₦airaland Forum

kolafolabi:
It’s painful not knowing the full reality of her situation. All we can do is continue to hope, pray, and call for urgent action so that she can finally regain her freedom and reunite with her family. No one deserves to spend their youth in captivity.

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Sincerely speaking

SisterAnn:
Did you fall into depression because your Muslim friends didn't acknowledge your felicitation thread or what?.

Mummy see oo 😅🤣

You're mocking yourself, not me

Depression is Real.

No family. No friends. No life

God bless the first lady of Anambra State, however, same cannot be said of her husband.

Life isn't funny under this administration.
Sometimes I feel like kpa-ing myself cos there's no hope. No family. No job. The future look somehow opaque

I want to commend my Dear brothers and sisters of the Muslim/Islamic Faith.
I appreciate you all.

As you embark on this fast, I pray Allah to grant you the needed strength, stamina and zeal to carry on till the End. Also, may Allah grant you every desire of your heart.

Let this moment be a moment of sober reflection. It's a moment to evaluate your life, your actions, Inactions and decisions with all seriousness.

I'm not a Muslim, but I believe in Islam so much. In light of this, I'm going to stand in solidarity with my Muslim brothers and sisters. I will do so by embarking on a three day fast starting from tomorrow.

Let this month be a month of Piety. Let Love Lead. Let Humanity come first.

May Allah is his usual characteristic manner, Bless, protect and provide for you All. None shall die from this Fast. We'll all be alive to celebrate the Sallah together.
May Ramadan be generous to you. Alhamdullahi 🙏

Congratulations my People.

Jokerman:
When will this end?

Everyday Fuel Fuel at #834Naira total filling station.

We were promised that we will have light, but it seems to be a lie band A, B, C or D, I don't understand.

Solar is 2.5 Million, person don chop wey he wan take buy solar.

What's happening that we cannot have light in 2026?

APC government do something now

Use Lord of chosen Sticker, and you'll thank me later

Let me do same now

Caaz:
Doesn't your phone have block button?



Nawa for you.


I m a very strict person,i detest people pressuring me unecessary...my mum can attest to it.


Oga block her asap.

Is it that easy?

TheStoriesOfMan:
It's not supposed to.

How

kunkelhanspeter:
Not complaining just want to know how experience people survive this period.

How is it disgusting 🤮?

You don’t even know the meaning of self control

Guy, you need to be calm.
Before u got married, how were u surviving without sex for one month?

DrChukki:
Don't eat it oh... I know everything is food for you people in Nigeria

If I have my way, I'll eat it .
Nigeria isn't easy. Eat whatever u see

Sabadon:
This is not even just about meals, people re living below the lowest standards, its not a joke anymore.

It hurts me badly

Cj4charles:
The effects of some policies

I'm tired of everything!

Gudiza:
This was not a murder. It was loneliness.....

Best way to go if you ask me...
slowly returning to the earth, blending into silence,
transcending into the elixir of time unnoticed.
So poetic isn't it... came alone, left alone.
This is Life!

funny that the criminals around didn't notice it, also why the smell after 4yrs?

Poetic justice

Kobojunkie:
Do you do all this because you feel somewhat obligated? Or is this all from the kindness of your heart towards this mother of yours — something like, you make a lot of money, so you might as well spend on her?

I do this because I feel I'm obligated to do it, considering that I'm the First born.

Secondly, I'm definitely a kind person. I hate to see people being in need. I get emotional sometimes.
Two weeks ago, I saw an Hausa tailor. You know these Hausa tailors who move from house to house looking for customers. They amend clothes mostly., this man was looking so weak and drained while trekking under the scorching hot Sun. This man should be in his mid 60s. I felt so sad within me. I asked why his children aren't taking care of him at such age.
I called him, gave him a pair of knicker to help me amend, when he finished, I gave him x10 of the money he charged me. Gave him a chilled plastic Coke to cool him. There are so many of such incidents that I've encountered.
My neighbours have taken advantage of my act of kindness to people, they are always seeking help from me. Full-time housewives come to me for help, their children also come. Even the customers I buy items from, they will come to borrow from me. They feel I have enough, but honestly I don't. There are times I starve for days due to o lack of funds, but nobody knows. I'm not flashy, I'm just modest in my dressing. I don't show off because I don't even have anything to pride in. They just know I'm kind and will always help if they approach me

Putindbutt:
The most active VP in history. If you're following fake rumors telling you he will be replaced by 2027, then you have to have your head checked.

Unfortunately, people are never tired of such senseless propaganda.
They said same about osinbajo been replaced, but it never came to fruition. Now it's Shettima

Kobojunkie:
OK! That is good. Just stop investing any other energy into her at this point. Rather, pour your energy into healing yourself and your life from all the wounds she got you into. 🥱🥱🥱

Alright boss.
Thanks 🙏

Kobojunkie:
Hey, if you can afford to give her that much each month, that is fine too.

I do that consistently and I'm serious about this.
That's minus other needs that may come up before the Month ends.

If there's a Pressing need before Month end, I help and still fulfill the monthly allowance which is fixed

Kobojunkie:
Hey, if you can afford to give her that much each month, that is fine too.

