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boomcity009:
I can bet with all if my heart that at the beginning of the relationship, the girl was good n nice but time has shown her real character.

THE REALITY IS THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD but my guy is still hoping and craving for the good old days of the relationship but it cant happen again unless the lady wants to repent n change but REALITY IS "LADIES DONT REPENT, THE RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD"

Go and replace her, this is the difficulty of the OP, he cant easily get a new partner just like me but WE MOVE ANYHOW

Like me too, the relationship is dead, I NEED A NEW LADY but its so hard for my personality makeup. Thats the OPs challenge too (inability to get a new partner hence praying dead relationship becomes normal, relationship wey dan die tey tey)

Nah true. The relationship don die tey tey.

The lady fit don replace him with someone new sef.

Well, based on how I see it, the op shouldn't attempt to replace her quickly and use another lady as a rebound. It would likely boomerang and the new lady might be the recipient of the frustration and pent-up anger the op carried from his previous relationship, even if the new lady isn't toxic like the previous one.

He should endeavor to take his time to heal fully from the toxicity firstly, before venturing into another relationship.

boomcity009:
I understand him.. its not easy for him because he cant get a new lover easily as women replace men so he is holding on to the one he has even though it is bleeped up cos he has no choice and he will feel much more lonely n unfulfilled if he leaves her cos he has no other options.

Its not easy for men to replace women asap especially in this generation where you tend to impress women to get their loving side

Buhh it would be much more better for him to be "lonely and unfulfilled", than for him to keep holding onto a connection that negatively and unhealthily impacts his mental health, just because he probably thinks he doesn't have other options.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone out there.

Lately, I have been traumatized. Like so depressed. My fiancee and I have been together for over 2 years and we've been planning to take the next step,which is our marriage arrangements.

But recently,I have noticed how she has been distancing herself from me. Though we had a little quarrels not quite long ago,but I really wanted to settle things up. And unfortunately, before I could calm things up,I noticed she had blocked me on Whatsapp.

Now,the pain in me,is that I've tried to talk to her,but she seems like who doesn't want to listen to me and it's really hitting hard on me.

This is someone who has always been toxic and disrespectful to me,but whenever I try t walk away completely from her,i always find myself going back to her. And I'm so tired and fed up with the whole thing.

I have tried to walk away,like forget about everything we've together in the past but the healing process hasn't been easy. I really want my peace of mind back. Please,has anyone been in this kind of situation before? How did you navigate yourself through it. Please,help a brother in need.

She's "always been toxic and disrespectful" to you, and you still crave her? You even want to tie the knot with her and "hope" she changes after marriage, right?

She has shown you who she is, and who she would be after getting married to her. How can someone be this undiscerning and willingly want to sign up for a lifetime of misery and depression?

The best thing to do, is to walk away, and never look back.
What's so endearing and alluring about a toxic person and a narcissist that she's able to get you trapped in her cycle of sadism and narcissism?

The healing process might be hard for you, buhh it would be worth it, and your future self would be glad you walked away from such a person.

Eba50:
at all at all. infact,i peck top of my 2 kids head, boy and girl twins almost everyday, and if they do something naughty, which requires cane, i normally assign task for them to work.

Great to know. You can discontinue and break the unhealthy cycle of narcissism. And it's good you're taking proactive steps already.

Eba50:
my 0arents are very guilty of all you stated. may God forgive them, cos i resent them, and even though i dont say it out, they know, and its too late for us to talk about it, vos i have moved on and independent with my young family

Wow. That's an horrible thing to go through as a whole, probably for a very long time.

Do well not to replicate the same unhealthy dispositions of your parents, to your kids, please. Narcissism is the most profound form of abuse, which unhealthily impacts and critically deteriorates the mental health.

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

To be specific, since you're curious, once siblings don't get along, there is a narcissistic parent or parents in the bloodline.

When siblings don’t get along, it’s rarely just about personality clashes or childhood rivalries. Often, it’s the aftermath of something much deeper, which is the invisible fingerprints of a narcissistic parent somewhere in the family line.

Narcissistic parents don’t raise children to love each other. They raise them to compete, to perform, and to earn affection that was never freely given. And this results to adults, who carry invisible scars from growing up in a house where love was conditional, and comparison was constant.

A narcissistic parent plants division early. They might play favorites by showering one child with praise while quietly criticizing the other, and then switch roles when it suits them. This creates confusion, jealousy, and a lifelong sense of “never being enough.” Then, the golden child, and the scapegoat dynamic, is born.

The golden child learns to seek validation through pleasing the parent, while the scapegoat becomes the emotional dumping ground, blamed for everything that goes wrong. Neither role is love. Both are manipulation.

