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You need to speak out Madam.

As an introverted person who feels the need to be strong at all times, I get how you feel.

Hiding your health status from him isn't going to help, he is your dad.

Imagine how he would feel if he gets to know about your health challenges, he would be broken.

My mum found out I had ureteric junction obstruction while i was in the emergency ward of UITH, something I had known I had for years and have been treating by myself, running tests at the hospital without anyone's knowledge until I had another breakdown and my neighbours had to call her. She came to Ilorin from Lagos not knowing what she would meet. Sit your dad down, let him know whats going on; the more you keep things from him, the more weighed down you get. That alone is enough to weigh you down.

If you wanna talk, you could dm me; we could exchange numbers and do whatsapp.

Stay Strong

Yo

Krystalzkris:
abeegii.. After all dis long conference meeting,marriage wey go spoil go still spoil...........




anyways... Good write up Op.
Lalasticlala abeg coman help some people to get the message.
Fp pleaseeeeeeeeeee.

Discussing extensively can save a person from stories that touch

Ideally, even before you get married you and your (future) spouse will sit down and talk
about your vision of the future together. A centerpiece of that vision of the future should
be related to financial things. Even things you may not consider financial, have deep
financial implications. Use this article as a guide to help you harmonize your view of the
future now to keep your relationship strong over the next 50 years.

1. Will you own a home? Take time to describe the type of home you’d like to have.
Discuss the city and even the neighborhood where you’d like it to be. Talk about how
much you’ll spend on your home.

2. How many children will you have? This decision may have already been made, but be
sure to confirm with each other what you plan to do. Don’t let financial considerations
determine how many children you have, let the number of children you plan to have
guide your financial planning. There is always a way.

3. Will someone stay home with kids while they’re young? It is important to talk about
your careers and how you’ll manage raising the kids. Specifically talk about how you’ll
manage your roles as parents, providing for and caring for the children.

4. How much more education will you and your spouse pursue? You may be forty years
old and still thinking about finishing college or going back to school for a graduate
degree. Spend some time understanding one another so that you appreciate each other’s
individual goals for education.

5. How much responsibility do parents have for their children’s college education? Some
parents feel that their children are on their own after age 18 and others feel like helping
their children through college is their responsibility. Still others help their kids all the
way through graduate school, even if the kids are married. Make sure you’ve talked about
your view of a parent’s responsibility for a child’s education.

6. Is debt to be avoided morally? Some people approach debt with purely practical
thoughts. Others view debt as morally wrong. Be sure you and your spouse have talked
about your views about debt so that you can develop either identical or at least mutually
respectful approaches to borrowing money, using credit cards, etc.

7. What sort of cars will you drive? This seemingly trivial question may have a greater
impact on your ability to achieve your other financial goals than any other question in
this article. If always driving new cars is important to you, that will have implications. If
you are content to drive old cars, that will have different implications.

8. Where and how often will you vacation? For many people, photos of family vacations
are prized possessions and the memories are cherished treasures. For others, travel is a
stressful burden. Talk about your view and how you’ll approach family vacations. Be
sure to consider, at least briefly, how the dynamics of vacations will change as your
children leave the nest. Will you expect your children to visit home with their families at
the same time each year or just pop in when they can?

9. When and where will you retire? Not only do you need to decide when and where, but
also how you’ll retire. What do you want retirement to look like? With careful planning,
you may be able to retire much earlier than your peers. Some people can’t imagine
retiring—some never do. Talk about what’s important to you.

As you talk about your financial future together, your goal should not be to persuade your
spouse of your view so much as it should be to really understand how your spouse feels
about these issues. If you can both listen and understand where the other is coming from
on each issue, it will be much easier to eventually reach agreement on a shared vision.
With a clear, shared vision in place, you’ll want to create specific long-term goals for
realizing the vision.

