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Foreign AffairsRe: Kemi Badenoch Speaks Yoruba (video) by merits(m): 7:59pm On May 16
Mirasteel:
How is this news? should we celebrate because she spoke yoruba?
I wonder oo jobless pple taking irrelevant things serious.
PoliticsRe: Seyi Makinde Carries His Luggage By Himself, Sparks Reactions Online by merits(m): 7:54pm On May 16
What's so special about this? Nigerian are qlueless sometimes.
Nairaland GeneralRe: Four Laptops For Mayorall Corporate Social Responsibility Gift To Nairalanders by merits(m): 10:18pm On May 15
I will use the laptop strictly for Yahoo plus if you like give me or if you like don't give me I don't care.
PoliticsRe: PDP Screens Natasha Akpoti For Kogi Central Race by merits(m): 6:25pm On May 14
Editorialtimes:
[i]Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan Completes PDP Screening for 2027 Kogi Central Senatorial RRace



https://thebureaunews.com/natasha-completes-pdp-screening-kogi-central-2027/
Natasha's charm at work always.
EducationRe: Lagos Rejects JAMB Cut-off Marks, Fixes 185 For State Institutions by merits(m): 10:46am On May 14
What was his own score the time he wrote JAMB?
CultureRe: South African Tribes And Some Of Their Head Accessories by merits(m): 9:16pm On May 12
Samantha125:
Despite head scarves/wraps being some of the most renowned and common head accessories across many African cultures, SA included, one can never have too much head accessories whether it's either for cultural/heritage purposes, or even just mainly for fashion.

Now here are SA tribes and some of their head accessories.

1. Balobedu
xenophobia nonsense
FamilyRe: How Do Men Become Bold, Fearless And Confrontational? by merits(m): 8:46pm On May 12
I
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Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.
Why must you be a coward as a man?you disappointed your younger brother big time,as a man always be fierce when the need be.
HealthRe: Swollen Testicles by merits(m): 7:54pm On May 12
I'm
Dixon3113:
Good evening sirs, I was able to book an appointment with my doctor, I was given some treatment all most was pain was down in a couple of hours, my concerns now is the size, it Is as big as an apple and stiff too, it gets easily strained even with a short walk, the doctor said it takes time to flare.

But I want those of you guys out there with experience to share expectations in the healing process.

Thanks
It happens to me too last month and I was given some antibiotics and the pain disappeared.
RomanceRe: Busty Lady Unzips Her Jacket While Bouncing At The Gym, Sparks Reactions by merits(m): 2:26pm On May 09
Devil in the gym.
TravelRe: Lagos: This Doesn't Look Like The Africa People Expect! by merits(m): 2:25pm On May 09
Gbadugbakun:
Lagos is just an overpriced and over rated slum. Imagine praying over $5m for a property at Ikoyi or Eko Atlantic City, on less than a thousand square kilometers, no central water or waste system, you have to arrange yours, you must provide your own security, electricity and other basic amenities. Yet properties are more expensive than far more developed cities in the US.
cry 😭 cry baby 🍼🐥 how are you? Shame.
PoliticsRe: Why Is Nobody Buying ADC Gubernatorial Nomination Form? by merits(m): 2:12pm On May 09
Because it's a dead on arrival political party.
PoliticsRe: 'Anyone That Votes Tinubu In 2027 Will Die' - Prophet Michael Noah (Video) by merits(m): 2:07pm On May 09
Noerection:
“Anyone That Votes Tinubu In 2027 Will D!e. This Man Has Spent 4 Years In Power And Has Nothing To Show For It. No Light, No Security, Things Are Very Expensive. Anytime I Enter Nigeria, I Move Around With 5 Police Officers To Protect Myself.” ~ Prophet Michael Declares




