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My wife don born here with me.


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LithiumBa3:
I don't know if the topic I used is write but I have this problem bothering me, that I would like to seek solution for, my moniker is popular in this forum so I decided to create new account for some security reasons.

My wife is pregnant and my in-laws are insisting I bring her home to deliver, I have asked them reason for this, they said because it's her first pregnancy, that they wants to take care of her.

Although I'm against this proposal but each time they call they keep insisting on this and I'm getting tired over it.

House I need you guys to look into this, is it right for her to go and deliver in their house or stay with me and deliver.

Please I need urgent and matured advice and for record sake her bride price was fully paid.

Mynd44, RoyalRoy

Is your wife married to you?

Why are you hell bent on fighting for nothing. Many ladies first pregnancy gets on the wrong road. Many ladies give birth to defective kids in first attempt or the life of the first child is dented. They havent done wrong. Their care is in your interest na

AskProf:


Is your wife married to you?

I stated that at the last paragraph

Wujio:
Why are you hell bent on fighting for nothing. Many ladies first pregnancy gets on the wrong road. Many ladies give birth to defective kids in first attempt or the life of the first child is dented. They havent done wrong. Their care is in your interest na

Those it mean married men their wife deliver first child in their papa house?

Talk to the elders in your family, are you Mal treating there daughter, does she ask for Suya at night and yogurt early in the morning and you are not taking care of her craving.. Just have a family meeting. They might have there reasons...

You have a daughter, raised her for 365 days , 25 years , cloth her , loved her , watch her grow

Then she is pregnant and you requested for her to deliver close to you

And

A Man who from no where met her less than 5 years paid some dowry and feels he has exclusive right over her



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MS247:
You have a daughter, raised her for 365 days , 25 years , cloth her , loved her , watch her grow

Then she is pregnant and you requested for her to deliver close to you

And

A Man who from no where met her less than 5 years paid some dowry and feels he has exclusive right over her

But she agreed to marry him ... The ladies family can come and do omugwo that is all ...It is the man's responsibility to see and protect his seeds..

LithiumBa3:


Those it mean married men their wife deliver first child in their papa house?

It doesnt. Its you the man that determines everything. But dont see everything as attack. Tell them you prefer to have your child at your place and that her mum can come to her at your place. That this is what you prefer. Ot is your right. But dont see them as enemies is what i am simply saying

Babangidapikin:

But she agreed to marry him ... The ladies family can come and do omugwo that is all ...It is responsibility to see and protect his seeds..

I pray nothing bad happens during child delivery if not the O.P would explain tire

MS247:


I pray she nothing bad happens during child delivery if not the O.P would explain tire

I agree that's why he needs to know why they are demanding to take care of her .

In some places it's compulsory for their daughters to have their first child with them

There is something more to the excuse the woman is given.if your wife has an elder sis that has been married,ask her if she(her sis) went through the process.

MS247:




You have a daughter, raised her for 365 days , 25 years , cloth her , loved her , watch her grow

Then she is pregnant and you requested for her to deliver close to you

And

A Man who from no where met her less than 5 years paid some dowry and feels he has exclusive right over her



.

Bros be calming down, for me to bring this topic here is just for me to know if it's right not like I'm trying to be strong head, after all this is my first time of hearing this, my sister never delivered at home.

Mhizzard:
There is something more to the excuse the woman is given.if your wife has an elder sis that has been married,ask her if she(her sis) went through the process.

She's the first daughter and besides is both the mother and father that are telling me to bring her home.

I'm not spiritual person but I'm afraid that might be something they are not telling me, because I never heard before married woman go her papa house to deliver

LithiumBa3:


Bros be calming down, for me to bring this topic here is just for me to know if it's right not like I'm trying to be strong head, after all this is my first time of hearing this, my sister never delivered at home.

Many ladies have issues with first child birth that goes beyond the knowledge of the husband. Many is tied to spiritual that the husband woyldnt even know. This.is where the womans family brings the wealth if experience to support the process. Young men who dont know the process always run fast to give opinion against the womans family. But it is to the best interest if the man. Trust me i have been there. I know a smart young boy that is ten years deformed because what would cost just 2000 Naira the man and woman fidbt know nor do deformed the child.

LithiumBa3:


Bros be calming down, for me to bring this topic here is just for me to know if it's right not like I'm trying to be strong head, after all this is my first time of hearing this, my sister never delivered at home.

Ok, you asked a good question.

