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vingeophysicist:
Dont mind your friend he is just saying that for the fun of it but the men i know will never settle down with a slay queen unless for two reason; he values divorce as an option or he went after the lady money(materialism like fame etc).i indulge u to retain ur personality and i promise men will plea for your hands in marriage and you will choose unlike the recent happening where girls chase after men .

Toks2008:
Do you know that once you are a guy above 30 and you are still very single without a fiancee or you are a lady above 25 and still not engaged then there is a higher probability that you may remain that way for another couple of years?

I know you may not agree to this but the truth is that the higher you get in age from that point on the more careful you want to be and that is where the real problem sets in...."TRYING TO BE CAREFUL"

The honest truth is that at this stage,you need to free your mind and think less of making any mistake and in fact you need to rid your mind of any panic and be yourself....in other words,don't search because those who search usually make mistakes but those who just live their lives usually find that special person when and where they least expect.

So if you are a guy above 30 or a lady above 25 and single,let's discuss about business,romance and life in general.

But guys ! Ladies over 25 and guys over 30 they meet and they marry on websites like LostRib.com nah!!!
Though this is not a dating or meet up thread but you are very free to make friends with anyone...

Remember that it is very difficult to come across this set of single guys and ladies out there as they are usually very busy,focused and mostly indoor so let's make good use of this platform to interact.

I know this is a faceless forum and i know some people below this age group will try to derail the thread but i will appreciate if such group will maintain a status quo and allow only single guys of 30 yrs and above as well as single ladies of 25yrs and above.

*Mods please note that this is not a dating or meet up thread hence should not be moved to dating and meet up zone.

Thanks

Urbanoversabi:
To ‘friendzone’ is a act most girls are familiar with; one that many have applied on a number of occasions for varying reasons.
The term is used to explain a situation where someone wants to be more than friends with another, but the other person is satisfied with being just friends and refuses to entertain the idea of a romantic relationship. Nobody ever wishes to be in the Friendzone, but often times we find ourselves doing things that will get us exclusive tickets to go there.

Ladies are more used to doing this, and of course, there is always a reason for friendzoning a guy.

While there are understandable reasons for doing this,- she could be unattracted to the guy in a romantic way – there are also some ridiculous reasons given by babes when friend-zoning a guy…


1. I know too much about you

One would expect women to feel comfortable with a guy who no longer has secrets from them, right?

Funny enough, some see this as a reason to not say yes to a friend who hopes to become more than friends.

It’s ironic that woman want a guy that hides nothing but say no to the one that has shown them everything about himself – past and present.

2. You’re too nice

This is pretty hard to explain too, considering how women generally pine for a guy that will treat them with affection, love and kindness.

“But you’re too nice. Taiwo… I just can’t date you”

3. You know too much about me

If a guy knows all the good and bad things about you and still feels he wants you despite all that, then you can be sure he has thought about it and has no qualms with those things, right?

Also, women want a guy who would take them the way they are… someone who recognizes the past is the past and would love them regardless.

So while it’s not necessarily wrong, it is surely ludicrous to say the least when a babe gives this as her reason for friend-zoning someone who truly loves her.


http://www.pulse.ng/relationships/weird-reasons-why-babes-friendzone-guys-id6971276.html

edoboy33:
I was one of the advocates of ladies dating broke guys but I had to change my mind because of the orientation of most broke guys today.
most of them don't even strive to work,they just stay at home or hang around their streets looking for girls to toast

I know their are few decent broke guys who are striving for success but the frustrated and jobless ones overshadows them

ThisTrend:
While a great deal of females are gladly in love and a many more are happily engaged and getting married most weekends, there's a host of other people who find this difficult are remain solo to stupor.

Just how do people meet and show up in love is exactly what they keep requesting.., How do they get blessed? Well, below are a few brutally honest explanations why some Nigerian girls are still solo.

1. You Don’t Behave Like A Proper Lady Should: There are so a lot of women around who've a awful/bad/stuck up frame of mind. They cover it up sometimes by declaring to be too much temperature for whatever man comes their way. It's mainly a 50/50 thing; sometimes it is possible to maintain the facade and other times it blows to smithereens in that person. That is a brutally honest reason they are solitary.

2. You Think Your Beauty Is All There Is: In every situation you are faced with, you believe that your looks would see you through. Truth is if a man talks with you and figures you have nothing else to offer why would he want to make you his woman?

He will still want s3x but that’s it…you would just be a commodity for him to use, admire, and cast away when he’s done.

3. You Are A Gold Digger: Maybe not at this level but what he makes has become your utmost goal. You are so caught up in the money that you overlook the important facets of every relationship. A rich guy who realizes that that’s all you’re about would eventually ignore you.

4. You Think Men Are The Reason For All Your Problems: You remain single because you refuse to make yourself accountable for your actions. All your problems stem from the male populace and you feel all would be well the moment they start to tow the imaginary line you have drawn. You would behave well if the man behaves well.

While I agree that a lot of men need to step up, to often it is a case of a lady feeling more entitled than she should normally feel. This expectancy would need to a relentless series of nagging and yammering.

