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ogawisdom:
God's time is the best

Yeah, I know...

I have been to his place like 3-4 times and saw no sign of a woman there....not my problem any more

redgem:
Call him and ask to meet him

I'm not sure I can do that...

redgem:
That means, he hasn't really accepted the breakup...

Did you meet him to tell him or you just sent a message like how girls do?

Note: you don't breakup through chats or messages, that is a sign of Cowardice. If you really want to break up with him, set up a meeting and tell him, in that way you can really deduce something from his reaction

We had a chat......

johnson232:
damn!!! so because people said so, u decided to end it?

They made good points

johnson232:
what do u mean by beating abt the bush?
why are u trying so hard to paint this guy black?

I'm not trying to paint him black, I laid an accusation and he could not really prove himself

johnson232:
u weren't even serious abt the relationship...

I was serious about it...what were you expecting me to do? People said I should run now before its too late

redgem:
Hmmmmm, was he in support of your decision I. E did he say anything after you told him about the breakup?

He actually said nothing about d breakup was just beating around the bush

redgem:
That was a bad move sis.. How long have you both been dating? I know men can be annoyingly stupid most times but there is what we call endurance, give him time and watch him closely before you make a decision.. Because right now, you will be among the list of women who were at fault.

Play the fool for now..

I've ended the relationship already

mizzochocinco:
Most of the times guys who play victim are usually the perpatrators, if you dig into his past a little you will find out that he was probably the one who did most of the cheating. If he is constantly going awol, then you have just entered one chance. All i say is run as fast as you can and never look back

I've ended the relationship

ivyT:
It isn't even advisable to court a man 15 yes and above older than you. Insecurity on his part is inevitable.

Op I have no advice for you

Ok..

jashar:
My dear. The signs are clear. He ain't ready. Don't you think it's time for you to move on?

Will let him know what went wrong then move on

jashar:
Hmmmmmm... e no dey easy naaa....

Have to search well


On a serious note. You can't force a man who isn't ready to commit. Berra free yaself to find someone of the same wavelength as you.


If he ain't ready, he ain't ready. Simple.

I wasn't the one who met him for a relationship... He came to me, said he wanted something serious...he even sent pix of recently married couples according to him and also pix of kids.. He Just didn't act like a really serious man

kings009:
U beta investigate properly... He may be married! All he wants maybe you congo ;

Yeah... Everything is possible

Men are good at hiding secrets

Mindfulness:
The moment a man would make such a statement to me would be the moment I would run because he is either too du.mb to understand the complexity of relationship dynamics or because he is suffers from a mental illness called narcism, which is destructive to the people around. I believe it is the latter in his case.

Anyone who believes that he is always right and others are always wrong is either dvmb or sick in his head. Such people can never be responsible.




He is a liar. Another reason why you should run swiftly.




Yeah! Good you noticed, it wasn't hard, was it?

There are MANY wonderful men out there. Forget about him. Nothing lost, a lot gained.

onegig:
Lol... You seem young and someone he can bobo.

The first red flag is not admitting to wrong doing in any of his previous relationships. It takes two to tango and if he would claim saint during the previous ones and no't take responsibility for his current situation; you are better off without this fellow.

He still has a lot to learn.

Will let him know my thoughts and know what he has to say

Mindfulness:
It's ok. I was just wondering why you would think that it is a problem not to be married at a certain age.

He told me so many things which seems not to be true... I've modified my post

Mindfulness:
So?

Did he complain?

He is probably not interested in long term commitment.

His life, his choice!

It was a question I asked..

jashar:

38 years and haven't found the one?

Mindfulness:
Must there be a problem?

Maybe he just enjoys living the single life.

Which is changing women like diapers

talk2alabama:
the last one falls under cowardice

Ok...

talk2alabama:
Cowardice...


Impotency




Irresponsibility

I don't really understand the Cowardice

Impotency.... He talks about kids a lot

A friend of mine said it's because he is a womanizer

What do you think keeps a man till 38 and he is not yet married?

I'm currently dating a man of 38 before we started dating, he always called, was eager to see me and always bugging me.. Told me he wants a serious relationship with me cos he wants to settle down

He said he has been in relationships with different ladies and all the breakups were the fault of the females,that they were all cheats, his last lady broke up with him cos his refusal to kiss & sex her cos dey had an agreement of no sex before marriage.

We also made same agreement yet he has been wanting to kiss/touch me and I've been refusing, this is the same man that said his ex broke up with him cos he refused kissing her..


I also noticed he is not straight forward and always gives excuses, he cancels appointments at late hour without calling to even tell me, gives silly reasons, and he doesn't pick some calls in my presence..

kapable75:
hmmmm!! That good of you sha. But the part that you said u dont like him staying at home is what i dont understand. Not exact words tho.

His mates are serving already

Titanium38:
let him get engaged with something then..

maybe get him a job. incase u see vacancy for two, contact me

Let him serve first, getting a job won't be a problem

kapable75:
y? But wait o, are u sure its u're brother u're speaking for. Just asking!

Yes, we had a discussion this evening and he told me stories

Browsed to confirm if what he said was true and found they were actually true

OK....I can't watch him stay at home for months

When will batch B list be out? My younger brother missed batch A and now he said he doesn't know if it's June or November

optm:
it isn't normal .Go meet your eye doc for treatment; most likely it's an eye infection you are having

Thanks...will go there on Tuesday

Noticed a tiny cataract in my right eye this morning...its not visible though except you look closely

Thanks...

I've been having itching eye for 3 days now...it started in the evening like there was something in my left eye...checked and tried removing it but there was nothing in it, had to force myself to sleep.. The next morning my eye lids were gummed together washed it off and the eye was red.. Ever since then, it itches for a while then stops..

Please is it normal or something to be worried about?

I've been having itching eye for 3 days now it's really disturbing me, it itches for a while then stops...docs or any eye specialist in the house kindly help me out

Is it normal or something to be worried about?