Wao. So beautiful.
Some people get too much money in this country why are the majority in poverty?

DonroxyII:
Very Captivating & Enriching !!

The Psychological Needs,

Sensual Needs

Street(Wild-Madness) Needs

Sexual Needs

Physical Presence

All affect Stability in a Home ....

[b]Unfortunately, Most Men are Only Good on "Money-Making" Due to Poverty Background & [/b]The need to Become Rich is as Important as Air We Breathe But All Others Needs are Abandoned Meanwhile, Most Women Couldn't Managed "Gap"/Lacuna" in a Man Especially in this Well exposed Contemporary Realities, Otilor ... It's Gone

Yeah. Very right

duruZed:
Also a woman/man that do not have regard for God is more likely to cheat.

Yes. You're very right. Some people don't see se.x as anything anymore. They believe it can happen anytime, with anyone available and anywhere.

Before, once a young woman is going into marriage, it's a subconscious believe that her body is strictly for her husband alone, but over the years, the narrative has changed. Most husbands have abused this grace and so many men have pushed Their women to the wall, that today, the consciousness and sanctity of matrimonial bliss is gradually going into extinction.

In as much as I am not supporting cheating in a marriage where the man is good to his wife the following are my opinion

1. Lazy husband
When a woman is married to a lazy man who can't provide, always giving excuses and manipulative. He keeps pushing her to handle all the responsibilities. She has to pay all the bills all in the name of the man is jobless,
this particular wife will likely cheat on her man, because women generally love to see their men being the head that provides for the family.

2. Se.xaul Need
Some men are so clueless. You don't care about her feelings, during se.x, once you're satisfied, that's all. You don't even want to know if she is satisfied too.
This particular wife will definitely be longing for a day someone will make her feel it to the fullest. The person might not be you.

3. Companionship
It's generally proven, once you have someone you can tell everything to without feeling ashamed or scared, the possibility of you comfortably having se.x with him is very high and if that person is not your husband, then you have cheated.

That's why most people ended up sleeping with their bestie or childhood friends.
When there's too much empty space in a marriage where the both parties don't experience that companionship, once she find it in someone else, either at work or anywhere, she will cheat on her husband.

4. Ungrateful human
This particular wife, does not keep record of any good thing her man do to her. She's an ungrateful human, she's selfish and a bad person. No matter who you are to her, no matter what you do, she will always focus on herself alone.

5. Revenge
The man is cheating and hurting her. So, to have her sanity back, she cheat back.
Some women cheat on their husbands to feel better from feeling of hurt and bitterness from their husband's bad behavior. Some will go as far as sleeping with your best friend, house boy, gate men, your Boss at work to make you feel disrespectful.
Evil they said brings evil. Good beings good as well

Add yours, so we can keep learning

Pecoleee345:


Ehya happy 30yrs anniversary in marriage.

Common sense says Only a married niccompoop will give judgment based on one side story without asking questions.
If am crying about my marriage here is it your cry?? Abi I come meet you for advise or open threads on NL about my marriage??

Being married is bleeping big deal and only married people knows.....Only someone in a shitty marriage will say otherwise.

Honestly, you need help. Venteing your anger on everyone is not going to help you. If you feel hurt, divorce her if you can't because of your children, try and forgive and let go. For your mental health.
Why acting as if you're stuck in a hurtful marriage and don't know how to attain peace of mind?

Karleb:


If they end up dead due to the abuse I'm sure the husband and children will do very fine without them.

Osinachi's husband can answer this correctly.
Children always suffer

Karleb:
You don't love women at all. If this is your solution to the problem, it shows you are a cheat.

How does one even get stucked in an abusive relationship?

Unless you are ready to die, disregard this lady and walk away.

So, you want to claim you don't know several women are in abusive relationship/marriage and stucked? Some can't even divorce because their partner's wouldn't let them. Some can't walk away leaving their children behind.

BronzeTiger:

How are you sure the next guy won't even turn out worse than the husband? The grass isn't always greener at the other side. She should just leave the man and see how she can take care of the children not desperately going into the next arms she sees.

