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lmfao ! this has got to be a joke, right?

Am I the only one who differentiates 'a break and 'breaking up'?

degubi:
Gosh!!!! you are so shallow minded. Because a guy has biceps and whatnot doesn't make him a better person. The guy still loves you, he treats you right and is still the sweet personality you knew him to be, so why bail out now because he has added some flesh. Love is longsuffering and you need to give it your all to ensure that your partner is the best you want them to be.

Keep appreciating his personality while you continually look for ways, be it through books, aerobic tapes, taking out time each morning to go jogging with him, letting him know that i love you and i am proud of your personality and i am not ashamed to be seen with you.

Years down the line you will get married, have babies and add flesh. I wonder how you would feel if your spouse starts ignoring you for other skinny looking damsels in his office instead of helping you get into shape by lovingly encouraging you?

Personality personality personality ! I think it's major DISRESPECT for him to become so loose physically. And this lady has every right to complain and to question her relationship. And what's even worse is the fact that he laughs it off. Weight is a HUGE deal breaker to me and there's no way in hell I'll watch my bf deteriorate. Quit Mcdonalds and start exercising. It's not just about personality, it's both. Love isn't the answer to everything. F[i]u[/i]ck, this is how we figure out those who are single.

aminalib:
hmm that is true as i think about it, but some gay guys can be too much in your face and too much attitude, like everything is a competition.

Like girls and some men ! And this is just stupid, how can someone be attracted to gay guys? Like sexually? Wtf

Famous? Why famous? You don't have to take your husbands name. In some cultures, the woman isn't allowed to take her husband's name.

vocei:
@M.L Swiss of couse it does still exist.Abi it has been cancelled in your village?plenty men will be Happy 2 ccome take ladies without questions,

What village?

OMG ! Hypocrites and haters on this thread ! I don't speak Yoruba nor pidgin and it amazes me to see other people especially Europeans who speak it well or perfectly. It puts me to shame. I love how she took time to learn it.

lmaooooo !!!! I can't imagine that bride price still exists ! But I know I'm going to be lmfaoing at the replies.

What the f[i]u[/i]ck kind of question is this? Who recovers first? Am I the only one who doesn't get it? You can break up with someone but still remain hooked & vice versa.

I can't cook and I rarely cook. I could care less. My man cooks but I don't find it romantic except if the concept is meant to be romantic. I mean, it's nice for my stomach but that's it.

LOL at those bringing up god ! Yeah, god is powerful, he's killing people with his powerful tsunami. Way to go almighty f[i]u[/i]cking god. This is just SAD ! Instead of bringing up god and screaming meaningless prayers, send money to aid Japan.

koolchicco:
Yes what will you do hun?

I'm not a 'bro'. And no, NONE of my family is 'pro homosexuality', they are tolerant but will never accept it and they didn't accept it. But I don't see what's there to accept, probably because I do not believe in god.

My brother is gay. I am pro homosexuals so . . .

I'm a woman and I don't want to get married nor have kids EVER !

deniyor:
Google is your friend.

Size does not always matter. What matters is what you can do with what you have.

How in the world does size not matter? It doesn't matter how he 'moves', if he's got a tiny willy, it sure does matter. You can't do anything with that sh[i]i[/i]t . . .

F[i]u[/i]ck ! Most of you are just pathetic ! What this poster is saying is TRUE ! In most foreign countries, if you don't speak the language, it is almost impossible to get a job and being Black makes it harder. Learning the language is not an option as it will take years to speak it correctly. I'd advice you to move to Africa and open a business there with her.

1one:
@poster.
I'm Top of my game in editing,so when you shoot the movie,pls send me a buzz,i'll like to edit it,i have some good soundtracks and effects to spice it up.

LMAO !!! I just imagined a movie scene . . . AMAZING script bro. I'll definitely watch it. I hope there will be a part II !! Can't wait !

Self pity is such an embarrassment ! Keep on crying, keep on loathing men. *yawn*

modele2:
Slowwww down people

All the poster is trying to say is she would like men to be aware of the 'work' it entails to be a woman. To understand that is it really not that easy, she is asking for emphathy and desiring the support from the men.
Am married and i love being married(at least for now) and i realise that one of the things i love is when my oga is supportive or when he praises me for work i have done or am doing. I absolutely hate being taken for granted and am sure no woman likes it. So please dont crucify the poster all she said is true but its work that we do willingly and one that spices up our life.

I'm sorry but what kind of work does it entail to be a woman? And erm, EVERY PERSON wants to feel supportive and supported. NOBODY wants to be taken for granted. I'm still not getting your point.

harakiri:
Would you prefer to get pregnant without marriage? I'm pretty sure i ain't the only guy who would prefer that arrangement to the wahala of marriage. You women are the ones who put pressure on us for commitment,marriage and kids. When you get what you want, you still complain and nag. I'm pretty sure if beauty and biological clock issues extended till 60 years of age, you women would make shakara and wouldn't marry until your heads are covered with grey hair. If you feel marriage is too stressful for you, then do us and yourself a favor by opting out to be a "baby mama" instead. Trust me, the man losses nothing. Marriage is geared towards the well being of a woman rather than vice versa. A man doesn't need to marry to have sex,kids,companionship or a cook (i am the best cook i know and i am yet to see a lady that can impress me in the kitchen). Women can also play it that way and avoid marriage (if they can). We aren't the ones who need commitment,dedication and the need to feel loved. . .YOU ARE! Get your mind right girlfriend!

