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tstx:
Best ive seen on Nairaland so far..

Wish you guys all the best.. Btw, your lady thick gan Exactly my spec.... These Curvy African celebrities got nothing on her....


Do you own a business, see my signature.

funmisticqueen:
my own way up is with my legs closed

funmisticqueen:
love is for poor people who have no grasp on reality and no plan to secure their happiness.

That love you feel is just an endorphin rush, chemicals running amok in your body which would soon run out, true love is a decision you make everyday, so why not fall in love with the top of the food chain and let him reciprocate.

Truthsweet:
A messenger of truth.

please sir you need understanding otherwise you might learn the hard way that a person without understanding is a greater pussy....believe me.
please also note that I am not criticising your actions for saying the truth of your matter because it is true you have strength to recover from hard cases in life but your weakness might be very subtle to understand .
criticism of any such can be deadly ...search within.

peace.

funmisticqueen:
ladies avoid this one, he has no future and he will definitely cheat.

funmisticqueen:
it is our type real men crave for, i see past the agenda broke men pursue on social media

ranksz:
Good to hear. At 13 you knew what was right or wrong and even handled it perfectly.
But I can see you are in support of a 16 yrs old that is screaming he was molested. I hope you know that a 16 should be strong enough to physically match and female of any age?

I don suspect una.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
This your experience wins the medal

jmichael259:
waiting

boyfwend:
Thread closed.

UyaiIncomparabl:

sherylbakky:
At least, 100k monthly, if ur wife is also working and earning something...if not, 150k at least...things ar very expensive nowadays. As 4 wedding plan, it depends on the tribe of ur wife, cos if she's igbo...hmmmm, even a million might not be enough

SBL28:
Sadly, she's right. Not all men remember the women that built with them, managing with any guy is a risk.

ImaIma1:
E get problem with everybody

CHESTER48:
I have only believed in one thing, which is marriage in nigeria is highly overrated. My advice for you
Get a matured girl who is working either in a bank or big organization,earning atleast 40k salary. With your 60k salary it will be 100k. Remember it's not just getting married you're building a home which means, you need to rent a house buy furniture,TV, refrigerator.you get my point.

Then limit your marriage to either traditional marriage only.to he'll with the white wedding. If your woman insist she can help u fund your white wedding.itlf u plan 500k.she can bring 250k and then u 250k.after all the marriage is for both of you.and she wants to be with you. So?

Main point here is your woman should be working. And earning money period.

Igbokiller:
too bad.im not the one to blow my trumpets online.always have being ,always will.


so get back in line,mediocre.

Igbokiller:
so shallow and dumb minded i abore such thread and the first thing that comes to the goat mind is i cant eat three times a day


not like u know what ambition and glory is.so go back to planning marriage with ur petty earnings.ode ur age mates and i are running after how to break a record in life ,u are planning how to marry with a bsc and chicken change




i get time sha

Igbokiller:
disgusting thread

funmisticqueen:
is bright future written like a halo round his head. You my sister are a Bob the builder, you will help a nigga with 'poortential' such as wilfredpat22 and ubunja so that when said nigga is established, he can finally pursue the woman of his dreams after outliving your usefulness. The only things a woman should look at is results, not prospects and a 'bright future' if not, you risk being unhappy in life and passing 'loser' genes to your children.

rottennaija:
Bros, that thing is all about good understanding between you and the perspective spouse. Even if you earn say 40k, you can still get married, but it is important to marry someone who is working, at least for support.

In terms of the cost of the marriage, it depends on the family, if the family is understanding enough, they can keep the cost low, of course some families wouldn't want to, which on that case, you may want to reevaluate your priorities. Personally, I will do one, either traditional or wedding, not both. Marriage is marriage, either traditional or wedding, the important thing is you start your own family legally. What is important is the marriage not the occasion in itself.