You can never know until you try. Alot of women think all men are bad/ the same. They subconsciously assume all men are like their current partner.
Until you meet a man who loves, adore you and make you feel beautiful just the way you are, you will never know what you're missing.

Adaisback:
I kind of like you. You are a blunt and straight to the point person and you are a very honest person. You are a rare type even though I don't agree with this your cheat back of a thing but one other thing about your write up is the fact that you are right on what so many women do go through in the name of marriage.

Yeah. You don't have to agree with my write up. Once you're married to a loving and caring man. You must love and respect him. You don't have to cheat on him. But if otherwise, then .............

Lazy men indirectly love a cheating wife who is footing all the bills. Shame on a woman who cheat to provide for her man. If you want to cheat, do it for yourself alone

descarado:
So many men out there like this in Abuja.
You will even fuel their cars. Cars you bought. He is the landlord of the house you built. Who willeven know cos society is cruel to women who decided enough is enough.

Sad reality.

frozen70:

If I really understand what you pinned down here, you ate actually talking to yourself and not really advicing other women here

What works for you may not work for others

So, just do whatever you feel like, it's your life

Let others do whatever they want

Every woman already know what to do if they find themselves in such situation

Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Pecoleee345:


Once again I agree........I treat her badly by providing food,shelter,setting up a business for her,paying house bills,accommodating her 2 siblings for 2yrs etc.

I don't do anything in the house I just wake up
She brush my teeth, she wash my ass after using the toilet, dress me up, spoon feed me and I go out.....when I come back she does same everyday....lol

Am a lazy log of wood that does absolutely nothing in the house apart from providing money.

Hmmmmmm. Women dey suffer. Imagine

parcydrix:

The husband *freely* sleeping with the wife has gone to see her parents and family, paid her dowry, brought her to his house and they have been joined both by God and man. If anything happens to the woman which of the men would be held responsible? You are encouraging the woman to be sleeping with different men outside and selling her body. What's the difference between her and someone doing hookup. Do you really think that's the solution?
If the man should pick up and start doing well should he accept her back? You are funny

Why does it hurt so much when men heard about a woman cheating on her husband?
Men do this everyday and people don't take it like a serious offens

Beverlyjean:


U are calling someone else bitter. While u are a bitter misandrist

I'm not going to exchange words with you. Have a lovely day

My dear, you are not Jesus Christ that can change people. Even God does not impose himself us.
Any advice given to you, will be difficult for you to take, because there's emotional attachment including the child included.
The truth is, a man you're baby seating to have direction for himself at 38yr, will eventually stress you. Besides, why living together with a man you're not married to? It's enough mistake you had a child outside wedlock, but moving in with him shows lack of self value.
How can he demand another child from you when he has not done the proper thing?

Baby girl, the way you carry yourself, is not far from how people will treat you.

If I were your husband, I will never take you back. How can you return back after 5 different men have rejected you?
A good hard-working husband deserve a good and well behaved wife.

Messina123:


Nah. My mum wouldn't be out there embarrassing her husband because of small setback if it even happened. But judging from your utterances, your mum bullied your father at home

Lol

Pecoleee345:


Ehya .....if you have a man that married you, feeds you,put a roof over your head,set up a business for you,accommodate your 2 siblings for 2yrs...i guess you will feel sorry for yourself marrying him.

Lol

You really deserve an applaud. But you still need to let go of some hidden pain and forgive her completely

Pecoleee345:


She will gladly choose this enemy in her next life.

When you get married someday you will understand till then your opinion is just comic relief.

Lol. But i didn't tell you my marital status

Pecoleee345:


My two babies oooo.

That what I labour on.

See someone's husband. An enemy in disguise

Messina123:


Bitter truth say you be olosho. Na you e affect not me.

The normal word used on women. It doesn't remove anything from us.
Including your mom, sisters, girlfriend and your wife or future wife. Olosho is not a hurtful name

Pecoleee345:


See emotional blackmail..........

Don't worry I will get them locked up or break there head.....Hope that fine by you.

She is married.......are you married???

