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Sorry but this post makes zero sense. . .
Its ridiculous to say men marry at an higher rate than women. . .
Each man pairs up with a woman so who do the extra men get married to? Trees?[/quote]Lolololz. Tree?

Im going through a similar situation. Ive have asked myaelf how did we get to this point but im starting to think it is an ego thing. Whoever said that I believe they are on point. So ive come to.a conclution that a man want to feel like a man. This guy I talked to even told me I dont know wha you are thinking half the time. I did not give it much thought at the time annd I.think he is hurt by my not calling or texting. So I gave him space and realizes I have to be women enough to approach the situation with caution. I do believe this is not the time to express jow u feel to hi. Youll only.be looking for a fight. If u believe hes a good.man hold onbecause men are hard to.come by. Hes looking for ways to push you away. Dont give into it. Hp

kpolli: she is confused and wants to understand someone else. . . Didn't u hear "charity begins at home". . . First understand urself before trying to understand him

Ummm nope try again. I know my values and what I seek. I am confused as to HIS ways and culture. I cant help that I did not nigerians can be passive and unemotional. I'm used to communication but now that I know I do understand him better and know no pun was intended. I cant mind read. I feel better knowing this is the problem with most and it was not just me being silly. Thanks though for your ummmm .....input I guess.

ArQueBusieR: It doesn't matter where I go. I'll always be unconventional.
You know my values?! What are they?

How about you tell me lol

IZUKWU: why are crying after spilled milk

Im not crying. Just feel guilty. Dont want to be the cause of pushing someone away. Thats why I moved on. Looking for someone to tell me I did the right thing lol but om starting to think maybe I was wrong. Anyways I like to understand the nigetian man. Not so much crying but learning different aspects of men period.

punnonline: then relax and enjoy whatever he offers as long as you LOVE him!
But dnt put so much faith so if ever brushes off you would be able to handle the break up(emotionally) i had an bf once who hardly called me except i did,i pushed d issue so much but no change so i assumed he didnt care and walked away i later realised it wasnt just me all his friends even family has the same problem. Its who he is bt i didnt gt it. We are stil friends and moved when i tink of it i knw i made a mistake and presently i make it a point to understand my partner's weakness.

punnonline: then relax and enjoy whatever he offers as long as you LOVE him!
But dnt put so much faith so if ever brushes off you would be able to handle the break up(emotionally) i had an bf once who hardly called me except i did,i pushed d issue so much but no change so i assumed he didnt care and walked away i later realised it wasnt just me all his friends even family has the same problem. Its who he is bt i didnt gt it. We are stil friends and moved when i tink of it i knw i made a mistake and presently i make it a point to understand my partner's weakness.

Punnonline I thank you. You have given me the most helpfil information. Its like u understand me where im not able to express oi n words exacly what is happening. As if we had the same experience. I do think it is too late. I have distanxed myself thinking another women involved or he was not into me. He used to call/text everyday and.now I have not heard from him in 5 days. Its not all my fault though cause I wxpressed how I felt and I only stepped aside after I sensed him distancing himself. I did mot push the issue being that we just meet. I am not in love with him but I did value his friendship and would have loved to date. I dont know if he stopped waiting for me to hit him up but I do think its too late. No hard feelings towards him.

tellwisdom: If you are male dating Nigerian female-----Risk

If you are female dating Nigerian Male ----> Safe

Please can i hug ur breasttt for thank u?

I dont think so. He never really lets me know whats on his mind. I think its a done deal. I think Im starting to understand nigerian ways but its too late cause I have distanced myself and he probably think im mad at him. We both have moved on.

Logic Mind: ladies listen.
All heterosexual men want your toto.
So stop asking if he wants sex because he does. ok?

Logic mind lol. I realize this. What I meant was is that ALL he seeks?

ArQueBusieR: How would I know? I'm unconventional.

Very interesting but not all are especially those who come to the u.s who have to adapt to our culture. I see where your values lay so u may not know. I like unconventional less stressfil and more harmony.

Its funny how I hear nigerian men straying and loosing interest. I want to know Nigerian version of ms. right. Does this vary from country and ethnicity? Ex. An nigerian women opposed to an african american women.

Very interesting. This site can be amusing. Cannot believe she acually said that. What about the opposite way around?

sauer: I find it quite funny and a little disheartening that your definition of love and care is when "your guy" calls you non-stop, buys you niceties and pampers you with marriage. Can't you just pick your own self up and wade through life? Apparently, you are panicking in spite of what he tells you. This to me merely reveals that you never really trusted this guy all this time. I mean, you don't even believe him! So, it's either you are easily given to paranoia or don't trust your guy. Whatever comes out of this, is merely the beginning in your journey through life. If you are unable to handle this, I wonder how you'll be able to handle instances where "your guy" attempts to cheat or cheats outrightly. Suicide?
Come on, swallow a chill pill and go about your own business!

Okay. I see where u are coming from but one would be dumb to ignore or act submissively when a situation has drastically changed. Smh one should not ignore red flags. I think you should play it by ear. Chill out; watch his actions. If u loose him in the process he was not worth your time. Place trust but don't be stupid. Some women are used to being cheated on and accept this behavior with no questions. Still question but br smart about it.

190: OP

As long as hes Nigerian - U have no cause for alarm

ure in safe hands

Lol okay

punnonline: pick a time and discus thats d best option ASSUMPTION will destroy ur relationship. Get it from the horses mouth so you dnt regret any decision or action. I have been there, i assumed based on pples thought, bt i knw nw that he did care,still does bt its late.

Thank punnonline for a direct answer. I have spoken to him about some of what I feel and I don't know if I'm pushing him away so I have stepped aside. Hes just so busy I don't know if I'm making a big deal out of something that could potentially be more just because of our cultures and him bring busy. Don't know exactly how to approach the situation anymore if he does not want to make time for me. Have you we are just getting to know one another and i dont want come off as possesive or overstepping the bondries.

I am confused that's the whole point of this post!!! Need answers not critisicm. How do I know what this man wants if he shows little to no emotions. Maybe I'm missing something and his way of dating is different from mines being we are from different cultures.

Please help!!! How do you know what a niger man wants being that he shows little emotions boarder line indiffrence but also shows interest? How do they date/court? Our culture is dfferent but he shows attention when he wants leaving me confused as to what hes thinking and our relationship. How can you tell if he wants sex, friendship or to date? Maybe im being silly but its really frustrating at times.