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Proserpina:
Like! It's crazy!

Honestly, what I've learned is choosing a partner is way deeper than what we think. Craziest part is qualities to look out for keeps changing everyday.

I don kukuma talk am no matter how much I earn the man must provide. That percentage thing is not for me. I used to be an advocate but these Men don't deserve it.

cococandy:
Sunday roast with mashed potatoes and veggies

MonsterVerse:


I grab one with faith.. 😁

Cousin9999:
Are these madeleines or a soft baked cookie?

cococandy:
I know that stage very well . They want to be involved and independent at the same time.

Will do😘

cococandy:
This is so neat. I love it

Is was thinking of a spider web chocolate cake myself

achimendy:
Am not making sense because you're not getting the point. The person I replied too is the one who brought up this talk of marriage not benefiting men and I replied her by telling her if she know the reason why we have more widows than widowers in our society she will know that marriage benefit women more than the men.


Secondly, men that doesn't benefit from marriage are those who got married to demon-like, selfish and heartless kind of women that's why they end up not enjoying their sacrifices in their family over the years. But that will not be my portion , i will seek the face of God so he can direct me to my beautiful, God-fearing, loving and caring woman that will be my wife. And that's what every sensible men should do to reap the fruit of their labour, not this creation of a movement that seek to destroy the other gender or cause confusion. Marriage is sure and good for anyone if they get the right person not a Jezebel.


Hope you dig?

cococandy:
Exactly. He’s making little sense

They claim marriage doesn’t benefit men but they’re here huffing and puffing about women choosing not to marry.
It’s almost like what they dislike is the idea of women making their own choices.

If we all want to marry their response will be “No no Women don’t deserve it”. Men shouldn’t marry us because they don’t have anything to gain.

If we choose not to marry. Then we are evil 4B feminists.

achimendy:
If you know the reason why we have more widows than widowers you'll understand and see why marriage doesn't benefit men.

Secondly, am not against any 4B movement, my point is that this is Africa, western culture has no place here,thesame way African culture has no place in their society too. We value our culture here in Africa and we live by it. But if feminist like you that are looking for equal rights in the society and the family don't want to get married pls kindly remain single, marriage is not by force.


I just pity this generation of women cos majority of them will end up in tears because of their foolishness. Instead you people to be praying for God to give you a good, loving and understanding husband that will be there for you, y'all are busy creating a nonsense 4B movement that won't see the light of the day. The worst part is that majority of this women depend on their man to survive e.g Nigerian women.

cococandy:
Orzo. scrumdidliumptious

achimendy:
It looks perfect. while I was growing up my mum does her part by bathing and dressing us before taking us to school, sometimes we go on our own cos we are 5 in number, then she comes back to continue preparing for her business because she sells food in one of those secondary schools in town. So after that she move to her point of business where she sales food till in the evening wen all of us go to her place of selling to eat our Afternoon food and also continue to help her with her business till we come back by 4pm or so. On my dad part he leaves the house as early as 8am in the morning to his shop where he does his technician job till in the evening by 6PM before he returns. To be honest it wasn't easy for both of them, cos sometimes I see it in their eyes. My dad escaped death twice because of the nature of his job, he always deal with gas. It got to a point my mum had stop instruct we the boys to go to our fathers shop and help him. It wasn't easy I won't lie. But as we were growing up we started helping out, my elder sister start doing anything that has to do with cooking in the house so my mum relaxed a little bit in that area. Sometimes my dad if his free he do cook for the house too, he was one of the people that encouraged me to start cooking on my own.

So that's just how it works, but it wasn't easy for both of them until we the children start playing our own role too by helping out. But there's never a day my mum and my dad quarreled because he or she is not helping each other out, rather is we the children that must do our work and if we fail my mum report us to our dad for serious punishment. So that's just it, everyone with his own role to play in the family, like I said it's not easy but you have to do what you have to do to keep the family going, it's called responsibility in English language.

Capernum:
Foolish counselor. The Bible calls you miserable comforters.

Always quick to advice women to leave their matrimonial home to join there league of divorcees. I know you're a divorced yourself or a soon to be divorced wife... Because no reasonable honorable married women will ever advice another wife to leave her marriage on trivial issues as this.

I just assume you're not single. Because, if you not single, marriage isn't for people like you. Steer clear of marriage.

Dear op. All you have said are still workable with wise wisdom counsels. Just pray for wisdom.

achimendy:
Pls shut up. Ya'll bunch of lazy craps, nobody forced ya'll to get married, if you're not ready to do what marriage says then don't get married. Simple.


If you understand what division of labour is in the family you won't be typing this nonsense here.

ValCon888:
He thinks he has said something wise and profound, but he's just a simp displaying his simpishness to the general public.

The fact that you need your wife's approval to take a second wife shows that she's the man of the house.

jify:
Forgiveness is not in his dictionary. Why I prefer to keep quiet is that if I voice out my concerns, 2 months down the line, he would use it to mock me, or say things that make me regret ever speaking up.

If I say something like I'm not happy with the way things are, he would use it to mock me years down the line. I tell him things about a sibling, normal husband and wife talk, when he is upset, he uses my sister's situation in mockery. So I don't talk about anything at all that gives him opportunity to insult me. I told him of how my dad spent time marrying women while we were growing up, in mockery, he used it to insult my mother.

Even in talking to him about my concerns, he picks up every single point and lets me know it's my fault. I have never felt better talking about concerns, I always regret it. So I never raise it up, he knows that even if I'm dying I won't voice out. Even when he took me to a marriage counseling committee, and I voiced out some of my concerns, later on, he used it in mockery. So for my kind of person, I withdraw into my shell and lock up.

I hate drama and publicity. He doesn't mind creating drama out of everything. In other not to have drama and neighbors gathering to ask, I lock up.

MonsterVerse:


That dude just want to blame his wife for certain reasons, but doing nothing as you mentioned above is impossible for a woman not to engage in single one thing over their..might be biggest lie.

MonsterVerse:

See how far you went to, he doesn't mean nothing as doing nothing though..

🤔

Akalia:
She does nothing but I don't mind. However, my frustration is that this woman does not take correction and instruction. She does not appreciate my toil under the sun. I work my ass off on a sailing basis to bring good money back home at the end of the month but all she sees are my deficiencies such as not always helping out in domestic chores, being romantic on her own terms, and being assertive.

I can go on and on. Man, I am even thinking along the line of separation for now but I have two toddler sons and that is what is withholding me.

Women are impossible.

decency17:
This is the summary of women's lives. They expect the man to do house chores instead of spending his time, energy and creativity in working and critical thinking to openup new frontiers of greatness for the family. Just laziness. Most of my married friends have the same problem with this lazy generation of women. I'm facing the same challenge too. This is why the society is falling. Take it to the bank, men build the society while women build the home.

Akalia:
You are the only wise man on this thread. You just captured my ordeal in marriage in your submission.

richmond500:
There are people that believed this news from world bank but won't believe that the reforms by this administration will help the country from the same world bank.

They just love bad news only

LadyExcellency:
Next year or two, when it appreciates to N1200, they will call it the best-performing currency.

The World Bank and IMF deceived Buhari and Tinubu into destroying the economy and degrading every social class in Nigeria.

hkidola00:
whats ingridients