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RomanceMy Friend Just Got Engaged To A Girl I Was Involved With… What Do I Do? by mayDtolu(op): 9:52am On Jun 16
Guys I need advice on this matter.

There is this girl I know very well. We were very close before and we had casual relationship.( Just sex and no dating) but During that time, I also had something with two of her friends she introduced to me.

At that time I didn’t really think much about it because it was all casual but I won’t lie, she’s a very attractive lady and one of the sweetest people I’ve ever been with. We got along really well, and I enjoyed her company.

But later I started noticing her lifestyle and the kind of things she does, and I began to feel she is into runs / hookup lifestyle.

I’m not judging her o, but that’s what I observed over time.

Fast forward, I just found out she is engaged to one of my old university friends. The guy even don propose already.

When I saw their pictures I was shocked.

This guy is a very good and calm person because we lived together and I squatted in his place for a semester . That is why this thing is disturbing me.

Part of me feels I should tell him everything I know about her so he can decide with full information. Another part of me feels I should just mind my business and let her past be her past.

What do you guys think? If you were in my shoes, would you tell him or not?

InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 5:08pm On Jun 01
AncestralPowers:
Hmmmm Do all you can to avoid Quatum Zenith if you can, I had a very bad experience with them.... I assure you that you will never be happy with any move make with Quatum Zenith, they are completely ruled out.

Na waoo, but why Quatum Zenith when you have far better and efficient fund managers in Nigeria?
Thank you for this. Appreciate it
InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 9:47am On Jun 01
CSblackpink:
What is your investment goal? High risk or low risk?
MMF. low risk
InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 9:08am On Jun 01
t33why:
Infact if it's possible, avoid them completely. Their inefficiency is legendary
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Are there alternatives? Much safer options? Because I heard quantum zenith is in collaboration with zenith bank
InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 9:07am On Jun 01
CSblackpink:
Only invest in their "MMF"; for any other investment in the app, pick your shoes and run like kidnappers are chasing you. 🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️
Can you recommend any safer option and how to go about it?
InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 5:40am On Jun 01
CSblackpink:
Only invest in their "MMF"; for any other investment in the app, pick your shoes and run like kidnappers are chasing you. 🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️🦸‍♂️
Okay my bro! Thanks for the advice
InvestmentRe: Equity Investment. by mayDtolu(m): 4:58am On Jun 01
Hello everybody! I am trying to invest and save money in mutual funds through Quantum Zenith. Is the application safe? A treasury bill officer at Zenith Bank told me to download the app and set it up.

Please, your experience and suggestions are needed.

Car TalkRe: Avalon Vs Camry — Which Would You Pick? by mayDtolu(op): 5:00am On May 24
Louiscars:
Thank you sir, I actually fix cars and help people with pre purchase inspection/vehicle sourcing
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You’d definitely help me with inspection if you are based in lagos.
Car TalkRe: Avalon Vs Camry — Which Would You Pick? by mayDtolu(op): 4:48am On May 24
marlow1962:
I love the Avalon more than Camry
Really? Does the Avalon look much better to you?
Car TalkRe: Avalon Vs Camry — Which Would You Pick? by mayDtolu(op): 4:47am On May 24
Bluearrow:
Avalon & Camry are not in the same category. Compare Avalon to Lexus not Camry. Avalon is a power house
Yes. Reason why the Avalon 2017 is compared to Toyota Camry of a year above which is 2018/19
Car TalkRe: Avalon Vs Camry — Which Would You Pick? by mayDtolu(op): 4:33am On May 23
Smartguyboy:
Camry 2019 and you are thinking of resale value.
Only the rich can afford that baba . 2019 cars are not for poor or middle man class oh .

You will sell the Avalon 2017 faster than that 2019 Camry .

From my experience with Avalon from 2013-18 is the same just the front bumper .

1st picture is 2013-15 have the same bumper .
2nd picture is 2016-18 have the same bumper .

You can actually buy 2013 limited and change the bumper to 2018 nobody will notice the year unless you tell them. Or you can just add little money and go for the 2019 with different bumper entirely.
Na for people wey no sabi car though. I always know the years even if they upgrade the front grill.
2016-2018 has a more modern look If look closely.
Car TalkAvalon Vs Camry — Which Would You Pick? by mayDtolu(op): 9:53am On May 15
I am considering buying either a Toyota Avalon Limited 2017 or a Toyota Camry XLE 2018/2019.

