Biglittlelois:


And when he showed you what was your next reaction? Did you change it for him and delete the pictures and videos yourself? Obviously you didn't, pretty sure you were smiling when you saw yourself looking sexy and all, smh!!! Well follow some good advice here though.....

i deleted them but he has them backed up and even renamed some of the files so I wouldn't code it......

bukatyne:


So the pictures are without your permission.

Ask him what he gains from the relationship. Or has he invested a lot? His 'we have come a long way to end this' suggests that.
Are you above his social status that he sees you as an achievement?
Dies he see you as a conquest?

I would assume that he is beating you because you do things he finds offensive.

Please note I am not holding brief for him. I am trying to get you to understand why he is holding on to the relationship.

is it a crime to go visit a male friend in his house with my two female siblings? is it a crime to have a male friend come visit me in my house with everyone around? is it a crime to discuss business proposition with a male friend in an open restaurant which I told him about myself before going?

bukatyne:


Don't make the girl look more stupid than necessary.

A man who his not your husband records sex videos of you and you let him?

@OP: weigh the risk of staying or leaving and shoot your shot.

You can also explore telling your family so they threaten him and you can leave.

However, I am curious: why doesn't he want to let you go? Why is he using all the weapons in his arsenal to ensure he keeps you?

Cc: Missperplexity0

thats what am baffled about too because he's always like if I don't have you, nobody will and this we've come a long way than to end it here, lemme set some things straight, I only made a clip that doesn't show my face, all the pictures and videos he showed me were either taken while I was asleep naked or coming out of the shower..... they are clips am not aware of

SweetBuns:

Bad advice.

Bad advise indeed.
Missperplexity0 dont do it. It will make things worse. Think about how you'll feel If you do this.
Think about the fear, guilt trips, phobia of getting arrested, loss of self respect and possibly suicidal mood that might come over you if you do this.
I strongly advise you to turn deaf ears to this slowpoke. Please

i don't even have the heart to do that and moreover this secret is like to cause divorce between my parent and also tarnish my father reputation because he's a respectable priest and oversees our church headquarter

schumastic:


If you are really serious about leaving the relationship and your only worry is the nudes and videos, it's very easy.

First of all get the police or a military personnel involve, let the dude sign an undertaking not to release such and he must delete everything. If he does otherwise, they will come pick him up.

For the one of your family, he can say what he likes. Who cares, it will only be for a while and that's it. the most important thing is the nudes and once that is settled, just leave his sorry ass. Guys who hit ladies are cowards.

Signed.

Vice President,

Bachelors Club,

Ikeja, Lagos Branch.

lol....thanks a lot

I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff