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I fully appreciate all your comments, I also accept the criticisms in good faith. I agree that I made the first mistake when I still remained in the relationship then even when he told me about the other lady, I should have called it quits immediately after he told me but I felt I could win him over completely and I was succeeding till the pregnancy issue came up. So for now, I have decided to let him go (painful but possible), and focus on Mr. B.
thanks everyone

Hello Nairalanders, I have been a guest for quite a while now, had to join the family because I’m in a dilemma, can’t and don’t wanna share it with anyone I know and I am sure whatever I get here will be just as good.
My story: I am a 25 year-old lady residing in the south-south of Nigeria. I met Mr. A in 2013, he was a very wonderful guy, he came onto me really strongly and wanted us to have a proper relationship and possibly get married but I wasn’t warming up to him as at that time because I had a relationship I was trying to maintain so all his pleas fell on deaf ears although we still kept in touch till early 2014 when I finally decided to give him a try after my other relationship failed. I did and I never regretted doing so, he had become super rich (I swear I didn’t know how rich till I got really closer and I am not a gold-digger, I hustle too), things went well till he told me he got himself a girlfriend while I was stalling and their relationship was 2-3 months older than ours although she was in another city and there’ll be no interference. We got along very well and life was great until the lady in question got pregnant for him few months later and she said she was gonna keep it, she wanted marriage and she had announced the pregnancy to his mom already; although he kept saying he didn’t want her and he still loved me but come on! I just knew it was time for me to go, I cried and prayed, wished for the clock to roll back to when I first met him but that wasn’t to be, so I tried my best to push him to the back of my mind.
Fast-forward to 2015, we met again earlier this month, lots of stories but bottom line is: due to some issues that I wouldn’t want to share, things didn’t work out again between them, baby was lost (I’ve got no way of ascertaining if there was actually a baby) and he’s currently going through some personal issues; the attraction is still very much alive, I think I’m even as desperate about ‘us’ as he was in 2013 (not obviously though just that my imaginations have been running wild) but when I asked him recently what he wants from me now, he just said he wants us to be friends for the meantime, I’ve died a thousand deaths since he said it because I just couldn’t wait to love him again and share his current issues with him but now I just feel I’ve been told off. Now there’s a really serious Mr. B in the picture, I am not really into him at all but of all the guys around me he has been the most persistent and he even wants to make it official as soon as I give the word; I like him but I love him not. I was considering him prior to when Mr. A came around again because I am yearning for my own family already and I’m telling myself I could grow into love with him (he has put up with plenty drama from me though and he’s still Mr. Nice Guy).
My Dilemma: Do I wait for Mr. A to come around and want ‘us’ again or push the feelings away and try my best to accept Mr. B??
Kindly help a sister out, I need really matured advice please as they will help me in decision-making. Thanks family