5. You Don’t Maintain Yourself; While you must not do your nails every week, it is an honest fact that some ladies fail miserably in this regard of taking care of themselves.

Some of you ladies put no effort into your looks and overall hygiene which is really bad.

Thank you for reading.

Source: http://www.thistrend.com.ng/2017/04/5-reasons-why-some-nigerian-girls-are.html?m=1

Saw this from a friend this morning couldn't help not posting this... If you were the guy what would you have done?

kinginvagina:
Nigerian girls today 2017 are good as gf, fuckmate ,sidechick , mistress but not as wife. Look around you millions of hoes with little good girls.
I am sick and tired!

tosyne2much:



Source: http://tosyne2much..com/2015/10/10-statements-ladies-often-make-just-to.html

In my interaction with all kinds Of ladies over the years, I discovered that there are some questions that they don't normally reply you with the truth. It's as if it's a Taboo in their "Ladies Kingdom".

Even if they are too good, they often keep silent with a smile (I call that GREEN LIES) OR "bend" the truth until you can't tell which is truth anymore. lol.

Below are some of those questions:


1. How old are you?

Majority of ladies feel that if they reveal their age to an interested young man in a social network, they might be looked down upon, but not with a potential partner na...
Age is a number, just spill it.
Hiding it does not reduce it.


2. Are you in a relationship?

When you ask her this question, TWO things are involved.
She might say YES to make you think that she is not lonely and bored.
If she says NO, it might be that she's a type that wants to "dig gold" (as my brother tosyne2much analysed, hehehe) from all angles OR she might just be spreading her tentacles.
Lies remains Lies!


3. Are you a Virgin?

This is like a rhetorical question. Before you ask, just answer it yourself, YES!

Some might get mad at you just for asking, hah! Bae, sorry o... My curiosity got the better of me...


4. What can make you tell a lie?

Lies? Lies are bad, she'll reply.
I don't lie. I hate lying.

Take a deep breath because you've just been lied to.

5. Do you love me?

NB: I've never asked this sha . lol.

Whenever you get to this point, don't try to ask. Anything you hear is obviously not the truth.
Why? Love is shown more than it's spoken.


6. When was the last time you got laid?

More often than not, if she is a bit honest, she'll tell, two years ago or A year and six months.
I'm not doubting her but... hmm!
God is watching ooo!


7. What did you take for breakfast?

Hehehe! She will never tell you garri or "packet shirt" with ogbono soup.
She will tell you things like: Plantain chips, Indomie, Bread and tea...

The thing go fear me more when I ask, since morning? and she replies, Yes!
Hah! Where you get strength from to rush for lectures? You be Super woman?

She won't tell you she's watching her weight which Most times are PLAIN, SILLY LIES! Lol!
For most part, She'll tell you Nothing, I am not hungry or I have lost appetite... iffa hear!

All she needs to hear is just your "Bae, try and eat something, OK" lol.


These are my findings, you can add to it.

donephi:

tosyne2much:
This article is an eye opener to all the "love is blind" guys, and I want to use this medium to thank you, oga Wristbangle, for this educative write-up even though many ladies will have you hated. I must confess that I learnt a thing or two from your write-up. Thank you oooo

Let me also add mine and keep the ministry moving.

9. They come to Nairaland to Advise their fellow Ladies against Broke Guys

Most ladies you find on social media who are quick to ridicule or refer to any hustling dude as being broke or express their degree of hatred for broke guys are usually potential lazy housewives. These are ladies that don't see any future in a man just because he can't afford to dish out his hard earned little money for them to buy perishable parameters. They have no special abilities that can be exhibited to either better their lives or make money; they have no gifts and talents, no goals, no dreams and ambitions in life. Just deceive them that you will open supermarket for them or promise to take them to Dubia and they're all yours. They spend time looking at the mirror and how to enlarge their butts and bosoms just to attract the best of chairmen. Their only ambition in life is to get married and sit their asses down at home while the man struggles his life out. They don't want to build a future with any man but only want a man that has prepared eba and will only invite them to come and wash their hands and eat without knowing the stress the man went through to get it done. They usually justify their laziness by saying a man is meant to provide for his family not a women. Only a man without goals or visions go put that kind women for house.

10. They are ardent lovers of elaborate Wedding

They are easy to spot by the way they talk about marriage. Since marriage is their only achievement in life, they always talk about how they can't settle down with a man that earns less than N100k per month; they talk about how flamboyant their wedding will be and will frustrate any man that initiates a low key wedding; they talk about their love for already made men and will always throw themselves cheaply at these men; they have no jobs but will talk about how they can't settle down with a man in a two bedroom apartment; These are ladies that don't even have up to 10k in their bank accounts but want an elaborate wedding of two million Naira. They have lost all dignity of womanhood and wouldn't hesitate to date the husband of another woman. They attend other people's wedding and will return back home discussing how the wedding gown of the bride is of low quality and how her wedding gown doesnt match with her shoes. Any man that marries these types of ladies will only go back from frying pan to fire.