Over time, those roles solidify.
As adults, siblings may find it nearly impossible to connect authentically. One may still crave approval from the narcissistic parent, unconsciously siding with them and dismissing the other’s pain. The other may go low or no contact, trying to heal but feeling guilty for breaking the unspoken family rules of silence and loyalty.
The parent, meanwhile, sits at the center, often pretending confusion: “Why can’t you two just get along?” As if they didn’t light the fire themselves.

The saddest part is that, many siblings never realize the root of their disconnection. They see each other as enemies instead of fellow survivors. They replay the same toxic dynamics, not knowing that the real puppeteer is the emotional legacy of narcissistic parenting.

I speak as a person with raw experience, and until someone sees it clearly and breaks the cycle, the dysfunctionality and profound disunity, would echo through generations.
Resentment, rivalry, and emotional distance would be passed down like heirlooms.

GanagiBitrus:
Read again; my comment never implied that Messi & Ronaldo have bow legs. Lol

Lol, with your comment, you made it seem like it's due to the "bow legs" of Messi & Ronaldo wey make dem sabi play ball more than their colleagues, and became world bests.

GanagiBitrus:
Yes, it is hereditary.

But there is this belief that people with bow legs dey sabi play ball wella.
So you may just give birth to a future goat like Messi or Ronaldo.

As if Messi and Ronaldo have bow legs, lol.

DesireV:
I don't know why I'm wasting my time quoting you but you should stop feeding the public with junks.

These stuffs happen at the molecular level.
I'm certain you're either one of these allied health sciences practitioners who did basic medical sciences as a crash course, a poorly trained one at that because a well trained one won't be doing the copy/paste you just did above OR one of these people who never even had any formal post secondary education in health sciences selling one drug formulation that treats all disease or using one machine who does not require any specimen to assess all body system.

Your continuous loose use of "stomach" and some really cringy stuffs you said gave you out easily.

I won't be replying you again, but try and get proper education on the subject matter or only speak about things you're properly educated on otherwise, you're a public health risk.

You couldn't resist quoting me because deep within you, you know I know stuffs you don't seem to know.

Your grotesque insinuations are very funny. That you thought I did copy and paste, speaks volume about the level of your cognition and metacognition.

For the record, I typed those factual and verifiable facts without looking at any book, either online or offline. I was calmly sitting somewhere, while churning out my nitty-gritties. I know what I typed previously, because I obtained raw knowledge of chemical processes that happens in the body. So, those seemingly big terms are no big deal to me.

I tried to see your facts to counter or invalidate my claims, buhh all I see, are insults. I guess me pointing out the irony and contradiction in your former insufficient writeup, got you worked up.

You have aversion to superior and complex knowledge, I understand. Buhh there's no need to go emotional. Here, we deem "only facts" relevant. Throwing tantrums only paints you as someone insecure and not solidly rooted in what you claim to know. The deflection and gaslighting won't work. What works, is solid facts.

I never engaged you initially. You were the one that jumped on my post, and started assuming nonsense.

Imagine the profoundly incorrect assumptions, written with empty cognizance and confidence! It's me that went deep, as far as the molecular level, to shed more light on what I claim to know that's not properly trained, buhh it's you, that full of contradictions and parochialism, and also devoid of facts, that's properly trained, lol! How wonderful!!

telim:
sent 5k

I don see Sallah meat ohh!

Thank you, boss telim. I don see am.

May you, and your family, celebrate many and much more Eid-el-Kabir, in abundance, peace and happiness 🙏🏽!

DesireV:
Ever heard of subcutaneous fat?

A lot of your submissions above aren't only false but misleading.

Obesity is no doubt unhealthy. It's infact a a component of metabolic syndrome. However, belly fat isn't same as visceral fat. Belly fat isn't the protruding visceral fat.

There are obese people with normal visceral fat distribution at laparotomy while there are slim people with fatty viscera.

"Ever heard of subcutaneous fat?"

That question is both funny and insulting.

I should be the one to ascertain if you truly understand "belly fat", because to me, you don't seem to have the genuine understanding of it, which makes most of your assertions, capitally wrong.

Belly fat isn't just subcutaneous like you wrongly posited. Both visceral fat and subcutaneous fat, constitutes the belly fat as a whole.
So, if I say belly fat or visceral fat, it's correct in all respect. If I also indicate belly fat or subcutaneous fat, it's also very right.

The above facts completely invalidates your wrongful assertion that belly fat isn't same as visceral fat, and also, that belly fat isn't the protruding visceral fat. What's belly fat without visceral fat?!
It has been established that, visceral fat significantly influences belly size and protrusion.

