₦airaland Forum

xendra:
very true, I keep trying to tell people this, but I guess you'll all have to experience it to know. I know too many stories like this, I already feel sorry for a friend because she is about to experience this yet can't see it even tho its so obvious

Please sit her down and talk some sense into her, lest her case turns even worse.

xendra:
exactly missali, this is what you get in the end, dumb comments from retards

Chronic retards indeed, I already modified his comment. He certainly is not referring to me.

makydebbie:
Lemme read.

Awwn sister this is sad. I believe it's a blessing in disguise, imagine if it was your money that was squandered that way..?

The fact that it worked for couple A doesn't mean it'll work for couple B. Some guys are worth the risk, while some ain't.

Thanks for the advise. I just sincerely think men should stop clamouring for support when there is no assurance or insurance attached.

mikolo80:
nope it is what is
If you're worth more to him than kpekus he won't treat you like that. Fact.

You first claimed all I brought to the table is se.x and I refuted by saying you didn't read the text because if you had, you wouldn't make such a statement.

In my lengthy post, I never even mentioned sex. When a woman speaks about a relationship gone sour, keep in mind that sex may not be the cause of sadness, anger or whatever feeling she feels.

Neither, what I mean is that men clamour for women who would stick with them through thick and thin without eventually playing out their roles when it comes down to it.

This same guys comes online to rant about women who ain't loyal and all that as if, they are.

zainmaxwell:
are u trying to say he made it cos u are there then he became broke cos he left u cos me ayam not understanding

mikolo80:
stop ranting. If guy not loyal it means it's only kpekus you bring to the table. Sorry.

You rushed to comment without reading hence your comment.

HeWrites:
Neither do you

At least I understand you, big ups.

leefrak9:
we are also sorry for loss...dem go don use u stone ground well well oh

I reiterate, you don't sound intelligent.

forreelinc:
life is risky baby

y'all act like if a man stands by you it a not also at owners risk

Life is a risk o

Blackfyre:
Over one million naira at a betting promo and you think he has made it?....

If you know what it truly means, you will be praying for that dude. Serious prayer for that matter....

Btw, if you know what's good for you, you will use that opportunity to cut him off. It's a blessing in disguise.

I believed that a wise person has the ability to make use of funds wisely if given the opportunity, I thought wrong.
It's indeed a blessing.

leefrak9:
chaii....after e don use u nack ground finish..na him blow.....we are sorry 4 ur loss

I'm sorry to say but you don't sound intelligent right now.

One of the qualities men look out out for in a woman is the ability for her to stay true by him during trying times and a woman who cannot do that is termed a non wife material and slay Queen at best and at worst, a gold digger.
It is believed that when a woman supports her man and he comes to, in turn he will respect her and share responsibilities as he should but often times, this is not the case.

Many at times we have heard experiences from family, friends, colleagues or even gone through it.
Here's mine: I had this boyfriend that was struggling in every sense of the word. We kept on despite his financial shortcomings and I would travel a long distance to see him knowing fully well that the trip expenses and all that came with it were on me. I did not hesitate to oblige favours that I could give and ensured I went out with him during his jobs just to give that moral support.

Things seemed to be going on well until the day I was sitting with some friends and one of them asked how I was enjoying with my boyfriend. I responded with a light laugh and he asked "now that your guy has made it, what is the way forward?"

Me: Made it how?
Guy: Your guy hit over one million in that online betting promo.
Me: Yes yes, it's not easy... Such an unexpected favour at a time like this.

I pretended to be aware and happy but I wasn't myself till the end of the day. Everybody knew the good news except me.
One week, two weeks, one month passed and I got no call from my estranged boyfriend to even tell me what had happened. I refused to call too.

I heard news about how he had become the man about town, declaring free drinks for people he met at our street bars, dashing money to those who came to celebrate with him etc. Whenever someone who knew us sighted me they asked, "are you not M's girlfriend?" and I mumbled any answer that came to mind.
Months later I got a call from him begging to see Me. After many refusals, I decided we meet. He went on his knees apologising, saying he knew I was aware of all that had happened but was too ashamed to contact me. He went on about how he rented an apartment for one girl, was giving out money with reckless abandon, purchased an expensive mobile phone which he ended up selling at an abysmally low price (due to hardship) and how he was popping bottles at bars et al.

The length and breadth of the story was that the money was all gone. The business idea we had brainstormed he made no use of the money to invest. All his friends and girlfriends had left him for good and he felt lonely, he remembered the one who stood by him sincerely.

