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Literature/Writing AdsTrying To Conceive Doesn't Just Test Patience, It Tests Marriage Too by Legitbeauru(op):
The Hardest Part of Trying to Conceive Isn’t the Waiting But Watching the Person You Love Carry Most of the Pain Alone.

Trying for a baby changes a marriage in ways nobody prepares you for.

Every month begins with hope.
Every month ends with questions.

Sometimes those questions are answered with joy.
Many times, they’re answered with silence.

Most people think trying to conceive is simply about timing, ovulation, and doctor’s appointments.

But ask couples who have lived through months or even years of trying, and they will tell you something different.

The hardest part is obviously not always the waiting but watching the person you love carry a burden you don’t know how to help with.

Nobody Ever Teaches Husbands What To Do

When fertility is discussed, almost every conversation revolves around the woman.
Her hormones.
Her cycle.
Her appointments.
Her body.

And that’s understandable because she carries an enormous physical and emotional burden.

But another side of the story that almost nobody talks about.

Many husbands desperately want to help.
They simply don’t know what helping actually looks like.

Nobody sits a man down and says,
“This what she will probably be feeling.”
“This what she will need from you this week.”
“Here’s what to say after another negative test.”
“Here’s what not to say even when your intentions are good.”

So most men improvise.
Some become unusually quiet because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing.

Others keep saying,

“Don’t worry.”
“It’ll happen.”
“Maybe next month.”
They mean well.

But good intentions don’t always provide comfort.
Eventually, many husbands stop bringing the subject up altogether not because they don’t care, but because they feel completely lost.
Unfortunately, that silence can feel like distance.

Meanwhile…
She’s tracking ovulation.
Recording symptoms.
Scheduling appointments.
Reading articles upon articles late at night.
Preparing questions for the doctor.
Wondering whether she’s doing something wrong.
Trying to stay hopeful while silently preparing herself for disappointment.

Then another month ends.
Another pregnancy test.
Another negative result.
Everyone tells her,
“Just relax.”
Almost nobody asks,
“How are you really doing?”

The Quiet Distance That Slowly Appears

This is how two people who deeply love each other can slowly begin feeling alone.
Is it because the marriage is weak? No
Or because either person stopped caring, absolutely No.
The reason is often time because each person is carrying a completely different part of the same journey, and neither knows how to share that weight with the other.

The wife often carries the physical and emotional load, while the husband often carries the helplessness of watching someone he loves hurt without knowing how to make it better.

Neither person is wrong.
Neither person is failing.
They’re simply navigating one of the most emotionally demanding seasons of marriage without a map.

That’s Why I Came Up with This Guide.
It doesn’t promise to replace fertility solution nor promise to offer couples medical advice.
It doesn’t promise pregnancy.
And it doesn’t replace your doctor.

Instead, it’s a practical companion designed to help couples move through this season together as they keep their faith’s alive but with less guessing, better communication, and more understanding.

This is because sometimes, the greatest gift that lives with couples forever is how their partner treats them in difficult times. And this guide hands couples exactly that: how to support each other in times like this…

Inside of this Guide, You will Find:
For Her- A Practical Companion
✔ A simple monthly cycle tracker
✔ Questions worth asking during medical appointments
✔ Weekly wellbeing checklists for sleep, nutrition, stress and daily habits
✔ Space to monitor observations without becoming overwhelmed

For Him - A Clear Step-by-Step Framework
Before the Cycle Begins
What quiet, consistent support actually looks like.
Not grand gestures.
Not motivational speeches.
The small things that genuinely reduce her mental load.

During the Fertile Window
How to help at home without making everything feel clinical or pressured.
Practical ways to make life easier during one of the most emotionally significant weeks of the month.

During the Two-Week Wait

Arguably the hardest stretch emotionally.
You’ll learn how to stay emotionally present without adding pressure, creating false hope, or making her feel like every conversation revolves around pregnancy.

When Another Period Arrives
Perhaps the hardest day of the month.
You’ll learn:
• What to say.
• What not to say.
• How to comfort without trying to “fix.”
• How to grieve together instead of separately.

Why Both Sides Are In One Guide

Most resources speak to only one person.
This one speaks to both.
Because trying to conceive is not two separate journeys.
But one shared journey experienced from two different perspectives.

This guide helps both partners finally understand what the other has silently been carrying.

When both people have the same map, nobody has to keep guessing.

Who This Guide Is For
This guide is for couples who:
• Have been trying for several months and feel emotionally exhausted.
• Feel conversations about fertility have become difficult.
• Want practical ways to support each other.
• Want to strengthen their relationship while continuing their fertility journey.

Whether you’ve been trying for three months or three years, the emotional challenges are a pain, and you shouldn’t have to walk them alone.