Honestly, I really love the Avalon. The comfort, space, and premium feel are what attract me to it, and I’ve wanted one for a long time.

But the issue is resale value in Nigeria. I’m thinking long term too — maybe 4–5 years from now if I decide to sell it.

Some people say the Camry is the smarter choice because it sells faster and has stronger market demand, while others say life is too short not to drive the car you truly want.

If you were in my shoes as a car guy, dealer, mechanic, or seller:
Which would you go for and why?

My major considerations are:
• Resale value
• Maintenance
• Fuel economy
• Comfort
• Availability of parts
• Overall “package” for Nigerian roads

I’d really like to hear honest opinions from people who have owned or driven both.

RomanceRe: “I Only Cheated Twice” – Married Man Tells Me by mayDtolu(op): 9:38pm On May 24, 2025
SEGLIZ:
the bases of your argument does not in any way undermine the meaning and purpose of marriage - like only in Nigeria do people cheat.

mind you it shouldn't be cheat but infidelity, meaning irresponsible. it is out of place to promiscuite in essence fornicate or commit adultery.

this don't make those that don't a better person than those that are promiscuous. many worse in other more evil and deadly atrocity than the promiscuous ones.
True, infidelity isn’t the worst thing or limited to Nigeria. But the post is more about double standards in marriage — like saying “I cheated twice, but if my wife tries it, she must go.” That kind of thinking is the real issue here.
Romance“I Only Cheated Twice” – Married Man Tells Me by mayDtolu(op):
These days, I honestly don’t understand the point of marriage anymore.

Every Saturday, there’s one wedding or another. Fancy dresses, smiling couples, emotional vows about love and loyalty. But by Monday? One partner is already texting someone else’s spouse.

Why get married if you’re still going to cheat? Is it love—or just pressure from society, family, or age?

Now here’s what shocked me…

A married father of two casually told me:
“I don’t really cheat on my wife. I only did it twice last year.”

Excuse me?? 😳

So I asked, “What if your wife also cheated—just twice, like you?”

His face changed immediately. He said, “God forbid! She would pack out of my house instantly!”

That’s when I realized—we’re living in a generation full of double standards.

So let’s be real:
• If you’re not ready to be faithful, why not just stay single?
• Why ruin someone else’s life with your indecision and selfishness?
• Why do some men think cheating is a “mistake” when they do it, but “madness” when a woman does?

Nobody’s forcing anyone to marry. But if you say “I do,” then do it.

Nairalanders, I want to hear your thoughts:
Why do so many married people cheat today?
Is monogamy becoming unrealistic?
Are people marrying for the right reasons?
And why are the rules different for men and women?
RomanceWhy Do Ladies Hate It When Older Men Date Younger Women? by mayDtolu(op): 10:32am On Apr 16, 2025
I’ve been seeing a trend lately—ladies calling out men in their 30s for dating women aged 18 to 22.

They say stuff like:
“It’s giving manipulation.”
“What do you see in someone that young?”
“Why not date someone your age?”

But let’s be honest:
Back in school, weren’t most of these same young ladies dating older guys? They liked the maturity, stability, and even the flex of saying “I don’t do boys.”

So now that the tables have turned, why the outrage?
Is it about concern… or double standards?

If a 21-year-old woman chooses to date a 33-year-old man, and both are adults—what exactly is the issue?

Let’s talk:
• Why is it cool when she chooses the older man, but creepy when he shows interest?
• Is it manipulation or mutual preference?
• Ladies, is this really about protection… or competition?

Let’s have an honest convo. Drop your thoughts.
RomanceWhy Are Men In Their 30s Still Hesitant To Marry? by mayDtolu(op): 10:25am On Apr 08, 2025
The pressure on men to get married once they hit their 30s is honestly exhausting. In our society, the moment a man enters his 30s, people start acting like he’s overdue for marriage—throwing jabs, cracking jokes, or outright questioning his decisions.

But what many don’t talk about is the financial reality behind it all.

