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Magicalsineros:
Loving Husbands deserve all the love and respect.

Yes

MondayOmoAdugbo:
I just dey smile like mumu

lol. Why?

Maeve7:
Where did she post it? Do we know who she is?

How many of you?

MondayOmoAdugbo:
I guess they don't care that much

Some do

Honestly church have plenty money. If the pastors and the church owners decided to be sharing food to the members on a daily basis, they wouldn't even feel it in their account balance, but they wouldn't. They prefer to enjoy alone. Shame

If you're a pastor and you're enjoying people's contributions money, why the people are suffering in poverty, know that you're not of God, if you don't devise a means to help them out of poverty.

So, they've not been serving in the bank all along?

A message to women on international day by a fellow woman.

Do you think the woman humiliated her husband by giving this advice publicly?

What's your opinion on people bullying her online?

https://x.com/DearLove1356322/status/1858947373927440672?t=sQQopIuCTUecXtaO-kKLpw&s=19

Happy international men's day



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kingthreat:
I am for supporting your family members. But rather than support in needs, support in terms of business. I.e if you have a younger brother that is jobless, buy him a laptop so he can learn content writing or a camera so he can learn photography. Open a shop for your mum so she can be selling minerals and sustaining herself from there. If you have good money, sponsor a sibling abroad so he can ease the burden on you. But that sibliging must promise before God that he/she will assist in supporting the family too for at least 4 years. Don't be solving their needs of hunger, bills, fees, etc. That is not your job to do. It is theirs.

Nice

Dtruthspeaker:
And yet you people wonder why people have become very not caring and evil.

Some times, you need to develop yourself and stand well so you can be more equipped to pull others up.

Dtruthspeaker:
And yet you people wonder why people have become very not caring and evil.

That's not what we are saying. Even the word of God says you should be wise in your dealings.
Why do you see that most scammer's victims are the kind hearted people? Is because you don't do everything with emotions and succeed. Sometimes, you need to say No to some situations. It doesn't make you a bad person.

Nonexisting:
I have four people I pay their bills without hesitation. Me, myself, I and my father. The rest like my mother, my sisters and my elder brother are what I call secondary expenses because I do it at random. My mother is manipulative, her billing most times is to help someone else especially my wicked uncles from her side so I don't take her billing seriously now. My elder bro is financially okay and my two sisters, I first make sure I ask them to bill their simp fiancé and husband before billing me. Cousins and random friends, I treat their billing as I like. Sometimes I say yes and most times, I say no. I'm not working this hard under the rain and sun to be solving people's needs, I don't have a NGO for charity. If I drop dead now, the only people that will skip afternoon food today are my parents and my siblings. All my extended family and friends will chop their afternoon foods and the men among them will still have erect dick to fucck their wives tonight.

You really got me laughing. Pls still include your mom

Dtruthspeaker:

If they can not depend on their own family who are they to depend on?

My guy did well and God bless him. He did nothing wrong. Loss of work is not his family's doing but King Buhari and KIng Tinubu's wickedness.

Of course, family are suppose to depend on each other, but too much demand on a prospective successful one among the poor ones, wouldn't let him/her grow and if no one comes out of poverty, they all will keep suffering

descarado:
Africa as a continent is made up of 54 countries.
Have you visited all the countries, studied their cultures and tribes to come to this conclusion?

I have to some extent

zed7:
People will always take advantage of people whom make themselves available. Growing up, my mum had a very rich cousin whom everyone called stingy, because his priority was solely his immediate family. He occasionally helped people but they were not his priority.

As young as I was, I realised that his behaviour was right. Your immediate family are the only ones entitled to your money. Whatever you give others is charity and it's at your discretion.

Immediate family means wife and kids in this context. Siblings and cousins will be fine. If it's not a life or death thing, they'll sort themselves out eventually.

Including your parents. Because they spent all they would have use to have better old age to train you. They're very important too. My opinion though

Epositive:
I'm telling you. If not, tell me why someone suddenly need help immediately you uploaded status online.