https://www.tiktok.com/video/7637509012422003976?_r=1&_t=ZS-96DIOw7kWmq
Scammer prophet death ☠️ 💀 is inevitable, who assure you that you will be alive before the election seff Mr prophet wether we for Tinubu or not all of us must die one day that is sure banker.Mr fake prophet you are not God nobody can determine who to die and who to be alive.
EducationRe: Students Of Nigerian Tulip International Colleges (NTIC) Bully Zara In Abuja by merits(m): 2:00pm On May 09
Look at them with their tiny pudzzy like snakes own nonsense.
PoliticsRe: “I Will Consult Widely” – Goodluck Jonathan Responds To Fresh Calls To Contest by merits(m): 5:03pm On May 07
ogugwa1992:
*“I Will Consult Widely” – Goodluck Jonathan Responds to Fresh Calls to Contest 2027 Presidential Election*


https://dailytrust.com/2027-presidency-im-consulting-widely-says-jonathan/
Consult and failed abeg leave Obi go and rest woman wrapper together with drunkenness.
PoliticsRe: 2027: Jonathan Is The Best Candidate - Youth Group At A Press Conference (Video) by merits(m): 5:00pm On May 07
[quote author=Goodvibes007 post=139336755]Youth Group At Press Conference Says GEJ Must Contest (video).


play woman wrapper together with drunkard God forbid.
Foreign AffairsRe: Israeli Soldier Places A Cigarette In The Mouth Of Virgin Mary Statue In Lebanon by merits(m): 4:44pm On May 07
The gullible Nigerian xtians never believe that they keep on supporting them some even hang Israel flag in their car I looked at them and laughed, they don't know Israelites see Xtians as idols worshipers.Nigerian Xtians Israelites are Jews not xtians.
Foreign AffairsRe: Israeli Soldier Places A Cigarette In The Mouth Of Virgin Mary Statue In Lebanon by merits(m): 4:33pm On May 07
Flangelo12:
Na their way.

To them, christians are infield.
The gullible Nigerian xtians never believe that they keep on supporting them some even hang Israel flag in their car I looked at them and laughed, they don't know Israelites see Xtians as idols worshipers.Nigerian Xtians Israelites are Jews not xtians.
IslamRe: Muslim Labourer Threatens To Murder Boss If He Insults Prophet Muhammad by merits(m): 4:27pm On May 07
erad:
Why una like wahala like this?

Leave people and their religions alone.
Exactly 💯
Foreign AffairsRe: Zulu King's Regiments Now Leading Anti-immigration Protests In SA - PICTURES by merits(m): 4:17pm On May 07
South African are far from sense.
BusinessRe: 8 Daily Habits That Quietly Waste Your Money In Nigeria by merits(m): 11:27am On May 07
Wealthyonos:
Pls, is there another word that is worst than 'victim'?? 😢 😢
🤣🤣👍
TravelRe: After FG Approval Of Aircraft Leasing Company, Keyamo Seals Landmark Airbus Deal by merits(m): 11:25am On May 07
ogugwa1992:
After FG approval of aircraft leasing company, Keyamo seals landmark Airbus deal in France



https://www.vanguardngr.com/2026/05/after-fg-approval-of-aircraft-leasing-company-keyamo-seals-landmark-airbus-deal-in-france/
Believe this at your own peril election is coming empty promises will continue to surface for their gullible supporters.
PoliticsRe: Peter Obi Erases His Fingerprint After Using The Gym (Video) by merits(m): 11:18am On May 07
Lovelink1991:
Peter Obi is always conscious of wherever he is and where he is going. He hit the gyms but before leaving he has to erase all his finger print for security reasons.

Watch

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2dSbo5c0_Lk?si=NZkM64R1GM7m_RJ5
Can't him just buy is own personal gym facilities at home and use at his own convenient time me?mr eye service.
BusinessRe: 8 Daily Habits That Quietly Waste Your Money In Nigeria by merits(m):
Wealthyonos:
Giving money to different girls, something you never planned for..
😂😂 It seems you are a victim of it.
PoliticsRe: Joseph Tegbe: I Can’t Promise 24-hour Power But Nigerians Will See Improvements by merits(m): 11:01am On May 07
nlfpmod:
Loriro.Lamba as usual no be today you guys started lying including President Balablu.
FamilyRe: At What Age Did You Become A Father Or Mother? by merits(m): 10:51am On May 07
Osiris12:
19 years and few months. I was in 200 level
I became father @37 years
FamilyRe: His Wife & Children Mistreated Him. He Secretly Sold His House & Left Them by merits(m): 10:13am On May 07
ariesbull:
Is What This Man Did Okay? Is It Right ?

