This video of Biden looks very unnatural ??. Am I the only one who noticed this?

Azazyel:



His mom is already giving him advice in private. Don't be too comfortable. Mothers know how to play crazy politics. She knows about what is going on between you two and when the time comes, she would take him to where he would have peace of mind

I give my guy peace in case you don’t know. He gives me peace too. We both feel blessed 😇. His mum is one of the happiest people. His mum calls me quite often to check on me. She sends me gifts 🎁. I send her gifts too. My boyfriend has a wonderful family which I love 🥰.

Kavod:

WELL ITS HEAD HEADING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION IF YOU ASK ME. FIRSTLY YOUR MAN SAYS HE WENT HOME TO SEE HIS MUM, 24HOURS HE DID NOT PICK YOUR CALL, EVEN AFTER YOU CALLED HIS MUM AND SHE GAVE HIM THE PHONE IT TOOK HIM ANOTHER 36 HOURS TO CALL YOU. MY SISTER YOU ARE NOT PRIORITY, YOU DOING HIM BACK CHANGES NOTHING. OK BREAK IT DOWN!!!!!!!!!SO FOR ALMOST 72 HOURS ARE YOU SAYING HE DID NOT CALL, BROWSE OR TEXTED ANYONE? YOU ARE DEALING WITH A BROKEN ALPHA MINDSET GUY. SOMEONE MESSED WITH HIS HEART, HE IS MANIPULATING YOU.

He is not manipulating me. He was actually very busy. He had a deadline to meet. I just felt it wasn’t nice for him to ignore me like that for over 2 days. Thank God for his mum who kept in touch with me the whole time I was waiting for him because I was sad the whole time he ignored me.

sammiewrite:
I will advise you stop engaging some of these comments. You should be aware you're on Nairaland, the forum of a country where majority of its citizens are very out of touch with reality; they also ranks amongst the lowest in terms of intelligence and human relation.

There have been quite a few comments so far and I only want to reiterate what they said per knowing when and where to draw the line especially regarding domestic violence and cheating. For the most part though, your strategy is working currently and that is all that matters.

Ignore all the "childish," "forgiveness " and "immaturity" talks; they're from hypocrites who enjoy doing to others what they wouldn't tolerate. Also the words they throw around aren't theirs; they're mostly from their religious leaders who themselves have failing and failed relationships.
One thing I have observed with thriving relationships and marriages in the 21st century is the ability of the two persons involved to base their relationship strictly on what works for them. In fact the opposite is true and if anyone has a divorce judge parent or friend they can fact check me on this: The common decimal for the majority of marriages that ended in divorce is the either or both of the two parties being the troublemaker and at the same time feeling entitled to forgiveness. I feel like if you really love someone, you won't hurt them or take them for granted by repeatedly dismissing their concerns and complaints. And it is funny because some of the requests we make from our partners are little things that won't cost them much to do or stop doing (like in your case, calling to register safe arrival but in my case, repeatedly telling an adult to flush the toilet after using it), but because they're already used to getting away with a lot, they keep doing it over and over again.

Thanks for your wonderful comment!

PRYCE:


You gave an example of his own "rubbish" , why not give us an example of your own "rubbish" as well.?

You tried to sound neutral in the beginning but eventually finished by making him out to look like the troublemaker 😏

Yeah. You’re right. So my own bad character is that I call him a regular pet name. But he doesn’t like me to call him that because he says I use that name for everyone. So I have a special name I call him which he loves. Sometimes I forget to call him this name and then he doesn’t like it. To make me stop calling him that regular pet name he doesn’t like, he started to pronounce my birth name awkwardly which I don’t like. So I have started to be conscious and call him the way he loves me to call him. Though sometimes I still forget and then he reminds me by pronouncing my name awkwardly 🙈.

SeriouslySense:
It could also be a sign of a healthy relationship, if you two are able to understand and learn from it. But dont get stuck in a cycle of back and forth.

Yeah. Noted. Thanks 😉.

SeriouslySense:
But you wrote, you retaliate a lot.

Somehow seems you like it, in a way. I'm not sure why, you may like that constant retaliation.

Well alot was to make it catchy. But yes, we are petty sometimes.

Greenfusion:

Sorry to ask o, please how old are you n ur BF...?