Generalizing much? I am one woman who DOESN'T want to get married and who DOESN'T want to have kids. But sorry ladies, most women have this silly need to get married and hence hook up with the nearest loser. Most women are NAGGING, IRRITATING and SELFISH ! All you do is nag about your man . . . what about you? You scream independence but CAN'T LIVE without a fu[i]c[/i]king pen[i]i[/i]s. You expect the man to be at your feet and do whatever you want when it suits you just because you've got a vag[i]i[/i]na? PLEASE !

The poster is complaining about a woman who works & takes care of her home. ISN'T THAT WHAT YOU SIGNED UP FOR? A man doesn't change over night. I'm pretty sure your husband made it CLEAR that taking care of the home was your responsibility from the start. My man and I share almost everything. But the sh[i]i[/i]t I do the most is cleaning up the house (and I'm a full time student and I'm also working). I'm not a housewife but sometimes, I'd rather clean the house myself than have him help me (just because it's faster and easier). I know that if we ever get married (which will never happen), cleaning up the house will be done mostly by me. I'm 22 and my man is white (just in case you're wondering).

What? How many definitions of the word 'LovePeddler' exists? It's even more pathetic that YOU as a GIRL will spew such garbage ! Receiving PAYMENT from men in exchange of sex is called prostitution and uh, over here, it's legal and is considered to be a job ! Now, receiving gifts from various men doesn't make me a LovePeddler ! I don't have to give back and I don't want to feel like I have to give back. Accepting gifts while sleeping with someone isn't 'whoring' in my opinion !

omega25red:
the poster simply just advertised a website

Exactly !

. . . a boy? Like an adolescent boy? Children stare at everybody. Wait a sec . . . wtf? Why would you want a boy to stare at you and smile? And why would you post a topic about a NON smiling BOY in the romance section?

It's easy for people to say 'be confident'. Maybe your friend over dresses, maybe people perceive her as easy, or maybe she is indeed better looking than you. I don't know what to say as I've never been in that situation . . . It's obvious you're still a teen. From what you said, people compliment you only not when you're with her . . . it's life, maybe she IS better looking. You'll QUICKLY get over this 'jealousy' (and it's OK to feel jealous).

LOL @ those who are saying they've got nothing to hide. It has got nothing to do with that. I love having my private moments & all and a guy who has the possibility of knowing EVERYTHING I do is a no no !

lmao !!!!

sexxxxy:
are we reading the same post?

:O I don't know what I read !! I absolutely apologize for the mix up !!!

In reply to the post ; he should tell her before things get really serious. If she feels ready and decides that she'll be fine with the new mother role then good for him. He has NO choice. He HAS to tell her. I for one will end things.

The only reason I'll leave him will be because he didn't tell me from the start. I don't like kids and if I knew earlier, I wouldn't have continued with the 'relationship'. Not only he kept this IMPORTANT information from me, I fell in love with him. Which kind of implies having to accept the kids. And feeling obliged to remain in a relationship is just wrong. If he had told me from the start, we wouldn't be in this position and this heart break wouldn't have happened.

Now, if she leaves him just because he's got kids . . . I can't really judge that. I DO NOT want to be a mother and I can't imagine someone forcing that on you just because they were 'scared' to lose you. That's selfish !!

AND WHAT'S WORSE is that he kept this a secret and actually MARRIED her ! That's one big SON OF A B*TCH ! A marriage that starts with a lie is BOUND to fail ! He's an A*SHOLE and deserves worse than his wife leaving him !!!! That's plain WICKED !!!!

samtoye:
Let this not be misconstrued as a gender supremacy debate rather it’s an exposition on our marital institution. “Misogynist” -Uncalled for! The advocacy for liberation within the ambiance of marriage is hypocrisy extraordinaire because you willingly subscribe to “BOND-age” so if you don’t want it don’t subscribe.
I so much believe the woman owns the marriage depicted by her right as the legal custodian of the marriage certificate and also as it is written on the wedding invitation “Woman WEDS Man“. Therefore; by implication the women decide consciously or unconsciously the duration of the union moreso don’t complain about a divorce, you've only chosen to “un-WED or Liberate” yourself.

N.B - Antecedents dictates we have more stable matrimonial union than our western counterpart.

This is bullsh*t ! You're using words that are evidently bigger than you to spread MISOGYNIST ideas ! Why in the world should marriage be bondage? This is not even worth it ! I'm going to let this topic die !