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The story goes like this....

Girl meets boy with 2 little adorable kids but never married. He has full custody of them because their mother had attachment issues and didnt want the kids. He works full time and takes fantastic care of the kids. He adores her and wants to marry her as soon as possible so that they can start building their lives together and the kids can grow up knowing her. However, she is reluctant to marry him because she is afraid of her very religious family who may oppose their union due to his children. He says she should give him a chance to meet her family so that they can know him before they introduce the kids, to limit any pre-judgement against him without knowing his character first.

Should she give it a chance or is that too much baggage? Any advice?

I understand that after the bride price has been paid, it technically means the couple is married. However, what if the girl changes her mind after that. The fallout and dsiappintment with family is sure to come. But Does anybody have experience or understanding of the process of returning bride price? Is it even possible to do that? What are the implications for the guy and girl? Even weddings have been called off on the wedding day, so is it too late to remedy this situation now?

Note: please refrain from insults and offer acutal advise. Thank you very much good people.

I met this fantastic guy over a year ago, but i was in a long-term serious relationship so i turned him down. We lost touch until a few weeks ago when a friend of mine mentioned that a friend of hers was looking for husband. I always thought he would make a great husband so i recommended him. I Sent pictures and his social media handle for her to check him out. She found him suitable and didnt mind that he has a young child. They asked me to contact him and determine his interest level in and if he already has someone.

I asked him to call me and when he did, our conversation was like we had not slipped a day at all. It flowed effortlessly and he expressed his desire for me to give him a chance since i am now single. I told him the reason i contacted him and he said he is only interested in me. I thorougly enjoyed our conversation and want to take it further with him. But how do i break it to my friend now that it wont happen with her friend and him? I feel a sting of guilt. I initally made the recommendation with a very clear conscience because i am still nursing my breakup and didnt see myself in another relationship now.

in the midst of hunger and poverty, how likely is love to flourish??