₦airaland Forum

Pharaohny:
Ok answer this question if you were to reside in another country , UK or US will they ask you to book a return flight all cos of unnecessary tradition, Secondly if there daughter were to be married to a white man will this tradition still hold?

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Hedgefunds:
Did you marry from EDO...seems it cultural.

Justkatty:
I heard some culture practice it...that when it's time to give birth, she must go back to her family and deliver,then stays for few months, when it's time for her to go back, the husband brings things to the family to appreciate and goes back with the wife.
Dear op it's a simple thing, just make sure she's not taken to all these native places to avoid complication.
I believe it's just a matter of 3months, she'll be back to the house BUT ensure you visit often to ensure all is going well.
I wish her safe delivery.

Esthered:
I delivered with my husband in Benin but ran after 10 days to Lagos to be with my parents.
E dey sweet you as it's your first but if na only 2 of you, it wouldn't be easy o.
I was happy I left as I had enough support from family.
There's a enough time to bond with the baby.

ChybuzzDD:
Explain what??

Is her father's house a hospital?

You guys should stop encouraging this kind of stupidity and arrogance.

Acidosis:
There is nothing to understand. Every married man deserves to experience and stand by his wife during the pregnancy journey. If complications ever arise, a medical practitioner will be the right person to visit.

When married men are talking about their wife's experiences in pregnancy and child birth, na so you go close mouth like mu.mu because of weakness and see finish?

Wujio:
I'm not your father plz. Stop treating your wife's family like enemies and sometimes see help as beneficial not acrimony

Kobojunkie:
You say your in-laws said, but what is your own wife saying? Are you able to be there to help your wife through it and afterward? Or are you of the mind that she can do it all by herself?

2. Why are you asking the house? Is the house married to your wife? You and your wife ought to come together to decide who will do what, when, and how. And whether it is best she goes stay with her parents or whatever. Why you dey ask strangers who know nothing of the capabilities of you and your wife in this?

fyzaila:
There's nothing wrong in what her parent are insisting. In the north here, it's very common. And besides, op is it not less of a burden for you? Atleast she would be well cared for and not much will reduce from your pocket.

Acidosis:
You people will destroy the family structure las las. Why are they insisting? Is the mother/father a maternity nurse, a medical doctor, or gynaecologist?

Has your wife not started her antenatal clinic visits? Do you live in a village where doctors and clinics don't exist?

Two things are involved here, they probably don't trust you enough to give their daughter the best care or they're trying to carry out some spiritual stuff. This is why you should be careful.

mexxy1:
First, she is YOUR WIFE and it's YOUR CHILD she's carrying.

NOBODY has the right to decide for you where you want your child to be delivered.

The mother can come stay with her when it's close to the EDD unless she had her antenatal close to her family residence then, it's fine for her to be close to the hospital/clinic. But, if that's not the case, she's your wife and the child is yours and the responsibility is yours.

If they won't come visit because she didn't stay with them to deliver, then let them stay in their house. Unless they're the ones paying the hospital bill when she delivers.

Wujio:
It doesnt. Its you the man that determines everything. But dont see everything as attack. Tell them you prefer to have your child at your place and that her mum can come to her at your place. That this is what you prefer. Ot is your right. But dont see them as enemies is what i am simply saying

Mhizzard:
here,you are the husband in which you are the head of the family and whatever you say concerning your wife as a matter over the unborn baby it is the final,that is if you paid her dowry.let them understand you that in your family you don't practically do that.

MS247:
Ok, you asked a good question.

But please let them take the delivery and be present, they may not declose everything to you about their family history

Mhizzard:
There is something more to the excuse the woman is given.if your wife has an elder sis that has been married,ask her if she(her sis) went through the process.

MS247:




You have a daughter, raised her for 365 days , 25 years , cloth her , loved her , watch her grow

Then she is pregnant and you requested for her to deliver close to you

And

A Man who from no where met her less than 5 years paid some dowry and feels he has exclusive right over her



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Wujio:
Why are you hell bent on fighting for nothing. Many ladies first pregnancy gets on the wrong road. Many ladies give birth to defective kids in first attempt or the life of the first child is dented. They havent done wrong. Their care is in your interest na

AskProf:
Is your wife married to you?