But please let them take the delivery and be present, they may not declose everything to you about their family history

MS247:


Ok, you asked a good question.

But please let them take the delivery and be present, they may not declose everything to you about their family history

We are a bit far, I'm planning to take her home first week of December that's if I later agree on their plea then return back to my base

If it's a traditional right in her place pls let her go, this is common with women from some parts of Adamawa state, all firsts are born at home. Do ask for the reason and tell them to tell you the truth, also ask people from her family and village.

The thing is if you refuse and anything happens to their daughter during her first child birth they will put all the blames on your head. In fact it could lead to a big war.

LithiumBa3:


We are a bit far, I'm planning to take her home first week of December that's if I later agree on their plea then return back to my base

Ok, Good luck bro

Please the place for delivery should be somewhere with professional medical personnel that can care for the mother and baby. Is her father's house a hospital?
May God preserve your wife and child.

LithiumBa3:


She's the first daughter and besides is both the mother and father that are telling me to bring her home.

I'm not spiritual person but I'm afraid that might be something they are not telling me, because I never heard before married woman go her papa house to deliver

here,you are the husband in which you are the head of the family and whatever you say concerning your wife as a matter over the unborn baby it is the final,that is if you paid her dowry.let them understand you that in your family you don't practically do that.

First, she is YOUR WIFE and it's YOUR CHILD she's carrying.

NOBODY has the right to decide for you where you want your child to be delivered.

The mother can come stay with her when it's close to the EDD unless she had her antenatal close to her family residence then, it's fine for her to be close to the hospital/clinic. But, if that's not the case, she's your wife and the child is yours and the responsibility is yours.

If they won't come visit because she didn't stay with them to deliver, then let them stay in their house. Unless they're the ones paying the hospital bill when she delivers.

Wujio:



Many ladies have issues with first child birth that goes beyond the knowledge of the husband. Many is tied to spiritual that the husband woyldnt even know. This.is where the womans family brings the wealth if experience to support the process. Young men who dont know the process always run fast to give opinion against the womans family. But it is to the best interest if the man. Trust me i have been there. I know a smart young boy that is ten years deformed because what would cost just 2000 Naira the man and woman fidbt know nor do deformed the child.

You are talking nonsense.

Acidosis:



You are talking nonsense.

Ive trained over eight kids from infancy. A few are married

You people will destroy the family structure las las. Why are they insisting? Is the mother/father a maternity nurse, a medical doctor, or gynaecologist?

Has your wife not started her antenatal clinic visits? Do you live in a village where doctors and clinics don't exist?

Two things are involved here, they probably don't trust you enough to give their daughter the best care or they're trying to carry out some spiritual stuff. This is why you should be careful.

SUPERPACK:
If it's a traditional right in her place pls let her go, this is common with women from some parts of Adamawa state, all firsts are born at home. Do ask for the reason and tell them to tell you the truth, also ask people from her family and village.

The thing is if you refuse and anything happens to their daughter during her first child birth they will put all the blames on your head. In fact it could lead to a big war.

Nonsense takes like this is why everyone should do their research before entering some families.

Take her home ko, take her to village ni. So if this man and his wife were living in the UK, would the tradition demand the same arrangement?

@OP, you better confront your fear else you and your innocent child will live in eternal bondage.

There's nothing wrong in what her parent are insisting. In the north here, it's very common. And besides, op is it not less of a burden for you? Atleast she would be well cared for and not much will reduce from your pocket.

Acidosis:


Nonsense takes like this is why everyone should do their research before entering some useless families.

Take her home ko, take her to village ni. So if this man and his wife were living in the UK, would the useless tradition demand the same arrangement?

@OP, you better confront your fear else you will live in eternal bondage.

When casala burst now you won't be there to save OP from his in-laws. Give him your number so he can call you if wahala start.

SUPERPACK:
When casala burst now you won't be there to save OP from his in-laws. Give him your number so he can call you if wahala start.

Now you're already showing "fear." The number one sign of a weak and defeated man. At this point, I'm sure you will donate your d.**k if an idol ask for it.

Emancipate yourself. Nigerians give birth across different continents without having to travel to some village to meet the demands of a drunken idol.

fyzaila:
There's nothing wrong in what her parent are insisting. In the north here, it's very common. And besides, op is it not less of a burden for you? At least she would be well cared for and not much will reduce from your pocket.

Does this explain why many northerners don't travel abroad? Of course, apart from elites like Aisha Buhari's daughters, Zainab, and others who give birth in the UK?

Communicate with them and sort it out.