But if you are waiting to earn 150k before you get married, you may end up marrying at age of 40 and, like a friend I have said, 'you don't want to be training your children with your pension instead of your salary'
thanks bro.
You just have to make a decision and stick to it

courna:
easy na....

you get problem with op before

Wilfredpat22:
Are you here to seek advice, or chyke a lady asking irrelevant questions or looking for front page by posting and replying multiple times.

I bet you are still unemployed and drinking garri with your mother under third Mainland Bridge

stpat1:
Oga forget that thing. Dont come here sounding like a victim. At 16 years of age you should know your left from your left and should be able to resist and defend yourself. Its not as if you were forcefully raped. How can someone molest you at 16? Were you that dull?
At 16 I was already done with Sec school.

SBL28:
It depends on the particular guy in question. Yes, if he has the important qualities I want in a man, with big plans and a bright future.

khingTony:
well, it may be tough, but there are some people who earn less yet, still able to manage it

SBL28:
In my opinion, my opinion o, for this Nigeria wey we dey, you need to be earning at least N150k per month before you consider getting married.

toyflare:
Warning! Long post alert!
Men get molested, and we hide it because it's either unbelievable or sounds ridiculous. My life as a kid until adulthood wasn't funny at all. First, it was the neighbor's housemaid, I was about 7 at that time and my parents were busy with work so I had to stay at my neighbor's house after school till our house maid is back from school. One day I went there, the maid called me into the kid's room and took away my clothes, made me lay down and did things I didn't understand as a child. It was confusing, and I really didn't understand what she was doing but I remember she was on top of me unclad swinging back and forth. This continued after a while, then I told mom. She didn't understand me, so I stopped going there myself and our maid told my mom she met me outside when she came back from school. I guess this made her believe me, so I had to wait in school then.

Then I was molested again by my own friend f4cking best friend turned gay! I was 10 then, and my friend was 6 years older. He was enrolled in a boarding school, I guess he learned the shit from there. When he came back he would always come to the house as usual when I noticed when we play, he touched my genitals and I wasn't comfortable with it. One day I went to his house, he was alone and locked up the place, said he wants to show me something in the room and I followed him. He went to the kitchen and brought a knife, told me to take off all my clothes or he will stab me. I was like haha very funny and he started swinging the knife and told me he joined a cult group and I shouldn't dare him. I was scared as fvck, took my clothes off with speed, he ordered me to lay on the bed and started the thing (can't go into detail cause it makes me sick) but I cried so much. Then after it he was like don't worry, you will start enjoying it soon. So I stopped going to his house but he kept coming to my house and I would lock my self inside the room and my dad will come knocking that my friend is here and I should come out. Then he started begging me that his not in any cult group, but was attracted to him. I didn't care to listen to him! So one day he came with a fancy toy and told my Lil bro he got it for him, but won't give it to him unless I followed him home. So my Lil bro asked me to go get the toy for him and I refused so he started crying, I couldn't tell him what was going on. He was very little at that time and wanted his toy, so I agreed to go, but my plan was to take the toy and fight with my friend if he tried anything stupid , so I went with my brother (my friend lives across the street) but when we got there he insisted I come in alone or he won't give it to me. My brother was like okay I'm going home . So I went in and he locked the door, I asked him for the toy and he said he won't give it to me unless I let him touch me again, I said no!!! And headed for the door, he grabbed me and pushed me to the chair I tried pushing him off but he was very much stronger than I was. Long story short, he did it again, gave me to the toy, I went to him, gave it to Lil bro and he hugged me. I went into the room and cried seriously asking God to forgive me. But it didn't stop here, it continued for years until I got older and strong enough and fought him one day before it all ended. Up till now, I still haven't told my brother what really happened.