Nau to dey ignore them. It shows they don't even care about you, just what you can do for them

Epositive:
In this country, you need to master the art of complaining. A very important life-saving skill. You will be shocked that some people have savings they don’t want to touch but will bill you. People will always ask for your help, be it family, friends or neighbors. It’s your skill that help you manage it. There was a time I used to be very uncomfortable when someone asks for my help and I can’t render it. Not anymore.

Problem no dey finish especially family problems. Empathy is good but so is self-care. Be addicted to self-development, and at such, you will realize there’s a lot you haven’t done for yourself. For example, having passive income.

A wise man once said, the best form of help is empowerment; helping people so they can help themselves. Sorting bills is not. If you’re empathetic and you’re in such shoes, the best thing is to empower that relative of yours, be it a with a skill, job or in their own line of business. If you can’t afford this, and you can’t ’look away’ due to your selfless nature, cook excuses. There are a lot to pick from, loans, professional exams and the likes. These will give you time to build up better.

It’s always good to notify people that you have bills to pay, when they call and ask “how are you” tell them “fine o but …..*quickly inserts the current problem*”. Some just want to test you to see if something will drop.

Funny 🤣 but that's the truth.

@mindlog/@mille, You are right. Just that it takes a strong mind to say No especially when you're trying to build

Sonnobax15:

No too carry family problem for head......

Tho family is the only people who are likely to gat your back when the chips are down,but you should be wise and brave enough to say "NO" to some of their requests if you really want to go far in life....

All in all,it's more better for everyone or at least 3-4 people in a family of 6 to be well-to-do,so as to reduce the financial burden than to be dependent on only one person.......

It is well tho....cuz life isn't really as easy as we want it to be sometimes.......

You are right 👍

I was just observing and thinking out loud.
I know of a guy, single, 32yrs, number 6 in the family of 9, since he graduated and got a job, everybody in the family have been depending on him. He paid his elder brother's children school fees, take care of their mother and younger siblings. Every Christmas, he made provisions for bags of rice, meat, fuel basically everything for their family's comfort for those traveling for Xmas celebration in their family house. Last year, he lost his job and he is still struggling to get another job and accomodation till now.
His elder siblings are struggling facing their immediate family's problem, so, noone to help for now. Everyone is minding his personal business in that family.


My curiosity
Why does it look like in a poverty environment, when one wants to gather and rise financially, every other family members around want to keep collecting?

Why do most family members depend on a particular upcoming successful sibling until he can no longer get there due to excessive billing?
Why do kind hearted siblings suffer the most in the family?

What's your opinion on this?

This shows how terrible the country has become. How can these crowd turn up for such recruitment? People can get suffocated and faint

Dainy1:
Giving birth to a child and throwing him to the street to beg. Hausa people are guilty of that.

What of those giving out their children as house maid?

You can add yours let's keep learning
1. You have plenty children that you can not care for
2. You impose your personal will on them
3. You involve in se.x scandal to humiliate them Infront of their colleagues



Add yours




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frozen70:
With no sentiments attached, a man doesn't know a woman's ovulation period, so I blame the women who became pregnant carelessly

Not all women understand ovulation period

Nnamdipapa:
[b]That is crazy, [/b]I have had to turn down sex on numerous occasions. I can help without sex and do not view sex as an acheivement.

But that's the truth. That's why many men feel cheated in a relationship they don't explore the woman she.xually. when such relationship comes to an end without se.x, Even his fellow men, will call him weak.
but once they had se.x, they feel they have overpower the woman's ego and have achieved. That's how you men assume and behave in this part of the world

tanigororo:
So, cheating is her own form of retaliation for her husband catching fun ahbi?
If this is how you reasons, I pity your children.
You never consider that she doesn't have a life to begin with, so she considers her husbands life hers, she is boring to the husband and couldn't be fun to him.

My dear, I'm not justifying anyone here. You can't just read online and know the exact problem people go through secretly in their relationship.