Buying a home will require a down payment, helping the kids with
their college expenses will require college savings, retirement, too. As you look at the big
picture, start developing the specific, actionable and measureable goals that will allow
you to realize your vision. Then comes the hardest part. You’ve got to develop the short
term action plan—the budget—that will allow you to achieve those goals and realize your
vision.

By
Devin D. Thorpe

ARKdiscloser7:
Hahahaha!
Gradually she creating the first lady office.
Indirectly she telling them what to do.

She has said she does not want to be referred to as the First Lady but as the Wife of the President so maybe no office of the First Lady

Wife of the President, Mrs. Aisha Buhari, on Saturday evening warned politicians who may be picked to work with President Muhammadu Buhari and all his political associates to be careful the way they carry themselves.

She said such people should be wary of the fact that it took her husband a journey of 12 years before getting to the position he currently occupies and hence, they should tread with caution.

Mrs. Buhari handed down the warning during an “Appreciation Dinner”  she hosted in honour of All Progressives Congress’ women and youths at the old Banquet Hall of the Presidential Villa, Abuja.

She admitted that it was not former President Goodluck Jonathan that is bad but the people that surrounded him.

She said it was because of that situation that she was warning those who will work with Buhari to know early enough that they are coming to serve the masses and not the President.

Mrs. Buhari argued that the behaviour of the people around her husband would go a long way in defining his Presidency.

She said, “There is nothing people did not say about the past administration. It is not Jonathan that is not good but the people around him.

“So, the people that are going to be around General Buhari have to be very careful because this election ended peacefully.

“We are praying and hoping that people around him should know that it took him 12 years to get to that position and they must know that they are coming to serve the masses, not General Buhari in person.

“It is the people that are around him that will determine the political health of our state.”

The President’s wife also promised that the current administration would run an open government.

She said government under her husband would be run in clear departure from what was obtainable under Jonathan when people were allegedly asked to be paying huge amount of money in foreign currency before they could see the President or his wife.

“I will like to inform you that in the past regime, whether it is true or false, only God knows, some people were going round and parading themselves as Personal Assistants.

“If you wanted to see the First Lady, you will pay $30,000 or $50,000 and if you are seeing the President, you will pay all that you have gathered in your lifetime.

“This will not happen in our regime. Whoever asks you to give a single penny in the name of coming to see the President or his wife is not our staff. He is not an APC member, it is a lie. Don’t be deceived,” she said.

Taking a look at her husband’s 12-year journey towards returning as President, Mrs. Buhari said her active participation in the last electioneering made the difference.

She said she did not take part in the campaigns of her husband’s first three shots at the Presidency because that was how those who surrounded him at that time wanted it.

This time, she said it was a national leader of the APC and former Lagos State Governor, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, who encouraged her to play active role.

She also faulted claims that made the rounds ahead of the elections on the gender-sensitivity of her husband, saying they were mere fabrications.

Describing Buhari as the pillar of her success despite the generation gap between the two of them, she said it was the President who encouraged her to go to school.

Mrs. Buhari said, “Many people did not know why I was not appearing for the last three campaigns. I appeared only this time and I think it made a lot of difference. A lot of people said my husband earned four million votes as a result of my campaign.

“We were not sure but with the popularity of my husband, we thought then that he needed female support to cancel the all sorts of gender problems people have been attaching to him like that he kept me under a purdah.

“He had never kept me under a purdah even for a moment since I got married to him.

“Even now, by the recent campaigns, it was Bola Ahmed Tinubu who insisted that I should come out and support my husband. Not that I never like supporting my husband but it all depended on the people around him, that was before.

“And now too, it is the people around him that showed that they wanted me to participate, we did and we have seen the difference.

“My husband is a gender-sensitive human being, having so many girls as his own biological children and then having me as a wife, then you can see the generation gap. He allowed me to go to school. To cut the story short, he is the pillar of my success.”

The President’s wife said when Tinubu continued pestering her to join the campaign train, she talked to her husband who gave his approval.