Early Access Invitation

I’m currently finalising the complete guide.
Before publishing the finished edition, I want honest feedback from real couples who are living this experience.

That’s why I’m opening Early Access to just the first 50 couples.
Your feedback will directly shape the final version.

Early Access Price NGN2,500
After receiving payment, you’ll receive your copy within 20 minutes.

A Small Note:

This guide cannot promise a positive pregnancy test.
No honest resource can.
What it can do is help you communicate better, support each other more intentionally, and face this season as partners instead of two people silently carrying different burdens...

👉 To get your Early Access copy, visit: https://selar.com/w8449l7970

Literature/Writing AdsStop Googling at 2am — A Simple Guide for Couples Trying to Conceive by Legitbeauru(op):
When a couple is trying to conceive, most of the pressure, and most of the information, lands on the wife. She’s the one tracking her cycle, researching symptoms, and carrying the emotional weight of another month passing.

Meanwhile, many husbands genuinely want to help but don’t know how. Not because they don’t care, but because no one ever explained what their role actually looks like day to day. So they either say the wrong thing at the wrong time, or they go quiet, which can feel like distance, even when it isn’t.

This is not a medical guide but a practical companion guide built around two things couples usually have to figure out separately:

Part 1 — Her Tracking Companion:
• A cycle-tracking template
• A list of questions to bring to the doctor
• A weekly habit checklist (sleep, nutrition, stress)

Part 2 — His Role, Phase by Phase:
A simple framework showing specific and practical actions on what a husband can actually do at each stage of the cycle:
• Pre-cycle phase: what quiet, consistent support looks like
• The fertile window: practical things to plan for or handle around the house
• The two-week wait: why this phase is often the hardest emotionally, and how to be present without adding pressure
• If the period arrives: what to say (and what not to say) when disappointment hits again.

Why this works better together:

Honestly, most couples are not struggling because they don’t love each other. They’re because they’re each carrying a different, unshared part of the same experience.

This guide gives both people a shared language for it.

₦2,500— Early-Access Price


I’m finishing the full version now and want feedback from real couples before finalizing it. Early orders get this price before the next update.

👉 Get your copy here: https://selar.com/w8449l7970

PoliticsRe: BREAKING: Makinde Seeks UN Probe Into Abduction Of Ogbomoso Pupils, Teachers(vid by Legitbeauru: 9:04pm On Jul 13
Prestar:
This is laudable…. You earn my vote at the upcoming presidential election for this singular act of responsibility and care you just demonstrated.
EducationRe: Fg’s Exam Fee Hike Raises Dropout Fears by Legitbeauru: 6:56pm On Jul 13
We really need to vote this Tinubu government out. His reign is a disaster and a big mistake to the country…
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op): 6:34pm On Jul 13
SuperOnyi:
shocked



I'm sorry I had to chip in here. Let me start by saying that while I understand your points --- although not well placed --- you are making the wrong move criticizing people for saying that the economic isn't smiling at them. I can easily smile and agree with you because I know ways to earn in dollar here, even bigger than those living 'abroad,' but that would be ingenious.

Even if I believed Nigeria is cheap, the only reason I would believe that is because I only want to earn big in dollar and invest here, and I also live in the countryside where we have our own small farm. But even at that, everyone is complaining here.

Comparing the currency here and over there isn't smart. I remember when I used to work physical jobs to survive, someone earning $2000 a month in the US is living larger than me. I used to starve. If I earned 3,000 naira a week, I'd be grateful. How many jobs (that doesn't require certificates) will pay you better than McDonalds here?

I'm using them as example because these are jobs people get to survive. Our currency is not just losing its value but also its buying power. Can someone working in "Chicken Republic" live better than someone working at McDonalds? I can bet my balls that Nigerians are the easiest people to control, look at what happened during covid 19 lockdown. If the government spent the little taxes the citizens pay, whether we like it or not, we must pay for those taxes.

I'm sure you received some benefits from the government over there, but here we were getting our as$ kicked trying to get something to eat. So, stop mocking people's pain. And yes, Nigerians are very annoying and ungrateful, but things aren't easy for anyone right now.

The only reason you are in your "first world" paying your "first world" taxes, driving on that clean road, and living in that property with clean water is because people dared to question the state of their country. Even now, people still insult Donald Trump, let alone a country like ours.

You are saying a gallon of gas is more expensive there than it is here is funny, why is Youtube Music subscription significantly cheaper in Nigeria than it is in America? Purchasing power! It's the same reason you earn more in YouTube as someone with an American audience compared to someone with a Nigerian audience.