This retired civil servant in Abuja sold his family house without telling his wife or children.

Months before anyone suspected anything, the original house documents had already been quietly moved out of the house for safekeeping.

So when strangers eventually showed up for inspection, it had already gone too far to reverse.

That house wasn’t inherited. It came from years of deductions, years of sacrifice, living inside one of those government quarters that were later sold to occupants.

But retirement changed the balance of power inside the house.

His wife controlled most decisions, and gradually the children adopted her tone until the man who paid for the roof over their heads became almost invisible inside it.

He said there was even a period he fell seriously sick and nobody asked if he had eaten before leaving the house each morning.

Around that same period, his entire gratuity was taken to fund a family business. It was supposed to help everyone. It collapsed before one year.

That was when the quiet planning began. Not loudly, not emotionally but silently. He decided he would rather start life again alone than remain in a house where he felt unwanted.

Months later, the house was sold privately for 90 million.

A smaller house in a quiet suburb was purchased for 18 million, and the rest was secured quietly.

At home, nothing looked suspicious. No arguments, no sudden tension.

Weeks before leaving, clothes were gradually packed under the excuse of sending them to the dry cleaner.

Then one day, he travelled for what was described as a consultancy job. He never returned to that house again.

The truth surfaced the day the new owner sent people to inspect it.

Panic started immediately, his children that haven't checked on him since he travelled started calling nonstop, asking what was going on. That was when he confirmed it himself.

Yes, the house had been sold. By then, nothing could be undone.

Attempts were made to trace his new location, but he had already moved carefully and deliberately.
He said something that stayed with me since I heard the story:

“I didn’t abandon my family… I simply inherited myself before they buried me alive."

Credit:Oludare Ayeni

Do you think he acted right?


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1Ci22zktGU/
Good better best I'm pleased with that.
CrimeRe: RRS Officers Shoot Aboy Odili In Asaba (Photos, Video) by merits(m): 8:00pm On May 06
After IG posted 1000 + of them out of Dela state, police need comprehensive overhauling
PoliticsRe: Aisha Yesufu Leaves ADC For NDC, Declares FCT Senate Bid by merits(m): 7:55pm On May 06
givedemwotowoto:
Aisha Yesufu Dumps ADC for NDC, Declares FCT Senate Bid



Source
She wanted to go and join them in the senate to get her own national cake, welcome to you to the member of bad wagon of Nigeria.
CultureRe: Igbomina People. Our History, Our Culture, Our Pride - Odewale Adesoye by merits(m): 7:53pm On May 06
Odewaleadesoye:
...over time, Ogbomona later became Igbomina.



If you are Igbomina, drop your town in the comment section.

Let us represent well.

Igbomina o ni baje.

Odewale Adesoye also known as Green Man is proudly Igbomina.
Proudly Ignomina
My town:BALOGUN-OJA.
PoliticsRe: Audu Mustapha Ganga Sheds Tears, Begs Constituents To Endorse 5th Term Bid by merits(m): 3:53pm On May 06
dre11:
https://dailytrust.com/borno-lawmaker-sheds-tears-begs-constituents-to-endorse-5th-term-bid/

I know the mumu them will still vote for him.
EducationRe: What's The Highest Score You Had In A Course In Tertiary Institution? by merits(m): 3:52pm On May 06
Kemistri3:
What's the highest score you ever had during your tertiary institution days? And which course/level was that?

Me: 88
Introduction to Clinical Pharmacy
400l 1st semester

Let's go✍🏽
85
TravelRe: How Many States In Nigeria Have You Been To? by merits(m): 3:50pm On May 06
Lagos
Oyo
Ondo
Ekiti
Kogi
Kwara
Ogun
Niger
Plateau
Bauchi
Bayelsa
FCT
Benue
Kaduna
Delta
Imo
Anambra
Enugu
Cross River

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