Channah1:
Brother lovina, the red flags are staring you in the face but you choose to be blind to it now because of the butterflies in your belly. wait until you marry her and she starts using your properties and valuables as collateral for debts and loans, that is when you'll know if you really love her or not.

A girl who is not disciplined with money can not manage a home well. If she can be running into debts for her own personal needs, imagine when she now has a family. She'll not only run into debts but start doing dubious and even whorish things to meet up or pay back.

Be guided. Don't let mere feelings get you trapped in a mess you'll live to regret for the rest of your life.

OscarJaden:
This is a red flag
I guess she believes she has an ATM machine that once she run into he will dispense at any given time
I will advise that you disappoint her this time around
Don't pay even 1 naira and report her to her parents unless maybe you are scared of her


Than for you to pay that money kindly send the 350k to your loving mother to add to her business or do anything she fills like and watch her pray for you more

2special:
You're the Problem.... You're the one that need Help.

virginprincess:
Op,are you sure Gf don't have mental issues ?,it still baffles me how someone can lend her schoolfees out,it seems her past is still affecting her,op i think you should report her to her family,let them sit her down and talk some senses into her if not if you marry her like that she would kill you with debts.

VirileNelly2420:
First of all, borrowing of school fees is a scope.

If she was a man, I would've said maybe she's into gambling or drugs.
But, a gal, could it be drugs?
Is she d extravagant type?

Or does she mastrubate always, probably with friends while she foot d bills?
Fashion freak?

Am confused too.

Cutehector:
Set financial boundaries. If she doesnt respect these boundaries then a strict discipline should be meted out. Enough is enough

rosalieene:

Ahhh, physical bawoooo

SeyiObj:

Chat me privately

Tap0lane:
For me I blame you but simply because you have poor understanding on dealing with either Nigeria govt official. Never in your life give car keys not yours to them. The only reason they ask for key is so you are a disadvantage.

Tell them next time if they desire to take the car to heaven the owner must arrive, if they cow with towing van which they rarely did except you are park at a ridiculously senseless place let them tow it but never hand the key over until the owner shows up. Personally, I might react the way the lady did but knowing how hopefully govt officials are in Nigeria I might just let it slide.



Thanks so much

IgboWarlord:


It shows they're all lies..Figment of his over active imagination...

Oyiboman69:
like she said ,you bleeped up for allowing them take the car to their stations. Its better you allowed them deflate the tyre or have some little pet talk with them until she arrived or talk them into a coded arrangement by greasing their palms than allowing them take the car to their station...I don't think one needs to remind you that naija is the definition of survival of the fittest.
I believed the money you spent in their office is far higher than the one you would have settled them with... I also sense some attitude of, 'I warn her before' on your path also... To be honest you wouldn't have allowed them if the car is yours.
I'll advised you stay on your lane, or maybe there's some kind attitude of her that you cannot totally ignored or she's you boss...
Just look for a way and maintain your lane for the sake of your sanity ....

Psoul:


I wonder ooo.
Does it mean that our youths don't even have their own wisdom any longer.
Every little issue, they will run to social media to seek for advise.
How will a person that doesn't know what to do in a simple situation like dis know what to do in a family complex issues.

crafteck:


I just flashed through the writeup so maybe missed some points but she expects you not to be docile, i will assume its lagos since you no out direction so she expects you to activate madness when needed, she probably has a husband like that and has seen people doing that, to an extent she is right, cos if not shit like that will keep happening. If you are using just this day to judge her temper you are wrong, she simply expected more alpha masculinity from you.

GodisFirst:
Both of you made the mistake, you should have entered the driver's seat as soon as she stepped down. The deed is done, don't withdraw now but gradually plan and get your own car to avoid ruining the relationship as you said

001spice:
Bro i understand u bt maybe u were scare or something bt i won`t ave release the key to them until the owner of the car come.did u place a call to her to let her know wat going on am sure if u deed that she would have rush out and that would have safe you the attitude she displayed.

Sparkle777:
@ poster, so you kept quiet when u could have driven the car away when they came. You'd have said u just packed to make a call and move elsewhere. Seems u have a bad mind and wanted her punished for not obeying ur orders.
Your type of friends are dangerous cos u even contributed after it all.
You are not a nice person.