Even a foreign company understands this better than you, and that says a lot. 99.999999999% of Nigerians earn in Naira and spend in Naira!
I want to specially thank @SuperOnyi for that brilliant breakdown. The YouTube Music subscription example is the ultimate knockout punch to the dollar-conversion theory.

When even multi-billion-dollar foreign tech companies understand that 99.9% of Nigerians earn in Naira and adjust their pricing to match our eroded purchasing power, it shows how detached from reality anyone arguing otherwise is.

To the diaspora commentators comparing gas prices: A McDonald's worker in the US or a Tesco worker in the UK can pay their taxes, pay their bills, fuel their cars, and still have a safety net. But a Chicken Republic worker in Nigeria cannot even buy a bag of rice with their monthly salary, let alone pay 50k for their child's NECO and WAEC registration.

Demanding accountability is not 'complaining'; it is the fundamental engine of democracy. Nigeria belongs to all of us, not an elite few. We are paying the highest real cost for survival on earth with zero state benefits, and we will not stop questioning how our collective resources are managed.
PoliticsRe: Improved Power Supply: Tinubu Will SHOCK Nigerians By December 2026 by Legitbeauru: 7:27am On Jul 13
Everything about them is “we will”. What has he been doing for the last 3 years ? When the presidential election is about few months from now, he’s now beginning to roll out empty promises. Why is Tinubu and his Akara wife making governance look like rocket science ?
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op):
Goodvibes007:
Your assessment of Nigeria's economy is factually incorrect regarding absolute pricing, as fuel costs and inflation rates do not technically match "first-world" levels.

If you convert prices directly into US Dollars or British Pounds, goods and services in Nigeria are actually much cheaper than in the West.

Fuel: A gallon of petrol in the US or UK generally costs between $3.50 and $7.00 USD. In Nigeria, even after the subsidy removals and price hikes, petrol costs closer to $0.60 to $0.90 USD per litre (roughly $2.30 to $3.40 USD per gallon).

Rent & Services: The actual dollar amount needed to buy a loaf of bread, get a haircut, or rent an apartment in Nigeria is a fraction of what it costs in London or New York.

Education. Same story

Taxes paid. Same

E.t.c

So you do not pay 1st world prices in Nigeria.
Converting Nigerian prices to dollar to prove we don't pay 'first-world prices' is a flawed economic analysis. Westerners earn in USD/GBP; Nigerians earn in a heavily devalued Naira.

When you look at the Purchasing Power Parity, Nigerians are paying the highest real prices in the world relative to income.What you are ignoring is Tax Incidence. When the administration places heavy taxes on corporations, those businesses invertly shift the burden forward to the consumer.

That is why grinding pepper in public places has jumped from 200 naira to 1,500, and why common haircut is now priced at some places in Nigeria 2500 per haircut.

Since you won’t mention this , I will help you to add it- I know you’re aware that in the West you’re citing every now and then, taxes pay for free schools, healthcare, and security. In Nigeria, we pay heavy taxes and still pay 50k for WAEC and NECO, dig our own water boreholes, and buy fuel for generators and pay heavily to install solar power for our homes and businesses, and sadly some communities contribute money to repair/build their roads and pay for security services to protect their properties and lives. And these are Nigerians carrying the direct weight of heavy taxations in the nation.

Look at the news from the airports this morning, where a video showing airport cab drivers protesting a new policy from FAAN mandating drivers to use 2020 car models, vehicles costing upwards of 18 million. This is the exact indirect taxation and elite disconnect we are talking about. See https://www.nairaland.com/8708290/cant-afford-18-million-cars

The government issues a decree to look 'first-world' without providing the first-world credit facilities, low-interest loans, or stable economy to back it up. If those drivers struggle to buy those 18m cars, guess who pays for it? The average Nigerian traveler through hyper-inflated transport fares. We are simply paying first-world costs for survival with no state benefits…

what’s your next line of defense now ?
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op): 4:34am On Jul 13
Goodvibes007:
I pay 1st world prices. Do you pay 1st world prices in Nigeria?
Go back again, and read all my responses to your incomplete comments… i already put a structured response to them all.
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op): 4:25am On Jul 13
Goodvibes007:
insurance is approximately $750 per month for an individual marketplace plan and exceeds $2,000 per month for a family.
So, I want to ask is your government not providing anything to justify all these expenses you claim to incur?