My fellow Nairaland guys, I pray that we will not fall into the hands of these daughters of Jezebel
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I don't know if my comment makes any sense

johndgreat9ja:
So you just take a deep breath and read along with me Ways to know Ladies who have no Boyfriends..
1)They are always on social media 24/7
They are very easy to spot on social media as they can be found in almost every section. They are usually online at odds hours giving relationship advice to other ladies even though they’re the ones that need advice…
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/reason-why-men-could-not-have-sex-with.html
2)They talk so much about Jesus Christ
They become S. U and are always spotted wearing skirts,blouse and shoulder pads that are 100km long grin grin,since every effort to get Boyfriends have failed them,they become born again Christians and always dress like my grandma.you’ll see about 50 pictures of Jesus Christ in their rooms.
3)They are open to flirting cool
Girls who are taken and happy at that,are usually less flirtatious than ladies who are available.
4)They are socially isolated
She could just go out with her friends and their boyfriends to a club or a bar,when the DJ hits it hard and her friends not excluding their boyfriends are having the fun of their life,she always sit and watch probably be the one that will snap all the pics of that day…
5)They put on their status “I don’t reply mails”
Some of them form classy and expensive babes by putting up all sorts of status on social media just to give guys the impression that they’re already taken,Believe them at your own peril.because most of them don’t have…
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/sign-on-how-to-know-that-your-partner.html
6)They show their Backsides/Boobs as DPs
Those who don’t have any other thing to attract or offer aside their huge Boobs/bosoms will upload sexually appealing pictures just to trap men down…..They are very easy to spot on instagram,facebook etc.
7)They always have the same status in their respective social networks E.G Being single rocks,in love with Jesus,Guys are only after sex,i’m every man’s dream,self love tongue
cool They are quick to say “men are dogs”
Most of them are not happy with their status even though they will never admit it.some of them have been victims of “chop and clean mouth by guys” who have no mercy,By the reason of this,they place stereotypical beliefs on men that they’re all dogs…
9)They parade unnecessarily when they see Guys around
Some of them start parading and will start adjusting the straps of their bras when they see guys around.This is usually done by girls who have little or no shame..
READ ALSO https://boewap..com.ng/2017/04/something-men-really-does-not-love.html
10)They are quick to say “I don’t ask guys for money”
They are quick to utter this statement so that guys will quickly develop interest in them and when you eventually do,they will tax you(but some are real though).
But
Some just don’t want one. There is every 60% chance that she doesn’t just want One, not that guys have not been coming “They have”but they just might be tired of the drama that comes with relationships….


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Divay22:
This is to counter the thread created by Tosyne2much Titled 10 Ways to spot Guys without Girlfriends.....

https://www.nairaland.com/3673319/10-ways-spot-guys-no

Some girls can be so cunning, if she is bent on hiding her Boyfriend status, trust me you won't know...But in all you might want to know the attitudes displayed by Ladies without Boyfriends...

So you just take a deep breath and read along with me Ways to spot Ladies who have no Boyfriends..

1)They are always on social media 24/7

They are very easy to spot on social media as they can be found in almost every section. They are usually online at odds hours giving relationship advice to other ladies even though they're the ones that need advice...

2)They talk so much about Jesus Christ

They become S. U and are always spotted wearing skirts,blouse and shoulder pads that are 100km long ,since every effort to get Boyfriends have failed them,they become born again Christians and always dress like my grandma.you'll see about 50 pictures of Jesus Christ in their rooms.

3)They are open to flirting

Girls who are taken and happy at that,are usually less flirtatious than ladies who are available.

4)They are socially isolated

She could just go out with her friends and their boyfriends to a club or a bar,when the DJ hits it hard and her friends not excluding their boyfriends are having the fun of their life,she always sit and watch probably be the one that will snap all the pics of that day...

5)They put on their status "I don't reply mails"

Some of them form classy and expensive babes by putting up all sorts of status on social media just to give guys the impression that they're already taken,Believe them at your own peril.because most of them don't have...

6)They show their Backsides/Boobs as DPs

Those who don't have any other thing to attract or offer aside their huge Boobs/bosoms will upload sexually appealing pictures just to trap men down.....They are very easy to spot on instagram,facebook etc.

7)They always have the same status in their respective social networks E.G Being single rocks,(once did this )in love with Jesus,Guys are only after sex,i'm every man's dream,self love

They are quick to say "men are dogs"

Most of them are not happy with their status even though they will never admit it.some of them have been victims of "chop and clean mouth by guys" who have no mercy,By the reason of this,they place stereotypical beliefs on men that they're all dogs...

9)They parade unnecessarily when they see Guys around(cute ones at that )

Some of them start parading and will start adjusting the straps of their bras when they see guys around.This is usually done by girls who have little or no shame..

10)They are quick to say "I don't ask guys for money"

They are quick to utter this statement so that guys will quickly develop interest in them and when you eventually do,they will tax you(but some are real though).

But But
Some just don't want one. There is every 60% chance that she doesn't just want One, not that guys have not been coming "They have"but they just might be tired of the drama that comes with relationships....

I'll drop my pen too
No blasting pls

Rukkydelta:
True talk