecution team for their diligence. For those wondering how this happened so fast, the prosecution likely relied heavily on Section 24 of the Cybercrimes Act, which explicitly criminalises the intentional transmission of insults, falsehoods, or statements intended to cause breakdown of law and order or emotional distress. Many people mistakenly believe that hiding behind anonymous or pseudo-handles like '@Swanky' protects them. An online troll is on a formal petition away which authorises the law enforcers agencies to pick a trolls’s digital forensics which can be user to unmask any IP address and track him down to his doorstep. If you or your brand are currently facing targeted cyberbullying, defamation, or online extortion, don't just rant on social media, document the evidence like screenshots video record of relevant conversations and take legal action immediately. You can send me a PM if you need professional guidance on how to initiate a cyber-defamation petition of this nature. |
As a legal practitioner observing this trend, I will say there are three critical legal issues that victims of this type of arrangements often overlook, which could determine if they ever see their money again. 1. The 'Eligible Operator' Rule under the (ISA 2025): Under the Investments and Securities Act, it is a criminal offence to solicit investment funds without SEC registration. In other words if the promoter is not a licensed Fund Manager, any signed 'investment agreement' might be legally void. But this does not mean the money is lost. It only suggests a shift in the legal strategy from 'breach of contract' to 'Fraudulent Misrepresentation' or 'Money Had and Received'. 2. Unlicensed Currency Exchange (BOFIA 2020): Since the business at the center of the transaction involved 'money exchange,' it definitely falls under the CBN’s strict 2024 Guidelines which states that operating a 'mini-exchange' without a BDC license is a serious regulatory offence. The implication of identifying this earlier by a victim is it allows them to petition the EFCC for unauthorised financial activity, which often moves faster than a standard police report. 3. The Cross-Border issue: even though the suspect is in Dubai, Nigeria has what we call Mutual Legal Assistance Treaty (MLAT) with the UAE. This can be used to trigger international cooperation via Interpol/EFCC to further get result for victims. For those in similar situations, your focus should be on proving the 'Initial Deception' rather than trying to enforce an illegal investment contract. Otherwise there’s high chance of you losing your hard earned money. |
@fuckallscammer As a legal practitioner, I have seen many victims in similar situations. Legally, the first step for a case like this involves obtaining a Court Order to serve on the suspect's bank to freeze the account (Post-No-Debit). This is often more effective than just a police report alone.You should also ensure you have all transaction receipts and chat logs preserved. If you need professional guidance on the exact legal steps to initiate this recovery process, I’m available for a consultation. You can reach me via my profile details or DM |
But have they arrested Bandits that kidnap and post their faces on videos circulating on social media showing how they torture their victims ? |
skultrick:Once a landlord increases rent that significantly, this means there’s a fresh offer. And a tenant is not under any legal obligation to accept a new rent they didn’t bargain for. In other words , if you choose not to accept the new rent, your duty is to vacate at the end of your current term, otherwise if you stay beyond the expiration of the tenancy, it means you accepted the offer. That said, giving early notice (May instead of June) if you know you are declining the offer is still the smartest move. |
