dingbang:
still young and wana explore. Don't fall in love bro. Just go with the flow. Be a casanova

Smiles. To be candid, i'm planning on getting married soon. The problem I'm having now is the Bride.

morningstar55:
The guy isn't your problem,i strongly believe if you ask your girl what's up that guy...she'll say we are just friends...na so e dey start,your best shot is to let your girl know how you feel about seeing them together and you shud be blunt about it.If she doesn't change,you know what to do already,you shud channel your energy on better things

Thanks

dingbang:
how old is she

She's 24

dingbang:
Never ever take girls seriously..

Honestly for a long while,i really haven't taken them seriously. Now I'm ready to get serious with her because she's so in love with me. Like I don't rest. She's always calling and wants us to see almost everyday

Fernandowski:
Bestie.......

Be scared bro.... Be very very scared

How do I make him back off??

I met this pretty young girl in camp, she was this very friendly girl who was so free with guys. We got to know each other and now we are dating. I told her about her creating boundaries since we are now dating. She agreed and now the relationship is going smoothly.

But then there's this dude who's really on her neck. He keeps calling her and they chat a lot. We went for our clearance and they were both gisting and laughing. I was talking to a dude and next I saw her holding the guy round his shoulders laughing.

I got quiet and acted like nothing happened. Had to call her attention to this now and she was like she was sorry that she got too playful. She promised it will never happen again.

I really do not know how to make this dude back off cause we talk. But not really a friend.

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ekhai:
Arsenal just cut my five pounds ticket. Ordinary draw Arsenal can't get in Wales? Wenger leave this club alone

Take heart bro. U aint alone oooo. They have finished plenty peeps sha

Arsenal always breaking peoples heart since 170BC

What youve written up there doesnt show a proof she's cheating.A good,nice girl will definitely attract men

dump him

Too bad. RIP

Thanks for this Sir Jeffrey Jamez. I already planned on putting the little savings I had as a friend who's into it convinced me to invest i

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realpoacher:

You are a lost case. Experience they say, its the best teacher.

I rest my case.

Alright. Good you had to rest your case. I know what im talking about bro

realpoacher:


With this kind of reply, its suffice to say that your MUMU no get part 2. Useless boy don fall in love.

Say na my clique you dey. We know how we dey take resolve your problem. Na to gather beat you until you sustain injury wey you no go ever forget for your life. After that we organize different oloshos wey go fuccck you die. Then your lovey lovey brain go reset sharp sharp

Oga calm down jor. Not every gal is same. I've met several and I can still say we have 2% outta 100 that are diff.

bigcp:


u are welcome my brother...i understand ur plight....i knw how it feels...I was once in school 2...i graduated frm d university in d yr 2011...so believe me wen i say i understand....
just mk ur book ur priority...every other thing can come later....

Bro,Im indeed grateful

Dicedpineapple:
Funy enuf,afta all dis plenty advise,Op myt still not leave her

Its not dat easy but trying to forget bout her...

bigcp:
sorry to say bro....u are so naive....
4kn ignorant....why would u allow some biitch to determine ur happiness or sadness....

bross...most young girls (expecially students who thinks they are still very young to flex life while in school) are biitches....u better be wise....i wonder what kind of pussy ass niggas our mothers are birthing these days.. (SORRY 2 SAY)...
u are still young, still full of life...and still in school...so my lil brother...don't term ur priorities around a girl (a student biitch)...because 90 to 95% most times they'll dum ir sorry as for some total stranger ( a cuter/richer dude)...because most ladies are confused...they don'tknow what they want until its 2 late....especially d money conscious ones... (sadly most of dem are money conscious )

next time....try as much as possible not to mk any girl...expecially students....ur priority...just hv fun without much emotional involvement...else girls go ruin ur life on campus...they can bring a 1st class student down to 3rd class...no matter how intelligent n wise d guy may seem to be....(especially if d guy de act like u) they are CGPA killer...