At the moment he had not a penny, with an empty stomach and looking for a way to get a small job. I could tell he was miserable from his looks alone. If only he had the right company who would have advised him at such a critical time, he'd never have had to go hungry again. I took him to a restaurant and we had a nice meal. He called me a good girl, a loving friend, a confidant blah blah blah.

Ladies, they will come at you with twisted words tell you they want a good woman, a patient woman, a supportive woman etc. Some will even tell you that they can never respect a woman who does not struggle with them. Do not fall for it. Most times, what they want is someone to take their excesses while they move on to cast their net elsewhere. For tens of stories about men who stick by their women when the going got smooth, there are hundreds of untold stories about men who looked the other way.

Playing the supportive role is the case of it may work and it may not. It is not stated anywhere that after standing by him and he leaves for another woman, he will be mobbed. You will simply be remembered as 'the one who once was', that's all.

It is a case of driving into a place with the words "cars parked at owner's risk." Nobody will tell you not to park your car but you hold yourself liable should anything happen to it. Hence, stand by your man at owner's risk.

I had a dream last night and feel I should share.

I was seated in the living with my Uncle and my phone rang. I asked to excuse myself so I could take the call but he refuted. Taking my phone from me, he dismantled it and threw it outside in the rain. Afterwards, he proceeded to slapping and beating me. I tried to free myself from his grip but he just kept punching me. A few seconds after he freed me, another Uncle of mine turned me into a punching bag. He chased me in the rain and we were running from one end of the street to the other.

To say the least, I was broken when everything was over. I taught of a way to make them pay for all what they had done and since I could not fight them back, my best bet was suicide. Yes. The last memory they would have of me was putting me through so much pain and I believed that would really break them. I can’t remember how I committed the suicide but I immediately felt a sudden weightlessness. Something felt wrong and there was no way of getting a hold of what was happening.

On a busy road, I saw people walking around me. They went about their activities without saying a word to me or throwing a glance. I walked inside what happened to be a room in my house and met a girl there. She saw as I entered but said nothing and that made me even more curious to ask, “What is happening?”

She stared at me for a while as if seeing through me and replied, “You’re dead.”
I was shocked but that help me to come to terms with my surroundings.

The next few minutes were of great guilt. All of a sudden I began to feel heavy sadness and pain. I had thought killing myself would send me into a state of oblivion; non-existence. Here I was, aware of everything happening around me yet I couldn’t partake.

Curiously I asked her “how is it possible you can see me?”

“I am dead but I have moved to a higher plane.”

Her words were tormenting and I wondered how it is that she was so comfortable while all I could think of was the heavy sadness that seemed to suppress me by the second.

Instantly, I began to recall bits and pieces of what had happened that day. I had gone out with a few friends earlier and I started to think of the shock they would go through when they realised a friend they saw that morning had committed suicide. They would cry, get scared and possibly blame themselves, thinking they surely would have been a way for them to notice something was wrong and stop it.
I also recalled my phone had been ringing constantly and it was a call from my boyfriend. I taught he still had to be calling and he would think I refused to take his calls.

“Please, you have to tell my boyfriend that I’m dead. I killed myself in a lonely place and it might take a while before anybody gets to find where I am” I told the girl before me.

She opened the door and shortly a boy stepped in. It was the 15-yr old boy I usually sent on errands. In the dream, he represented my boyfriend. I could hear what she was saying to him in the beginning but soon lost understanding. His eyes went red and I started to feel all the sadness he felt. I wanted to die again and not be able to feel any of it. His thoughts were like an open book that I could read and in his heart, he was wondering why I took my life knowing I was loved by so many people.

“I have other important things to do.”

He walked out of the room. Just like that. I was beside him the whole time yet he didn’t see me. I wanted to tell him how sorry I was for not considering the people who had loved and sacrificed for me. I could give anything just to be with him again. I wanted to be in a state of nothingness and not have to feel the overwhelming regret.
My family had to be told and since the closest person to me was my grandmother, I couldn’t imagine the anguish she would feel knowing I took my own life. My course mates would have to be informed and they would recall how much of a jovial person I was. My neighbours would be told and my belongings would have to be evacuated from my apartment. There were people whose lives I could have positively affected and at that moment of doing the unthinkable, I made them unable to experience it.
All this and more made me feel angered. I started to walk. I was walking to nowhere in particular; I just walked here and there. I wondered if this was the hell I had imagined, the emotional guilt seemed to surpass my knowledge of that fiery place. It felt like I was dying again and again and each time I taught that I put myself in this state of total hopelessness, I felt I was going insane.