Lol. If she discovered the kind of man she's married too. She will feel sorry for herself.

So long as she's kind hearted, willing to learn, appreciate little effort, genuinely love and respect you, you can give a try.
Marriage itself is hard work. There are so many challenges. You both must be willing to make it work. Otherwise, .........

Messina123:


You really be olosho

Bitter truth. Many of you don't want to hear.
That was how one jobless man left his pregnant wife in an operation room. All because he couldn't afford the bills leaving the woman there to source herself out. Thank God for the medical team that came to her rescue. So many women have lost their life all because they keep giving their body to men who can not save them in critical condition. Shame

SINisSIN:
No. She didn't narrate her husband is abusing her emotionally or otherwise. She is emotionally bitter because the husband is jobless and not meeting up to his responsibilities.

Trust me if the husband gets a job tmwr now, and start doing his responsibilities financially, all these her bitterness will disappear. Infact, these same sex she is depriving him, she will still be one begging him.

Women that are financially capable and not struggling will hardly come out ranting about their husband jobless because they have enough resources so the man himself is not a burden to them financially just be answering them when they need sex.

This lady is a struggling woman maybe with a meagre salary hence the ranting and bitterness.

3 years is a long years to find a bearing expect of course cases of village people matter.

Back to your "NO", you people do have sex with your jobless boyfriends so what is stopping her with her husband that married her legally?

There's a great difference between a husband and boyfriend.

condensedmilk:


Then [b]talk to his mom [/b]and don't pressure him to do regrettable things

So that the poor woman will do what? What kind of mindset do many of you have?

Pecoleee345:


PTSD....LOL...... you are just cooking things up in your head.
She is even beside me as I type.

What Op is doing isn't a bad thing............is just the thrash talking am against.

Isnt only lack finance that makes one complain in marriage, there are several aspects of marriage.


Once again until you are married you won't understand.

You're excited when faceless people even call her name. God.
I feel sorry for the kind of man she got married to.

Mille:


That's the problem with many women.

They feel sex should be only be done when they feel like it. The man's need are inconsequential. Later they'll turn around to accuse men of sexual indiscipline.

If a wife doesn't want to have sex, that's fine and she should not be forced. But I see no reason why [b]a 'hardworking man' [/b]should not have sex whenever he wants. Not even in this Nigeria where pussy is abundant.

Thank God you said a hard working man. Not a sit at home man doing nothing.

SINisSIN:
You mean for the past three years, your husband has been home doing nothing? Not even small farming? Take up driving job or anything?

Well, stop doing too much. As a married man, it is my responsibility to take care of my home.

Lol even during annual leave, I found it weird staying home all day, weeks doing nothing even though salary is coming in steadily. I mostly do drop and take up some delivery jobs.

Just see yourself as a single mum. Normally, a single mum will hustle to pay her rent, clothes and feed her kids right?

If you have the means of providing food for him, keep doing that. Anything personal needs of his, don't attend to it. Your focus should be on your children. The truth is, the more you keep complaining, the more bitter you become.

Don't stop having sex with him. He paid your dowry right? You own him that!

Marriage is not easy, it requires hardwork from both parties.

Will I get marry in my next life? No please even though my wife is not an headache but mehnn.

Your point of view is awesome, but the bolded. No. That should be based on her feelings and consent. No woman wants to have se.x with a husband who abused her emotionally.
You have to treat a woman right before she can willingly open up herself to you. Be yee her husband or her boyfriend.

condensedmilk:


single ladies always rushing to throw in advice into people's homes.

Better close your wide mouth

Where are there?

Pecoleee345:


Bitterness........lol

Once again only unintelligent people believe in one side of a story without asking questions.


I didn't open threads to complain about my wife cos am not hurt and will never be hurt.
Till we die people we love will always hurt us and that a fact.

For the past 3yrs the man nevee dropped a single kobo or not contributed to the house upkeep.


This isn't sentiment but just stating fact..........whatever you women lack is your husband fault is a shitty mentality.

But for someone to come on a public forum to pour her heart, it shows she's been wearing a hurtful shoe for a long time and probably tired