₦airaland Forum

Dizzyyish:
Comrade, your observation is exactly on point. But you see that bolded? You'll be surprised how deep it is, like philosophically deep. Otto Weininger wrote about this phenomenon in-depth in women in his Sex & Character (and that book is from a century ago, notwithstanding the ones from 1000s of years ago by Ancient Greek similar subjects). It's funny how men of today say "You can never understand women." Very funny. If men of old didn't understand them, they wouldn't have handled women the way they did and there wouldn't be any literatures on female nature.

Lemme just post a page about that interesting bolded that Weininger discussed (it's a bit verbose but bear with me).

Even Einstein divorced twice. It's not by IQ, women are a unique set of souls!

Fahvvy:
Next time you hear women say "all men are cheats", remind them that 1 man cheated on his wife as against 400 + women who cheated on their husbands with evidence! ...

Gbamsolutely

SETHARTHUR:
Is Nasarawa State rich in mineral resources?

Lithium is there!

Hmmmm

Hmmmm

OgaTheTop2:
Your airport experience is a big lie! In all my years of traveling to Nigeria I have never witnessed, seen or experienced travelers slipping cash to officers to skip the line. So many airport lies against our custom officers are so terrible...Omo, naija people!

Same here. I came around in July, the Airport staff showed good professionalism.

Capitalism!

Just say Tinubu strikes out suit....

richmond500:
that settles it that Jesus does never existed.

He is a make belief character in the biblical story

Jesus exists, and He is Lord.

richmond500:
Bruh, we have been inviting Jesus into the life of this country, that ur Jesus has completely snubbed us.

Ask yourself, is it really Jesus they've been inviting? Or they are projecting self into an imaginary being they assume to be Jesus?

saintkel:
No one wants to Identify with a country like Nigeria...d corruption is just so much

Besides, she ran away from it like everyone else. No one runs away from a good thing.

durentboi:
pls i don't believe in dis Jesus crap. Sorry to say

Jesus is not a crap, sorry. Without Him, you may but keep trying. Goodluck.

Since you acknowledge that you have a problem, it is half solved. The next step is to invite Jesus into your life.

Dubai landlord on the beat!

South Africa: a country I will not visit even on an all-expense-paid trip. Sometimes, they behave like subhumans!

That should carry nothing less than a death sentence by the most gruesome means permissible by law.

lereinter:
You have been so blinded even mental blindness that you don't know the people that ruined this country

Is it Atiku that destroyed the naira

Is it Atiku that destroy the economy

No bokoharam, bandits, kidnappers during obj Atiku time

During obj time which Atiku Abubakar was VP, that was the best time of nigeria and nigerians

Now people can't afford road transport, buy food, pay rent

You people who support evil will not see 2025

Read "My Watch" for a start; you may be an infant then.

yemmit90:
I actually stop reading where he said he would've manage resource of the country very well by cutting down government expenses. Atiku and manage resources can never be on the same page, so he is simply lying.

The reality is that, all these old politicians including Obi can't move the country forward.

Exactly

Floky215:
Dangote is part of the problem in Nigeria.
The guy is a very greedy criminal..he literally built the refinery with Nigerian money and now trying to squeeze her citizens even after giving all to him.

Same thing he did in kogi, the state government took loan for the cement company and to be called Kogi State Cement Company but the thief went behind to change the name into dangote and sell cement at high rate for people in the state, cement is cheaper in Kano than kogi state...!!!

We need military in this country and that refinery should be seized as Nigerian property.

No capitalist has the welfare of the people at heart...anywhere in the world!

National Security Adviser indeed!

TOPCRUISE:
They have proffered to Tinubu government that one of the ways to prevent youthful Nigerians from japaa is to devalue the naira so as to increase travel costs.
And it’s working.
All of you work stay at home.
Courtesy of T-pain

But people were using our Form A and Form M for useless things. The country became irredeemable. However, nothing has changed in terms of suffering.

WizardOfNG:
Precisely. Rhetoric, start to finish, for a power hungry desperado who believes it is the right of his ethnic group to always be in charge of Nigeria despite the horrendous mess him and his kinsmen have made of their home region where Northerners now constitute 87% of the most poverty-ridden Nigerians alive today.

This is a man who luxuriated in Dubai for the 8 years Buhari was president , and totally lost his voice in that period, now pettily attacking PBAT daily.

Yes OO. We no go school and no sabi what is really pushing and motivating "born to rule" Atiku who has suddenly found his voice now a Southerner is President.

Exactly...it's sickening having people who ruined this country presenting themselves as Messiahs!

Speaking English and saying nothing!

Melagros:
COMRADES, Mary Jonathan and Mark Jonathan, residing within Zaria Road. Zaria road in Jos is a Muslim dominated area, therefore it is obvious that it was a case of assassination/ homicide carried out by the Hausa-Fulani assassins.
When will these northern people/settlers allow the good people of Plateau State to enjoy peace in the state?

Hwollaza is a purely Christian community.

Nicenixon:
Being a professor at the age of 25 is not possible in Nigeria at all. Your lecturers will be the first set of people to kill that dream no matter how intelligent you are. Nigeria educational system needs to develop seriously, when a student deserves merit, the student should get the merit.