Then again 3 years ago I was raped by my church group leader! I won't mention the church. This woman is married and older than my own mother! All her 3 kids are schooling in the UK! Her husband is a manager in one of the top oil companies ( Name withheld). At my workplace, I was working in the customer care sector and meet clients daily. Lots of sugar mummy's wanted me to be there son, some told me directly others where hiding about it but opened up later. This woman was just good to me and at the same time always preaching to me about Jesus so I didn't suspect her in any way. She invited me to her church because I just moved to the state recently and didn't have a church at that time. So I started worshipping at her church, so one day she invited me to her house fellowship and I went, after the fellowship she asked me to wait behind so I could help her tidy the place and I did before I left she gave me 4k for TP, I refused but she insisted so I took it. I kept going for house fellowship every week and she always gave me TP (4k, 6k, 10k). Every time I asked her why she gave me so much just for transport, she will say she's encouraging me because she knew I wasn't earning much.
So one day I went for house fellowship, as usual, I stayed behind to arrange the place, then took the plates to the kitchen. I noticed someone walk into the kitchen and turned off the light I was like, ma did you off the light? She said yes. I said okay... But I'm still using it, she didn't answer me and kept walking close to me then suddenly hugged me. I just stood, and was like ma is there any problem, she said no! And kept hugging me. After a while she let me go and I rushed off the kitchen and started gathering my stuff to go home. But when I wanted to open the door, I noticed it was locked! I searched for the keys and it wasn't where it supposed to be. I started calling for her and told her I couldn't find the keys, she said she kept it in her daughter's room I should go there and take it. I went there to look for it but couldn't find the keys, so I told her and she said she's coming to get it but she didn't come out, she was inside her room and refused to answer me. I stood there thinking of what to do next, then my girlfriend started calling me! I told her I just left the fellowship and she was shouting at me that it's almost 11 pm and I'm not back yet, I pleaded with her that we had a meeting blah blah blah. I ended the calling and started calling madam to come open her door let me go home for christ sake. The woman no gree, I called my roommate and told him the situation of things and he told me not to worry, I shouldn't answer my girlfriends call again, he will call her and tell her my phone was stolen and they beat me up but I'm home sleeping.
I was there waiting in the sitting room till past twelve before she opened the door almost unclad and was smiling at me. At this moment I was already angry asked her to open the door let me go and she started shouting at me before I knew it she slapped me! And my body went cold instantly. She said I should forget about going home today except I do what she says. Then the next minute she started begging me that she's sorry, she's lonely and needed someone to talk to. I couldn't say anything, as she was begging her hands were already going inside my Jeans. I was like Ma please I beg you in the name of God please stop let me go. I started preaching to her that she's married and this is evil the woman stood up and started crying that she's sorry it's the devil's hand work.
At that point, I thought everything was fine but I need to leave immediately! She told me the key is in her child's room and where to get it. I didn't trust going into that room alone, but I went anyway, the key wasn't where she said it was. And I as I was about leaving the room to go tell her, she's already at the door, then walked in and closed the door. She told me I can't go, and she hasn't had sex in a long time, so If I don't want her to tell her husband I raped her I should allow her do what she wants or she will call her husband and scream on the phone.
My eyes flashed before my eyes again, I tried talking to her again and she started calling him on the phone and put it on speaker phone so I can see she's not playing about it. I thought of going to prison and losing my job and worse ending up in the news. Then I accepted on the condition we use protection, she already had everything with her, even a lubricant! Then I knew she planned the whole thing. The sad truth is at that time I was still a virgin and never had sex with a woman.

Again sorry for the long post, but before you ask what's the name of this movie I really don't care if you believe it or not! And if you think it has no physiological effect then you're very wrong. I'm very withdrawn and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone. I have no friends! I don't ever near a church or want to hear anything about churches. (she attends a big church and I see her on TV sometimes singing praises). The moment I see an older woman I look at you in disgust, and before you say anything I'm already hating you. It's been years and I'm battling depression, so I need sleeping pills to sleep properly. At some point, I turned to drugs and later stopped because of its effects physiologically.
Being forced against your will to have sex is rape! And men get raped too and I don't think it's fun when it's a woman your mother's age and if that's a fantasy for you then you need to get your brain examined.

highpriestess:
That's what you think.

highpriestess:
why should i do that?

highpriestess:
monthly earnings.