If you’re able to answer that question, then you have made a complete and sensible statement. Otherwise the statements in your comment are incomplete and meaningless.
PoliticsRe: Nigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op): 4:21am On Jul 13
Goodvibes007:
My property tax is over 6,000 dollars a month. Do you pay such taxes in Nigeria?
First, when you mention an asset without qualifying its worth , then failing to address whether or not the government in question didn’t reciprocate by providing you with basic amenities like good road, stable electricity, quality healthcare, security and more, then I wonder what point you’re trying to prove with that comment ?
PoliticsNigerians Are Now Paying First World Prices for Third World Governance by Legitbeauru(op):
In the last three years, the Nigerian socio-economic landscape has witnessed a fascinating yet terrifying structural overhaul. What began as a series of bold, headline-grabbing policy declarations, the immediate removal of the fuel subsidy and the floatation of the Naira, has now transformed into a tidal wave of hyperinflation, sweeping across every household in the federation. From the corporate boardrooms of Lagos to the street-side vendors hawking akara, roasted corn, and kuli kuli, Nigerians are trapped in a grim economic paradox: they are paying first-world prices for third-world governance.

This is not a story of hardship but a structural breakdown. And as the 2027 presidential election approaches, it raises a pressing question for the Nigerian electorate. Can a nation state survive on an economic model that continuously extracts wealth from its citizens without delivering basic human security or functional public goods?

Despite the administration's explosive media campaigns and promises of a "Renewed Hope," the reality on the ground is not so simple. Behind the political rhetoric lies a fundamental weakness, a historically aggressive taxation framework paired with an absolute failure to protect lives, properties, and the purchasing power of the common man. And that weakness threatens to lock millions of Nigerians out of basic survival, turning daily existence into an extreme sport where the citizens are systematically losing.

The Extraction Economy: Why the Government is Taxing the Air

To understand the stakes, we must first understand the administration's motivation. Why is the federal government introducing tax after tax like a cash-strapped corporate entity?
The answer lies in the administration's macroeconomic philosophy.

The state, having starved itself of easy crude oil revenues due to systemic theft and low production, has turned inward. The citizen has become the new oil well. Through the aggressive widening of the tax net, the reintroduction of cybersecurity levies, and hiked tariffs on basic utilities, public finances are being aggressively financialised.

What makes an economic policy viable to the masses? Three things:

1. Clear equity in burden-sharing,
2. Visible value for taxes paid, and
3. A safety net for the most vulnerable.

In functional democracies, years of civic engagement and public accountability mean these three requirements are often met. In Nigeria? Not quite.

The Luxury Car Entourage and the Rhetoric of Sacrifice

Still, there are signs of a profound psychological disconnect within the highest echelons of power. Notably, the First Lady, Senator Oluremi Tinubu, has actively explored the business of advising the masses on economic endurance. From advocating for subsistence farming to lecturing the public on contentement, her public commentaries have consistently trended online. Most recently, the internet was set aglow following her comments urging popular entertainers to deploy their wealth to help the masses, while admonishing Nigerians to view luxury cars strictly as non-essential luxuries.

It was a bold sermon, but it was also a deeply ironic one.
While the First Lady’s approach signals an expectation of national sacrifice, it lays bare an underlying hypocrisy: the ruling class expects the masses to bear the brunt of austerity while they themselves operate in absolute opulence. Not long after her speech, broadcast journalist Rufai Oseni shared a striking video of the First Lady’s official entourage, consisting of nearly 60 high-end, luxury vehicles snaking through Nigerian roads. The message to the street was deafeningly clear: sacrifice is an obligation for the poor, but luxury remains a permanent entitlement for the powerful.

The Human Capital Crisis: A Legacy of Extravagant Exclusion

Nigeria’s economy has always been volatile, but it has rarely been this hostile to human capital development. For much of its recent history, education and food security served as the ultimate escape routes from poverty. Today, the administration's policies have effectively barricaded those exits.
Key structural crises currently ravaging the nation include:

The Educational Barrier: The recent astronomical hike in WAEC and NECO registration fees to ₦50,000 has turned secondary school graduation into a luxury. In a country where parents are actively struggling to exist, this policy effectively prices the children of the poor out of academic validation.

The Food Security Collapse: Due to untamed inflation and the unmitigated failure of agricultural logistics, staple foods have become out of reach. The informal food sector, the akara and kuli kulivendors, can no longer find price stability, leading to widespread malnutrition.

The Insecurity Epidemic: Far from being contained, insecurity has expanded. Bandits, secessionist agitators, and terrorist networks continue to sack agrarian communities, levy taxes on local farmers, and execute mass kidnappings with near-total impunity.

The Blind Extraction Framework: The administration’s fiscal policies have continuously extracted and extracted from the disposable income of citizens through stamp duties, bank charges, and value-added taxes, without providing any positive, visible impact on public infrastructure.

The result is a massive, highly resilient population that is rich in patience but completely depleted of economic oxygen.

The 2027 Bottleneck: Why the Incumbent Faces a Judgment of Numbers

Herein lies the political tragedy. Just as the nation approaches another electoral cycle, the APC-led administration may find itself structurally unprepared to defend its record before an exhausted electorate.

