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This thread has really helped me and my orientation about marriage and life in general. God bless Mr. Seun, Mrs Rokiatu, and everyone that contributed. Wish to hear more and share mine soon.

hbpeze:
Guy forget love and get a job

Hmmmm! It's seems you don't understand how I feel and what I'm going through? You can go through my previous topic to get clear picture. By the way I have a good job with of benefits like free healthcare for self, spouse and children,free lunch, free staff bus to & fro and so on. I'm a private person and I know some people may know me here if I give more details about myself and I purposely create this moniker for this purpose only. Thanks for your contribution though.

BeeBeeOoh:
U can still love again, just give urself time & nature will take care of itself..


U must marry oh, because if u don't na dia me & u go begin get problem..

It Is Well Bro, Shalom..

Thanks for the contribution sir but life can be wicked sometimes and love is a bitch.

First of all I would like to thank everyone that contributed in my last topic, I really gained a lot.
To my story, finally the wedding activities have been put on hold for the main time after putting alot into consideration. But it's not really funny at all. Calls flying up and down, everybody want to know why but I only told my elder brother everything and he's the one that stood by me telling my family to allow me, that it's my life and that I'm old enough to know what is good for me.
But my concern now is that:
* can I ever still love again if I let her go?
* will I ever marry?
Reason is that I love this lady in question so much and the feelings I have for her, i've never had such for anyone before.
Please I'm really disturbed and it's really affecting me emotionally and psychologically.
It's even telling on my productivity in my place of work.
I wish I could overcome this trying time.
Any advice is highly welcome and appreciated.

Ezibless:
There's no form of miracle that happens on the wedding alter o.

The unfaithful lady you took to the alter is the same unfaithful lady you'd take to your house!

Buh lemme ask this; was the pregnancy she terminated for you?

Yes the pregnancy is mine. Her excuse for abortion is that her parents are important personality in their church and the church will not join us together if they discover she's pregnant which I told her I'll take responsibility later she told me stories but later she eventually confessed to me that she did D&C after several medications without success.

Ezibless:
There's no form of miracle that happens on the wedding alter o.

The unfaithful lady you took to the alter is the same unfaithful lady you'd take to your house!

Buh lemme ask this; was the pregnancy she terminated for you?

Yes it's mine. Her excuse for abortion is that her parents are important personality in their church, and the church will not join us together if they find out she's pregnant which I told her not to worry about that I'll take the responsibility but later she told me stories but later she confessed that she eventually did D&C after taken several medications without success.

Chillisauce:
Postpone the wedding and sort your issues with her. it's a disaster waiting to happen if you both go into this marriage with this mind set.

Thank you for your response but the problem is that the wedding preparation is at advance stage and if I'm to postpone it, our parents we want to know the reasons for that. Which she didn't want them to know.

I'm really confused and don't know how to start. I'm not emotionally stable now, pls moderator or people incharge can help me correct any grammatical blunder in my story.
I'm into long distance relationship and we've been dating going to 2 years now.But my fiancee was being unfaithful but after so much confrontation she changed drastically, though there's still some traces of unfaithfullness but what pained me most is that she aborted pregnancy without my consent. And as a matter of fact she has been taken me for granted all because it seems I love her more than the way she loves me.
But our wedding is in couples of months. I'm really thinking of postponing the wedding or even calling it quit but because of the advance stage we're. But I'm thinking of going for the wedding and pay her back in her own coins after the wedding. Because she makes me feel bad whenever I remember. And she has promised me to be faithful and change a new leaf if I can meet her parents and she meets mine which I granted her. I'm really confused. Pls any advice from mature mind is welcome.