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amazinghands:
I relocated to the United States about eight years ago. My relationship with my dad has been strained and continues to deteriorate.

Background:
I grew up in a lower-middle-class family with both my mom and dad working hard. Everything changed when my dad started earning significant money. His newfound wealth led to a lifestyle filled with parties, women, and alcohol (to be fair, he earned his money, so he had the right to spend it as he pleased). He built a hotel and was barely home afterward.

2010:
While I was in college, I wanted to leave Nigeria due to the incessant ASUU strikes. I told my dad I wanted to study abroad. Initially, he agreed and gave me the funds to start the process. I was admitted to a school in Ukraine and secured a visa, but he later said he couldn’t afford to send me abroad. This decision felt contradictory, as his lifestyle said otherwise. (To be fair, it’s his money, and he has the right to decide how to spend it.)

2016:
I got admitted to a master’s program in the U.S. and approached my dad for help again. He told me to "cut my coat according to my size" and said he couldn’t sell any of his properties for the sake of a child studying abroad. (Again, to be fair, he was right—he had already paid for my college tuition in Nigeria.) Around the same time, he married another wife.

On the other hand, my mom sold her only piece of land and some jewelry to give me half of my first semester's tuition. After involving family members, my dad reluctantly gave me ₦400,000, stating that was all he could afford. I thanked him for the support.

Fast Forward to Today:
I struggled and worked odd jobs to make ends meet, determined never to ask him for help again. Over time, I’ve become financially stable, secured a good job, and am now a permanent resident. I give my dad a monthly allowance and occasionally send more during festive seasons. My mom, on the other hand, gets spoiled with gifts, extra money, and I’ve even invited her to visit and spend time with me in the U.S.

Now, my dad is broke and has suggested I buy him a car and increase what I do for him, despite the fact that my parents are separated and he currently lives with his second wife. I’ve told myself I won’t go above and beyond for him, especially since he chose to prioritize his lifestyle and the new wife (who came with a stepson). I find it hard to reconcile his past decisions with his current expectations.

Am I in the wrong here?

cococandy:
Oh I love this

GloriousGbola:
Try truth dolphins reddit. That will likely take you through a deep dive with references.

GloriousGbola:
Just Google the truth about dolphins

abduleez1:
Omo, shey you know say Dolphins were my favourite sea animal while I was growing up. I too like that animal like mad. Not until few years back when I started uncovering the evil side of those creatures.

No sea animal comes close to the nastiness and vile creatures of dolphins except prolly Orcas. Funny thing be say both of them na the same family. Pure evil creatures. And they're both painfully cute. Both show that psychopathic trait of always smiling towards humans.

I've always known Orcas to be wicked but I was served ice cold breakfast learning the ways of bottle nose dolphins.
One deduction I have as to why dolphins are mostly "friendly" towards humans is cos the w@nkers recognises game. They see their behaviours in humans and know we're the № 1 Apex predator.

Acidosis:
1st experience:

I lost someone on the first day of January this year while traveling to another state. A few months later, I saw him in a dream, and we exchanged greetings. In the dream, I was fully aware that he was no more, and I knew I shouldn’t be seeing him, but I wasn’t scared. After we greeted, he asked if he could get 20k from me, specifically mentioning that he wanted me to give it to his wife for light bills and a little extra for her to buy something. I didn't read much meaning to it cos I was also grieving this period.

But the most shocking part of this experience was waking up the next morning to find the first text I received was from his wife, sent using her late husband’s WhatsApp. She had never texted me before [You can already tell why she texted].

CaptainZubi:
Low key I want a ww3 too

Acidosis:
Ah, this is difficult to believe, but I won’t dismiss the story just like that. While I do believe that spirits exist, I honestly cannot confirm that the spirits of the dead physically communicate with the living. Through dreams? Oh yes, I’ve had at least two "accurate" encounters this year alone. I left those parts out because people wouldn’t believe me.

blaise26abj:
If this is true , something must be wrong with the brains of democrats . A nuclear power like russia will blow the hell out of Ukraine . They want to cause the death of many innocent people in Russia and Ukraine . Thought this was the mentality of Republicans . Now democrats have taken the war mongering role .

Dpharisee:
It means that Russia could decide to apply Israel tactics against Palestinians of carrying out a Blitzkrieg and destroying everything instead of the current pace where they apply the rules if engagement.
With that Russia will capture more territory faster.

This is also a direct attack by NATO against Russia because the satellite guidance and targeting systems will be operated by forces as Ukraine lacks that capability

Solseal007:
You can't give ppl what they don't deserve!

cococandy:
I love anything with coconut in it

cococandy:
Nice business idea too

cococandy:
This is the cycle every time.

For the last 50 years, republicans will ruin the economy and democrats step in to fix it. That’s why it’s obvious anyone who said they’re voting for Trump for the economy is either a big fat liar, a band wagoner or someone with the memory of a fish.

Republicans on average always have net negative job growth and all the negative markers of a failing economy. If they are so good at leading, the republican states won’t be the lowest rated in education, highest In poverty and lowest in healthcare access. What they want is to keep holding onto their hate and voting that way while benefiting from economic prosperity that California and the likes bring to the country.

If only everyone could live strictly under the govt they voted for.

FashionCookie:
Like, I've noticed this thing about Nairaland. The other day, men were asked this question. The ladies left them to it.
They are now asking women...them bros don dive enter as their usual character. If no be woman wrapper dey worry them, I no know the name to call am again. And not on this topic alone. They're so fond of doing this. If you think I'm lying, check other threads.

FashionCookie:
Them ask women question. Nairaland men carry am 4 head. God forbid, I never see una type before.

GloriousGbola:
good God almight

yum yum

BlindAngel:
So I'm the first person to get a woman pregnant? Wizkid that impregnated 4 woman how many did he married? Millions of men that did same, how many did they married??

RealityKings:
What happened to your main moniker