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How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 4:02am On May 27, 2019
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Monaco2(m): 4:33am On May 27, 2019
If u know how many nudes n sex tapes are being released everyday on the net in this country u would understand that there is nothing special about urs n it shouldn’t stop u from being free n happy, a guy who threatens to leak ur nudes n family secrets is not someone u should think twice about leaving, ur happiness matter most. Is d family secrets dat bad dat it will ruin ur family?!? Lots of celebrities have their nudes on d net, so no reason am

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by SweetBuns(f): 4:35am On May 27, 2019
Monaco2:
If u know how many nudes n sex tapes are being released everyday on the net in this country u would understand that there is nothing special about urs n it shouldn’t stop u from being free n happy, a guy who threatens to leak ur nudes n family secrets is not someone u should think twice about leaving, ur happiness matter most. Is d family secrets dat bad dat it will ruin ur family?!? Lots of celebrities have their nudes on d net, so no reason am
So because a lot of people have sextapes online, she should join the bandwagon? I wonder how some souls reason at times. Its her female pride and dignity that is on the on the line here angry

As for the OP, go to court and sue him for defamation of character. Not at that time, but charge a count that holds him responsible for any bad thing that happens to you after severing the cords of the relationship. After that, give him a restraining order to stay far away from you. If he breaks it, he gets arrested.

About your family secrets, thats a family and close friends matter. I won't put my mouth into it. But know that you made a big mistake for letting him know those secrets while fully knowing the kind of person he is

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Aliyeous(m): 4:41am On May 27, 2019
its really difficult to get out of a tough spot like this without any form of repercussion... i pray you find a way though and very soon too
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 4:45am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

So because a lot of people have sextapes online, she should join the bandwagon? I wonder how some souls reason at times. Its her female pride and dignity that is on the on the line here angry

where was her "female pride and dignity" when she was fornicating and smilling at the camera as the bastard choleric bloke took pictures and made videos?
Y'all hypocrites only remember morals and your "female pride and dignity" when shiit's gone sour.
#spits

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 4:48am On May 27, 2019
Monaco2:
If u know how many nudes n sex tapes are being released everyday on the net in this country u would understand that there is nothing special about urs n it shouldn’t stop u from being free n happy, a guy who threatens to leak ur nudes n family secrets is not someone u should think twice about leaving, ur happiness matter most. Is d family secrets dat bad dat it will ruin ur family?!? Lots of celebrities have their nudes on d net, so no reason am

my nigga!
You wan just see nude and watch new home made porn by all means.

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by SweetBuns(f): 4:51am On May 27, 2019
badadvice:


where was her "female pride and dignity" when she was fornicating and smilling at the camera as the bastard choleric bloke took pictures and made videos?
Y'all hypocrites only remember morals and your "female pride and dignity" when shiit's gone sour.
#spits
I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke angry

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 4:56am On May 27, 2019
Miss, tbh, Your situation is pretty complex.
If you leave him, he leaks your nude and videos,
if you stay with him, he'll continue beating and one day kill you,
if you report him to the authorities, nigga could seek bail or spend 5-6years at most in prison and when he comes out, people like him can find you and do shiit to you,
if you report to your family, nigga could release your family secret and shame y'all.
So, i'll advise you to poison him.
Poison him or find a way to slowly kill the bloke and make it look like a suicide case.
I've watched alot of movies like this and this has always been the solution.
It might be your only solution too.
I don't know though.

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by SweetBuns(f): 5:03am On May 27, 2019
badadvice:
Miss, tbh, Your situation is pretty complex.
If you leave him, he leaks your nude and videos,
if you stay with him, he'll continue beating and one day kill you,
if you report him to the authorities, nigga could seek bail or spend 5-6years at most in prison and when he comes out, people like him can find you and do shiit to you,
if you report to your family, nigga could release your family secret and shame y'all.
So, i'll advise you (which is the only solution) to poison him.
Poison him or find a way to slowly kill the bloke and make it look like a suicide case.
I've watched alot of movies like this and this has always been the solution.
Bad advice.

Bad advise indeed.
Missperplexity0 dont do it. It will make things worse. Think about how you'll feel If you do this.
Think about the fear, guilt trips, phobia of getting arrested, loss of self respect and possibly suicidal mood that might come over you if you do this.
I strongly advise you to turn deaf ears to this slowpoke. Please

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 5:03am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke angry

you're obviously a feminist, one quick to resort to insults.
Too bad i don't frolic nor exchange banters with feminists.
So,............

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Monaco2(m): 5:03am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

So because a lot of people have sextapes online, she should join the bandwagon? I wonder how some souls reason at times. Its her female pride and dignity that is on the on the line here angry

As for the OP, go to court and sue him for defamation of character. Not at that time, but charge a count that holds him responsible for any bad thing that happens to you after severing the cords of the relationship. After that, give him a restraining order to stay far away from you. If he breaks it, he gets arrested.

About your family secrets, thats a family and close friends matter. I won't put my mouth into it. But know that you made a big mistake for letting him know those secrets while fully knowing the kind of person he is


U are not getting it, if u read n understand u will c dat all I’m saying is her nudes should not b a reason for her to suffer. She asked for advice n I gave it. If she was enjoying d relationship she wouldn’t have... d guy is blackmailing her with d nudes n I’m just making her understand that if he leaks d nude pics it will blow away eventually.