We’re adults 😁.

learnedJAMES:
In a relationship partner A should prioritise the needs and feelings of partner B and vice versa. Retaliation should be on rare occasion with a good motive

Exactly. This is us.

bixton:





It seems like a kind of fun game between the two of you. I guess you're still in dating.

Have you fellas asked yourself if thats how you intend to live if you eventually get married and probably raise children through this method and knowing that your children will learn such from you as well?

Actually not. It’s between us and our kids don’t have to get involved.

Eraddray:
Don't of u are acting very childish...and If u two will eventually marry una sef ...I pity u two...70% chance that it will end in disaster...the rest of the 30 is left to God

Nothing will end in disaster in Jesus name. Amen. We are happy people 😁. We suit ourselves.

Incrediblekutty:







This is childishness, it won't end well. One of you will one day make an assumption in your head and retaliate then the other party will get offended and nag till it becomes complicated. You can adjust your wrongs without waiting for your partner to retaliate. That's my own cent

Our first action is not to be petty. Our first action is to discuss. It is after several discussions and the person is not changing that we become petty to help the other party understand better. It works everytime for now.

1x2x3:
Do you both also reciprocate good deeds or you only find the need to reciprocate bad ones?

Yes we do. I remember I got my guy a surprise gift one time, he was so happy he asked me what I needed because he knows I don’t like surprises. I told him and he got it for me. I was very happy too 😊.

BigIyanga:

You’re already nagging your BF and his mom.. His mom is likely going to warn him to be careful .. If you guys get married, he would need his mom’s doc’s report in order to visit her🤷🏿‍♂️😂😂

His mum loves me. You have no idea how much she does love me😊.

vastolord4:


Don't let all those negative comments get to you.. infact, it takes a committed mindset and great level of understanding to manage this type of relationship. If it works for you now, just make sure you both grow and evolve together because love might fallout but the understanding remains which will be hard for either of you to find another match..

Thanks. We understand ourselves and we know when to stop 😁.

YoungLionken:
Na childishness dey worry una two..

But be careful so you don't lose him because no man wants a woman who's kind of involved in "do me I do you". So that, few months/years later, you will not come crying on social media of how your ex of how many left you for another woman, after your years of loyalty to him. E be things o...

This one is not my portion in Jesus name oo. He will not leave me don’t worry 😁

tnerro1:
Wokeness?

I don’t know if it is wokeness oo. But it has been working so far 🙈.

Ebigwei007:
Hmmm, its just for the main time. Please dnt do that again, it will make it a boring one.

How will it become boring ?

Vyzz:




He won't marry you

No man has time to put up with a woman with sick attitude when I'm the one providing

I’ll send you my wedding invitation 😂. He is head over heels for me. His mum loves me too 😁😁. She loves me so much and she is always calling to check up on me. Be deceiving yourself 😂😂.

chidiokay:



Dumbiest thing i had in the last 48hrs, for now the retaliation make sense cos you guyz are still both immature maybe kids sef

So if your boyfriend impregnate another gurl mistakenly ... you too will get pregnant mistakenly.. that what wil keep him in line .. lol

If your boyfriend buy you a car will you also retaliate abi this retaliation is limited to meaningless things

We are both in our late twenties. We’re not kids. Did you miss where I wrote that cheating and domestic violence is not part of this strategy

Did you also miss where I said when either of us does something that the other person doesn’t like

I will be more than excited if my boyfriend buys me a car. And I will not get pregnant for another man if my boyfriend impregnates another girl which he will not do 😌. My boyfriend is a good man 😌.

DMCY:


It will get to a time the guy will stop been petty with her and look elsewhere for unpetty character🌚 and trust me babes plenty d!e for outside, lol.

What is outside is mostly rubbish these days. As we are, we’re not intending to break up and we intend to make our relationship work no matter the issue. This is one way we do it.
I think we are imperfectly perfect for each other 😌.

Bongadu:
Both of you are forking childish

I don’t think we are childish 😌.

DeeScan:
what makes you think he will cheat first 😒😒😒

We’re not cheating people.

FalseProphet1:

You can always invite me to officiate the wedding. I don't charge much, just one goat and brown envelope and I'm ok.

I'll prophesy goodness into your life.

