Maria Spiropulu

Spiropulu (42) develops experiments to search for dark matter and other theories that go beyond the Standard Model, which describes how the particles we know of interact. Her work is helping to fill in holes and deficiencies in that model. She works with data from the Large Hadron Collider.

Rachel Armstrong

Armstrong (age 44) uses artificial cells that have life-like qualities (but are not fully alive) to create sustainable construction materials that can (hopefully) repair themselves after a crack, bend, or break. She thinks this type of technology could be used to prevent Venice from sinking. And, these semi-living materials would also take up carbon dioxide (a potent greenhouse gas that drives climate change) from the atmosphere.

mrblessed:
Do you really know what "Victorian England" means? It means a period between 1837 and 1901, when Queen Victoria was on the throne. Even the British culture has evolved a great deal from that time to this moment, including their views on marriage. How is it still possible for one to live Victorian age? Not even for someone in West Africa. Or is it a thoughtless putdown to deflect a harmless, superior viewpoint?

It is true that our marriage system has been influenced by westerners through colonialism, still, there are vestiges of African values that have remained defiant in the face of this gruesome onslaught. One of them is respect and value for marriage. African marriage is not perfect but it is better to what is obtainable in the west. That is a consolation, despite the outsized influence of their culture on Africa.

First paragraph, you missed the point.
Second paragraph, your opinion.

Jane Addams (1860-1935)

A progressive social reformer and activist, Jane Addams was on the frontline of the settlement house movement in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. She later became internationally respected for the peace activism that ultimately won her a Nobel Peace Prize in 1931, the first American woman to receive this honor.

Florence Nightingale

As one of the most famous nurses in the world, Florence Nightingale cared for a lot of people—but that didn't include a husband. Though she had numerous suitors throughout her life and at least two marriage proposals, she decided not to marry, believing that God had chosen her to work and serve others as a single woman. She summed up her reasoning for rejecting a marriage proposal in a diary entry she wrote when she was 17: "I have a moral, an active nature which requires satisfaction and that I would not find in his life. I could be satisfied to spend a life with him in combining our different powers to some great object. I could not satisfy this nature by spending a life with him in making society and arranging domestic things."

Louisa May Alcott

As the daughter of a Transcendentalist philosopher and one of the first social workers in Boston, Louisa May Alcott grew up with more freedom and education than the average girl in the mid–19th century. Though she wrote more than 200 works, she is best known for her novel Little Women. Alcott had no desire to get married and wanted the same for the fictional version of herself: Jo March in Little Women. Unfortunately, her publisher insisted that she marry the character off at the end of her iconic book, and that's the ending we know today. Spoiler alert: Here are more endings to those famous books you never got around to reading.

Harriet Miers (1945- )

She is a lawyer who served as White House Counsel for President George W. Bush. Prior to her government service, she represented clients which included the Walt Disney Company and Microsoft. She served as president of the Dallas Bar Association (the first female to hold that post) and chaired the Board of Editors for the Journal of the American Bar Association. In 2007, she registered with the United States Department of State as an agent for the Pakistan Peoples Party and the Embassy of Pakistan.

Anna Pauline “Pauli” Murray (1910-1985)

She was an activist for civil rights and women’s rights, a lawyer, teacher, poet and minister. Murray served as professor of American Studies at Brandies University, was a co-founder of the National Organization for Women, and was the first African-American woman ordained as an Episcopal priest.

fieryy:


And that she became! A slay queen (just look at how she posed and all that jewellery ), who turned a mere kingdom into an empire! Under her reign Great Britain saw an explosive expansion of the British Empire. That's the queen of the largest empire in history

Damn right!

Maggie Kuhn (1905-1995)

American social activist who was central in establishing the group that became known as the Gray Panthers, which works for the rights and welfare of the elderly. She once quipped: “Many people asked me, ‘You’re not married — how does it happen that a woman like you never married?’ And my standard response is, ‘Sheer luck.'”

Octavia Butler (1947-2006)

She was an African-American writer and the only science fiction writer to date to receive a “genius grant” from the John D. and Catherine T. MacArthur Foundation. Butler overcame shyness, self-doubt and an improverished childhood to become recipient of Hugo awards, Nebula awards and an award for lifetime achievement in writing.