Marriage isn’t just about love; it’s a serious financial commitment. And let’s be real—it’s tough out here. Some men are earning as much as ₦500,000 a month and still don’t feel ready to marry, because even that amount barely sustains one person, let alone a family. When survival is the goal, the thought of taking on more responsibility can be downright scary.

Sometimes, it’s not even about unwillingness. It’s about survival. Stability. Peace of mind.

How do you handle the pressure?
If you’re a man in your 30s, have you felt this pressure too?
If you’re already married, did you feel financially and emotionally ready when you tied the knot?

Let’s talk. Share your thoughts in the comments.

Car TalkHonda CRV 2012 Or Toyota Venza 2010? Advice needed by mayDtolu(op): 2:50pm On Aug 04, 2024
Hello, I am considering getting a new car, and my two options, which I like based on my budget, are the 2012 Honda CRV and the 2010 Toyota Venza.

Which one would you advise me to go for as a car expert?

TravelRe: General-german-student-visa-enquiries Part 8 by mayDtolu(m): 4:56pm On Jun 20, 2024
nellystrong7:
Gaining admission is the first and most important. Reason been that without admission your visa request is not possible. You will not gain access into the Embassy/Consulate without without providing an admission letter from a university in Germany. I will attach a checklist link below.
Secondly the amount to block is 11,208€ as of 2024 and not 8,000€. I don't know if you can use MPOWER loan but source of funds is usually verified.
Cat A and Cat B are related to securing Appointment at the Embassy in other to process your visa request.
Cat A:
holding a letter of admission for PHD studies or
holding a bachelor's degree with a grade of 1. Class issued no more than TWO years ago and having been accepted to a master's degree (also a DSH course-related admission to the master's program) or PhD study in Germany or
holding a scholarship financed from German public funds or European supported funds for a study or a PhD in Germany or
holding a signed “Aufnahmevereinbarung” / hosting agreement concerning your research fellowship with a university or research institute accepted by the “BAMF”.
Category A receives Appointment Date (AD) within 2-3 weeks of booking Appointment.
Category B:
For those that made 2.1, 2.2, etc... are in Category B. The waiting time is 18-21 months. Goodluck!
Checklist👇👇👇
https://nigeria.diplo.de/ng-en/-/2568986
Thank you so much. With my CGPA, I fall into Category B. Does that mean after admission, I will have to wait for 21 months before I can get a visa appointment at the embassy?

How will I be able to start classes while waiting for almost two years to get a visa appointment to enter Germany?
TravelRe: General-german-student-visa-enquiries Part 8 by mayDtolu(m): 10:24am On Jun 20, 2024
Hello! I really need guidance

I recently completed my undergraduate studies with a CGPA of 4.02/5. I am preparing to apply to German universities for my master’s degree, and eventually pursue a PhD. Since Germany requires a master’s degree before pursuing a PhD, I have several questions that I need clarified:

1. Do I need to gain admission first before funding my blocked account?
2. Can I use an MPOWER loan or any other online loan financing to fund the €8,000 required in my blocked account?
3. What do CAT A and CAT B mean? Are these categories related to securing a visa interview date?

Please kindly explain how the entire process works.
RomanceRe: If You Don't Really Know Much About Forex Trading.. Please Leave It Alone. by mayDtolu(m): 6:17pm On Jun 08, 2024
koladata:
When devil want to finish you, he introduce you to forex or betting. I met my old time boss tracking about 15km…. A man who frequently use to travels abroad to import sophisticated computers now couldn’t afford to take commercial vehicle. He narrated his story and how he bought one robot that made him loss all his money to forex.

After I dropped him at his destination and gave him small cash to take care of himself, oga started pitching forex trade to me and how he's trying to look for money so that he can start forex again, he said he has finally gotten a sure link with a very nice trading robot ... naso. Op if you like continue listening to those people advising you to try again while displaying screenshots of their profits from forex.

Even if forex was a good business or trade, what contribution does it have to humanity. Doctors are finding cures, scientists are building A.I. engineers are building bridges…. Go and get something real to do and leave betting
Lmaooo!
TravelPls, How Do I Get A Refund From Green Africa Airline by mayDtolu(op): 7:46pm On May 25, 2024
Hello! How can I get a refund from Green Africa airline? I booked a round-trip flight from Ibadan to Abuja for which I paid 180k, but they canceled the flight a day before my trip, leaving me devastated.