There would be no metabolically-driven belly fat, without the excess visceral fat which came to be, due to excess sugar consumption, processed foods, alcohol intake, et cetera, which over works the liver and causes it to convert excess glucose or fructose into fats and stores it, either in the liver, kidney, stomach wall, or other internal, vital organs. The excess visceral fat which surrounds the liver, causes fatty liver. Fatty liver leads to stomach bulge or belly fat.

When space is no longer available for fat storage in the liver, it moves to another vital organ, such as the kidney. When the visceral fat wraps around the kidney in excess, since it is metabolically active, it then disrupts the normal kidney functions by causing inflammation and hormonal imbalance. One of the notable resultant effects of these, is fluid retention, which shows up as bloating of the belly or oedema.

If no space is available anymore in the kidneys for excess visceral fat storage, it moves either to the pancreas, intestine, stomach wall, et cetera, disrupts their normal functions and wreck havoc, continuously, which hugely increases the size of the belly as a result.

Take note of the fat causing the most damage, which is "visceral fat" and not subcutaneous fat.

The obesity you're harping on, is a risk factor for diabetes, atherosclerosis, hypertension, stroke, et cetera.
Infact, it is heavily characterized by hyperlipidemia, dyslipidemia, LDL- hypercholesterolemia, and hypertriglyceridemia.So, normal visceral fats or not, obesity is outrightly unhealthy.

It's the evidently protruding belly fat, that makes "fatty visceral" detectable in "slim people". Take note of "fatty visceral", and not "subcutaneous fat". Buhh it's the same you, that's been falsely and misleadingly reiterating that, belly fat isn't same as visceral fat, belly fat isn't the protruding visceral fat. How ironic!

JuanDeDios:
You're right that having visceral fat in the tummy is a sign that all's not well. This is well-known. But it's wrong to suggest that a non-flat tummy always indicates the presence VF. Stomach roundness is some people's natural anatomy - genetics, age, etc. can all be factors.

Well, I never used the word "always". I'm aware of other possible causal factors of big belly, hence, the reason I used "more often than not".

JuanDeDios:
A big stomach does not necessarily mean fatty liver. There are people with a slightly big tommy who're perfectly healthy.

More often than not, having a big stomach indicates that, there is the presence of too much fat surrounding the important internal organs in the stomach, which the liver is among.
If it's not fatty liver that caused the protruding belly, then, the kidney's functions have probably been impaired by the excess visceral fats surrounding the kidneys, thereby causing fluid retention and bloating (in form of big belly).

Also, most often than not, most big bellies and pot bellies, starts from slightly big tummies. Slightly big bellies, most times, metamorphose into pot bellies.

Goldrosewine:
Thank you for your contribution sir

How would you know if the belly fat on your fancied man is moderate or has crossed the moderate range, since your assessment would be done mainly by your eyes alone?

Besides, it's belly fat, which means - it would protrude or shoot out to an extent, for it to fit your fancied man in his native wear. The protrusion or shooting out, tilts your sought belly fat, to an unhealthy range.

And just so you know, optical assessment alone isn't sufficient to draw conclusions, and could be deceiving.

Well, thanks for your contributions too.

Love belly fat in a man, especially the one that gives him wealthy boy vibe when he's in a native wear?

With this, 👆🏽, do you mean you love a man with a fatty liver, who is very likely to be predisposed to chronic diseases like diabetes, hypertension cancer & the likes?

Okay, in the name of shedding light a little, belly fat and fatty liver goes hand in hand. That belly fat that you claim to love in a man, is a visceral fat that's deeply stored in the stomach, which surrounds vital internal organs such as liver, kidney, pancreas, et cetera.
And this said visceral or belly fat is dangerous, because it is active metabolically, and due to this, it interferes with the normal functioning of the organ/organs it's wrapped or embedded in.
The presence of visceral or belly fat causes inflammation and hormonal imbalance in the cells of the organs they are wrapped in, which predisposes such person with the belly or visceral fat to hypertension, diabetes, cancer, et cetera.

Is it that you're oblivious of the above or you do know buhh still fancy men with belly fat despite it's unhealthy consequences?

spiceadole:
I'm aady and i have been masturbating for almost 20 years.. No regrets

Jesus Christ!

Reloadedisraelp:
The original DiskJockeyManiac Monika I know is not active anymore.... The last conversation he made was winning around 500k since then he disappear from the thread....then someone cloned the account ...I think it's Abba if I remember..... As for Samuel and sam2310.... There's no link between them..thou I maybe wrong....

They are the same person, I mean Samueltemi337 & Sam2310. And you're capitally wrong, to think they're different people.