It's equally ALMOST impossible abroad. You go from pre-tenure, tenure, associate, then full!

RealityKings:
What did I just read
A laptop you should use to Improve your life, you want to sell it off so that you can give another girl?

Doesn't she have a family? Doesn't she have a father and mother?

The other woman that bought the laptop will help you grow. The other one will only leech off you.
Instead of selling it off, bro just return the woman's gift.

OP, this is the best advise you'll ever get on thos issue. Don't joke with it.

Afodot0022:
Good morning and happy Sunday to my nairalanders fam and happy new month.
I know so many of you will have clue about my history here and my stories, if you don't, kindly check through my profile. This forum have helped me to navigate some difficult situation especially on marriage, even though I still get bashed and insulted, I can tell that I still get genuine advice from matured and experienced people here. It's all about taking the wheat from the shaft.

I and my wife had been separated for almost 2yrs and reason was that I saw some chat on her phone that she was having emotional affair with another man under my roof, I sent her away due to this and have been leaving my life since then, the kids have been with her and have been taking responsibility over them, recently she took my kids to her parents without my approval due to her traveling for months and now that she is back from the official trip, she had refused to pick the kids from her parents place to start living with her, that was the recent issue we both had and up till now, the kids still stay with her parents instead of her.

I have tend to move on concerning this matter and we have already had an agreement concerning the kids welfare and the rest. They are just 7 and 6yrs.

I married traditionally and ever since we separated, there had not been any formal divorce and the bride price is yet to be returned. Now it happens that I and my wife started chatting back on Whatsapp and my reason for allowing this was to know the situation of my kids and to keep track on them, but in those chat with her, I could see some form of remorseful from her and some calmness from her to the extent that she pleaded that I should forgive her for all the wrong she had done to me . I was surprised to see all this write up from her cos I never expected her to apologize cos of her over bloated ego. In her write up, it seems she want us to resolve our differences and come back together as family but I wasn't buying that.

Now my question is to matured and experienced men that have gone through this particular situation of separation from you ex wife, does it worth it given such woman a second chance knowing what lead to the breakdown of the marriage, she had an emotional affair but didn't caught her having sex though, is it worth forgiving her and taking her back, I just want to be sure I won't regret these cos I don't know her true intentions, we have been separated for two years now and I asked her if she have had any sexual encounters during those period, she told me she never dated or had any sex during our period of separation, I am finding it difficult to believe that, how can a woman that was once married and separated not feel the urge to have sex for almost two years. Pls experienced
married women in the house, is it possible for a woman to keep herself that long, I am assuming she is just using that to make me feel good about taking her back.

TBH, I still care about my kids cos they are my focus now and if I will be doing this, it will be for my daughters cos they have really been through alot during this separation, they have been staying with their grand parents and only God knows what they are passing through there.

I just want to know if it worth it given the marriage a second chance again despite everything that occurred or I should just move on with my life and forget about her and just take responsibility over my kids cos I don't want to regret this move, pls men that have gone through something like this scenario, kindly share some advice and tips on how to navigate through this situation. I know I will be bashed by some but will still appreciate honest opinion and advice from both gender and especially from experienced ones. As it is been said, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know . Pls all advice will be welcomed and well appreciated.

Print a simple wedding card with another woman, and send it to her. Tell her you're getting married to another woman and as she can see, the card is out. Then you'll see the serpent in her. She's just pretending. But when she truly repents, you will know. B.S., I don't like divorce.

Dizzyyish:
You know the funny thing? She will only respect you when reject her (read it again).

Women won't openly say it, but deep down, they know a man that will accept her back after doing what she did is weak. They know this, but they'll obviously still beg you because of the benefits they'll get from being with you.

Women will punish you if you forgive them.

That's why I often urge men to understand female nature. When you do, you won't have contemplations like this.

I agree.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Her education is a waste. Leaving your marriage because your husband took a second wife in Nigeria? She should continue living in delusion. This is Africa not Europe or America.
The same way we reject same sex union is the same way the West reject polygamy.

The irony is she will be living off married men going forward.

Baldwretch:
I hope you are joking even tough your username says you don't joke.



No, actually, your username say you joke so I hope this is not a joke.



Putting away your three wives is the height of impiety masked under religious piety.

What you just said is not a divine command.

Polygamy itself is not a divine prohibition and how much more a man who did in fact married women when he is not a Christian.

If you truly understand the nature of GOD and the nature of women, you'd very easily understand why God did not forbid polygamy in ancient times.

Read the law of God. This time carefully and repeatedly, from Genesis to Deuteronomy. If possible, like four or five times.

This is why Jesus rebuked the Pharisees and Saducees. They heap rules on men that they themselves cannot lift with a finger. From such, we are expected to turn away.

Afonja44:
For low IQ entities like you that are used to social media tomfoolery amongst the doltish horde you worship as "celebrities".

This isn't Speed Darlington vs Burna Boy or Bobrisky v Portable where insults and baseless accusations are thrown around.

This is high stakes politics and IF the stripper decides to escalate with Elon, it better be with HARD facts otherwise her career will DIE on the spot. Even in her response, she merely propped her upbringing up, being careful not to insult. They don't patronize idiots over there.


Rest pikin.

Seconded!