AmazingELixir:
Op if joining her to work saves you stress and some quid forget what happened and continue following her home, in no time you will have your own whip to cruise around. Next time try to be more assertive when she's about taking wrong decisions while on the road.

I have a similar one at home her own sasa_sabi nobi here oo and if it goes wrong she blames me for not telling her.

Handling women takes special kind of perseverance. It is not like they are not aware of their excesses they cannot just help themselves it's a DNA thing.

AK481:

One question, if na your car, you go allow them carry am comot for there go station ?

001spice:
maikbanj Bro abeg no matter wat u shouldn`t have let them tow the car atleast atleast till ur colleague come back frm the store

thatigboman:
Op, u made certain mistakes.
Means the lady left her key. Why did u sit inside a packed car? What if it were bad boys that came. They would have carried u and d car.
Why did u tell her that the task force say u should pay N120k? Are u the one that packed the car? U should have taken her to the station, point her car and hand her over to the task force.
Since u knew she packed wrongly, why didnt pack the car correctly when she left, rather u sat inside the car pressing phone. Wasted ur time and ur money meaninglessly for something that has nothing to do with u.

udemzyudex:
OP it is call self respect, if the husband ask you why you've refused to drive her just tell him the truth that's all and stand by your decision.

at least she knows how to drive, whether she bash the car or not is non of your business.
if I'm the one I'll keep my distance hence forth.

IYANGBALI:
If you like don’t go and find your level to go to work, continue to allow your friend’s wife to dey embarrass you because of awoof

Traininghub:

I'm sorry for what you had to experience.
If I were in your shoes, I would definitely quit riding with her, I'll forgive her but make she dey her dey with her car and make I dey my dey with either Uber or public transport, I don't have energy for toxic, incorrigible and hot-headed people. However, I will not fail to greet her, if she likes, she responds, otherwise make we both dey our dey.
Do not tell the husband unless he calls to ask what really happened.
Don't worry, God will give you your own car ehn.

femi4:
Go n get your car. You are wrong to handover the key to taskforce. You should have waited for her to come back. You sounded too soft to be a smart guy

AishaYesufu:
Looking at your thread history, you have been having problem with women since 2016.

In March 2016, you were having crush on your cousin
https://www.nairaland.com/3004031/pls-having-crush-cousins-cousin

April 2016, a girl refused to call you but let you do all the calling

https://www.nairaland.com/3036449/what-could#44512113

August 2016, a girl always come to your room

https://www.nairaland.com/3267792/what-being-nice-caused-me
June 2017, you went to a girl's house and another guy came to take her to his room

https://www.nairaland.com/3879937/what-should-girl#57798557

September 2018, a guy was flirting with your GF
https://www.nairaland.com/4734281/what-guy-flirts-girlfriend

December 2019 your guy's girlfriend got married to another man.

Now this...

Obviously, your problem with women is spiritual

Ninejaywon:
Similarly thing happened to me few years back.

I just told the stubborn woman, ur car has been impounded and I left her to sort herself out, this was before she started talking trash. And that marked the end of whatsoever communication I had with her till today. I don't have time for nonsense.

jelel6:


I know that no matter how you handle yourself, sometimes, things can get out of hand especially when you are dealing with another human being. You didn't do much wrong with the situation of the impounding of the car. That's past now. So, look forward.

But a lil advice that I'll give you is that; if you can help it, let your relationship with people be built from a place of mutual respect or admiration. Don't force anything because you think you have a duty or obligation to them for any reason other than mutual respect and admiration.

You don't need to be overly friendly and forward with a friend's spouse. Instead, maintain a professional relationship with them. That is enough for everyone concern to feel happy and respected.

IF you maintain a professional relationship with your friend's wife, you don't need to say that you won't ever drive the car again, or you won't ride with her again. As long as she didn't give you reason to stop. Also, you wouldn't feel pressured to be friends with people simply because you all share a mutual friend.



I maintain a professional relationship with her. I just feel this is an eye opener. Because she always wanna be in control every time. Saying things like:

Please don't let them scratch my car ooo and all. I just wonder the day something bad may go wrong... Hmmmmm