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Don't bother with DAT. After u've filled and mailed it to them, u'll receive anoda email telling u ur application is successful but u need to send #5k to hv dem send ur interview invite to u, with number u shld call for DAT. Speaking from experience.

Philthe1st:
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Thanks

Let her try the garlic remedy. It works

thebosstrevor:
i see, these are not stable jobs. oneday will come when he will ask for huge sum of money because of love, you will give him and he will disappear

i dont like that he is using your money for the other woman, that is his personal responsibility and also i think he do borrow money to take you out.

forget all these guys and live with the pain of losing him. that pain is not permanent, someone that can take care of you and your children with come your way. for now relax and solve your emotional issues, organised yourself and then bounce back to the dating market.

Hhhmm! U do hv a point there! It not going to be easy though but i'll put myself to it. Thanks a lot. Nice to know that there are still some reasonable fellows with some level of empathy on this forum. God bless u.

thebosstrevor:
there is nothing bad in loving but the reality is this we guys dont take cheating well. he know you have slept with him already

so it is up to you to decide what you want.

if you want him, you dont pursue him, let him call you and then take things from there and i hope he forgives you.

for the first guy, what type of hustle does he do?

Mainly land agency. Also helps sell off imported items..

thebosstrevor:
Yes, you are being stupid.

So you cheated on your guy then jump to a new guy like he disposable.

men, you are not stable also, you just keep jumping and falling in so love

one guy is broke,fine and has a child the other has a income,no child and single and you have an income with kids but single

the reality is most single mother dream is to date and marry a single man without kids and with good income so that he can support them and their child or children. many wont date other single dad because of the lack of attention.

You dont like the second single guy, you are just there because he has a steady income flow which he can use to support himself, yourself and your kid.

Your priority should be your kids not these men, can you cut out these men and concentrate on your life till you are emotionally balance to know your left from right.

what you are looking for is someone that can provide for your needs but anyway fine face and good bedmantics wont provide food on the table and also single guy with good income can get bored oneday and leave.

what will you do?

for the feeling of sadness: Stop lying to yourself, the first guy still hold some value to you.

I suppose he still does for me to be feeling this way. My kids have been my priority all these years. I've only just opened up my heart for a chance to love again just from the last quarter of last year, mainly as a result of pressure from my parents to get settled again. I'm still quite young as the whole marriage sham took place rather early in my life. Thanks for the advice though.

danieljessy:
What load of rubbish did I just read,after having a failed marriage which ended with kids which could be due to your promiscuous lifestyle,one would think you should now have some iota of sense now,you even have the gots to be choosy and selective after undergoing several abortions "tuah"(spits)..Better know now that the new young fellow will never marry you,all he wants his to have is own fair share of your now hideous, smelly disgusting virgina and maybe have you abort some more which is by now your specialty..

Madam I'm beautiful and attractive stop sleeping with every tom dick n harry that comes across you,you're not a teenager and like someone said earlier you sure must be a gold digger..there's really no shame in this world anymore

What ended the union will be the topic for another day dear, and when dat day comes, (if i ever get to share the experience here) i'll be sure to tag u (ur moniker well noted) so u can have a chance to eat ur words, if u'll hv the dignity to do so. Guess not everyone really understands the meaning of the term "gold-digger" Thanks still.

ShilohEagle:
Manyalove.
The present situation you find yourself is really hard. Left first hubby due to irreconcilable difference and that with kids, entangled with a handsome and good-in-bed baby daddy but no stable income source, then a very average looking guy but at least fun to be with and of stable income.
Madam, first, u need to set your priorities right. Seems to me you don't know what u actually want. Second, you have to be very decisive and act.
I wouldn't support you going ahead with d good-lookin dude, good looks n fine bedmatic skill doesn't pay bills.
I as well wouldn't say you should jump at the stable guy just 'cause of d good income he has 'cause I believe all that glitters ain't gold.
I also know you are really lonely right now. But to avoid making bad decisions, be patient till you are emotionally stable.
Again, forget that guy with good looks. Forget him totally.
As per the person u are currently seeing, I don't know him and neither do you know him WELL, so I will say don't be hasty to go with him. Get to know him.
And again take a decision about him when you are not in any emotional dilemma.
There are still good looking dudes with legal sources of income out their and with true love.
Patience madam, patience.
May the good Lord guide you

Thanks Man. Really appreciate.

pastie:
As it is, If he has no business with her, the baby mama and child should have been with her parent or close relation while he foot the bills, but her been so close to him means there is some strong bond,

I believed you definitely need a guy like me but sadly I'm taken and can't settle with you.
hope you sort this out.

