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CrazyMan: Here are my solutions...

1. Avoid reading immediately after a meal, if you must eat before reading, I would suggest you take fruits.

2. It could be as a result of you being nervous; your exam is next month and you're not sure if you're fully prepared for the exam or not. (In this case I would suggest you relax your mind so as to get rid of any form of distraction and gain concentration)

3. Try to understand when its most convenient for you to read...could be late at nights, afternoons etc.

4. Time yourself...Reading should be done in bits for better understanding (eg. Read Chapters 1&2, then you take a break, ponder on those chapters and ask yourself possible questions; and be back to finish your task).

Good luck.

Highly appreciated.. God bless

donroxy: I know you failed some papers and thazit ....

But you have to get yourself together so as not to repeat same zhit .... Is it ICAN ?

Not ican, it's CIIN exam for insurance brokers

donroxy: you need a break simple also maybe you have failed some papers before and your psyche is being discouraged !

Take two days off and do other things that'll make you happy and come back strong !!!

You are so right. I failed some papers the last time, now I can't concentrate.

insidifyguru: Hi Lomy. There is a technique called the Pomodori Technique. This technique helps you focus on whatever task you need to focus on for a particular period of time while maximising that time spent focusing on the task.

Here's how it works: you need to study yourself and find out the single stretch of time that you can go on reading without your mind wandering or feeling any of the things you mentioned above. If you find that it's after 25mins of 'serious' reading that you begin to get distracted,just schedule your timetable to read only for periods of 25mins at a stretch. After each 25mins (which signifies 1 Pomodori),you MUST take a 5 or 10min break from reading and do things that are not in any way related to reading.

This will help you maximise the time you spend reading and you'll find that you are able to retain and recollect a very high percentage of what you've read. I wish you the very best in your forthcoming exam. #Insidify

Ok, I will do that. Thanks

Darteyyyy: Let's turn the tables around now... You're single and searching (assuming) then you meet a guy who's this little definition of perfect and he won't proceed all in the nw of "we're just friends".... It won't be good

May I never be friend zoned by my future wife.

Lol...that's true sha. I don't blame you anymore

Shady98: it's cuz if over reading, i remember when i was about to write jamb,i started reading 3 months to the exam and when it was about a month to write it,i just suddenly felt repulsed by reading, i couldn't read newspapers, novels.. name it.i just got tired,i gave myself a two weeks break and then i tried reading about 2 weeks to the exam and discovered i had regained my reading spirit.so i think you should give yourself a break for like a week and not do anything related to reading,at least that's what worked for me.

Ok dear.. I will comply. Thanks so much

Darteyyyy: @lomy @shegxi.... You can't expect me to be friends with a beautiful girl that has everything I'm looking for while I'm single. My holy book forbids that.

Hehehehehe... you see what am talking about.. you are one of those guys.

taiwoawoniyi: Well,it happens when one has 'over read'. It has happened to me after several months of reading,my books suddenly became repulsive to me. My advice is that you should take a break then size-down your reading into smaller bits. Meaning,if you used to read for two hours,you should read for 30mins till the zeal for reading gets reignited. Above all,don't forget to ask baba God for guidance. Pray as if there is no book and read as if there is no prayer. Works like magic for me and I hope it does same for you. My humble opinion. Shalom

Thank you so much.. I appreciate

pryd: Oh I understand, that was why I earlier stated it's crucial the 'boundaries' are defined and accepted from the beginning because sometimes we send conflicting signals or we only see(feel) what we choose to see(feel).

God go help us... amen

I have a professional exam next month but each time I try to read I feel like throwing up, no reading appetite again..
Pls friends what could be wrong? What do you suggest I do?

*if you view this thread without giving me a solution, God is watching you*

pryd: LoL... must you like him? should he be hurt because he feels you don't like him? do we expect to be liked by every human that comes our way? were your demands/desires different?
His action shouldn't stop you from doing what you feel is right for you. You come first!

Since he likes me, he automatically expects me to like him too. I kept trying to be nice to him and my niceness made him think we are dating.. until I told him we are not.

pryd: Yeah it's quite understandable that such might rob off as being rude but if your intentions are genuine you can't be too bothered about what he/she thinks.
Before you are pressed to read out rules to a new friend, something must have necessitated it. Something must have created the need; either your perception of the person or past experience. The two aformentioned reasons can't be faulted.

Past experience is my reason. And the so called guy said all sorts of things and later deleted me from his bbm contact list, his reason being that he likes me and I don't like him.

shegxi: gud dat u dodged d conscious or unconscious part of my post bt d sad reality is dat we attract our like, sometimes without knowing it ourselves.

You misunderstood me. My point is that why is it that most guys/ladies can't have a relationship with the opposite sex with no strings attached. And not abt what you attract.

shegxi: gud dat u dodged d conscious or unconscious part of my post bt d sad reality is dat we attract our like, sometimes without knowing it ourselves.

Lol... I didnt

shegxi: dn't take dis wrongly, my intentions are clear. Do u believe in d saying dat we attract our like?? Consciously or unconsciously.

No I don't believe in that. it doesn't work all the time. It's just fate. In the magnetic field, even like poles repel and unlike poles attract.
We don't attract our like all the time

pryd: I strongly believe individuals(male&female) have the 'right(freedom)' to make different demands in a relationship/friendship, it is left to the other party to respond. People are in relationships/friendships for various reasons and they make certain investments to achieve such targets.
You certainly don't have to read out a list of rules to every new friend; but like you hinted, what if that new friend ain't wise enough?

Clearly said.. and when you list out your rules for this new friend, he terms you rude and unfriendly..

shegxi: lol....do u just have a problem with guys or u have just bn unlucky wit d wrong ones? D last time i checked, shallowness is nt gender-based. Or is dere somtin ur nt tellin us?

No I don't have problem with guys.. what else do you want to hear?

shegxi: @lomy, it's so possible but at d risk of sounding judgemental, most people are very shallow dis days(guys and ladies). U have people who can't even hold intelligent conversation for 30mins, wat do u den expect?

Lol.. true sha but most of them are guys.

Guys can't have a straight chat/discussion with a babe without asking "do you have a bf?" and when she says no, the next thing that follows is "can we see? I want us to discuss something important" or some naughty guys will start toasting the babe straightaway without seeing her..

pryd: They truly exist but boundaries must be clearly defined and accepted from the onset. Ofcourse it doesn't seem as easy as it sounds( tell me what's easy); but just like in every sphere of life discipline must be embraced.

I understand. But must I always define every friendship/relationship? Must I always tell every guy that "hey I don't want to date you, let's be friends". Guys should be wise enough to know when a babe wants a relationship and when she just wants a friend.

Darteyyyy: It depends...

Depends on what?

pryd: Sure it's very obtainable.

I hear that each time but haven't seen or witnessed any.

leeport: hmmmm .... there is always a disconnect when u see this kinna attitude from guys, u are not complused to conitnue relating with such person if he requests for wat u cant offer .... in otherwords,meet guys state ur terms to which u wanna relate with them and if he is pleased with it .. Good for you, if not ..... be gone . SIMPLE !!!

Must I always state my terms to every guy? That would boring then.. whenever a guy meets a babe that is so nice and free with them they just spoil the whole thing by asking the babe out..

leeport: sure

I need such friends then..

Nice piece.... true words!

[quote author=utchaydaman][/quote]Lol.. you keep replying yourself. Chai!! God go help you.

Can't a lady and a guy be friends with no strings attached?

Doclight: thank u. Nice thread. Same motive, pls p.m me

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Or via my email, lomyop@yahoo.com.
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