I had to book another flight the same day using a different airline, but Green Africa has yet to refund my money despite filling out a refund form and reaching out to them via their social media account.

What else can I do pls?
TravelRe: General-german-student-visa-enquiries Part 8 by mayDtolu(m): 2:49pm On May 16, 2024
Hello 👋

I am new to German visa procedures. How can I begin my journey, and what is the process like?
TravelRe: General USA Student Visa Enquiries-part 17 by mayDtolu(m): 6:56pm On May 07, 2024
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Business! by mayDtolu(op):
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TravelHow Can I Book Flight From Port harcourt/Ibadan To Abuja? Recommendations by mayDtolu(op):
Please, how can I book a round-trip flight from Ibadan/port harcourt to Abuja? Also, where is the airport in Ibadan? I really need recommendations because this is my first time.
TravelRe: General USA Student Visa Enquiries-part 17 by mayDtolu(m): 12:56pm On Apr 13, 2024
mayford:
You may contact the school to defer your admission to Spring next year. They usually grant this request. That affords you time to prepare for your next interview.
Smh. Deferred once before with a GA but thanks
TravelRe: General USA Student Visa Enquiries-part 17 by mayDtolu(m): 11:55am On Apr 13, 2024
mayford:
An unstated rule to wait six months before another appointment (for F-1). If you've been denied in the last 6 months, and go ahead to schedule another interview, unfortunately you won't or may not see any date. You'd be asked about this when trying to schedule the new appointment.

Not an expert advice. Just telling you what's obtainable.
There is still two months left to resumption, What is the best advise?
TravelRe: General USA Student Visa Enquiries-part 17 by mayDtolu(m): 7:43am On Apr 13, 2024
If someone gets denied this month and their school resumes in July, can they still schedule another interview?
RomanceRe: Relationship Saga! Advice Really Needed by mayDtolu(op): 10:57am On Feb 27, 2024
EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I do much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll try my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense
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Man! I’m trying to figure out how to settle this because my friend has been reaching out to help talk to the girl, but I don’t even know what to say to her.
RomanceRelationship Saga! Advice Really Needed by mayDtolu(op): 10:21am On Feb 27, 2024
My friend has a fiancee, and they’ve been living together as a couple for a while now. They even have a baby together. However, they haven’t officially married yet due to the bride price request and expenses from the lady’s family.

Recently, he confided in me about a troubling incident. They all went to a party, got drunk, and unfortunately, he ended up having sex with his future sister-in-law. Since then, they’ve been engaging in this affair whenever she visits.

When he told me, I was deeply disappointed and urged him to stop, especially because I have a close relationship with their family.

Yesterday, he called me in distress because the sister is threatening to reveal their affair to their family. He felt compelled to disclose the matter to his fiancée before she hears it from someone else.

His fiancée reached out to me for advice, expressing her desire to leave the house. I’m unsure how to advise her in this challenging situation.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Ems Nigeria, A Totally Incompetent Service Provider by mayDtolu(m):
GboyegaD:
Dear House,

I am currently being frustrated by the services of EMS Nigeria. I sent a parcel to University of North Texas since February 24th and as I write, the parcel is yet to be delivered. To worsen my plight, no one seems to know where the parcel is. Each time I get through to their customer service, all I hear is that the parcel is in transit and this has been over a week. Recently while trying to track the parcel, I discovered the parcel was returned to Lagos and opened at their office. I asked why and all I hear is that what that means is that the parcel left the country that date.

I received a mail from mu Graduate Program Coordinator yesterday night informing me that I have just up to Monday to ensure the parcel arrives. My greatest challenge now is "How do I get new copies of transcript knowing the challenges and bureaucracy of the institution I graduated from and also, how do I get recommendation letters".

I am thinking of sending an official copy of transcript I collected in respect of another institution and adding a note to it stating what happened through DHL. Please do you think this will suffice and accepted by the Graduate School in the interim? Or what do you suggest I do?

Thank you so much for your advice.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Ems Nigeria, A Totally Incompetent Service Provider by mayDtolu(m): 9:41am On Nov 15, 2023
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