Ok noted 😁

Belurved1:
Dem still they rehearse, una never enter the main game (marriage) which is the reality. I'm 98.5% sure this trategy won't be applicable when married. Weather you like it or not, if you can't give total respect to him, there'll be problem.

Time will tell 😁

FalseProphet1:

I see you getting pregnant for that guy.

I see you giving birth to 3 plets.

This I have seen.

Amen. I want to have his baby. I feel blessed to have him.

bercarray:
@MeghaneMorgane if that's the only way to you guys can tame each other go ahead with it please but of course I'll never say u should retaliate with cheating or domestic violence. All these people claiming maturity nonsense are the type that likes doing things to people and loves getting away with it but cannot take such from the other party and it's exactly the same thing they'll want to tear the roof down, jf their partner reminds em of when they did it too, its the same "you're not matured" statement they'll make, you'll hear "so is that why you did it back? You're acting childish". Manipulative people.

See OP if that's what keeps both in check please go on with it. Whatever makes you relationship work please do it because whatever opinion u get here might be working for em in their own relationship but might not work with your man.

Thank you. So far, it is working for us, so we will continue. Until when it is not needed anymore.

Zaheertyler:

If you love him be observant of which of his actions stem from childhood traumas and insecurities...most times he is just pretending to adjust so you don't talk about it anymore...
Why don't you observe him so you know when to correct him with love and kindness instead

My guy doesn’t have childhood trauma. We both don’t have childhood traumas and I’m grateful for that. We correct each other in love and kindness until the other person is not changing. Then we go petty.

advanceDNA:


There is nothing wrong with it until of course one person starts to take the other for granted, which often starts when one person realizes they have more leverage......you both sound like good and fair individuals who get each other, and have close to equal leverage and commitment for this strategy to work.......

..I used to adopt this strategy with my ex but it never worked...she will pretend like she has doesnt know what im doing or saying and also try to manipulate me, calling me names that I don't care for her, that I'm being wicked....

One day the werey outrightly said she's a woman and that it's a norm for women to frustrate men and behave like lunatics, that my duty is to pamper her and beg her......I laughed....she thought it was funny.... It was one of my best served breakfast.... I served it cold and sour

At the moment, we don’t take each other for granted. When someone complains about something, we do our best to adjust. It is when the one person doesn’t seem to change after numerous complaints that we become petty. This is not to destroy the relationship but to make the other party understand your grievances better. So that they can change for the better. I think it’s fair.
As for that your former girlfriend, I think she is toxic. It’s good you left her.

Michelle55:

Retaliation is never a healthy recipe for a relationship that may likely end in marriage except you both don't have the plan of settling with each other then by all means continue.
All the best!!

We plan to settle down together. Ok noted. I’ll try to stop this kind of behaviour. So if he doesn’t listen to my grievances, how can I make him understand? Or how can he make me understand if I’m not listening to his grievances ?

Oluromantic:
Cat and dog things. The wrong thing is working for you bcus you're both immature explorers of each other. The day one of you attains a maturity step above the other, problems begin, break up follows. In a mature relationship, retaliation is not an option, you shouldn't even get to a point where you would retaliate. Forgiveness flows like a river. The man leads and is respected, the woman complements and is loved. It's never an equal right or retaliation thing. So help you God!

Amen 🙏

Michelle55:
What kind of relationship is that? Are you saying if he cheats you would likely cheat to keep him in order?

Omo, just prepare your kpekus for gwo gwo gwo gwo cos na you go hear am.
Why not communicate how you feel rather than being vindictive each time he offends you?

Can you keep up with this petty behavior if it escalates?

Are you ready to sleep with his friends as well if he
decides to cross the line with yours?

To what extent are you willing to go with this pettiness?

These and many more questions you need to ask yourself and if you can keep up then happy dating to you.
In this time and age, I prioritize peace of mind and happiness over anything else.
Light and love 👌

Our response to cheating is that the cheated person will leave. We have discussed this. If I cheat, he will leave me and if he cheats, I will leave him. We don’t intend to sleep around to bring the other person to check. That is outside our boundaries.
We communicate a lot. It is when the other person refuses to change that they get the taste of their drug. So that they can understand better your grievances. Because sometimes it is hard for people to understand when they cannot relate. And we don’t do this from a bad place. We do it from a place of I want you to change.