Determined to not have to spend eternity that way, I went back to this girl I had met.
“Is this how I am going to end up?” I asked her.

“You have put a lot of people in pain and you must suffer. You will feel all their sadness and despair.”

“No!” I yelled, “I cannot end up like this. I want to leave this place; I want to stop feeling like this. This is too much for me to bear.”

She looked at me as if surprised yet aware of my intention, “you are dead. You intentionally terminated your life and you have to face the consequences.”
“Maybe my life isn’t over” I said, unsatisfied with her response “I can’t end up this way. Please pray with me, God could help me to come back to life.”

She said nothing in response rather than keep a fixed gaze on me. I could tell what she was thinking however; she seemed to imply there was no God and as such I was fooling myself. I had to try however, if for anything to restore my sanity.

“God, this is not how I want to spend eternity, please give me another chance.”
My dream ended and I trembled in fear.

dharmie:
www.juasolo.

1. Blog Header: Your header could be better than that.

2. Tagline: There is no tagline for your blog.


3. Menu: There is no menu to categorise your posts and this is even easier done in a Wordpress blog than Blogger.


4. Featured image: Some of your images appear rectangular and other squarely. Overall, set your images to fit your screen.


5. Sidebar: The looks too busy with really nothing tangible within. Your About Me widget could have been placed here at the top to optimize the space.


6. Important tabs: You do not have any.


7. Navigation: Your navigation is good.


8. Social Optimization: You have no facebook fanpage


9. Social sharing: This is on point.


10. Copyright: You have not got one.



11. Content: The first thing I was drawn to when I fisrt visited your Blog is Supol Billy Jo post everywhere. There is no ‘read more’ tag on your posts which makes it stressful to my eyes.


12. Desktop: The desktop view is simply not appealing. May I suggest to help you redesign at absolutely no cost?

PS: You should get a domain after we’re done.

Bossforeva:
www.starttells.com

1. Blog Header: Your header is neatly aligned and I love your logo.

2. Tagline: The tagline is in order.


3. Menu: Your menu is nicely placed however it is too much. 4-7 is ideal . Remove the home, about, contact us menus and place it at the footer of your blog so the categories can be easily assimilated with just a glance.


4. Featured image: The images are mostly uniformed which is good.

5. Sidebar: The sidebar is very neat. I love how you placed the recent comment widget at the top.


6. Important tabs: Try adding a Privacy Policy page and implement what I said in Number 3.


7. Navigation: Your navigation is good.


8. Social Optimization: It looks like you have no Facebook fanpage. Please create one and if you need info on how to do that, let me know.


9. Social sharing: This is on point.


10. Copyright: You have not got one.



11. Content: There are a lot of contents on your blog and that is good. You have what it takes to keep visitors interested.


12. Desktop: On my desktop, your header is aligned to the left with empty spaces that should be optimized. It is also very small. If you need info on how to get a better one, let me know.

wahabian:
ouahabian@gmail.com

I blog on life issues,please give my blog a review

Please, resubmit the correct link. You just posted your email address.

Opistorincos:
www.grindaily.info entertainment

1. Blog Header: Your header is easy to read and neatly aligned.


2. Tagline: The tagline is self-explanatory. However, it should be remodeled as this is the exact tagline for Linda Ikeji blog and so many Nigerian entertainment blogs. Be unique!


3. Menu: Your menu is nicely placed. The number of items on the menu is disturbing however. Pages such as Terms and Conditions, Privacy Policy and Sitemap should be out of there and be left at the footer of your Blog.


4. Featured image: Some of the images in your post look overly cropped. Try to stick with a defined size for images.


5. Sidebar: This looks good, try moving your Facebook Fanpage to the top where it can be easily seen. I almost didn't see it.


6. Important tabs: Your Privacy Policy, Contact, Sitemap and About Page are in order. Just implement what I said in Number 3.


7. Navigation: Your navigation is good.


8. Social Optimization: This is alright.


9. Social sharing: This is on point.


10. Copyright: You have not got one.



11. Content: There are a lot of contents on your blog and that is good. You have what it takes to keep visitors interested.


12. Desktop: On my desktop, your header is a complete mess. It is aligned to the left with an Adsense ad taking over the entire screen. Create a bolder header for your blog and move the ad lower or to some other place on your blog.


Do you need a step by step tutorial on how to create a bolder an more attractive header? Let me know.

Opistorincos:
www.grindaily.info entertainment

I'll start with yours. The first poster obviously did not get the guidelines I stated.