Enjoy ur campus life...study ur books...hv fun...meet n make new male frnds (na dem go help u in future...not all these biitches u call good girls)...d sooner you start running shows without much emotions( d better 4u)...d sooner you'll realise life is less complicated without girlfriend in school...
GOOD LUCK

Thanks bro

slimpoet11:
You are a rookie. Only a rookie will fall "helplessly" in love with a girl and give her everything she asks or requests for. You became desperate
When you give a lady all she requests for without noticing corresponding loyalty from , her interest in you will naturally wane.

As a guy, you have to learn these art of making a lady yearn for you. Becoming too available by always being there at a beck and call will make her lose interest. You should have maintained a balance. You became a conquered territory. It's only natural for her to lose interest.

Now my advice...
Maintain a distance from her for a while till you regain control of your emotions. It's for your own good. It might be for weeks or even months. Stay away till you take charge of your emotions. I understand you love her. But extremities are not good. almost killed yourself because you became hopelessly and helplessly attached to her. It's very important as a man to think with both your head and heart in matters of love. For now, you think only with your heart. Your brain is currently in the cooler. Once you regain emotional control, you will think clearly and make the right decisions for your future, whether to stay or not.
Of course, I know what I am asking you to do is hard. You will most likely take the easy way out - flowing with your current emotional attachments to her. But you will only subject yourself to more hurt in the future.

In the meantime, relate with other ladies to spread the emotions. Occupy yourself with other activities you love. Spend time with friends and family too. That will take your mind off the pain gradually.

Thanks

aiir2303:

Mean! You're unbelievably naive. You trusting a lady that much Shows you don't actually know how they're wired. Total trust In One's blood not to talk bout a stranger is sometime foolish and can be fatal irrespective of gender.

I knew this kinda comment was gonna be made. Thats y I said I knw its somehow saying he isnt bleeping her. Trust me bro,I dont trust ladies one bit. But dis gal here,He isn't!!!

OVA200:
The advice 1StopRudness gave you if na me I go collect money before I give.

Best advice of the century.

Smiles. it shows we have good Nigerians. Money no be everything na

bamisepeters:
Your conclusion isn't the best i think, it is completely erroneous to make such conclusion as what you are thinking might not be what it is. Some girls love to confide in guys with no string attached. Everything isn't about fu**ing you know.

@ maikbanj

My advise is this, stop contacting her through calls and social media. If she want you she will search for you desperately. While you stop contacting her start erasing her from your mind in case your reaction didn't move her a bit. Don't waste your time on something that wouldn't yield great result as there are many better fishes in the river. You can also follow some steps in this link... http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2017/06/5-ways-to-make-him-miss-you.html it will help too.

Thanks for d advise

johnson232:

@ maikbanj u really need to appreciate this guy for his advise.
The bold is the problem with so many guys in recent times...Most guys misconstrue any kind gesture exhibited by any lady as green light, therefore thinking the lady must date them. The way she relates with u, is the way she will relate with any other guy that comes close because it is her nature. I know how difficult it is to forget about someone u truly love, especially this one that seem as if she is your first love. But it is something u must do, because u gonna encounter tougher situation in the nearest future, if u can't handle this little feeling u have for this girl, how will u cope with the tougher ones?

For she to have allowed u to entered the rain should tell u she has lost all sense of respect for u. but u wouldn't see this, because the first thing love does to man is to make every flaws of a lady to become right in his eyes. For the sake of your self respect, let her go, don't try finding ways to get her back, because even if she dates u out of pity, she will never respect u & love without respect is worthless....I know what u are thinking right now....u think u will never find someone like her again...but u will find someone even better, who will respect u & love u....but u have to let go of this girl for your own dignity and honour...I can help u out if u are finding it too difficult to get her off your head....

I think i will address this issue of guys mistaking ladies kind gestures for greenlight soonest...

Thanks a lot bro

1StopRudeness:


She isn't that type of girl?? You are very sure she isn't fvckking him?? What is this one saying??

You sound like someone who has very little understanding of the human nature ....let alone a chic.....
Now see the fact in ur story....