I'm almost certain that, the cloned account of DiskJockeyManic is DiskJockeyNaMum, which was cloned by WhiteIverson. It wasn't cloned by abba. You're wrong again!

Eid Mubarak, sir telim, and to other people celebrating Eid, on this platform.

May Allah shower countless blessings upon you all and your families!

I am open to Eid meat oh boss telim, through my signature, lol.

RollinTNDA:
Samueltemi337 is a bloody scammer.
I know him since 2020 with his multiple accounts.
Just look at the shame of a human being begging for 100 naira. Blood of Jesus!!!

Poverty is truly evil. God forbid

Wow, lol.

That kid is an hypocrite, and a narcissist. He habitually projects his unhealthy ways on others, and accuse them of what he himself is truly guilty of.

He deflects, gaslights, and outrightly denies what is obvious to everyone that he did.
He's also fond of framing up innocent people with good intentions, either by accusing them falsely or cloning their monickers to misrepresent them.

He has a very grotesque mindset. And shockingly, he's proud of all his shenanigans and wears them with pride, without shame or remorse.

Reggzy:
begging and crumbs service wey I dey do steady? ...

I nor be small pikin guy

Of course, it's good you've pointed out what you're exceptional at. E dey obvious sey una no be small pikin for begging, after all you belong to samuel's dishonorable caucus.

This is a whole new level to begging. I neva see this kain tin for my life. I shock small as I see the evidences.

Imagine opening over 15 monickers, to beg and obtain under false pretenses. Them don shame him tire, still, him no gree shame for himself. O ga ju!

Samueltemi337 is the jobless one, not me. Nah dust him dey yarn.
Nah because today is Sunday. That's why I have his time.

SirCloudControl:
What exactly are you people dragging over? To what end?
A total waste of precious time

The kid, Samueltemi337 started the whole thing. Na jeje I dey my lane dey engage someone decent, then suddenly, that course rep of begging, jumped on the conversation so as to embarrass and troll himself.

See lame attempt at denial and deflection.

He's even shifting the goalpost.
No one said you own half of the monickers on this site. I said you own virtually all the monickers I either mentioned or showed via pictorial proofs, and it's crystal clear to everyone that you truly own them and use them to beg or obtain under false pretense.

Continue deceiving yourself, and think you're deceiving everyone..
Person whose brain nah iron condemn. The able course rep and departmental governor of begging and obtaining under false pretense on Nairaland 🙌🏽

gracias124:
mrbrownjay1 so you too dey beg your opay in your siggy

Obviously, your head don turn. And what's your moniepont doing in your signature?

I left my Opay there not to beg, buhh to obtain payment for a service I thought i would render.

So now, I'm now MrBrownJay because I casted a member of your caucus through his post? Your cognitive level seems very low, which isn't surprising.

I'll like to see your attempts at denial of owning and operating those many and various alternates up there, Samueltemi337 aka Samueltem337 aka Sam2310 aka LoverOfEvil...

I'm patiently waiting, to see how you would attempt to lie your way out of these raw, genuine, undeniable and completely authentic evidences.

I don't need to follow you on here, to nail you with your shenanigans, little kid. I've only made the choice to show maturity by ignoring you all these while.
I have much more proofs with me, and I'm sure that if I dig more deeper, the skeletons you thought you've hidden, would be revealed.

MrBrownJay really gave you and your caucus members the right titles.

If Samueltemi337 could own all those weird alternates, then undoubtedly, he surely owns Sam2310.

What am I even saying? He himself has long admitted to being the owner of Sam2310 monicker.

I have more proofs, buhh I'll release these few ones first. Continue hounding or attempting to embarrass me, then you would be exposed more.

MightyThunder:
I don't punt, kid, at least not yet.

I wasn't wrong at all when I tipped sir MoreThanGold off that, you're operating many monickers here, and that, you either use them to beg or obtain under false pretenses, just like you did with your alternate Sam2310 some weeks ago.

The reality below proves it, Samueltemi337 aka Samueltem337 aka LoverOfEvil, et cetera...wait, what sort of monicker is LoverOfEvil?

No wonder you're like this, so dark and shameless.

That DiskJockeyManiac guy really silenced you with his revelations, and his sort of vibrancy fits you well.

To prove that Samueltemi337 owns all the above monicker, see below.

I don't punt, kid, at least not yet.

I wasn't wrong at all when I tipped sir MoreThanGold off that, you're operating many monickers here, and that, you either use them to beg or obtain under false pretenses, just like you did with your alternate Sam2310 some weeks ago.

The reality below proves it, Samueltemi337 aka Samueltem337 aka LoverOfEvil, et cetera...wait, what sort of monicker is LoverOfEvil?

No wonder you're like this, so dark and shameless.