Hello Bloggers, there are some threads created for blog reviews and I have decided to open this to do my own thorough review of blogs based on the following reasons:

1. The standard by which the blogs are being reviewed are not known.
2. Further suggestions on how to develop the blogs are often not stated.

Hence, my blog review would be based on the following:

1. Blog Header: This is your blog’s name.
2. Tagline: This is the simple, catchy description of your blog.
3. Menu: This is the pages/categories of your blog.
4. Featured image: This is the pictures used in your posts.
5. Sidebar: This is the menus at the corner of your blog.
6. Important Tabs: This refers to your About, Contact Us and Privacy Policy.
7. Navigation: This is the ability to scroll to top/bottom of your blog.
8. Social Optimization: This is the social networks managed by your blog.
9. Social sharing: This is the ability for readers to share your posts on social media.
10. Copyright widget.
11. Content: Your articles.
12. Desktop view: As seen on a computer.


For this, I would be using any 2 out of the following browsing platforms:
1. Operamini
2. UCbrowser
3. Desktop


To qualify for this review, please submit the following
1. Your blog URL: Link to your blog
2. Your Niche: What you write about e.g. Entertainment, Sports, Lifestyle, News, Education etc.

I would also be giving tutorials on how to design your blog. I am no expert by any standard but just managed to do what I think is a minimalist and easy navigational blog after many trials and errors on a new Blogger hosted blog http://www.pitakwachick.com

Hello. Please I need a female friend in Port Harcourt, preferably 18-24 of age. I need someone to hang out with. Besides, I have very few friends. I'm very nice and jovial. PM me please if interested.

You're welcome Dear. Just take things easy.

If you have been placed on hardship... This one don pass Church.

It is not that people have no candid ideas. The fact is that it is better for a child to be raised in an orphanage home where he has the love and respect just as everyone around him, knowing truly his origin, than to be given a false sense of belonging only to be witch-hunted in the near future. Even the OP says she cannot guarantee this issue may not arise sometime later.

Also, we need to look at the reason for adoption. If I were in charge of any of these special care centres and knew the OP I would have refused the adoption of a child from it.
The prerogative of adopting a child first and foremost is love and not because of depression, sadness, anxiety, etc. If you can't be strong for yourself, how exactly can you be strong for a baby?

Asides Papa dilemma of sincerely wishing he had a son, he also wants to be accepted by his kinsmen and I believe he wants them to accept the child too as his son.
He may accept the boy but will the boy be accepted? Let us not place our ambitions in such a way that causes ridicule to others.

That being said, here is a link I got for the process of adopting in Nigeria. It has some useful information. http://nigerianorphanages..

Please make background findings about the orphanage you plan to use as some of them are simply baby factories in disguise.

In most cases an adopted child is not considered a 'true child' in the Nigerian perspective. Arguments such as 'the boy is not our blood, he was bought with money' etc. may arise in the future.

Given that this child is to be taken as the first son (inheritor) of your father, this may not go down well with extended families and immediate families alike in time to come.

You all should think carefully. Igbos especially 'rever' their first son. In addition to saving yourselves future embarrassments, you may want to avoid putting the life of an innocent child in danger.

From some of the comments on this thread, I can now understand why many Nigerian women are single at 45 and some, for life!

These same women will come out to say marriage is about love, understanding, honesty etc. but are truly showing that their belief in the marriage system is basically on 'how much money he earns, the degree she has' and all sorts.

My questions are thus:

1. Is this to say illiterates cannot and in fact, should not get married?
(Is bagging a BSc and earning a bogus salary now a criteria for marriage?)

2. Are people not formally schooled more likely to have a failed marriage?
(Most of our forefathers weren't. Yet, marriages had more meaning than they do now in the so-called 21st century.)

3. Does a few 'loopholes' mean they won't prosper?
Marriage is a personal decision and as such, no one can tell where this man and woman could be in the next few years. They may not start out as millionaires but with patience and hardwork, they will succeed.

Finally, anyone who starts their comment with 'a 21 year old woman is too young to marry' may actually be a lonely, depressed and desperate single lady at 50.

Forgot to add, how successful are your marriages all these women yannin...?

Madam Kevwe, I believe you have not stopped taking igbo. Inasmuch as you claimed to be the golden egg of Fela, you still slept with his brother and bore him a son. You are now coming out to tell people of one stupid covenant you took. Rubbish! Men, I advise you go for DNA test when your girlfriend/fiancée/wife etc. delivers 'your' baby. It doesn't matter if the child looks like you, it might be your relative's hence the resemblance. To be fore warned...

Great. I see Per Stafsen.