You cannot demand patriotism from a citizen you do not protect, and you cannot demand tax compliance from an enterprise you do not support.

Many Nigerian voters, even those who historically supported the ruling party, no longer possess the financial buffer to ignore poor governance. They cannot reconcile a ₦50,000 exam fee with a 60-car convoy. They cannot balance the mathematical permutations of a rising Gross Domestic Product (GDP) with the reality of empty stomachs and unsafe highways.

Moreover, even where government defenders point to macro-level reforms, such as being removed from the Financial Action Task Force (FATF) gray list or increasing the EFCC's anti-graft funding, the data integrity of these achievements means very little to a mother whose child has been withdrawn from school due to fee hikes. Without a stomach-facing infrastructure, macroeconomic statistics remain a pipe dream.

Conclusion: The Accountable Ballot

The upcoming 2027 presidential election represents more than just a political transition; it is a national referendum on the value of a Nigerian life. Nigeria, as one of the most resourceful and resilient nations on earth, should not be a place where citizens merely exist to be taxed and terrorised.

But unless the electorate confronts the current legacy of fiscal informality, unchecked state luxury, and poor human empathy, we risk being remembered only for our capacity to suffer, not our power to choose.

In the end, governance is not a favor done for the governed. It is a contractual obligation. And as 2027 draws near, the masses must remember that they hold the ultimate ledger to audit the wealth, the policies, and the heavy price they have paid for the survival of the state.

EducationRe: FG Hikes WAEC, NECO Examination Fees To ₦50,000 by Legitbeauru: 5:56pm On Jul 12
Their own definition for empowerment ends with providing 50k to market women to facilitate Kuli Kuli, Roasted Corn and Akara business. Yekini of iragbiji will never stop making me wonder. Failed government inside out.
BusinessRe: Why Are People Poor? Why Does This Happen? by Legitbeauru: 6:44pm On Jul 09
Being poor is relative. What’s your definition of poor?
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Logistics Customer Service Representative At GUO Logistics Limited (4 Openings) by Legitbeauru: 5:48pm On Jul 08
FineUsername:
Please post company profile and or your staff payslips.

undecided
I just wish we can all be objective. Even if I didn’t say more to explain my comment, is my message not true?
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Logistics Customer Service Representative At GUO Logistics Limited (4 Openings) by Legitbeauru: 5:23pm On Jul 08
Mayflowa:
This is sad! Very sad. One small phone I sent from Abuja to benin was N60,000. People pay 200k sending some boxes. You do this everyday and cannot pay staff 500k per month. The owner wants all of the profit for himself and let his staff die of stress!
Both the employer and the employee most times are victims of the corrupt system. Overhead cost for a delivery from Abuja to Benin with the economic state of things, may take almost 90% of the net profit received by the company, which may be a reasonable ground for the low pay.

However, from a more reasonable perspective , the question we should be asking as a youth is : where are the proceeds from the resources the leadership of this country are managing on behalf of the people kept?

What are these monies used for ?

Let me state this clearly, if our system operates fairly: assuming we have good road networks across the entire country, excellent transportation systems, reliable and standard electricity, and good water system with robust and sustainable management architecture in place over these amenities, the effect would translate to fair pricing system of general commodities, like petrol, food, and affordable housing.

The relief Nigerian citizens will get from this will be 100 million times of the relief fuel subsidy removal will offer Nigerians.

Countries have less than 5% of the mineral resources we have are doing far better than us. Citizens of those countries enjoy quality healthcare, education and overall quality life, because amenities that makes life easy are reliably provided to the citizens by their government.

UAE and Nigeria gained independence the same year , while citizens of the UAE live like kings and queens, ours live from hand to mouth.

Let me now shock you. Nigeria is also rich in youthful population meaning our workforce is growing faster with energetic youths, which should have been a huge economic advantage to the nation, but the government deliberately kills them by providing zero enabling environment for them, thereby pushing those youths into various crimes.

That’s why a day will not go by that a Nigerian youth won’t be caught committing one crime or another.

A youth with ambition and the ability can’t stay quiet if things aren’t working for him. He would have to find alternatives. That’s the sad story of the country.

We the Nigerian youths need to take back the leadership of this country from the zombies and find those who are selfless , and conscious about the good of everyone, to manage our resources efficiently.