Fact 1: she did not deceive u in any way..she already told u her mind dat she wants u as a friend only...her reasons is known to her only...mayb she's waiting for the other guy, mayby she's fvcking the dude I don't know, you don't know, nobody knows..

Fact 2: u are confusing her nice nature as a person towards u as liking u..hence u see no reason why u guys shouldn't date...

Fact 3: u are in denial....she doesn't like u as much as u think...if she does..on the day u visited her..she would have given the other guy a rain check and stay with you..for crying out loud it was raining..

Fact 4: Your jealousy is Terra bytes..and you like to blame pple for you lack of success...you can't get a chic u like..and u claiming its becos of another guy..as if the guy is using jazz to control her..

On a normal day I would have just said free the chic and look for another..but it's clear that cupid already got u with some of its arrows
sometimes as humans..we need to feel the pain of loss before we start to cherish....

Solution 1: make ur self unavailable for her, no calls, no text, no visit....if she calls make ur words as brief and formal as possible..dont be a pvssy melting like candle any time she's around....If she gbadun you like u think..she'll reset her brain and come around...

Solution 2: when next u see her, make s
ure the mood is right..grab her and kiss her...if she land u correct slap just dey go house and know that's the end...if all she does is whine like a baby..before she get her self within 4 seconds pull her close and fire another kiss...

But u can save urself a lot of stress by just getting another chic...they are all over the place..

Thanks a million bro.I do appreciate your kind words

massive1019:
try and change the girl orientation......then she will have yoour time

How do you mean?? Kindly Expatiate. Thanks

ShobayoEmma:
You are simply not her priority. Guy you are too young to die young; maka look for the one who you both priotize each other.

Abi na. Bros u too much

DrGraveYardz:
I'd advice you forget about her. She isn't mature for relationship issues YET. She might still break up with you for the guy when you EVENTUALLY start dating.

Thanks a lot. Exactly my thought

eezeribe:
She is fucking the so called best friend.
The solution is simple,forget about her and look for another girl.if she really has feelings for you,she might try to stick around out of jealousy,if you have the opportunity,just use and dump her while maintaining your new found girl...Simple.

Thanks for your contribution bro. But,she isn't bleeping him.I know how that sounds tho but im very sure. She isn't that type of gal.I had decided to let go some months back but just cudnt forget bout her. I just have to this time around

Good morning Nairalanders,
Please i'd like a piece of advice on this issue. I'm in my final year schooling in one of the Nigerian Federal Universities. I met this very pretty,tall girl last year. We got talking, became friends after a while and we got used to each other.
I asked her out as I developed feelings.She told me she would just love to remain friends with me.Trust me, this girl really liked me because she told me when she sent one very long message telling me she wouldnt wanna go into a relationship not with me or anyone in school.
Here is where the problem lies. This girl has a 'best' friend who is a male and I know this same guy and his bae too. But ll say he's like a brother to her.Now, whatever we discussed,she always told him and now i'm very sure this guy is my problem and d reason why she has refused. This guy controls her.
What really got me angry was the incident that happened yesterday when I went to visit her. She told me she was going to be free from 2pm. When I got to her place,we really discussed and she really was enjoying my company.After about 45mins, I heard a knock on her door,and this guy came in and called her out. Though they stay in the same compound and it was actually drizzling then. She came in and said she was sorry that she and the guy had a place to go to that she can give me an umbrella to go. I almost ran mad but I quietly told her I wouldn't need it and i entered d rain and left like nothing happened.
Please I need an advise on what to do. I like this girl so much and she does too but I feel our problem is this guy and her too. I really dont know what to do. Thanks

emeka201:


i really thought about this too, but she keeps on maintaining the fact that nothing happened, that she needed to attend a wedding in lekki those Saturdays(which was true by the way, because i saw pictures) and she didn't want to go all the way from ota to lekki those saturdays, so she had to sleep over at her male friends place, one is in yaba, the other stays on the island

this is her explanation

So why did she lie about it at first? until u got evidences urself. I smell lies

Bros,she cant love you and be spending nights in other Guys place. Please do not be deceived. Dont allow her use your heart to play Canterball