PART II


Queen Elizabeth I (The Virgin Queen)

She brought a Renaissance glory to England, and while she was loved by her people.

Observers and historians, from Elizabeth I’s reign until the present time, have discussed and debated why the Queen never married. The claim in her first parliamentary speech about preferring the single state was not extraordinary. Her sister Mary Tudor made the same disclaimer before instructing her privy councillors to negotiate a marriage treaty with the advisors of Philip, future king of Spain. In this patriarchal society, people expected husbands to take charge of their wives’ property and business. It is not surprising, therefore, that Sir James Melville, the Scottish ambassador, should have observed in 1564 that Elizabeth remained unmarried because she wanted to be both king and queen.

rockstarB:

This is true, not everyone is lucky with relationships, meeting the right man or woman. I dont think people that stay single because of difficulty in finding a good LIFE PARTNER should be looked down upon. It is mentally and emotionally draining, jumping from one person to another in a bid to get a good wife or husband.

I have tried to show that the reasons why women do not get married are diverse. Sometimes it is a choice, sometimes life happens. Either way they still continued living their lives and self-realizing through good and bad times which everyone, married or not, experiences.

mrblessed:
These are women of other cultures and society, not minding that the Op successfully sneaked in Genevieve to create an appearance that a Nigerian is a member of the group. While it is true that not every women desire marriage, it is also true that a lot of African women are eager to get married and build a family. But the truth remains that if Genevieve meets a "good" today, she wouldn't think twice before embracing the institution of marriage.

Why are we so obsessed with how the western world shapes their value, the way they live, to the detriment of our culture. Marriage, no matter the degree of unceasing campaign to make undesirable, is one of the highly respected institutions in Africa. The African society holds everyone accountable -- men and women -- and pressure to maintain a home is distributed, maybe not evenly, to both gender. We have great value for marriage in Africa, and the breakdown of the institution in the west is not something to be emulated.

Western women, African women, white women, black women, small women, tall women, loud women, shy women, extrovert women, outspoken women, quiet women, all women.

Your marriage culture has been shaped by Westerners a long time ago. You still live in Victorian England.

fieryy:


I think it's very admirable of her to have :

1) stood up against slavery during a time like that.

2) stood up against slavery [b]as a woman [/b]during a time like that

3) Not bowed down to societal pressure

4) And fought for women's right

She was among the very first women to speak up. I can only imagine the threats she got everyday, the pressure to bow down to societal pressure etc. I mean this is still very much the case in 2020, just take a look at how some automatically assumed this is going to be another 'single women bashing' thread, therefore I can only (thankfully) imagine how the pressure must have been back then

I agree with you. Absolutely. Such women inspire me and I am forever grateful to them for paving the way for us and all the privileges we enjoy today because of them. Their legacy lives on forever, with or without children.

merahki:

Made me smile too.

rockstarB:
The truth is it's not easy finding that worthy person. Some of us dont know what good marriages looks like judging from our parents own. Reading stories here everyday is a nightmare, it's better to be single than miserable in marriage. Have kids if you want to

Modified; SINGLE basically means I AM NOT MARRIED, not that they didnt have partners or whatever. And that to me is saving themselves from lot of marriage commitments that dont even hold water these days. Na scam love remain so

It's not easy and those who find them should cherish their spouses (if they are happy with them) instead of making themselves feel superior by comparison to those who were not lucky enough or simply chose otherwise. Some people should be careful with their arrogance and sense of superiority, our lives are very fragile, you don't know tomorrow. Anything you have been given, can be taken from you in the blink of an eye.

SweetCunt97:
Most of them have partners but without the intricacies of "I Do". That they did not marry doesn't mean they led a lonely life

Even if they didn't, being alone/single and being lonely are two different things.

AeroplaneApple:
Most of the women you posted have kids and even a man. Nothing beats having a spouse. Women with spouse are more mentally balanced and make good decisions.

Unlike those that sleep alone and wake alone. There is a part in your life you can't replace with a pillow or a dog

The same applies to men.

Opinions are like assholes ...

bukatyne:


Until you see some colors together, you really can never visualize their combo.