She said she knew from the beginning that the campaign would not be easy, recalling that the greatest challenge she faced was security.

She recalled how the wife of the governor of Zamfara State had told her how supporters of the Peoples Democratic Party stopped their convoy from returning to Gusau, the state capital up until 4am at a point.

The President’s wife said she also had her own raw deal when she joined the campaign train to Ilorin, Kwara State capital.

Those who attended the dinner included wife of the Vice President, Mrs. Dolapo Osinbajo; wife of the President of the Senate, Mrs. Toyin Saraki; wife of the Speaker of the House of Representatives, Mrs. Gimbia Dogara; wife of the National Chairman of the APC, Mrs. Victoria Odigie-Oyegun; wives of APC state governors, APC female deputy governors; wives of former governors on the platform of the party and other top officials of the party across the country.

A national leader of the party, Asiwaju Bola Tinubu, was represented by Senator Babafemi Ojudu.

Copyright: PUNCH

Copyright PUNCH.

A Nigerian delegate attending the 25th African Union summit here was robbed by bogus cops in Johannesburg, South African police confirmed on Thursday.

Gabriel Gundo, a Nigerian official, was travelling from OR Tambo International Airport to Sandton, where the summit is held, when he was stopped by men posing as police officers on Marlboro Drive on Wednesday night, said Gauteng police spokesperson Colonel Lungelo Dlamini.

It is believed the men who robbed Gundo were posing as police officers.

Dlamini said that South Africa’s Directorate for Priority Crime Investigation, known as Hawks, had taken over the investigation.

The 25th AU summit is being held at the Sandton Convention Center until June 15.



On May 22, several delegates attending the Pan African Parliament in Johannesburg were robbed at gunpoint in their shuttle bus at the entrance to the Protea Hotel Midrand.

Okay then. Anything else? Take time to look within to find more then I can point you in the right direction

what are your skills?

It is of popular believe that females are gold-diggers but in the actual sense, men are more into the gold-digging business
than we think. Here are 10 ways to knw a gold-digger of the male gender:

1. When a few weeks into ur relationship, he asks suggests that u can start putting ur salary into his account just because you earn more. He claims its for accountability purposes. Chic, the nigga is a gold-digger.

2. The moment he knows your parent or sibling is returning from the States or the UK and he starts bugging you about the goodie-bag. Like bugging!!! My Sista, that brother is a gold-digger.

3. That brother who is always the reciever and never a giver is a gold-digger and his excuse is ''you know you have more money than me''

4. That moment when you invite him to ur house for the first time and he's looking around with this strange form of excitement and a very, very wide grin as if he just saw one of the wonders of the world. That's gold-digger alert and you better start taking an inventory of the family jewels.

5. The guy who introduces you to his sisters and you discover that everytime he knows that u're going shopping at least one of his sisters tag along. Well, i think his family is in the gold-digging business.

6. If he has a lot of females stored on his fone and when u ask, his response is '' Oh Bola, she help me when...... '' U mean Lilian, she also helped me when.... If he always has a problem and his helpers are women of wealth in varying heights and colours. You just spotted a gold-digger. In short, a yahooboi.

7. (for those that have sex in their relationship) If everytime he finishes his business and rolls over, the first thing he says is ''Baby, you remember the money I asked for..... Or makes a request for sumfin''. My sista, that guy is a gold-digger or better still, a gigolo.. U can as well pay him for his services.

8. A guy that snubs you the first time you meet but smiles and winks at you at the parking lot as you're about to get into your car is a gold-digger on the prowl.

9. A man who has no job but when you enter his apartment and its decked to the teeth is either a heir (i doubt dis) gigolo, yahooboi or a gold digger.

10. When a man meets ur uncle that works or is a director in any of these multinational companies and starts salivating coupled with diarrhoea of the mouth and starts advertising himself and his CV is a gold- digging gold-digger

You can add yours.

So Y are u complaining? U slapped her first na!!