Quality of living of 90% of Nigerian citizens is not different from children of poor parents , whereas this ugly state is not the genuine reflection of who we are.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Logistics Customer Service Representative At GUO Logistics Limited (4 Openings) by Legitbeauru: 4:53pm On Jul 08
Just take a look at the pay in a country that has almost all mineral resources in commercial quantity. Look at what corruption has reduced the country into.
PoliticsRe: Motion To Summon Tinubu Turns House Of Representatives Into A Rowdy Session by Legitbeauru: 2:58pm On Jul 08
You people didn’t summon him over the poor state of living of common Nigerians ? You didn’t summon him over the deadly insecurity that has ravaged the entire country? Those Ogbomosho children and their teachers are still in the bush under the oppression of bandits and kidnappers, you never thought of summoning Tinubu over their case. Indeed, there was a country called Nigeria.
Foreign AffairsRe: Russian Airstrike Kills Nigerian Medical Student In Ukraine by Legitbeauru:
Wow! A day to her graduation? A lot of people were asking why she didn’t leave Ukrain before now. The irony of life is: not many people see life the way you see it.

I met a lady sometimes ago, a Christian fanatics. One day she told me she’s traveling by road from Osun state to Abuja for a church retreat. I paused for a second because I felt I heard something different.

I calmly engaged her on the travel plan, explaining the insecurity of that road. I even pulled out news of bandits and kidnapping activities to support my claims. Not like she’s not a Nigerian to not have know the situation of things on that road because news of bandits and kidnapping on Abuja road is almost like an everyday ritual. Yet, I didn’t assume. I pressed on to convince her.

This lady nearly fought me for showing that level of care. To my surprise, she even told me she regretted ever informing me about her plan.

Shockingly, she added that given the chance, she would not hesitate to travel by road to Gombe , Borno , Kastina and other parts of the country under the siege of bandits, to do evangelism outreach.

I was just speechless.

This is the extent to which some people put in deliberate efforts to ensure their own self destruct over same life some of us guide jealously.

This lady even told me that whenever she’s embarking in such “special journey” that she deliberately keeps the information away from families and friends until she arrives at her destination.

I had my mouth wide opened for several minutes in amazement. Several questions began to run through my mind: was she hypnotized? Or was she brainwashed? Was she born with that mentality? Or does it mean she doesn’t value her own life or perhaps she doesn’t find anything worth living for in this world?

Before meeting this lady, my worldview about life had never been tested on the fact that there could be a set of human beings who never cared about their own existence.

But then, my experience with this lady change my perception. Folks in this category are not different from bandits and boko haram victims made to give up on their acceptable cultural standards to embrace cultures that are repugnant to good conscience, fairness and generally acceptable human value.

My people! that was the last time I chatted her. I had the intention to date this lady before then. But I had to abort the mission asap…because I cannot in the life of me wrap my head around such weird life principle she lives by.

I don’t just get it why some people get carried away by ephemeral events that on every scale of things are far less important to the life that God gave them.

I keep saying this and I will continue to: whatever it will take to stay alive healthy- I am ready to do it- even if it means I lose a huge life opportunity, because as the popular proverb says “when there’s life, there’s hope.” Life is so sweet and I think it’s unwise for any man to carelessly loose it on avoidable and ignorant terms.
PoliticsRe: Femi Gbajabiamila Demanded For ₦12 Billion From My Agency - Prince Adeniyi by Legitbeauru: 3:15pm On Jul 06
Honestly, these things are not making sense not because of anything else than the fact that it gives people like me trauma, knowing fully well that even when the allegation has been confirmed to be true, the relevant Nigerian authorities will still not take any action to ensure the law takes its course.

And the opposition too who are meant to check the excess of these people are like a thief paid to man the gate filled with fortunes, they themselves have no integrity, once the major thieves flashes dollars before them and a few promises are made to settle them, they all gladly go back into their various caves.

Both the current administration and the entire members of the opposition are the same and nothing. I repeat, nothing good can come out of them all.

It’s such a pity.
PoliticsRe: Oluremi Tinubu Donates ₦100 Million To 2,000 Women Petty Traders In Jigawa by Legitbeauru: 9:59am On Jul 01
You people should stop pushing this news of mediocrity, greed, selfishness, and fake care down our throats.

What sense does it make to share 50k each to petty traders who may not even live to spend it tomorrow, when bandits are everywhere demanding hundreds of millions in ransom?

Where are the good roads, the clean water, health facilities and the stable electricity that are needed to support sustainable businesses and good living in this country?

This is basic economics and governance: you cannot place something on nothing, it will surely collapse.

Why is it now, so close to the elections, that our media platforms are flooded with stories of money sharing?

What happened to building sustainable infrastructure, the way intelligent leaders in other countries do?

I know some Nigerians may not be well-informed, but not all of us. Some of us are educated, and we can recognize bad decisions and mediocrity when we see them.

My point is for you people to just stop trying so hard to justify baseless arrangements. This agenda being promoted by the First Lady makes no commercial sense at all.

