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Politics / Re: Three Things We Learnt From The National Assembly Leadership Elections Yesterday by mprexx: 2:16pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Nice writeup. However I believe APC lost out completely on this one... CC: lalasticlala 20 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 5:50pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
bukatyne: Honestly, I don't get it. I would do same thing you just wrote here if I were in her shoes. It won't be easy, but in life what is? She has stated she hates him but can't leave him because ...the Lord hates divorce... I don't think I can do that! |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 5:39pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
stag: Nice write up... I see it as a case of logic vs stupidity though. |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 4:25pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
stag: Please explain. Because for all I know, all the heart does is pump blood... |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 3:38pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: Noted. It's an open forum after all. |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 3:36pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
LewsTherin: Maybe if I was just told by someone who heard, or I had not seen the video, I wouldn't be advocating divorce. Here's a man who has chased her from their home over 3 times (the second time with two of their children) only to come begging and then she'll return saying "...as children of God, we should forgive..." only for it to happen over again. Sometime in 2007 when he chased her out, she stayed with me and I didn't know to what extent it was so I urged her to only ensure (probably in writing) that he would not hit her again. Since then, I've become an enemy in their house. I am not welcome there, and if the husband finds out she came to my office, "all hell will break loose". Is that the definition of what marriage is supposed to be? I'm not saying she should remarry, I'm saying she should leave him for good. Legally! 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 3:28pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
SAMBARRY: Seeing that it is not your business, you could have simply ignored the thread. But no, you still had to comment......... 1 Like |
Family / Re: Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 3:19pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
lilmax: thorpido: EfemenaXY: Yes a whole lot of women get married for reasons that will not qualify as logical, I get that. But what happens when a woman believes she is under the illusion of love? Is that also a crime? The lady I used as an example has been married for 27 years. The hubby didn't even have a decent job when they got married so the material things idology just can't hold water. She is a pharmacist and was fortunate to get a good job after her NYSC which they used to survive for years until he settled financially. She is not a young person and divorce should definitely be a last resort, but she says this has been going on for over 20 years with no sign of any light at the end of the tunnel. The perspective of most ladies (and to a larger extent, the society) on marriage makes me consider it as one highly overrated institution. 1 Like |
Family / Domestic Violence, Marriage And Divorce by mprexx: 12:59pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
I know the issue of domestic violence has been over-flogged, but is it really reducing? Sometimes I sit back and wonder why a lot of people attach extreme importance to marriage. I mean, I know it is important (I am married myself) but I really don't buy the idea of the institution of marriage being regarded as an end to itself. Was reading this post (https://www.nairaland.com/2064882/what-right-does-pastor-disgracing) and got really livid when I came across this comment: kaima1984:and to even think it was written by a woman I have a friend who has been married for 27 years and has been going through severe domestic abuse (mental, physical, psychological, emotional) but will not leave the marriage for reasons I would consider flimsy; "...divorce goes against my God and I will not sin against him..." When will people realize that marriage was made for the satisfaction and enjoyment of both parties, and not the torture and endurance of either? I used to think her case was that of normal couples' misunderstanding until her children showed me a video of her husband doing the deed. This reduced me to sobbing like a 5-year-old. Why would a man in his mid-50's be pulling his wife's hair like he is attempting to de-scalp her, while whipping her severely with the buckle of his belt (I counted more than 30 strokes round her body in the video ) all the while intermittently punching and slapping her face? And to think that he didn't care doing it in front of their children? And from what I could grab, the reason for that was so trivial that I couldn't bring myself to fathom it: Because she drove one of his cars and came back with a dent on it. Marriage should be seen as a means to an end; the end being "HAPPINESS" and not an end in itself, so if you are not yet married, do not allow the society put unnecessary pressure on you because if you get into an endurance marriage, the society won't be there to sympathize with you. And if you are married and your marriage is all about gloom, don't be scared to get out ASAP, because if you get maimed, you will almost certainly suffer it alone, and if you die, someone else will take your place. The world will not end. Personally, I would rather be divorced and happy, than married and broken... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: In Need Of An NGO!!! by mprexx: 12:23pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
I want to say thank you all for your contribution. After all the calls and mails I put in for her, she changed her mind and has decided to "leave it for God (for the hundredth time) to change him divinely"... Seems abuse, when accepted over a long period of time can break your body, spirit and soul... Gracias. |
Family / Re: In Need Of An NGO!!! by mprexx: 4:04pm On Dec 25, 2014 |
aisha2: Thanks a lot... @bolded, I really hope so too... I understand it can be frustrating... Thank you very much... |
Family / Re: In Need Of An NGO!!! by mprexx: 9:36am On Dec 25, 2014 |
dapsy4u2: Thanks. Will do just that... |
Family / Re: In Need Of An NGO!!! by mprexx: 6:12am On Dec 25, 2014 |
Evina:Thanks, but I think not yet. The husband is a nairalander and I don't want things escalating too quickly... |
Family / In Need Of An NGO!!! by mprexx: 10:42pm On Dec 24, 2014 |
Please I'm in need of an NGO that can help with the liberation of a married woman from severe physical, mental and emotional P.S.: Based in PH and married for more than 25years |
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