nahhh
oga dats 2much .
All da best

Busy_body:
Misleading topic.

Rather, you cheated on your divorcee dude with a single guy who dumped you after he got you pregnant, yet this divorcee still wants you but your heart is set on hooking another single guy.


I doubt if you are still under the same parental/peer pressure that led to all this, so why not do yourself a favour and slow down in this getting married by hook or crook ratrace you have embarked upon, and spend time bonding with your baby!


And please, do this divorcee a favour and release him, because you are about to do the same thing the 2nd wife did for him. I pray God give you your bone of your bone IJN.

Thank u

makky: Please the only thing am gonna say is if u DO NOT love this man, please let him be, tell him the truth and i bet he will be ur good friend and confidant and probably even take u to the US with no strings attached. When men get older, all they need in their lives are sincere companions who will give him joy and make him relaxed to live longer. He loves u too much for u to hurt him and deceive him cos its too clear u are going to break him to bits if u marry him out of pity. As u search for a single guy which is NOT impossible to get, I pray he gets a woman too who will stay and he really needs a woman in her mid 40s too, those can stay. Hes 55, pity his heart, let him go peacefully and i will pray God helps bring ur man to u... No time is late, am glad u already have a daughter!

Thank u !! u talked as if ds man is father, brother, uncle or a relative! i can really feel u!!
Your post really touched me!!

@ Toyemz
Thank you

@ 2mch
if i was interested in traveling abroad, i wuld hav gone since i met him in 2010 or wn he filed for me as an alien fiancee last yr . This was the man dat sent me a car wn i met him in 2010 but i rejected it

@ veraponpo
the father of my child is a friend and we aint married. Our plan was that he shld go and wn he settled down, he wuld sent for us. he went wit resident visa cos he got a job. Since we were not married, i culdnt go wit him . we did introduction be4 he travel since we culdnt do registry b4 he left due to d reason best knwn to him so d company invited only him since he ddnt indicate be4 he applied dat he was married. His family has abandoned me since he travled and none of dm has sent anythg to me or my child since i put to bed. WN i put to bed, my mum asked me to call him and tell him. He said i wuld inform his pple to cme for naming but nobody showed up. I asked him for the name of the baby, he ddnt gve me any. I gv names to my baby all alone. So my family is really against his coming back. I tot i culd go back to him but one day as i was chking my bb and i saw all d msgs he sent, iwas disappointed. Hw he took my jewelries, asked his friends hw much he culd sell dm and took dm to yaba to sell while i was looking ard for money for him to travel. SO i hv mad eup my mind dat i wil never allow him near my daughter cos he doesnt represent good father figure.Thank God i hav my job and God has bn helping me alone wit the responsibilities.
In everthg am doing, my child is my number one priority.

@ Moremi2008
Thank you he actually loves me and am very and 100 % sure of that. I knw he wil hav his weaknesses d same way i wl hav mine.. i was meeting up wit him @ d bustop anytime he came home but ds last time he insisted that adt he wanted to knw my place so i allowed him in my house since i stay alone. Then my mum was ard cos i was on mat leave. I had told my mum abt him since so wn my mum met him, she told him dat i hav a child now> he told itwas an older child like 6 or 8yrs but wn he had d cry of a new born , he wa shocked dat i just put to be. He was hurt dat i was seeing anoda man wn i told him i culdnt hv sex wit him. He told my mum dat he wuld still love to marry me. My mum said wot she noticed was dat he needs a companion.

@ tpia
who is k soul??!! I am not after inheritance or money. I actually want a younger guy dat was y i went ahead wit my bf despite the fact dat this man was asking 4my hand in marriage.
@ confilass

I told him no sex! he said he wuld wait till i come in and after wedding be4 sex if its wot i want..

Thank you all
for those who asked abt his 2 women, i wl find out more abt the 1st marriage. In d case of the 2nd woman, he told me that after his wife left him and remarried, he told wopt he needed was a matured woman so wn i was com,img home dn, he saw ds woman and she said she was divorced. He agreed to marry her and he brot her to States. After dir wedding, she told him dat she wanted her younger brother to join her and he invuited him not knowing he was her husband. she filed for divorce and married ds man again in US. so he made up his mind not to marry agian.

About his daughter, she told me she initroduced her teacher to her dad but her dad turned her down. As the 1st born, she wants her dad to b happy againsince dir mum has moved on long time ago. so wn her dad told her abt me she was very happy.vShe told me dat she wuld b staying wit me in Nig ds summer! Ds lady and my younger sista finished from d same secondary schl so sheis willing to stay wit me so dat she can hook up wit my sista again.

Thank you all for ur contributions! it is really helping me now!!!

ATMC: heeya! I wish. But then, considering this man seems to me like u r desperate to marry, probably cos u r in ur mid 30s, but d truth is dt there is no need to be, cos a whole lot of pple in ur shoes, age wise, don't have a baby nd wished they do so they won't have to bother with marriage nd here u r with d privilege nd u r not counting ur blessing rather u r thinking about a man who is divorced for ten years nd has had 2 women leave him. Do u want to be d third person dt will leave him? Can't u see something may be wrong. May be d daughter called u cos he coerced her to. Abegi!

Aint desperate to marry please! i just dont want to waste his time and money again! I said i still hope to get a single guy! if i were i wuld not cme here!

My case is a bit similar to this Story, that's why i decided to start a new thread. In my own case am a single mum.

My boyfriend left for US last year when i was 3 months pregnant. I sold my investment in the money market and one of my plots to send him abroad. He promised to get in touch as soon as he settled down, he got in touch few times and that's all.

After he left, i discovered that he took 6 pieces of my jewelries and sold them. I got to know this through the chats he had with his friend on my blackberry before he traveled.i asked him when i discovered and he couldn't deny it. My family is totally against him.

He has not been responsible for our child. I have been the one taking care of all responsibilities even before he traveled and up till now

i met this divorcee in January 2010, though i was hoping to get a single guy , but the single guy i got along the line was the father of my child who irresponsible. He filed for me last year not knowing that i was pregnant. When he sent the forms for me to fill, i refused and he was angry that i made him waste money.

i didn't really like this man because he is 20yrs older than me. I Am in my mid 30s, he loves me so much that when he head that i gave birth this year and heard what i was going through he felt bad and he still wants to marry me.

He is not based in Nigeria, and he has decided to file for me and my child, if am really interested to marry him.In the case of his children, they are based in the States and the first child has been calling to ask about my baby,because her father told her about us. She is even planning to come to Nigeria for summer and asked if she could stay with me.

Their mother has remarried since and they were divorced over 10yrs ago. He told me that he brought a woman in some years back only for the woman to dump him and bring her husband/bf in later. So he is trying to be careful again.

i still hope i will get a single guy but am scared of falling into wrong hands.
I find it hard to love this man. People tell me i will grow to love him, but my worry is, what if a single guy comes along, will i not break his heart?