I thought exactly the same thing when I first saw this color combination, not on her though.

cococandy:
Except that the so called woke/feminist women have never said women should not marry.

Stay on the facts.

Thank you.

Zabiboy:

One common occurence in the women the OP used is that they all had bf's in their early youth stage...Meaning at that point, they believed in relationships...But as They became mini-celebrities( independent) they began to see no need for those cravings anymore.
Now the most important reason humans are on earth is to pro-create..
But God/nature had to make it possible for a woman to just pro-create one man's genes and so the man can support his genes, equip them with all d necessities for survival hence the need for marriage...
But in the world we live in now, a woman can have sex anytime she wants and she still get to decide which of their babies she wants to carry and with this mentality at the back of their minds coupled with the fact that they are independent, the see no need to submit to a man...
I'LL END WITH THIS: A WOMAN CAN BE FULFILLED WITH/WITHOUT MARRIAGE BUT SHE CANT FEEL THE SAME WITHOUT A CHILD ( BE IT HERS/ADOPTED)...the few who claim they dont need a child already have at least a child from their past so they wont understand..

GL
Nice thread tho

And you came to this conclusion how?

fieryy:


I have a crush on this woman

Great personality and a very fulfilled life.

Arthur2021:

"A woman should marry " "A woman should not marry" are both constructs that cages people's choices
The traditional people are guilty of using the first statement.The non traditional (woke and feminists) are used to using the second statement.
Sadly the woke ones don't classify the second statement as oppressive as the first.

When one fights against people living out their "traditional beliefs",it is called enlightenment.
When one fights against people living their " modern beliefs " it is called oppression.

True enlightenment is giving room for those that wants to be traditional.

People like LadyGCrueDKilaB ,biglittlelois,dande55,ariza,fieryy ,liberalchick et Al that came for your head will never understand this.

We should live and let live.

Has any of the ladies you mentioned here told any woman on this forum not to get married? Where do you see women telling other women not to get married? Where are women ridiculed for choosing a husband? I think you are making things up. We both know that Nigerians are notorious for disturbing people who do not choose a spouse "on time". I don't see anyone being looked down on for their choice to get married. Please, let us be realistic.

Ishilove:

Why is she on the list? Charlize is a shitty mother and has no business being allowed to raise kids.

The thread is not about motherhood.

Genevieve Nnaji

One of the most beautiful women in the world remains unmarried against all odds.

Condoleezza Rice

Rice was the first African-American female Secretary of State, and the second African-American Secretary of State (after Colin Powell). Today, Rice is a political science professor at Stanford University, and a director of its Global Center for Business and the Economy. When TV interviewer Piers Morgan asked Rice why she had never married, she replied that “the fact is I’ve never found anybody that I want to spend my life with."

Harper Lee

The Pulitzer Prize winning author of the American classic To Kill A Mockingbird never married.

Charlize Theron

Like many other successful actresses on our list, Theron has had several high-profile relationships, but has never been married. Instead, she won an Oscar for Monster (2003), starred in over 60 films, and is actively producing many projects. But most importantly, Charlize is a mom. She adopted 2 kids in 2012 and 2015 and raises them as a single mom.
Theron explained her stance on being single in 2014: “I’m sure there are a lot of aspects to my life that a lot of people wouldn’t want... Just personal choice things, like the fact that I’m single at 38. That’s not necessarily what a lot of women want... But I’m just saying, a life is good if it’s the life that you want... But I work at that, you know?”

Coco Chanel

Coco Chanel had some high-profile affairs during the peak of her career but as for marriage, the famous fashion designer once said, “I never wanted to weigh more heavily on a man than a bird.”

Coco Chanel was a child orphan who had to grow up and learn the importance of not just resilience, but independence. She never came close to marriage but is suspected of mothering a child, her nephew André Palasse, that was raised by her sister.

Greta Garbo

In 1955, film legend Greta Garbo told TIME Magazine, “If I could find the right person to share my life with, I would. If you are blessed, you are blessed, whether you are single or married.”

The screen star was close to getting married once; in 1927, she left her former co-star and longtime love, Jack Gilbert, at the altar on their wedding day. Garbo wasn’t the warmest person towards those she wasn’t acquainted with and for many years, a rumored relationship between she Mimi Pollak was often discussed.