If she goes, she goes with the kid. Like i explained earlier, he wants to be a part of the kid's life and so he's refusing that. Thanks.

empire2017:
that new guy can never marry u..I'm very sure of that..no sensible mother will allow her son marry a babymama with *KID'S* not even kid.in my mum's Voice "U BETTER COME MARRY ME IF U CAN'T FIND ANY SINGLE LADY TO MARRY OTHER THAN A BABYMAMA"

Well hopefully, there'll be one "insensible" mother with an unbiased mind out there that will trust her son enough and allow him the freewill of making such important life decision for himself.

Lucifer66:
In fact sef I forgot.
Can't you work for your own money?
Must the man support you?
I have said it time and time again you women are useless leeches.

If you had taken time to read carefully, u wld hv seen where i mentioned that 'he hardly gives me anything and i hardly ask'. I have a job, its not the best job in the world, but it does help pay my bills and take care of my kids' needs.

pastie:
You are very selfish and confused at the same time, what happened to the other partner you have kid with, ain't part of his responsibility to take care of it? As it is now, you are after appearance and stable money but in this scenario, you can't have both, you can manage the second guy because the first one is still moving along with his baby mama, just let him go and manage your new relationship but I pray you don't cheat on him, cuz you are obviously obsessed with cute men.

T'wasnt a just a kid. I said 'Kids'. We were actually married but like i said, d union didn't work out and we both went our separate ways. Its been years now, almost a decade. Its actually his responsibility to take care of the kids but he refuses to do so and truth is, i gave up asking a long time ago. Just want to move on and start my life anew. Not obsessed with cute guys, but just love my guys to be quite presentable, dats not too much to ask for na! He doesn't love his baby mama, i know that for sure.

Hello all. I'll try to be very brief here.
So, I have this very cute guy, who's every woman's dream of a man- a typical TDH (tall, dark and handsome). He's the cutest of every guy i've ever dated. He also very good in bed. Exceptionally good. He's very much in love with me. However, he has a baby and a mama; the product of a fling he had. Thing is, his desire to be part of his son's life made him take in the mama (kid's three years old BTW), to stay in one of the rooms in his house. I've also got kids from a previous union which didn't work out fine and i'm doing my very best to move on and get settled again. He told me about his mama from the onset, but i hid my history from him. He later found out on his own and had no issues with it. I'm very beautiful and attractive and one would hardly know i've had kids before if i don't tell u.
My concern with this guy is that he's not very stable. He does several hustles here and there, but is always struggling with cash. I do work and help him out sometimes but, i'm often restricted by the fact that i have kids of my own who though stay with my parents, are my sole responsibility. Again, the fact that he has a woman like me in the background, whom i know he'll be giving money to for upkeep turns me off from helping always as well. Besides, its not like i earn so much too, its just that its more steady than whatever he does. He hardly gives me anything, but i hardly complain. Couple of months back i missed my period and informed him. He was happy and wished for a daughter. However, i was against the idea of having another child, at least not out of wedlock. I tried to make him see reasons with me and somehow, he obliged. A month after again, same thing happened. As usual he begged that this one should stay, again i refused. I insisted he must provide the funds for it to be taken care of since he keeps refusing to protect himself. But as usual, he was broke. I took care of everything on my own and kept my distance from him. In fact, i wanted to put an end to everything between us. It was within this period i met someone else, who actually tickles my fancy. He's not as handsome as my other guy, but he's not totally bad either. (I'm sure by now u wld hv figured i have a thing for appearances). Anyway, this new guy has a steady job, and he's really fun to be with. He's very much single and knows about my status yet he's cool with it.
Couple of weeks back, my other guy came pleading with me for us to get back together (as i have all this while been giving him the silence treatment). Somehow, he got to know that I've been seeing someone else and he's very mad at me. As things stand now, we're on the verge of a break-up. I should be happy since its what i had initially wanted, but I've been miserable; can't sleep well at nite, can't eat well too. Don't know why i'm feeling this way. There's this deep sadness that has since enveloped me and i cant seem to shake it off. Worse still, he's not taking my calls. I'm really confused and feel very alone right now. Should i just let him be and move on with this new guy or do i still try harder to win him back seeing how i'm feeling without him?
Guess i made it long after all. Soo sorry folks, had to pour almost all out. Won't mind reasonable advice, comments and suggestions pls. Try to take it easy with the bashings too pls, as i'm qiute unstable emotionally now. Thanks.

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