Don't be too quick to pity people you don't know either. Besides, I don't know what pity children have to do with what I posted

Nnamdipapa:
[b]Only the women are useless, [/b]the man is not a piece of shit himself? The question is, why is he being celebrated.

How are the women useless? Just the way you men date multiple ladies and always make each of them special as if she's the only one. Every woman involved with that man would never know, he does the same to the rest 399 other women.
To your question, most Nigerian men see sex as an achievement and a weapon used to reduce women. That's why many of them can't help a woman without demanding for se.x.

We4all:
OP, I have always maintained that as far as a lady who is of age wasn't raped, she has herself to blame. There is an ongoing case involving someone close to me... Two women, two kids, same story...He clearly told them he didn't want the pregnancy and gave them money to abort. They took the money, kept the pregnancy, and now they want child support.

Let's be honest, would you blame the man for dodging his responsibilities? Most girls are dumb and think using pregnancy to trap a man works for all men. It doesn't, and the earlier they realize this, the better for them.

The man who doesn't want kids but goes about having unprotected se.x is also to be blamed. If it were to be a place where there's law against such, he wouldn't go without taking responsibility

Maeve7:
No, they don’t unless their husband agrees to an open marriage. You are either committed or you aren’t. Either way, you should be open and honest.

Does it mean once she's lonely, she should remain that way till the end of time? Alot men are occupied,having fun and no one is complaining. What happened to the lonely wife at home?

Fahvvy:
That an action is done by two people doesn't mean the consequences will be shared EQUALLY by both parties ...

Lemme paint y'all a picture...
When it's a case of unwanted pregnancy, who suffers the consequences more? The woman...

If she's in school, she may have to pause for some time to attend to the baby...

She's the one who bears the risk that may result as a result of pregnancy...

She's the one who bears the shame and stigma that may result from it...

If she's a single mother, her chances of getting a man diminishes as compared to the man...

Seeing that a woman suffers more of the consequences, isn't it wise for her to be more cautious? ....

Women use your head!!! You have a brain for God's sake! ...

Try dey close your legs and not allow just any man sleep with you, cause at the end of the day, I together with society will blame you ...

It's not fair, yes. But that's how it is ...

University girls, make una come and see o.
Someone is saying the truth here o

Apart from the crime of sleeping with other people's wives, why do people record themselves during intimacy?
I'm very curious

I'm sure this man have an aim for all what he did?

Do you think men who are very busy with work and other things, their wifes deserve this kind of man inorder to keep their marriage going, to avoid loneliness?

What's your opinion on this?


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Fahvvy:
This world will become a better place when women start taking accountability for their actions ...

I see a lot of women say, "it takes two to tango and bla bla bla", but the reality of the matter is that, women are 99% to be blamed for matters like this ...

Lemme paint y'all a picture ...

First of, asides the issue of r.ape, women are solely responsible for who they allow to sleep with them ...

If a man wants to have s.ex and the woman says no, s.ex can never happen, unless ofcourse it's a case of r.ape ...

So y'all women need to be careful of who you allow to sleep with you, for God's sake, you have a fully functional brain - USE IT!!!! ...

Secondly, even after she has had s.ex, there are very many things a woman can do to ensure she doesn't get pregnant ...

Starting from an after pill to abortion, yet y'all don't take advantage of any of these options and come out to cry foul when the consequences comes knocking ...

Thirdly..
When a man and a woman has s.ex and the girl gets pregnant. If the man wants to keep the child and the woman doesn't, you'll hear women say things like, "it's my body, it's my choice" ...

They suddenly forget that, "it takes two to tango" and take full "responsibility" regardless of the man's feelings ...

But when it's the other way round, she wants to keep it and the man doesn't, she no longer stands on, "my body my choice", now she cares that he's not involved, lmao, you cant have it both ways ...


See eh, argue all you want, the one who will forever be responsible for s.exual related matters are women, not men ...

Just like men will forever be responsible for financial related matters in relationships, not women ...

I know it's not fair, but that's just how the world works, let each gender carry their cross in peace ...

Actions done by two people? You men will always defend yourself