I do that consistently and I'm serious about this

Kobojunkie:
Your mother sounds like one of those who were conditioned to believe that their lives make no sense without a man -- men in this case believe that they need a woman to complete them -- and also that children are a retirement plan that ought to provide for them, not necessarily the other way around. There are lots of such mothers and fathers out there. And if you trace back, you might find that the cycle in their family did not begin with them either. 🥱🥱🥱



Yes, traditionally(religion included) Nigerians tend to raise terrible parents. And children are usually an afterthought or should I say slaves, a sort of benefit that marriage provides such parents.🥱🥱

Stop seeking worthless validation altogether from her and the people all around you and focus your energy on giving yourself the life you were not given by both your father and your mother. If you can afford it, send her some pocket money each month -- limit her to that. More importantly, endeavor to get yourself professional mental health counseling to help you process and heal from all of the pain and hurts of your past so you do not turn around and pick someone like your mother for a partner or inflict the same ills on your own children after all that. 🥱🥱

Generational curses are mental dissonance that result in our repeating the mistakes of those who hurt us. This happens when we try to cover up the pain instead of doing the hard work necessary to heal entirely from the wounds. 🥱🥱🥱

Thanks so much.
I give her almost 38% of my entire monthly earnings

Freshandfitpod:
Tinubu want to discard shettima like a used condom. Politics drama no Dey ever finish

Aren't you guys tired of this propaganda always?
Same thing u said The late Buhari dropping osinbajo, but it never happened.
Make una rest abeg

merrymike47:
If I don’t come across things like this online, I can’t wrap my head around why a parent will neglect their own child/children. It’s unfortunate. If i’ll advice you as a coach, i’ll say don’t pay evil with evil, cos who knows if it is your generational curse, just break that trend, less it affects your own family that you’ll make in the future. Some things about the blood cannot be manipulated, if she carried you for nine months and she truly birthed you, please avoid anything that will make her lay curse on you.

Note, we don’t always have to look for solution when some problems can easily be avoided. Prevention is better than cure. Take care of her, let her go and give God account of her own deeds.

By my knowledge and even the public's knowledge, I have not done anything to her to warrant any curse. Her curse wouldn't even be potent on me if she tries it.
I haven't caused her any pains or regrets before.
I haven't been involved in any insistent that would make her cry. Never. I'm a cool-headed guy

brain54:
I'm sorry about your experience...


I don't like talking about people's parents in negative light. But this one is obvious that she is a toxic person.


The most important thing is keeping your sanity and peace of mind in whatever interactions you have with people. Especially, those who won't come through for you when need be.

Prioritize yourself first. That's all!

I just keep asking God why He had to give me such a woman for a mother. I don't deserve this please. I'm too good for this

brain54:
Is this your personal experience...?

Anyway, anyone who abandoned me to my fate would receive same treatment when the roles are reversed.


I'm not Moses but I believe in eye for an eye. Show me loyalty and sincerity and I will be obedient and loyal to you like a dog to a fault.


I'm like a mirror 🪞 I reflect whatever image you give!

That's my experience.
A lot that I can't even mention here. Nairaland won't contain it

Not every woman is qualified to be called a "Mother". Some are irresponsible, wicked and self-centred.
Imagine having a mother who never showed an atom of concern towards her children.
You lost your husband when your kids were just little. Your husband's people shared the kids amongst themselves and took them through secondary sch. It wasn't like these in-laws were well-to-do financially, but they took the responsibilities upon themselves to see that their late brother's children got secondary education. One year after you buried your husband, you clunged to another man.
Sch fees, Books, uniforms, pencils etc, you never bought for any of this children. Sometimes your in-laws even had to ask your children if their mother was aware that she had children schooling somewhere.
After sec school, the children left their aunties and uncles' houses since they could no longer continue training them, mother now decided to send these children to the city to do house helps & other jobs , then she started asking that their salaries be sent directly into her account.
The children grew up, struggled to gain admission, while in sch, they complained about the hardship they were facing and you asked them to drop out. You never have them a penny. Imagine as a student, you travelled home to see your mum and she's in her husband's house, when you're leaving, she's expecting you to give her money.

They managed to graduate and now managing their lives. Then you begin pestering them for money every time. 1/2 of your calls is about money for your own needs. Meanwhile, any money she makes goes into buying the latest wrappers for herself. Everyday you're calling them. You want to gain favours from where you didn't labor. You want to gather where you didn't winnow.
While in school, times were so hard, I had to call a female elder cousin for help, and she told me to ask my mum. She asked if my mum was aware that her son is in sch. She refused to help me. Another uncle also said same thing. I felt so bad that very day.
By the time she notices that one of us is doing better than the Rests, she begins to focus more on that person by calling and demanding. Then when things go south for same person, she moves to the next child. When she sees that nothing is coming out from a certain child, she begins to badmouth same child to the other children and portraying him in bad light. She forgets about the previous favours you've done her.
Even when she has a headache, she calls. She takes no responsibility for herself.
— she calls to inform you about the death of any village person and how she needs to attend the burial and also money to give to the bereaved family. If you don't have, she tells u to go and borrow.
She's selling Palm oil in jerrycans, and making money, but she will never tell you. You'll only get to hear this from outsiders. From clearing a land, applying chemicals and weeding, she'll call you for financial help. But when it's time for harvest, she will sell her farm produce and eat alone. She won't even bother to send you a tuber of Yam or garri in the city when she knows too well that things are hard here.

— as you try to meet her needs, she drags her own mother's needs to you and ask u to help her.
She will again, mention that I assist one or two random village People who have being asking her about me.

I don't know if this is how all mothers are. I don't know why God gave me this one. Sometimes I avoid her calls for weeks and even months, then she goes about reporting me to people, thereby making them feel like I'm irresponsible. When they ask me why I don't call or pick her calls, I can't explain the issue to them cos I see it as a family affair.
If I have money, I pick her calls and check on her, but anytime I'm broke, I don't call or pick her calls. This is because monetary demands will be made and I wouldn't want to explain my situation to her.
She'll say her Blood pressure is high because I don't pick her calls. Sometimes I just feel I'm being emotionally manipulated.