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1StopRudeness:
They told to him to go a bring a lady he has slept with for money rituals..don’t fall for his crocodile tears and his remorseful pretense....
u don’t need him... uve been fine without him for close to a decade..


My sister......... japa!!!!!!!

Jamean:
@divanona

You're better off by yourself taking care of the child. He came back because he has nothing and knows you have not really moved on. He sees you as a placeholder and just wants to settle with you. You're not his dream woman.

Many years ago during one of the Super story episodes where a man abandoned his twin baby girls and wife for years, my dad clearly told me a well meaning man who loves a woman will never do that, he'd rather be in your lives no matter how little he can provide. That episode didn't end in happy ever after.

My dad further gave clear examples of 2 of his relatives who did same thing for 14years and 18years respectively. I grew up to hear these men disappeared without a trace and showed up with nothing many years later. The women are still fending for those men and trained the children single handedly.

The day he has the means to be with his dream woman he will still abandon you and move on again. You would have built him for another woman. Don't play pity party of your child's father bla bla. What if he were not alive?

If you accept him and fall for the marriage scam you end up fending for that family alone and you will be worse off than when it was just you. Forget whatever happened in the past, him unable to graduate and get hold of his life this whole time speaks of his readiness for life and is a very red flag. Magic don't happen, people have to work for the life they want.

I've taken my time to write this epistle because of what I know. You need to move on and level up and probably marry someone else that will make your life easier.

@divanona you can save this my comment and refer to it in the future.

AtoningBlood:
Op, my advise is, pray. Don't joke with that, no matter the advise here, pray and let God lead you.
If God is leading you, be sure it is all well.

abbey621:
Let's leave him for a minute, his case is still loading with his village people. Woman, what have you been doing for 8 years? Do you mean you still reside in your family home? You didn't marry? No serious relationship? If you had moved on with your life, there would be no need of you entertaining the devil.

Look at it this way, people make mistakes, it is conceivable that a guy ran away for a year or maybe 2 or 3 but woman 8 freaking years! Come on woman, you're smarter than that! If you use your child as an excuse to settle down with him then be prepared for him to leave once again when his village people strarts calling. The guy never gave a flip about that child so don't even entertain the thought, the major factor here should be you! Why haven't you moved on? Are you deformed? Do you have a mental illness? Evaluate yourself and determine why you've not been able to move on and then look at the guy and decide for yourself are you guys a match made in heaven or hell? I don talk too much

Diariess:
She doesn't have to take him back and I didn't insinuate that in my post. I'm just saying one good turn deserves another no matter the length of time that has passed. If she can help him find his footing without harming herself, I don't see any reason why she shouldn't.

Onyxunlimited:
You took care of his son alone including feeding, clothing, shelter, hospital bills after delivery and when sick, school fees etc that should cover for the school fees he paid for you over 100 times.
Now what do you want to do with a jobless man? Do you want to be the man and the woman in the family when you are not a widow? Will you raise your kid with your money and eventually get pregnant and raise other kids too by yourself? Will you cook, clean, do laundry and do all the duties of a wife and still hustle like a man to feed your children and your husband? When your family grows, do you know that you may have to move out of your brother's house and pay rent?
My candid advice is for you to allow the father of your kid visitation right and that's all. If you like start dating him and get pregnant again for him, don't say nobody warned you ooo.
8 years is too long to be away from you guys. He only came back because no other woman will accept him.
Be wise, woman!

Sarang:
Don’t let him into your life
He will impregnant you and dump you AGAIN!
When people show you their color the first time, believe them.
You did not come into this world to suffer
And your son can have a good relationship with this man WITHOUT marriage
Run for your life! RUN!


Plus he is penniless!
What exactly was he doing with his life all these while to turn out this bad despite his aspirations?!
They wean.. his aspirations are dead!

SweetCunt97:
She should drop d fool like a pile of hot shit joh

Hushpuppies:
He needs a second chance......... We all do.
You guys can still live above the storm together.
Looking forward to your wedding, cheers.

siraj1402:
Send him back

Pa3cia:
Adeola you sef na Fowl.
Can you pls stop crying over this issue, for the past few days, you've refused to get over it, pele oko mi, you must av emaciated over this issh, get apetamin to help regain all you've lost.

Mindlog:
Please do explain her need for him in order to balance emotionally.

merieam16:
U dey mind them ni, women av nt suffered and will never suffer unless u choose to suffer in their hands

merieam16:
Nairalander guys and hypocrisy, so u can be quick to say she should help him buh if the other way round u'll be d first to shout " oga leave that babe, Nigerian babes aint loyal" abi

Pa3cia:
Stop crying na... mide the wailer, akpo ewa

0KNM:
Are you the wife? Just curious

phlame:
Who let this Dog out??

handsomeyinka:
Lol...Na God oo..
How's everything going?.

Pa3cia:
Na ur new name na, the guy dashed you the name, meaning Bag of sand, e pain am, tell ur husband who the real father of those kids are, alagbeere.. be like lifeless catfish

Pa3cia:
Mide stop crying nd [center]go[/center] for surgery dear, dnt forget to tell ur husby, who the father of those kids are, get ova d tears, for the past four days, FYI flat yansh no be insult, so find another tin talk abt, old looking woman m sure u not up to thirty but you look 45, "Arugbo girls" e pele e ku ekun.
You go just die on top my mata

Dynamite02:
So all these things you mentioned automatically removes body odour?

Chino4NAUTH:
There is no bad belle, afterall rich and can afford what I want.. It is you who have inferiority complex who thinks rich people like me can't be dirty.. If not been tidy and not bathing frequently isn't one of the signs of dirtiness then your university education (if at all you went to one) must be a total waste

Burgerlomo:
That gal ass though

ArticleBeast:
Oh you didn't refer to me as Simp...

Chino4NAUTH:
Wealth doesn't equate been clean.. You can outrightly see the reasons they gave.. He doesn't bath well and doesn't keep places tidy.. So u see, he's a pig

DarkJeddi:
Ramblings of a confused N1TWIT..
Why don't you go ahead and choke on the difference between untidy and dirty..

Blessedassuranc:
Being untidy isn't same as being dirty.. Is it?

BiggyB242:
I don't know if he is dirty or not but must everything be related to money?... Nigeria is so bleeped up, you can't be criticized/corrected because you are rich. What's the connection between been dirty and having a g-wagon now?

ArticleBeast:
You call her a thot like you have hired her. Some of you are just moving idiots with data. She lived with him for almost 3 months. You definitely wasn't raised by a queen

Pa3cia:
Mide stop crying nd [center]go[/center] for surgery dear, dnt forget to tell ur husby, who the father of those kids are, get ova d tears, for the past four days, FYI flat yansh no be insult, so find another tin talk abt, old looking woman m sure u not up to thirty but you look 45, "Arugbo girls" e pele e ku ekun.
You go just die on top my mata

ibkkk:
Love your wife's outfit - Decent, Classy and Elegant
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU BOTH.