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Family / Re: Help! What Would You Do If Your Child Is Being Bullied? by MBSpen: 9:39pm On Nov 23, 2021
Well, it would depend on the situation surrounding the bullying. But basically, I'd seek what works best at helping the bully overcome whatever psychological and environmental circumstances responsible for his condition, if possible (bullying is a manifestation of a mental disorder actually), and more importantly, working on my child's mental health to ensure the bullying wouldn't have a devastating effect on him. When there's no problem with his self-image and esteem, he would be able to stand up for himself and put an end to any bullying in his circle. Which, I believe, is the most important thing.

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Family / Re: NL TALK!! Husband Has 1.3million, Wife Has 9 Million- House Rent Is 1.2 Million, by MBSpen: 9:16pm On Nov 23, 2021
Really, I was just going to say that: a man should always cut his coat according to his size. Understanding it's his responsibility to provide for "his" family would assist everyone in making adequate plans without putting undue pressures on themselves.
Family / Be Who You Needed When You Were Younger by MBSpen: 12:44pm On Mar 16, 2021
If nothing else, the fact that you've been *there* in those shoes makes you feel confident in relating with a fellow who's *being* in the same shoes. While it's really not necessary that you successfully resolved that issue when it occurred to you, depending on how you view it, it could be the reason you'd have so much exposure and varieties of options to pick from: you know the many failed attempts you had, what led to them, and what they led to. You don't want somebody else to be in those shoes, so, definitely, more than the one who succeeded at a go, you have more power to help another individual resolve that problem.
Many of us can highlight the grey areas when it comes to our relationship with our parents (especially in the growing up years), and we are convinced we'd fill those loopholes when we have our own kids. However, there's always so much to learn, so wide a gap to fill, because the world continues to evolve, and no two persons are identical: there'd always be pitfalls in your method of dealing with your children, they'd feel your inadequacy in certain situations, but, the one thing you'd always have to fall back to and shouldn't ever compromise is that "open and effective channel of communication".
Assure them it's fine to talk to you, about anything and everything they'd want to share; talk to them, and just as well, listen to them. They have a voice you shouldn't ever try to suppress, if truly you wish to fill the void created by lapses of the previous generation in raising this generation.
Family / Re: Why Are Nigerians This Hypocritical by MBSpen: 7:30am On Nov 25, 2020
It might not be double-standards though, if we're going to be really honest: some people find it easier to attack what they're from outside, instead of chastising self, and that helps them to get a greater grip of themselves.
Though, of course, I know there's a great level of hypocrisy, almost everywhere; we all focus on the one that's caught, don't we? Isn't that quite like what this is doing too? Highliting the faults of the persons in that story, isn't it?
There's a problem with our value system after all, and until that gets addressed, I'm afraid we wouldn't really be making any change: aren't we the same people walking the streets and doing these things?

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