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are you saying he should not seek her anymore. what now happens to the feelings

You got it, that was the ideal.

I hope to see a positive nigeria someday, where minds will be pure, what have i got to loose or gain if i tell you am the one, if you have got nothin to say about this, it is better you keep your silence, and you will be respected for that,

got something to say about this, say it, and lets see how we can help a brother.

I just hope i will get useful advice for him here, i wish you see him. He cant even comport himself, talkless of coming to a forum, where some people can even make him feel sad the more in the process of sharing comments

Sorry am not the one really.

I advice really on relationship, you wouldnt have read this, not that i decided to seek other peoples opinion,
i guess the matter is more important and not the person in question, and if you need more details about him or the condition, fine, i will give it if he agrees

A younger brother of mine walked up to me this tuesday last, so worried.

I asked him why he his putting up such mood, and the reply i got from him was that; can i ever get her back?

They both attended the same university and graduated the same year, but she got a job before him, she got employed as a contract staff with a bank in Nigeria before the merger.
She is now a staff of one of the fourth generation banks. He had not gotten a job, so was bent to seek her help most of the time.

One peculiar instance happened last year, she borrowed him the sum of N200k, he borrowed it with the intent of buying stock, then stock was still going bullish. Not sooner after his investment in the secondary market, the downturn; the downturn from bull to bear.

In short, the value of the money now is less than N30k.

Now she did not want to him again unless he can produce the money he borrowed.
She does not pick his calls again, she does not reply his SMS again.

What can he do? He his still in love with her. I almost got tempted to tell him to forget about it, but i felt, let me throw it open, and lets see what other peoples sentiment will be about this issue, i will then know what to tell him,  thanks as you share your sentiments about this.