What is happening to our mineral resources? Why is there no fair distribution of those resources? Are petty traders the only ones entitled to the nation’s wealth?

Have you forgotten that the primary role of government is to manage and fairly distribute the resources of the people on their behalf?

Frankly, you people are disgusting. You may deceive the illiterate with these shameful plans, but not the educated ones among us.

And to Seun and other media platforms: you are promoting corruption and evil in this country. You allow fake accounts to be created to support and present bad governance as a good one, just because of the little money you are paid.

Prosperity will judge all of you. Keep destroying your people for peanuts …history will not forget.
EducationRe: Meaning Of Olodo Uprising by Legitbeauru: 2:50am On Jun 28
Well, it’s not surprising to me. Even the employers of labor are contributing to this menace.

The reward ratio of hard work and literacy is at its lowest for the first time in history of the country. If a young Nigerian lawyer can be placed on 60k/ month salary, and medical doctors are owned salaries of 6 months with no hope in sight of getting paid till the 12th month, then what message are we passing to the upcoming generation by so doing ?

During our time, radio and tv stations, teachers , billboards just anything and everything promoted hard work and resilience.

I learned there was a time in Nigeria that a Nigerian corps member would be rewarded with an official car , and a decent apartment with opened opportunities to further their career abroad.


But today, with proliferation of miracle centers, products of our educational system are now sadly: drug dealers, touts, fraudsters, ritualists who unfortunately have made their ways through to the helms of affairs of the Nigerian government.

Sometimes, when I listen to the speech of some of the Nigerian government representatives and political leaders, I feel ashamed. And this often times leaves me with the question “how do these people negotiate with highly intelligent and educated foreigners? “ I’m so sure stakeholders from other countries would have seen and experienced the unthinkable with some of them.

Most likely it’s the reason Donald Trump concluded not once but several times that Nigeria is a “shithole” and a “disgraceful country.”
RomanceRe: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Legitbeauru: 1:17pm On Jun 26
You concluded in your mind she’s completely satisfied based on the basic provisions you offer her.? There are men who did way more than you are currently doing for their ex girlfriend but got ridiculed when they went broke. This pattern is a constant variable in almost 99% case of relationship. Better shine your eyes and invest those little change on yourself before it’s too late…

PoliticsRe: Afenifere Backs Igboho, Warns Against Politicising Fight Against Terrorism by Legitbeauru: 7:32am On Jun 26
helinues:
Jokes of the century. Igboho's help is not needed and he should stay out if he likes himself
Maybe it’s a wrong selection of cognition. But I took my time to process your comment and tried not to be reactive, could you explain what this comment meant ? Because, the stand of Igboho is to secure his people under the siege and attack of bandits and terrorists. What’s your sentiment on this? Make it clear , direct and unequivocal.
RomanceRe: A Deputy Governor’s Son Wants To Marry Me. My 3 Big Reservations - Doctor Chichi by Legitbeauru: 5:38pm On Jun 25
AllBlack:
you met in the UK through his sister WHILE YOU WERE IN CANADA.

that's where I stopped reading.

Next FAKE STORY Please.



your understanding of the English language is not the problem. No mind the yeye writer wey score 13/100 for JAMB English exam.

The most irritating part is where they tried explaining the 3 watery reasons just to make the story look bulky.

Duhhh..
Maybe there’s a city in Canada named UK; even still at that, semantically the sentence will still be defective without changing the “while” to “when” otherwise, it remains highly counterintuitive…
FoodRe: How Often Do You Eat Fruits? by Legitbeauru: 2:17pm On Jun 25
Few times in two weeks. But no month passes without me consuming a significant amount of fruit. Dates, green apples, watermelon , and coconut are my favorites…
BusinessRe: Elon Musk Loses Record $350bn As Spacex Slumps by Legitbeauru: 6:24am On Jun 24
givedemwotowoto:
As long as there’s no fundamental unrecoverable problem with SpaceX, this is probably the time to buy

How stock works in a very simple overview is, let’s say a company wants to sell shares for $1 per share.

Before they go public, they first of all sell to private investors at let’s say 50 cents. They may even do multiple private rounds at different prices.

When the shares finally go public at $1, that’s when you and I (the ordinary people) buy.

After the public sales, initial investors sell off their shares. If you bought at 50 cents, you’ve automatically made 100% profit.

Once they sell off, the prices drop like you see now. That’s when some ignorant folks start selling at a loss out of panic, thinking there’s a problem.

Funny thing is, if it drops by 50%, the same investors who sold off will buy again. When it starts rising again as they’re buying, some of us will jump back in again due to FOMO, then they sell off again, and the cycle continues.

I explained this in the simplest form without boring you with technical jargons.

