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iice:
[color=#9900ff]MC we are totally in sync here
Exactly the same with me.  [/color]

[size=13pt]~I knew there was something i liked about you 
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mccloud224:
Now, you're out of the university,get a good job,nice apartment or house,good car,sweet girl and all the works and then, SOMETHING HAPPENS! You lose the job,lose everything else, your girl starts talking about "needing some space",your "close friends" start disappearing one by one and maybe three months later, about 3-4 four of them are the only ones that remember you exist! Those ones hope that things might improve for you on time and you will be back on your feet and back to the good old times.Lets say life isnt fair with you and six months pass and still no improvement, the friends are reduced to just one.And even that one only flashes once a week to see if you will have credit to call back (lol).I won't continue with this narration but to people who have gone down this road, i know you can relate to what i'm saying.

The people who hurt the most are those we call family and close "friends".I mean face it, someone who knows nothing about you can't hurt you in any way and even if they do, it won't hurt half as much as someone who you "thought" was close to you.I've seen a lot of "friends" come and go and you know what?They seem to have this "radar" imbedded in their brains that lets them know when things are looking up for you.People who don't have your time anymore start calling, all of a sudden. . . they want to visit.I might be blabbing here but i know someone out there can relate to what am talking about.

So if friendships borders on what you've got, isn't it better just be on your own?

[size=13pt]~There's a radar to discover "friends" Like you've described!! "Sugar Ant" is what i call them. . .They only want to stick around when the going is good! If the shit hits the fan on you. . they wont even want to smell the funk let alone help you thro it!!

~Fortunately my Nan warned me about these types of people long time ago & i've pretty much being very cautious to only encourage friednships not bordered on what i had to offer!!

~I use to bring back a bunch of my school friends home to eat every day after school. .to me there was nuffin special about it. . .i never got any invite to go to theirs after school mind you. . after dong this for while my Nana had a lil Lecture about my "Goodwill" she's ofcourse had time to study my "Friends" when ever they came around    She told me to stop bringing them home but i was headstrong about it b/c i wasnt doing anything wrong: SoOo when i did bring them over,she'll keep the kitchen doors closed. .  That did it! I got into a hissy fit & had huge arguements w/ my Nana calling her mean,greedy. . . After a week of closed kitchen My food groupies no longer waited for me  after school. . i was suppose to have learnt a significant lesson then!!


~It took me a couple more years to really understand what My Nana had taught me. . i blindly made more "friends" who were more interested in what i had to give than to get to know me as a person. . .I went thro a pharse of actually making an acquaintance w/ a chic who already had a "Sugar Ant" rep. . . i thought when she does shit on me,i did see it coming!!  We never did hit it off as close buddies. . but we had an "understanding" I still am friendly w/ her actually. . .


~Since then,i became very suspicious of people who wanted to form any kind of friendship w/ me. . i almost built a wall around me allowing no one in. . i met different people at Functions,Clubs/Parties that i wud have a lafff with & that was it. .my interaction was only limited to social Functions!! I didn't cross that boundary. . . they were "Social Buddies"  faces i'd recognise at out & about,say a friendly hello & get on my way.


~I've learnt to process the different kinds of friendships i form. . I'm quite fond of  tagging the friendships i formed in different degrees too. ,  :AS a Teenager & Adult, i can count the number of people i call "Friends"  in one hand & i'll still have the odd finger or two left. . .for my special Wud-Have-Made-A-Great-Friend-If-Only friendships 


~True. . it's always people you love who hurt you the most but it shudnt stop you from forming friendships or be suspicious about genuine friendships. .even tho you're within reason to do so but me think these people  have a purpose in our lives. . we're either meant to learn something off of it or there cud be a greater reason why our paths cross!![/size]

iice:
[color=#9900ff]I'm not the 'friendliest' person but i think i have a pretty good lockdown on my own friendships.

I suck at all that keeping in touch, visiting blah blah.  .  .i'm not even the easily person to understand or like but.  .  .i keep it real.  So yeah i'm lucky.  I have great friends .  I can be broke or not, irritating or not, distant or not, harsh or not but they are always there [/color]

[size=13pt]~ Me & You Both!! I always say its all about Boundaries plus i have no "Set Expectations" from People,Friends/Acquintances. .I take what is offered & if i can be there for them,i do it w/o expecting something back in return!

~My Friends understand me,even if we dont talk for ages,when we do talk/see each other we dont question why the other hasnt called or why it took so long. . . .They're always there for me regardless!!

~Acquintances who often think they're "Friends" dont understand my quirks & always question if i'm the only person paying phone bills for not calling. . Like whats there to talk about!? I often get "You're Too Proud"
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africhika:
fergie looks nice.

kimora
solange also wears ankara

africhika:
that's the word i was looking for to describe aschobi- vintage!

yeah, she has a fresh point of view.

F u up:
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