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by SweetBuns(f): 5:06am On May 27, 2019
Monaco2:



U are not getting it, if u read n understand u will c dat all I’m saying is her nudes should not b a reason for her to suffer. She asked for advice n I gave it. If she was enjoying d relationship she wouldn’t have... d guy is blackmailing her with d nudes n I’m just making her understand that if he leaks d nude pics it will blow away eventually.
I Understand smiley
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Monaco2(m): 5:08am On May 27, 2019
badadvice:


my nigga!
You wan just see nude and watch new home made porn by all means.

Not really, I don’t even know her. I wonder y u all her misunderstanding me

Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 5:12am On May 27, 2019
Monaco2:


Not really, I don’t even know her. I wonder y u all her misunderstanding me


i understand smiley.

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by dingbang(m): 5:17am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

So because a lot of people have sextapes online, she should join the bandwagon? I wonder how some souls reason at times. Its her female pride and dignity that is on the on the line here angry

As for the OP, go to court and sue him for defamation of character. Not at that time, but charge a count that holds him responsible for any bad thing that happens to you after severing the cords of the relationship. After that, give him a restraining order to stay far away from you. If he breaks it, he gets arrested.

About your family secrets, thats a family and close friends matter. I won't put my mouth into it. But know that you made a big mistake for letting him know those secrets while fully knowing the kind of person he is
and you gave her money to sue him to court?

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 5:23am On May 27, 2019
dingbang:
and you gave her money to sue him to court?

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by SweetBuns(f): 5:24am On May 27, 2019
dingbang:
and you gave her money to sue him to court?
I gave her advice. Did I force her to go to court?
Out of all I wrote, that is the only thing you could say.
Na wa o
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by dingbang(m): 5:28am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

I gave her advice. Did I force her to go to court?
Out of all I wrote, that is the only thing you could say type?
Na wa o
words aren't spoken on this forum

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by MJBOLT: 5:31am On May 27, 2019
so because he has your nudes and knows your family secret,you want to continue suffering.quit the relationship,you are not the first and or the last person to have nudes on the internet

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by sykeng(m): 5:33am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke angry

why are you turning it to insults, the guy never insulted you he was just sharing his opinion. Nawa oo

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Abfinest007(m): 5:42am On May 27, 2019
badadvice:
Miss, tbh, Your situation is pretty complex.
If you leave him, he leaks your nude and videos,
if you stay with him, he'll continue beating and one day kill you,
if you report him to the authorities, nigga could seek bail or spend 5-6years at most in prison and when he comes out, people like him can find you and do shiit to you,
if you report to your family, nigga could release your family secret and shame y'all.
So, i'll advise you (which is the only solution) to poison him.
Poison him or find a way to slowly kill the bloke and make it look like a suicide case.
I've watched alot of movies like this and this has always been the solution.
Nigeria movies has affected ur brain u can't even reason well again
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 5:47am On May 27, 2019
Abfinest007:
Nigeria movies has affected ur brain u can't even reason well again

no offence, but do people still watch nigerian movies?

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Abfinest007(m): 5:48am On May 27, 2019
very simple case report him to d police .then him sign undertaking that ur life is at risk when that is done u can move at of that area

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by femi4: 6:02am On May 27, 2019
Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff
Omo see threat....don't you have big brothers?

Leave that relationship now, else he ll beat you to death one day. He's using threat to keep you in that relationship. Anytime he threatening to release your nudes....tell him to go ahead and you ll sue him for blackmail. You know what to do, beautiful girl like you deserves a better man
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 6:03am On May 27, 2019
Missperplexity0:
I will try as much as possible to make this brief and clear(excuse my typos).
Met this guy while I was in my part 1 and we've been dating for a couple of years, the issue is, he's very possessive and overly jealous, restricted me from having male friends, I have to tell him everything and everywhere I want to go, snoops through my phone, read my chats and sometimes harasses my male callers, my last protest was met with series of slaps, everything I try to walk out of the relationship, he threatens to leak my nudes and tapes, also promised to leak my family secret I told him when the going was good..... I really need help and advises on how to leave the relationship because my heart is no longer there and am scared of calling his bluff

If you leak your nudes first, then he won't have any leverage over you.

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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 6:05am On May 27, 2019
badadvice:


where was her "female pride and dignity" when she was fornicating and smilling at the camera as the bastard choleric bloke took pictures and made videos?
Y'all hypocrites only remember morals and your "female pride and dignity" when shiit's gone sour.
#spits

How do you know he's a choleric?
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Tomoyayi(m): 6:06am On May 27, 2019
NudeS and sex tapeS, hmmmm.... Porn things.

Report Him to the police tell them He has threatened to release your nudes and kill you if you leave the relationship
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by pwetie: 6:08am On May 27, 2019
SweetBuns:

I gave her advice. Did I force her to go to court?
Out of all I wrote, that is the only thing you could say.
Na wa o
This profile writes like some one I know very well, like 99%. Hoping she isn't, with the remaining 1% chances of not. Cause, going through your previous post. All I infer is a female with a negative perspective about the male gender. Probably from bad past experience. And you seem to have a thing for sex grin, though everyone does. Except when it becomes an addiction. My bad, tumcee.
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by babyfaceafrica: 6:10am On May 27, 2019
leave and damn the consequence.... an abusive relationship is a no no...why do you guys do nude tapes sef?
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 6:10am On May 27, 2019
Ain't nobody stopping you but you.
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Tomoyayi(m): 6:25am On May 27, 2019
babyfaceafrica:
leave and damn the consequence.... an abusive relationship is a no no...why do you guys do nude tapes sef?
.
Why do the girls allow it?
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 6:45am On May 27, 2019
Admin401:


How do you know he's a choleric?


no offence but i think you should check the meaning of "choleric" and then re-read op's post.

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