Note: This is not financial advice. DYOR
At the bolded, this is what happens in an unconventional and unregulated trades like crypto, but in stock and other regulated trades, companies use certain business structure models to prevent unreasonable selling of shares.

Don’t forget one of the purposes for issuing private placement is to facilitate a project for the company, and if after investors have contributed towards the project only to take it back after the launch of an IPO. That would be counterintuitive. Because practically if they are allowed to do this , where would the company see money to complete the project they plan on using the money gotten from the private placement and IPO from ?
CelebritiesRe: Troll Sentenced To 2 Years In Jail Over Fake News About Adekunle Gold's Daughter by Legitbeauru: 2:38pm On May 16
This landmark judgment is a big win for digital accountability! As a legal practitioner, I must commend the security agencies and the prosecution team for their diligence. For those wondering how this happened so fast, the prosecution likely relied heavily on Section 24 of the Cybercrimes Act, which explicitly criminalises the intentional transmission of insults, falsehoods, or statements intended to cause breakdown of law and order or emotional distress.

Many people mistakenly believe that hiding behind anonymous or pseudo-handles like '@Swanky' protects them. An online troll is on a formal petition away which authorises the law enforcers agencies to pick a trolls’s digital forensics which can be user to unmask any IP address and track him down to his doorstep.

If you or your brand are currently facing targeted cyberbullying, defamation, or online extortion, don't just rant on social media, document the evidence like screenshots video record of relevant conversations and take legal action immediately.

You can send me a PM if you need professional guidance on how to initiate a cyber-defamation petition of this nature.
CelebritiesRe: Samskid Accuses Florence Oluchi Ukachi Of Scamming Him Of ₦5M, Shares Details by Legitbeauru: 11:55am On May 10
As a legal practitioner observing this trend, I will say there are three critical legal issues that victims of this type of arrangements often overlook, which could determine if they ever see their money again.

1. The 'Eligible Operator' Rule under the (ISA 2025): Under the Investments and Securities Act, it is a criminal offence to solicit investment funds without SEC registration.

In other words if the promoter is not a licensed Fund Manager, any signed 'investment agreement' might be legally void. But this does not mean the money is lost. It only suggests a shift in the legal strategy from 'breach of contract' to 'Fraudulent Misrepresentation' or 'Money Had and Received'.

2. Unlicensed Currency Exchange (BOFIA 2020): Since the business at the center of the transaction involved 'money exchange,' it definitely falls under the CBN’s strict 2024 Guidelines which states that operating a 'mini-exchange' without a BDC license is a serious regulatory offence.

The implication of identifying this earlier by a victim is it allows them to petition the EFCC for unauthorised financial activity, which often moves faster than a standard police report.

3. The Cross-Border issue: even though the suspect is in Dubai, Nigeria has what we call Mutual Legal Assistance Treaty (MLAT) with the UAE. This can be used to trigger international cooperation via Interpol/EFCC to further get result for victims.

For those in similar situations, your focus should be on proving the 'Initial Deception' rather than trying to enforce an illegal investment contract. Otherwise there’s high chance of you losing your hard earned money.
CrimeRe: Beware Of Stephen Ademola Ayantoye The Impersonator by Legitbeauru: 8:02am On May 10
@fuckallscammer
As a legal practitioner, I have seen many victims in similar situations. Legally, the first step for a case like this involves obtaining a Court Order to serve on the suspect's bank to freeze the account (Post-No-Debit). This is often more effective than just a police report alone.You should also ensure you have all transaction receipts and chat logs preserved. If you need professional guidance on the exact legal steps to initiate this recovery process, I’m available for a consultation. You can reach me via my profile details or DM
CrimeRe: DSS Arraigns Justice Mark Chidiebere ‘Justice Crack’ In Abuja Court by Legitbeauru: 6:36am On May 05
But have they arrested Bandits that kidnap and post their faces on videos circulating on social media showing how they torture their victims ?
Nairaland GeneralRe: My Landlord Increased My Rent By 108% by Legitbeauru: 2:43pm On May 03
skultrick:
My landlord has increased my rent by 108%. So instead of paying 1.2m I will now pay 2.5m for a 2bed.

That's above my budget. So I am moving out.

I wanted ask, is it okay to inform the landlord a month before rent expires that I am not renewing or is a month too short?

Rent expires July ending, so it okay to inform in May or June?

Thank you.
Once a landlord increases rent that significantly, this means there’s a fresh offer. And a tenant is not under any legal obligation to accept a new rent they didn’t bargain for.

In other words , if you choose not to accept the new rent, your duty is to vacate at the end of your current term, otherwise if you stay beyond the expiration of the tenancy, it means you accepted the offer.

That said, giving early notice (May instead of June) if you know you are declining the offer is still the smartest move.

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