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j0rdannkyle:
That shouldn't be a fear... Let her reap. Just so long as you live to sow another day, some place else.

Thank you so much for your advice, right now am in my home town because of this problem because my parents asked me to come and also asked him to come too but he hasn't, they want to return th bride price he paid on me during the marriage and I think I am done with the suffering and neglect. I made a huge mistake which I want to correct now, I deserve to be happy again but my problem now is that I am scared that another woman will come and reap from what I sowed.

j0rdannkyle:
@ lisaOG

At this point, seeing as this has always been the case, I retract what I said earlier, and advise you get a divorce, and promptly too, now that there's no child involved.
Nothing compares to being at peace with yourself, and if u can't have it in a marriage, then I don't think it's worth keeping. This is just The first year, and things are already this way. when you do get pregnant, and with its accompanying sicknesses, who's to say he wouldn't neglect u again??

He has always been hot tempered and this has given me great concern even before the marriage and he didn't change and also he has never cared for my health since I met him because he doesn't believe anybody should fall sick and he doesn't say sorry. He has neglected me while I was very sick during courtship, the problem now is that he has this pride in him. And he accuses me of forcing him into marrying him and also that I brought bad luck to him which is not true. He doesn't go to church neither does he pray. Am so confused.

j0rdannkyle:
Hello...
Firstly, am sorry for the delay. Now concerning the above. I'd like to start by encouraging you to keep going to church.
Now, was he always like this? During your courtship? Or this started happening after u got married? If the latter is the case, then something somewhere is not right. Think real deep. Did u do anything? Or have u stopped doing anything? When u know what it is remedy it. If you don't, next time prepare his favorite meal. Give him a treat, pray,and tell him you love him(am assuming u still do) always tell him u love him, make sure he knows that. Do this for like a week, hopefully there will be changes By Then, when u notice this change, sit him down, Juxtapose what it was like before and after the marriage, ask him what went wrong(try to cry a little. It works wonders) ask if u've done anything to have caused this. When u know the cause, the solution wouldn't be too hard to get. And when u have solved it, keep praying for him.

Finally, remember that God would not let us be tempted in certain ways, if he did not think us capable to overcome such trials and temptations.....

No I am not pregnant because I virtually Have to beg him during my ovulation and sometimes he refuses.

INTROVERT:
If you aren't pregnant yet jus leave the edeiot

I have been married for one year now and I am not happy neither do I have peace of mind. First my husband has a very bad temper which I knew even before we got married and he said he will change but he never laid a finger on me before the marriage, he is always angry over any little thing, he doesn't allow me associate with people even our neighbours and he keeps to himself that anytime I want to talk to him he will say I am disturbing him and he hardly talks to me, he doesn't believe in someone falling sick and hardly and he said sorry he is not in his dictionary. He became physical almost immediately after marriage and he says am getting strong with the beatings.
He uses words that are so hurtful for me and shouts on me all the time to the extent of him always banging the calls on me, I select the words I use in order not to upset him. I cry everyday and I have lost weight though I have reported to my parents and they have been advicing him and he will say he will change but continues the same attitude when nobody is there. I have been praying and patient with him thinking all will be well but it's getting worse everyday. I am so confused and sad.
Please advice me on what to do.

Goodevening
I have been married for one year and I am not happy nor have peace of mind. First my husband has a very bad temper he is always angry over any little thing, he doesn't allow me associate with even the neighbours and he hardly talks to me. He doesn't care about my health because he doesn't believe in some one falling sick and going to the hospital neither does he tell you sorry when you are down, he became physical almost after our wedding and he says the beatings will make me strong, he uses words that are so hurtful like and shouts all the time, I select my words in order not to say what will upset him. I cry everyday and I have lost so much weight and I have even reported to my family and they. Have called him several times to advice him and he say ok but will do exactly the same when no body is there and he no blames me for telling my family what he is doing to me by laying curses on me, to the extent that I have to beg him to make love to me during my ovulation so that I can get pregnant since the marriage has not produced a child yet. I am so confused that I resorted in going to church yet not changes and I think I want to leave the marriage because I am so said. Pls advice me it's urget